Casey Cohen

Casey looks back on how she handled her discomfort with Erica at Chanel's Shabbat dinner.

on Jun 7, 2013

Embrace who you are…

I’m thankful for all my experiences because the good and the bad have shaped me into the person I am today. I hope I have encouraged everyone to think about their decisions, recognizing that they have greater impacts than one might think. No one is perfect, but if you mess up, OWN it.

My mom was 29 when she got divorced and almost 31 years old when she picked up and left my father. THANK YOU, MOM. You have taught me to respect myself and in turn others respect you. My mom is my rock and my everything because she encourages me to be a better person and taught me the importance of bravery. I’m 28 years old -- couldn’t imagine being married with a one-year-old daughter, having my husband (my father) cheat on me, and not knowing if I was making the right decision. Well, Mom, you did. You are so special! You should be incredibly proud of your strength, and I am even more proud to be your daughter. I felt it was important to open my emotion vault so you have a better understanding of why I might be guarded and not trust easily. It’s unfortunate that I had to go through so much pain at such a young age with my parents' divorce and my heartache, but I turned all this pain I endured into a positive using my art as an outlet. Even though I don't speak to my dad now, I hope in the future we can figure out our relationship. I think I’m still so angry and hurt about his actions that all of this “stuff” takes time to sink in, absorb, and get over. Openly talking about my father and my ex-boyfriend from high school (whose name I never mention because it wasn't about the boyfriend) was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through. It’s all about taking ownership for your actions. Every decision you make can affect someone else. It's important to think before you act. I thought there was something wrong with me when I was 15. I was so depressed. It was so embarrassing because everyone in school knew -- the teachers, my friends, the students a year older and younger, parents. Even people were talking outside of school because Erica didn’t go to my high school. She would come and visit my ex-boyfriend and I would bottle everything up being I had to put on a brave face that everything was OK. It’s even more ironic that I’m even talking about this 10 years later when I really could care less about this guy. It takes two to tango, but she persisently went after him because that’s what "she wanted." At least wait until we break up. It’s not funny, stop laughing, you look like a fool, and this is why I don’t want to be your friend. You aren’t friend material!