A gorgeous — and proudly curvy — woman is telling trolls who question how she landed her hot husband to get lost. She’s happy, healthy, and in love.
Jenna Kutcher, 29, a wedding photographer based in Fort Atkinson, Wis., documents her body and her relationship on Instagram and says strangers keep asking about her marriage to Drew, a 31-year-old health coach who is tall and handsome with like, sixteen-pack abs.
Jenna posted a photo of herself and her hubby on a beach in Hawaii looking blissfully happy, captioning it: “Part of my insecurity with my body has stemmed around being married to Mr. 6-Pack himself.
Why should I, a curvy girl get him? … This man has embraced every curve, every dimple, pound and pimple for the last 10 years and has always me reminded me that I’m beautiful even when my inner dialogue doesn’t match.”
The post went viral with her husband asking her what was so newsworthy about it.
Personal Space caught up with Jenna to talk about the comments she has gotten and her body-positive message to women everywhere.
Personal Space: When did you first hear your husband is "too handsome" for you?
Jenna Kutcher: I feel like there have always been off-handed remarks around his good looks but one slid into my DM's that insinuated that I was unworthy of such a handsome man and wondering if I knew ‘how lucky I was to land him.’ I responded asking what our bodies had to do with our marriage and let it go, but that comment lingered and a few weeks later I shared the post that went viral.
PS: How do you feel reading that stuff?
JK: I think that what hit me the most was the fact that someone was calling out my insecurities and something I had been afraid to address. I think deep down we all feel inadequate, insecure and when someone who followed us and knew our story believed that, I started to wonder if others were thinking the same thing. I'm not a stranger to criticism, but I try to use some of those mean things people say as teaching moments because I think we, as a society, have a lot of work to do when it comes to love, acceptance, and the definition of beauty.
PS: Sure thing. In the meantime, how do you maintain confidence with online bullies out there sending you bad messages?
JK: Confidence can not be found anywhere but from within. It takes a strong person to turn their mess into their message and simply show up in the hard seasons of life. I've prided myself on building a brand where I keep it real whether I am sharing my struggle with body image, our season of struggling to start our family with having two miscarriages, or the way I started my business and want to teach other people how to own their awesome. I've had to do a lot of hard work in defining where my worth comes from and it doesn't come from critics on the internet. It comes from within and remembering that I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
PS: What makes you feel your best?
JK: When I feel like I am given the chance to be seen and heard for the woman I am. I am messy, I'm imperfect, but I show up and I want to make an impact. I feel best when I am doing just that whether it's in sweatpants and T-shirts or all dolled up.
PS: Would you say your husband (of seven years) finds you sexy?
JK: I just looked over at him and asked him and he said, ‘Um duh, I love you.’
PS: What's your message to women who don't fit the 'normal' body type we see in magazines and on TV?
JK: I was tired of feeling unrepresented in the media and online. As a size 10 gal, I felt like I was stuck in the inbetween and wasn't sure where I fit ... so I chose to be the representation. I started posting what I wish I was seeing more of and I want to remind you all that regardless of your size, you are a REAL woman. Curves don't make a woman any more real than a woman who is thin, so let's stop body shaming in all directions and start to build one another up and encourage each other to show up just as we are, real, not retouched.
PS: Who are other examples of women you think send a body positive message?
JK: Ashley Graham, Iskra Lawrence, Rachel Platten, Georgia Gibbs and Kate Wasley, RAW Beauty Talks, Kaitlyn Bristowe ... the list goes on and on and on. We have to take control of what we consume and how it makes us feel. If the Internet is making you feel crappy about yourself, you need to take control of that experience and unfollow accounts that make you feel ‘less than.’ There are so many amazing body positive people out there who are sharing their stories online.
PS: What is your ultimate message to women in all this noise?
JK: You are worthy of all the things you ever dreamed ... Your body doesn't define you, your past doesn't need to dictate your future, and you are so worth loving. Wait for the person who sees you whole when you're broken and who embraces the things that society told us are imperfections, those are the things that make you, YOU.
That's wise advice we should all take to heart.
Credit: Jenna Kutcher/Instagram
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