Vanessa Trump wants to get away from the Trumps, specifically her estranged husband Donald Trump Jr., but his mother, Ivana Trump, is making things difficult.
After filing for divorce from DTJ, Vanessa has stayed quiet, shuffling her five kids around, and doing school runs in New York while her husband (kind of) works for his dad, or at least tweets on his behalf.
Not only is Donald Jr. her son, Ivana also has five grandchildren from him and Vanessa, so maybe keeping her opinion to herself on this one would have been best, but no … Ivanka had to weigh in on the state of her son’s (literal) affairs.
In a wide-ranging interview with Page Six, the first wife of Donald Trump, who shares three kids with him and was herself a single mother after their nasty split in 1992, said that while her son will find love again no problem, Vanessa’s baggage ... we mean kids ... will make it hard for her to move on with a new man. And the cheating? Cheating schmeating, no guy can keep their pants up, according to Ivana. Yes, pants are always falling, whoops.
“Donald Jr. is a good-looking guy. He is successful. He is not going to have a problem to find a girl,” Ivana said. “Maybe Vanessa might have a little problem because she has five kids . . . who is going to date and marry the woman who has five children? Especially since she is young  and she might want to have more.”
As for Don Jr.’s affair with former Celebrity Apprentice contestant Aubrey O’Day, eh, who cares? Men cheat!
“It’s always distressing, because I’ve been there,” said Ivana. “But who am I to judge and who knows what was the situation at that moment? It’s a long time ago now, so I think Vanessa knew it all along and maybe she just couldn’t get over the hurt to forgive him. But I honestly don’t know that many men who can keep their zippers up.”
Ivana herself was cheated on by The Donald when he took off with Marla Maples, leaving Ivana in a bitter divorce that was front page news for months in New York. Ivana got sweet revenge when she took her ex to the cleaners for a huge divorce payout, which set a record at the time.
Ivana, who now gets along with and has a heart-to-heart (scheduled call) once a month with her ex, was the one who called the president to tell him that Don Jr.’s marriage was over.
“Of course, he was not happy,” said Ivana.
Although it is her son she’s siding with, Ivana has a double standard when it comes to her comment about her daughter-in-law.
What should Vanessa — or anyone going through a divorce — do when their mother-in-law clearly isn’t on their side or at least sympathetic at all?
In 2016, The University of Cambridge Center for Family Research found that rifts between parents and their son’s wife are among the most common reasons for family estrangement. When asked, 800 people said that in-laws, specifically mother-in-laws, were a leading cause of divorce.
Rosen Law Firm actually gives advice about this specific problem in marital splits, saying, “the dynamics of that relationship are bound to change during and after divorce.”
“If you share kids with your ex, there’s a good chance that you’ll have at least occasional contact with your ex-mother-in-law, at least until your kids are grown. So how do you deal with her?”
Try to keep the peace
“Your divorce lawyer will probably advise you to keep the peace with your ex-mother-in-law. While it may not have any impact on your case, a gesture of goodwill such as being nice to your ex’s mom can trickle down to your ex; there’s no such thing as too much goodwill between you and your ex during or after a divorce.”
She’s still grandma
“Your kids will probably enjoy the same regular visits to your ex-mother-in-law’s house as they always have. Depending on your custody agreement, some of those visits might take place on your watch. When you’re the one dropping off and picking up the kids, try your best to keep things civil. If she starts harping on you, smile and say, ‘I understand that you’d like to talk about a few things. Maybe we can continue this over the phone, when the kids aren’t around.’”
She’s your ex’s problem
“Generally, you can keep contact between you and your ex’s mom to a minimum by making sure kids’ visits are scheduled on his or her watch. If your ex-mother-in-law calls you, you don’t have to answer if you’re not up for it. Remember: there’s no need to fight with her, even if she’s completely wrong. You have nothing to gain or lose, since she’s your ex’s mom, and your own sanity is more valuable than making sure she knows you’re right.”
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