Welcome back for another week of my blog! I hope you enjoyed this week’s episode. I just wanted to leave you with some thoughts on all the fun (and drama) that went down.
For me, speed dating was such an awesome experience. As cliché as it might sound, I’ve really developed the attitude of getting the most out of every experience. Whether it’s going to Jewish singles camp, or dancing at the local bar, or yes, speed dating, I’m there to have a good time and just see what it’s all about. I don’t think you can really get to know someone if they are nervous or uncomfortable, so I was trying to make the guys feel more at ease. It really doesn’t matter whether I was into any of them or not, I know that they came to speed dating to find someone special. It’s totally inappropriate to ask them weird sexual questions, belittling their time and their intentions. If I had been asked those inappropriate and awkward questions I probably would have left and never tried speed dating again. Character is very important, so I am still embarrassed by the behavior that went on with the offensive comments. I wasn’t raised that way and I have a difficult time tolerating it from anyone else.
I got on the defensive with Joey because she is constantly putting me down. Whether it’s my family (sorry, I love them), my appearance (really? I can’t even handle middle school antagonizing), or my flirting style (again, why would I take advice from someone who is my age and single?), Joey is relentless in her attacks. When I try to have a conversation with her, she turns it around and makes it all about her. There was no reason for her to leave the conversation -- I was simply expressing my feelings. Her relentless antagonizing of me gets old, but she was also doing it to these guys. I won’t stand for someone putting others down. She makes it clear that she sees no value in our friendship when she won’t even hear me out.
For you to say "those that judge others and put others down to make themselves feel superior are usually the ones with the most insecurities or the most to hide" is hilarious. That is all you have done in nearly every episode to friends, acquaintances and complete strangers. I hope you read these commentaries to gain some perspective and insight into yourself.
From the outside looking in you seem to have some serious attachment issues. I was very close with my parents, but I lived in my own house, bought my own things. you know had a job. I'm not Jewish so the rules are foreign to me. It sure made me admire my parents for the strong individual upbringing I had....
Lubby Please don't misconstrue this for "being Jewish"... That is just wrong, but then again the show is making it appear this way.
Ash, it takes 2 and your part in stirring this pot. You need to grow a up and own your part in this.
All the cast seem like very nice young women - but some are way overdue to be out of the nest. Nothing wrong with loving your parents, but you need to be out of the house, working and not on Dad's payroll. Being shown how to set a table or work a microwave at this age is sad. As a parent of a grown 26 year old young woman who lives and works in a large metro area - my job was to give her the tools to be independent - be her own person. These parents are doing their adult children no favors. They are not child-women -- they are grownups who need to have their own lives and living situation. All the parents seem like nice people -- but the time to cut that cord was ten year's ago.
Ashlee, you are "Funny Looking" and, I would be embarrassed to if I were out with you and you called you Dad right there at that very moment.....I mean can't you wait till your alone...you are really childish...It's just WEIRD
Ashlee, you make me laugh you family seems to love you but at times I am cringing. You do look down on people based on their address while at the same time you don't actually own one. The entire group of you need to grow up this show is funny but also kind of sad.
You hit the nail on the head with your "funny but also kind of sad" description, because that captures this show exactly. In my opinion these girls are all likeable but also there is something that is off about them all going around spending a ton of money they didn't earn themselves, and desperately looking for husbands. And Ashlee is waaaaay too old to be so wrapped up with her parents the way she is.
No one blames you for loving your parents You don't get it so please read this There is nothing wrong with giving your parents all the love you have but you must also respect them And you don't That is what makes everyone upset with you Its the fact that you treat them like servants and the fact that you brag about it and think its cute
You put Joey down 10 times more than she puts anyone else down. It almost seems like you just started being mean to her just to impress Casey. How are you 30? You seem very jealous of Joey because she's very pretty and smart. Do you work? Did you even go to college? Do you ever work out? If you focused on bettering yourself a bit more, you might be less miserable. Good luck sweetie.
People in glass houses (or, in your case, smallish 80s-inspired homes) shouldn't throw stones.
Doesn't Asslee find it "disgusting" (as she likes to throw this word where Joey is concerned) when her dad comments about her shaking her rear as she walks away and then she shAkes it even more for him after he tells her something about it?
You really have a misplaced sense of morality and victimhood. My advice is to tone down your obnoxiousness in these blogs because this show ain't gettin' a second season and you're not going to be able to publicly redeem your behavior. It's pretty telling that the only other almost totally unlikable person on this show (Casey) is your biggest supporter.
She is nuts She still thinks her obnoxiousness is appropriate and acceptable No one envies her live style She still does not get it I guess she cant read Her parents probably did her homework for her too
Ashlee: With all do respect, you are a woman and you act like a child protected by her parents at all times. You need to grow up, it is really sad to see that your parents love you so, so much that they did not let you grow with your age and the expectations of finding a husband for you as you are now, are very slim. Who would want to carry a woman that does not cook or do anything without the help of the parents. Very sad!
Ashlee's parents react out of love; but, they are only harming Ashlee. Sadly, at 30 yrs old I think it's too late for Ashlee to become an independent adult in a committed relationship.
myguiltypleasure susavega Never too late...........she can change if she wants to
@susavega Also, who would want to marry a woman with no job, no education and on top of lacking that, can't cook or take care of a house?? She truly has nothing to offer.
You seriously need to grow up. 30 years old and telling people not to be friends with someone is so immature. The first line of your last paragraph applies to you.
Flana I think Ashlee just needs to Grow, period!LOL! Sorry but I could not resist. I'm 5'3 so..
You are truly a terrible person, inside and out. And as a fellow Long Islander, I can honestly say that it is laughable that you look down on Joey considering the house you live in. She has more intelligence and class than you could ever hope for.
AnnieB85 I completely agree! Her house isn't very big and is SO outdated! They clearly haven't decorated it since the 80's. I grew up in a much nicer house and never treated people the way she does. Obviously, she's insecure and tries to act better than she is.
You may want to look in the mirror because you do the exact same thing. Joey is actually more real as a person. I think what she did at the speed dating was actually funny. I never blog but had to on this one. I think it kind a strange that your parents still support you at your age. They are actually hurting you by doing that not helping you.
Ashlee, once you’ve pulled your head out of your-you-know-what let’s get back to reality. Joey is not “constantly putting you down”, not from what we can see, in fact, when Joey asked you to tell her what your problem was with her, you couldn’t come up with something concrete so give us all a break! Seriously! You look down on her because she’s not rich, which makes you look ridiculous! For you to proclaim your “classiness” by paying the tab was a JOKE! From this blog post it’s obvious you’re not operating in reality. Once you’ve pulled your head out of your rear-end maybe you’ll be able to see what we all see. I suggest you read the comments all over the internet about you. THEY’RE NOT GOOD!!
Lauralorrington I agree. Unless there's A LOT that we haven't seen, your hatred of Joey seems unjustified. She felt bad about calling you funny looking immediately after saying it. She didn't even try to justify it. With that reaction, I doubt that she's been constantly putting you down. I also hope that you read these comments. I know you were reading them and commenting on them at first. I hope that you can learn a little about how you come across to people.
Please don't act so innocent in all of the drama with Joey. Whether you agreed with what she did at speed dating or not it was beyond rude to ignore her and treat her that way. Your behavior has not exactly been perfect. You want to try and point out the "horrible" things that Joey has done yet you're the one that sent a text to Erica and Amanda not to be friends with joey, that is middle school behavior. Everyone is an adult and Erica and Amanda can decide who they want to be friends with. At the hanky party there was no need for you to keep trying to get Joey to leave. She was calmly talking to Amanda and if Amanda had wanted her to leave she would have told her so. You actually created more drama by yelling at her that she needed to leave when there wasn't a problem with her being in there. News flash Ashlee you're not in charge of everything!!!! Also, you're the one that screamed at Joey outside of the party that she was a bad person and no one wanted to be her friend. How exactly was that helping the situation and why is it ok for you to say negative things about Joey, but she's not allowed to say anything to you? Trust me you have made many negative remarks about her. While I agree that no one should be attacked for their looks no one should be attacked for their character either and told that they're a bad person. Joey does not need your approval for how she behaves. At least Joey felt bad for the remark that she made where we have yet to see you own up to the remarks that you have made about her.
Those that judge others and put others down to make themselves feel superior are usually the ones with the most insecurities or the most to hide. That's you! Joey is an entrepreneur and independent and those are 2 things you are not! You seriously say the most horrible things and really should be embarrassed. Get over yourself!
Then what are your many insecurities and what deep, dark secrets are you hiding because you constantly make snide comments and put others down, making it clear to everyone how superior you think you are. You treated Joey rudely and when she responded in kind, you couldn't stand the taste of your own medicine. And I still can't believe you had the arrogance to ask the employee at the nail salon to carry you to your car. To all parents out there: This is why you don't laugh at even your very young children's inappropriate behavior; it makes them think that their poor behavior is acceptable and thirty years later, you have an Ashlee on your hands. Ashlee, I can only guess that when you were little, your parents thought every single thing you did was hilarious and adorable. And now, at age thirty, you still have your dad laughing as you treat another person like your slave, asking him to carry you on his back to your car. Oh my goodness. Your behavior is outrageous. It's a good thing your parents think your behavior is so adorable because no one else does.
you are NOT a nice person! It's ok to be close to your parents and have nice things but what's not ok is the way you look down at people because of where they live or don't have the things you do.You should be ashamed of yourself.Spoil brat! Grow up!
Ashlee, you are sooooo hillarious! My friends and I started watching Princesses and it has become a favorite! I truly laugh at everything you say. You don't even need to explain about Joey because it is quite clear the way you handle situations and the way she doesn't. Joey is ridiculous and I cannot believe she said such a hurtful thing to you at your meeting with her in last nite's episode. You really didn't deserve that and I find it funny that someone who appeared to be hurt and insulted, went and landed such a crazy insult on you! Maybe Bravo should consider giving you your own show!!!!! That would be hillarious!
Ashlee what planet are you on??? You keep saying Joey offended people at speed dating....You are just looking for reasons to justify your behavior.Yes she was wrong but "friends" would say it wasn't appropriate. Instead you and Casey acted rude to Joey! Really you dish it out but can't take it'. At the Drinkhankie event you start ordering everyone out like you were in charge. Guess what, those are Joey's friends also and your concern for your friends is not more important than hers.YOU seem to be the one twisting things with the guise of you are looking out for everyone.........Lets not forget your campaign to try and get the other girls to not hang out with Joey. You may be only 4 feet tall but we all see through you.
You are not a bad person, but you're certainly closer to being a bad person than Joey is. You called her deeply hurtful things - classless, mean, you told her no one liked her and actively tried to convince others on the show to "defriend" her - and you feel in no way bad about this. It is clear that you don't tolerate criticism, which explains how you have gotten to thirty and gotten nowhere. You don't learn. Joey, meanwhile, lashed out in a heated moment and made an inappropriate and immature joke. She immediately regretted it, even crying about it. She considered what she had done, and felt badly about it. You take no responsibility at all. This is why Joey has already made it farther than you, is a much more compelling woman, and will enjoy life's successes outside of her parents' home. I don't see much in your future, honestly. You have a very skewed impression of yourself.
Ashlee, you are a very well spoken person who understands the true meaning of friendship...but seriously, dont look at people who have less than you as less as of a person. Your relationship with your father is beautiful...I wish mine was still alive. But, it is dangerously too close and not healthy. Confide in your significant other or your friends. You are portraying yourself as a very needy and incapable person...which I am sure you are not.
I think you need to lighten up frankly. To us viewers you did seem a bit bossy during Chanel's fight. It didn't seem to be your business to tell who had to leave and who was to stay. There may have been things that weren't shown, but it seemed odd how you turned on Joey during the speed dating. If Joey isn't your cup of tea, move on! Talking smack about her to her friends seems a bit "mean girl" to me.