Chanel: "Being a Princess is..."
Chanel breaks down the lessons she learned from Rabbi Cohen.
"Be Inspired by who you are. Remember, you are a Princess, so act like one"
Rabbi Cohen has taught me a very valuable lesson with his very wise advice. Being a real princess is all about detaching yourself from the materilistic world and what society expects from us. It's about being humble, believing in ourselves no matter who tries to drag us down, and bettering oursleves as people every day. It's about being kind to others. It's about starting with being inspired by who you are first, and I was forgetting that all along. We all are faced with trials and tribulations, but we need to be able to pick oursleves back up when we fall down, no matter how tough it gets.
Being a princess isn't just about all the glitz and glam, but it's about the charity, good deeds, how in touch we are with ourselves, and how we can help others who aren't as privilaged as us. Being a princess is about staying true to who you are and never forgetting where you come from no matter what race, nationality, subculture, financial status, physicality, religion, sexuality, or background you are. It's about being proud of who you are and being inspired by the person you are and/or want to become. And remember: we all have the potential to be the person we want to be. It's so easy to get down on yourself and give up on yourself when we feel we are at a stan still or when we feel lost and not supported or feel pressured. But we must not let that get the best of us. After my spirtual meeting with the rabbi, I was able to put a lot more in to perspective when it came to my sister's wedding and the pressures I face with making my family proud and not dissapointing them. It made me realize that I also put the pressure subconciously on myself, and that my family only wants the best for me and are proud of me no matter what.
It also made me realize that I don't need someone else, especially a man to define me. We are all special the way we are. I am so blessed to have a rabbi and confidant such as Rabbi Cohen. He's right: when I do find the right one, he will hopefully add to my greatness. Rabbi Cohen really taught me that being a princess isn't about feeling self-entitled -- it's about making a difference in the world. He made me realize it's important to take a step back when things get difficult and someone attacks you whether it being phsyically or emotionally and to not engage in negative drama. He taught me how to grow up from being a "girl" to a "woman." We all have the power to make positive changes in our lives, and I am definately learning how to make new positive changes in mine! It's always going to be a work in progress, but we must never lose faith in ourselves. Everyone can use a Rabbi Cohen or a really good therapist. There are fairytale endings, but it's all up to you in how you want to create your fairytale, and I am still figuring out mine.
Now on to the date with Mr. Nati! Ha! I wanted to keep an open mind when it came to getting back in to the dating game because ultimately that's what we need to do in order to move on from our past relationships. We must not be too choosy or picky because you never know who has the potential to grow on you or make an impact on you. It's not always about looks and/or what looks good on paper, but rather what's in the soul. Sometimes, we need to dig deep in to a person to see the true beauty. However, when you do give someone a chance and they don't treat you like you deserve or want to meet you half way when it comes to working out a relationship, then take notes of that being a red flag. I am all for helping out with cooking and cleaning around the house, however, I am also for being career-driven and finding your independence as a woman, wife, and mother. I have worked very hard when it comes to my career and aspirations of being a talk show host. Nati is a nice guy, but he just wasn't for me, and I am happy I was able to realize that sooner than later.
I think, as women we should be able to have it all, and I am in the process of trying to find my silver linning when it comes to all of that! I am so thankful to have all of your support and blessings and because of you all, I am gaining my voice back each day, and I can't wait for you all to continue to grow with me and my Princesses on this journey. Follow me on @chanelomari for more #Princesses talk, and remember to always embrace your inner princess on the regular!