One Size Doesn't Fit All

Rosie discusses the importance of being flexible in your parenting.

The tiger mom versus the mom who had no follow through -– Wow! These ladies really put me to the test, because neither in my mind had the right answer when it comes to parenting. As with almost everything I can think of, you need balance (not a thing I found with these moms) and the ability to be flexible so that you can nurture your child's individual personality -- there is no one size fits all when it comes to parenting!

Can we stop for a moment though and comment on Jessica's pink, club-tastic closet? I know, I know, I digress! I felt like I needed a martini while I was standing in there. If I had a closet like that, it would be hard to ever actually put on jeans. I think I'd come out constantly over-dressed and definitely in head-to-toe sparkles!

I am sure the sleep training probably seemed a little harsh, but as any parent knows, to be good at it one not only needs to sleep but your child needs to have sleep and healthy doses of it. A child with an unhealthy and interrupted night time ritual and sleep pattern often has problems at school and is far less happy during the day. I mean it's obvious being tired is no fun for anyone, especially not a little one. Unfortunately the quickest way to a restful night’s sleep is very hard on the old heart strings. It’s called the extinction method and asks for you to put your child down to sleep and then not go back in again. Believe me, it's tough. Daron has to sit on me when we do it with our kids, but they are always so much happier once you can lay them down and they can go to sleep and stay asleep unassisted. I know, I know, you are probably thinking, “What a heartless bitch,” but trust me. I am a push over about many things, but sleep is not one of them, and ultimately my children thank me for it. Sleep training, however, cannot start until your babe is four-months-old and at least fourteen pounds. But in my experience most parents wait longer, until the babe is over six-months-old.

Speaking of sleep, I've had very little of it as baby Vivienne is only one-week-old. You'll have to forgive me if my blog posts get a little loopy, but when one is writing them at 3 in the morning while pumping they tend to be a little strange!

The Privilege of Parenting

Rosie wanted to deal with her own issues so she could be the best parent possible.

People often ask me why I do what I do. I think it is so important for people to understand the passion I have for helping people be the best parents they can be and to get educated about the process. Parenting is truly a privilege. This episode I decided to open up a little about my past to help you understand a little more about where this passion comes from. You were all so supportive when I was honest about my struggles with fertility, so I wanted to be honest with you about my relationship with my own mom as well. The thing is, as parents we help to shape our children. Of course, there are many other things that go into who they become, but parents have a lot to do with it. This honor should be taken so seriously, and I think it’s at the core of what I do.

Honestly at the beginning of the season I had no idea things would take such a personal direction. But finding out I was having a girl and coming to terms with my speech issues brought to the forefront so many issues from my past that I think I had chosen to lock away. I'm good at locking things away in tiny boxes in my head! It’s a survival technique...probably not a good one, but hey, I am a work in progress! Pregnancy is really a time to come to terms with the parts of you that you don't like, because as a parent, we have to love who we are. We have to be proud of ourselves so we can be role models to our children. If there is any self-hate in there, it will get brought out the moment you look into your child's eyes, because you'll want to hide those sides of you and doing that in my opinion always leads to disaster. Children know when you are not being honest with them about whom and what you are.

So I decided to take a long, hard look at who I am, why I do what I do, and to try and get to a better place with what I think about myself so I can be the best role model possible for my children. I hope in some way that understanding better who I am will help all of you in your own lives get to a place of love for yourself. Whether you are becoming a parent, already are a parent, or not one yet a parent, you deserve it! Life is just too short to live so full of pain. If I can do it, so can you.

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