Watching this episode was particularly tough for me. I remember how hard it was to keep my cool with Mina, when inside my heart was breaking that the pregnancy Daron and I had longed for was in fact not viable. I was rushed into emergency surgery just before meeting Mina, took a day to try and get myself back together, and then was at Mina's house ready to work –- it is the best way I know how to deal with things. When she couldn't even be bothered to secure her changing table mat, it just pushed me over the edge and I lost my cool. I should have shown more restraint, but you can imagine that in my line of work it is incredibly difficult not to let the emotions get the better of you every now and then. At least I didn't throw the garment bag onesie out the window! What was driving me even battier in retrospect was that her husband, Herman, wasn't stepping up to the plate and bringing his wife back to reality. I find that even the most timid of individuals can get extremely brave and Papa or Mama Bearish when it comes to protecting or sticking up for their child, but I wasn't seeing this in either Mina or Herman. So let's face it, I lost it!
At least Michelle and Gary were fighting over religion, because each wanted to make sure their daughter had the right start in life as opposed to just worrying that their biceps were too weak to carry a baby! As challenging as the religious discussion can be within a relationship, the discussion came out of love for their child and wanting to do the best for her. Part of the problem was that neither had taken much time to learn about the other's religion before jumping to conclusions about what the ceremonies actually meant, who could attend, and indeed what ceremonies could actually happen together (or at least on the same day).
All in all, I have to say, I was pretty proud of the Rosie Pope team as we managed to get Mina and Herman into shape (even if they were dragged kicking and screaming through the preparation process) and (as if we were negotiating Second World War Peace talks) we got Michelle and Gary back on track to raising their child in a home with two religions, something many, many couples do successfully. But even after all this triumph the sadness of this episode has stayed with me. On the one hand I was incredibly distraught and sad that we may not be able to have another baby and on the other feeling guilty because I already had a son and many, many people don't even get to experience that. It is so hard though when you are going through infertility to compare your story to another's as each is so different, but there is some common ground, which is that nobody should be denied the right to be able to have children if they are good people. But in life we all have our journies and adventures and by some somewhat sick twist of fate I ended up in the parenting and maternity business unable to have another child myself. However, at every difficult turn and at every joyous one I feel as though it makes me better at what I do. Understanding truly what so many go through and the importance of preparing to be an amazing parent as well as celebrating the journey and learning as you go, is what I am about after all.
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Your show is so refreshing. Its life, honest and humerous and digs at the heart all in one. You are brave and honest to show your struggles with getting pregnant. Your helping women every where with the same struggles. I am a mom of an adopted child and he was part of me the second I met him. I would assume people have addressed adoption with you and you will find your way through your own search. But in the time that I have watched the show and watched all the work and pain with your struggles along with the joy and love you show to your little one now that your love will be cherrished for your next child. Good luck in your path.
Love your show. I smile and cheer for you when you call out the bad habits, unpreparedness, silliness, and shelfishness of some of these mommies to be. If only every mom to be had a Rosie Pope to prep them. :) ... On a personal note your comment to be pregnant and lose the baby is a tradgity. Hit home for my husband and I. January last year we lost our baby. We found on the Monday before my birthday and had the miscarriage on my birthday weekend. After trying to conceive for a year & a half. It was very hard and indeed a tradgity. We are still trying to conceive and are hopeful we will be parents one day. Thank you for telling your story!!
Hi. Having gone through an ectopic pregnancy and emergency surgery, I felt so much for you this episode. No one who hasn't been through it can imagine what it is like. But as bad as that all is, I cannot imagine then having to go back to work, not only around pregnant women and babies, but around selfish, disconnected people who don't seem to realize what a blessing and a privilege it is to have a child! I do not know how you keep your cool with people like Mia.
I hope that your are successful in having another baby since you so dearly want one, and because you obviously love children and are a good mother. Although I was never able to have a child, I don't think you should feel guilty about being sad, frustrated and hurt about losing a baby just because you already have one. I wish I had been able to experience that, but I would NEVER belittle your loss because you already have a child. Losing a baby, at whatever stage, is a terrible thing, and you have a right and a need to grieve.
I wish you much luck and success not only with having another child, but also with your business and your show. I enjoy watching you and appreciate your honesty and candor about your own experiences as well as what you go through with your clients.
God bless you, Maureen
Rosie - You are just so absolutely refreshing and adorable. I was so upset about you and your husband's loss and can not even imagine how it must have felt to have to go to work after that, but give you so much credit for doing so. I hope for the best for your family and will continue to enjoy your show so much. I am so happy that Bravo has chosen to give us a show with so much fun! You are just so adorable and real that I re-watch all of the shows many times. You are just too cute. Thank you for letting us into your life, Rosie.
i have no idea if you read these comments or not. I wanted to share that you touched my heart last night. My husband and I had our first child fairly effortlessly. However when it came to a second child it seemed destined to not happen. My hormones were out of control, they discovered I only had one tube and it appeared that my body stopped ovulating. rosie, I lost 5 babies and was told to give up it would never happen for me. I spent two weeks crying yet being so grateful for the son I did have. six months later on my 37th birthday however we discovered that I was indeed pregnant. it took seven long, frustrating years but my son was on his way. he is now a healthy six year old!! Hang in there Rosie. It is well worth the wait.
I love your show. You are doing such a service to everyone out there. People getting married or just people having sex should watch your show so they can understand what pregnancy is all about. You show so many different topics and they are all presented in an interesting way.
On a personal note, I am sorry that you feel incomplete having only one child. I think that you are doing a disservice to those of us who for many different reasons only have one child. My son is the light of my life and while I had always pictured having two children my life is full and complete with only one. It took me a long time to get to the point of accepting this was my fate, but there was a reason for it. Please think about that fact that it is okay to have only one, and it is not selfish to do so. I have heard so many stories about women having a second child because they did not want the first one to be alone when the parents passed later in life. Who is to say that the siblings will be close when they are adults?
Life is a journey that we live not the number of children we produce.
After having my son six years ago, we have had a stillborn and five miscarriages. I am 14 weeks pregnant right now and every day is a mix of bated breath and planning the future. You are a highlight of my week. I love your spunkiness and your love for these nutpack women and their babies.
BRAVO for Rosie Pope! You are part psychiatrist, part ob-gyn, part Mary Poppins, part nutritionist, part super model....100 % fabulous! YOU ARE AMAZING!!...and I love your show.
You have the most wonderful smile I have ever seen! You are as smart and sophisticated as they come, and flash a smile that breeds happiness and transports us to what I imagine has you looking exactly the same as you did when smiling as a little girl in England. You are beautiful. LOVE ROSIE POPE!!
I wish you much support in your IVF treatments. It is so apparent from watching you hold your clients' babies, and from seeing you with your own adorable boy, that you are someone who is magical with babies and children. Not every mother has that gift. Not every mother even wants it. But you are sharing and spreading the good word on what a treasure the gift of pregnancy and birth really is, and how divine it is to be a mother. You are RARE! LOVE your show.
Congratulations on your second baby, I'm so happy to hear that you conceived after what you went through with the ectopic pregnancy, and the devastation that you and your family endured.
I wish you and your sons, and husband, every happiness! God Bless from Long Island, NY
Hi Rosie, Watching your show is an inspiration somewhat to me as my husband and I have been trying to conceive for over a year now with no luck. I am just devastated and all of my family and friends seem to get pregnant with no problem at all. Hearing you speak shows me that I am not alone.
I have been enjoying your show and seeing your cute shop. Lucky all the mothers-to-be to have you share and show them the ropes of prepping for baby, body, soul...and baby-proofing the house! Good luck with everything in your personal endeavors, as well continued success in your business. This is a great show!
I was so very touched by this week's episode. I have a unicornuate uterus (1/2 of a uterus), one fallopian tube, one ovary and one kidney. We are very fortunate to have a healthy and happy daughter. We later lost another daughter during my second trimester and now I am ridiculously blessed to be 34 weeks pregnant. Thanks for addressing the very personal issues of infertility and loss. I am happy to see someone leveraging reality TV to bring meaningful issues to light. Cheers!
Thank you for sharing your journey! I have watched the fourth episode of "Pregnant In Heels" twice now, and both times my heart just aches for you when you talk about the ectopic pregnancy and throughout the episode. It is so evident how painful it all is for you, and I so admire your ability to work through it - especially given your clientele! I am going through fertility issues myself right now, and I very much relate to all of your insights about the journey, the emotions, and the unfairness of it all. Thanks again for sharing. I LOVE your show!
I wish you all the best. I am in your same situation, having one child, wanting another, and experiencing miscarriages. I can identify with you so much. I have been told it's not going to happen for me. I am so grateful for the child I have, knowing like you, how many people don't get to experience even one healthy child. I really get you. Thanks for making me feel less alone!
So sorry for your troubles. My Mom had an ectopic pregnancy that burst. She got help in time to save her life but the baby was lost. Her next baby's umbilical cord attached in the wrong spot and she lost that one too after eight and one half months. My brother was born after that and I was born after him. Both healthy. So there IS light at the end of the tunnel. Try to stay strong and please accept our prayers.
When I started watching your show, I was very impressed by it. I enjoyed watching you help and comfort other pregnant woman who have no clue what to expect. Then came the episode where you made the pregnant mom pick up the mess you had created in her house, I understood where you were coming from but I just found it very mean. Not only I have discussed this with friends and even made a point to run the show for the ones who have not and every one agrees from some point of view with me. How could you make the poor pregnant woman who is clearly freaking out pick that mess up. I mean what if while doing that she would have slipped in those heels.It was so inconsiderate of you that you didn't even suggest she change shoes. Yes she will pick up after her kid but she wont be pregnant. Maybe I was expecting more of you. It has bothered me so much that I could not shake the thought of her bending over and picking things up with a belly that big, even after sleeping on it for a couple of nights I still could not let it go and thought I should let you know. I am so disappointed after watching that episode that I make sure I flip your show now and make a point not to watch it. She might not have complained and went along to make her husband happy but YOU should have known better. All along I was hoping nothing happened. The way you stood back and watched her, like you were enjoying watching her have a difficult time picking up, That just made me so mad, I was glad it was not me. Plus you have become so judgmental on your clients.Once in my life, I have been where they are and watching the way you treat some is just upsetting to me. Please let me clear this that its just not me that has realized this change in behavior. I am glad about your baby but could it be its just putting you in mood swings. I hope you take a second look that episode and watch your face in the back ground.. So sad that i had to let your show go but I do hope in the future you treat those woman with a little more passion.
I am very sorry for the trouble and stress you and your husband are going through. I've only caught a few minutes of your show here and there since it follows another show I watch on Bravo.
I have to ask......where are you from? Your accent comes and goes and I don't quite get that. It's very inconsistent and I'm wondering why that is. Just asking...
A little hard work never hurt anyone, and if you have not noticed, most of the women on the show are used to being catered to and cleaned after. Now Im not defending Rosie or attacking you, because I haven't seen the episode yet to judge for my self but women are strong humans. For hundreds of years pregnant women have had to endure worse hardships than cleaning up after kids. Women in slavery and poverty deal with harder stuff both physically and emotionally that would trump this woman and her heels and have had to do it without a Rosie there to make them do it, because they HAD to. If your going to hate on Rosie for what seems an act of injustice done to one woman when thousands of pregnant women out there are single, underprivileged, abused and in worse conditions than those shown on the show, then I have to question your reasons for ceasing to watch the show. I've known women who've been desserted by their scum husband/boyfriend while pregnant, WHILE raising another kid, and even though they had the right to complain endlessly, they took it in stride and worked stronger than ever. Im sorry you've decided to stop watching the show and may have also caused others to also, cause quite honestly I would be grateful to be in the position some of these women are in and never complain about having to clean up after ONE kid.
I just wanted to give you a little pat on the back for sharing your story with us. That is so hard so keep your chin up! I just wanted to let you know my mother also had some difficulty getting pregnant and also has a heart shaped uterus. That was over 25 years ago and she got 2 awesome kids out if it. I couldn't wish you more luck and happiness. I am pulling for you.
Rosie, your story made me bawl when I saw it! I'm SOOOOOOO sorry for the struggles that you and your dear husband are having with fertility. I'm a soon to be mother of 4, and I can NOT imagine losing a child. I don't care if you were pregnant for 5 minutes or 5 months, that baby is a part of you and no words can properly express my deep sorrow for your loss. I almost lost my now 4 yr old daughter at the end of my pregnancy due to a severe placenta abruption, and my husband and I have talked about what would have happened if she wouldn't have made it. It makes me cry to even THINK about it. Again Rosie, I'm sooooo unbelieveably sorry and you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. The Lord is just waiting for the right time to bless you with that little miracle. I feel like I'm right there with you sweetheart and I'm sending lots of support and hugs to you and your family!!!
I was faced with the choice of assisted reproductive technology (ART such as IVF) when confronted with two years of infertility. I went down a different path to acheive pregnancy. Now I know there aren't just the two choices of IVF or doing nothing when dealing with infertility. Seek a practioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine. Read the books The Infertility Cure by Randine Lewis, Balance your Hormones, Balance your life by Claudia Welch and Taking charge of your Fertility by Toni Weschler. Hormone balance through acupuncture is a non-invasive path to retoring fertility.
I remember seeing you in an episode of Bethanny's show when she came to your shop and I thought you were fabulous then -- I'm so happy that you now have your own show!
I think you are incredibly brave to be so open about your own struggle to get pregnant. I have 2 healthy, beautiful boys, but did miscarry in a pregnancy between them at 3 months pregnant. It is heartbreaking. No matter how happy I am that we have our 2nd son, who wouldn't be here if I hadn't miscarried, I will always say that I was pregnant 3 times and will always miss that baby who never came to be.
Good luck with everything - I love watching your show and wish you all the best in your journey to motherhood for a 2nd time.
On this episode with Mina there were clips of Mina shopping for a diamond push present and you made some comments that I would like to address. You said that she was getting a push present and didn't even have to push. You said for a C-section you just lay there. You certainly implied that having a C-section was not as much work. I have an almost 2 year old daughter and am currently pregnant with a little baby boy. With my daughther I was hopeful for a natural birth, took birth classes, prenatal yoga, considered myself well informed, in the end, my daughter was breech and I had to have a C-section. The surgery was nerve racking, but the recovery was absolutely horrible. It is painful and when you leave the hospital, the pain goes with you. It is major surgery and the recovery takes a while. Recovery while simultaneously taking care of a newborn and breastfeeding. I hope for a natural birth this time but I can tell you, don't underestimate a C-section. You probably just don't understand it since you didn't have one. Your comments seem a bit ignorant for someone in your line of business. Birthing a baby, even by C-section is intense and you should be more considerate.
i think i remember rosie telling the woman at least 2x if she wanted to change her shoes in case she trips and the woman flat out said no she can handle it.
I think that Rosie uses her best judgement in giving the assignments she does. I think that the more extreme the denail of the future mother, the more extreme measures need to be taken. This woman had NO CLUE about how things were going to change and I think that Rosie brought her closer to understanding.
i love your show and can't wait till tonight when it is on again.im so sorry that you can't have another child, but that u are still grateful for your other baby.if IVF doesn't work for you, you can always try other options which include adopting or other ways of legally having a child.it may be hard for you but always stay strong and god will help you through it. Good luck!!!