Why Do Katie Holmes and Jamie Foxx Act So Freaking Weird About Their Relationship?

Guys, we know

What’s wrong with these two? We know you’re together, we hope you know you’re together.

There’s photographic evidence — hand holding, smooching, romantic dinners. Jamie’s been spotted leaving her New York City building numerous times, they’ve been spotted on vacation together, dancing together, and they just recently attended a pre-Grammys gala together. Although, they tried to hide that too. How exhausting it all is.

Reports called it their “official coming out,” but Katie, being introduced by Clive Davis when he was giving a speech at the gala, “had stepped out for two minutes,” when he called her name. She had been sitting next to Jamie, and Clive even confirmed, “She’s sitting with Jamie.” But when the camera zoomed in on her seat, it was empty and only Jamie was there. When the audience found Katie, she had moved to another seat, at a different table, nowhere near Jamie.

They were seated together just one minute earlier, and Clive even added, “If you’re going to sit together, what better night than tonight.”

When the ballroom emptied out later, Jamie left with friends and Katie had already disappeared.

Enough with the charade already.

Humans, equipped with human eyes, saw the duo giggling, whispering, and gazing at each other throughout the night at the Sheraton. Did they think no one was around?

Which brings us to the question: why are these two so weird when it comes to being together?

The rumors started in 2013, when a lucky fan snapped a pic of the two dancing together at a charity event in East Hampton, N.Y., and caught them sipping from the same cocktail. Ooooh, but still, not much to go on there. Especially when Jamie said this following the night: "[The rumors] are 100 percent not true. In fact, it's quite hilarious because we simply danced at a charity event along with a lot of other people."

After that, the two apparently began wearing disguises, with Katie putting on “a wig and hat to meet him at a hotel.”

In 2015 Katie was seen at a birthday party for Jamie at a New York restaurant, but the two barely communicated. OK, seems normal. In 2016, they hit a Barbara Streisand concert in New York, where Katie cheered as Jamie sang with Babs.

They hit Los Cabos and Miami together, arriving by private plane but disembarking separately to avoid being photographed together. This is exhausting just thinking about.

They were snapped on a romantic dinner date in the East Village in NYC, smiling over a cozy candlelit table, but never acknowledged the date. Jamie, stopped by paparazzi many times and asked about his girlfriend, completely denied they were in love, calling Katie a friend.

"Oh come on, you guys have been trying to get that to stick for three years,” he said to paps in 2015.

That same year, a source told People "Jamie and Katie are friends and have been for a long time. They are two adults who are attractive and single, and so apparently conclusions will be drawn. But contrary to those conclusions, they're not about to run off and make some serious commitment."

But in June 2016, they were outed by former The Real Housewives of Atlanta castmember, Claudia Jordan, who told the Allegedly podcast that the two were in love. Whoops.

"[He's a] good friend of mine. Never [hooked up with him],” she said, adding about Katie, "He is very happy with her. I like that he seems very happy."

And while Us Weekly reported early last year that Katie is “tired of playing this hiding game,” the two continued to play cat and mouse with the public and still denied they were a couple. For the love of God already.

Until September 2017 that is, when we got proof, actual proof, that the two were more than pals. The Daily Mail published pictures of the two on a romantic beach walk in Malibu, and there was no denying they were an item. “For years, they have dodged rumors that they were an item. It's thought that was because Katie had agreed with former husband Tom Cruise not to publicly date anyone for five years as part of their 2012 divorce settlement,” The Daily Mail reported.

A few months later, Katie attended Jamie’s 50th birthday party in December 2017.

Apparently the relationship between the two is "not a secret among their friends" and never was. They are just hiding from the public. But why even bother? 

Relationship expert Cindi Sansone-Braff  has actually thought about why the two would work so hard to keep their romance out of the public eye, and raises some good points about their need for privacy. 

“One could speculate that she might be trying to protect her daughter from a media frenzy,” she tells Personal Space. “Perhaps, Katie Holmes just didn't want another oh, too, public display of affection like the one her ex, Tom Cruise, pulled off at the start of their relationship when he jumped up and down on Oprah Winfrey's couch stating, ‘I’m so in love.’ Later on, the TomKat, tabloid-cover, bitter divorce battle might have made Ms. Holmes a little gun shy about airing her private life out there where everyone gets a front row seat to the ups and downs of her love life. Ms. Holmes herself has stated in numerous interviews that she doesn't want her personal life to ever loom larger than her career.”

And Jamie may have a similar view when it comes to their love.

“He has always been extremely private about his love affairs, and this may explain his part in keeping their romance hidden,” Sansone-Braff says. “It could also simple be a legal matter. There is speculation that Mr. Cruise had a clause in their divorce settlement stating that Ms. Holmes could not publicly date for five years. If this five-year clause was the main reason she kept her relationship with Jamie Foxx private, then we can expect to see them openly dating in the near future.”

Relationship coach and author of Dating Again with Courage and Confidence: The Five-Step Plan to Revitalize Your Love Life after Heartbreak, Breakup, or Divorce, Fran Greene, says there are a few main reasons why couples choose to remain private.

“Couples generally want to keep their relationship a secret for several reasons. Here are the most common ones…For professional reasons they don’t want to mix matters of the heart with their work life. If you are unsure about your feelings or the feelings of your partner, you will be reluctant to go public because the relationship might not have long term potential. If you are in the spotlight as Katie and Jamie are, your love life is the only piece of your identity that you can hold near and dear to your heart. It is very draining being under the microscope of your fans and critics who will constantly pass judgement, both positive and negative.”

Greene’s advice to Katie and Jamie is to actually go public — it kind of kills the mystery and people don’t care so much anymore.
“Once you share the secret you don’t have to spend so much emotional energy keeping it hush hush. Keeping a secret is exhausting and wasted energy. And perhaps the attention will be shifted to the next celebrity couple who has been caught snuggling up to each other.”

And one gossip insider who has written about the couple tells us it’s all on Jamie.
“He doesn’t want to settle down at all and so not coming out with the relationship seems smart — for one, girls don’t think he’s not single, and it also doesn’t risk making it seem like Katie’s being cheated on or been dumped if something happens,” the journalist says. “I think that’s somewhat plausible, since I’ve always heard that Jamie has decided to be single because he knows that he’d cheat if he was in some BS Hollywood romance. But, and this is mainly from ten years of [Katie watching], I think she was so exhausted by the level of public scrutiny that she was under with Tom Cruise, she’s just doing her best to have a private life…It’s some common combination of all those things.”

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