An online sex challenge to have sex every day for 30 days is gaining steam, but to many, it also sounds exhausting.
About a month ago, a few Reddit users posted this:
“We are starting a 30 Day Sex Challenge this Friday based on a list from a friend and lists we have found online. Here is the list before we start. It is likely to be edited per the rules. Any comments or feedback would be appreciated.”
The rules are as follows — each partner can modify/replace the activity for two of the days of their choosing before the challenge starts. No edits after the challenge begins. Each partner gets two veto days in which they can choose to just have sex and bypass a specific day’s activity. Partners can also add anything to the list if both partners agree. Periods, holidays, business travel will be treated as “pause” if necessary. If a day is missed, an extra day will be added to the challenge increasing the challenge length from 30, 31, 32, and so on. The challenge will not exceed 40 days. The goal is to push your comfort zone and try something new.
Here is the challenge list in full. Would you be up for it?
Day 1—Have sex at a time other than before bed. Lunch time romp, morning sex, or after work workout.
Day 2— Browse a list, book of sex positions, or watch a Kama Sutra video together. Pick a few new positions to try. Be sure to tell your partner what you think looks enjoyable and why. Stick to the easy stuff. No point getting an injury on day two.
Day 3—Have sex twice in a day.
Day 4—Read erotica together before sex. Find good erotica online and each pick a short story.
Day 5—Shower sex. Be extra soapy but use caution. Water based lube (not shower water or soap) is advised.
Day 6— Full body massage before initiating sex.
Day 7— Quickie. 10 minutes or less. Try someplace/time fun. Example: while preparing breakfast standing in the kitchen. Bonus Play: Two or more in a day.
Day 8—Road trip. Park, make out and have car sex. Option: go home for sex afterwards. Don’t break the law. Maybe just do it in the car in the garage.
Day 9—Sex while seated on chair or sofa, facing each other and facing away.
Day 10—Sensual oil massage before sex. Towels or old sheets recommended
Day 11— Oral Sex only. Tell your partner what works and keep at it until you both orgasm. No 69.
Day 12—Let her dominate. Tell your partner what you want. Bonus Play: Ropes or handcuffs
Day 13—She brings him to orgasm, no intercourse, hands, mouth, and body only. Bonus Play: Use breast or feet to bring partner to orgasm.
Day 14—Find a new place in the house for sex. Kitchen, bath, living room, chair, sofa, floor, etc.
Day 15—Each partner brings self to an orgasm seated in front of partner on bed. Same time is ideal. Share what you are feeling. Use what you like. Observe and learn.
Day 16—Advanced level Kama Sutra. Find two or three challenging positions to try. Again, avoid injury.
Day 17— Add toys into your love making. Vibrators, dildos, cock rings, beads and ticklers. This session is all about finding what works. Bonus Play: We-Vibe or other shared sex toys.
Day 18— Watch porn together. Movie or 30 minutes minimum. Bonus Play: Masturbate (self or partner) or have sex while watching. Start with something safe if you have never watched before. Find a good “Couples Porn” video or visit sites like X-Art.
Day 19—Sex without intercourse. Hands, body, toys, mouths. Both must orgasm.
Day 20–Share fantasies today by email. (warning, do not use work email) Pick one to play out. Bonus Play: costumes.
Day 21—Visit a sex store together. You both must make a purchase. Sex toys, sex games, videos, or books.
Day 22— He brings her to orgasm, no intercourse. Hands, mouth, toys only
Day 23—Take a breather… enjoy a night of just sex
Day 24—Sex game… dice, spinner, or app. Find something fun to play.
Day 25— Slow it down sex. This is a marathon, slow and steady. 45 Minutes or until you both have had one or more orgasms.
Day 26—Let him dominate. He’s in charge, do what he says. Bonus Play: Ropes or handcuffs
Day 27—Dinner out with under the table touching. Nothing illegal! Then go home or hotel for sex.
Day 28—Multiple Orgasm Day. Have a few minutes cool down with caressing after an orgasm then try to start it back up again, or just keep going! Today, one is never enough!
Day 29—Flip a coin, Pick a dominant. Tell your partner “Do what you want to me”, but be sure to have a safe word. Try and push the limits of yours and your partner’s comfort level.
Day 30—Stay up all night—or as long as you can, having sex. Have as much sex as possible today. Explore 27 days of favorites today and try to have either 5 orgasms or sex 5 times.
Users who were trying the challenge (or simply tired out from reading it) weighed in, with one saying, “This is for people with high libido, it would be a nightmare for me!”
Another wrote, “Just because you couldn't have sex every day (and sometimes multiple times a day) for a month straight doesn't make you low-libido. That sounds great but pretty exhausting haha.”
One user was eager to give it a go. “That is an awesome idea! I will try it. I've noticed that once he gets in the mood, sex follows pretty quickly but it takes a little extra oomph to get him there.”
Another wanted an extension on the 30 days before even starting. “Possibly spread it out over two to six months with the flexibility to move around each time frame?”
“The rules are not fixed. This is a personal challenge, not a legal contract. If a partner doesn’t want to do something, all they need to do is say no. This is a challenge and starts with consent. No one is forced to take part. The goal is to explore our comfort zones,” said one user up to try.
One summed up her no with, “How do people do these when they have kids?!”
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