To err is human… to forgive divine. I am not a homewrecker or boyfriend stealer.
Dinner with Amanda and Jeff and Rob at Ill Bacco was so much fun. Looking back, Amanda had the right idea about staying at a hotel. I wish I had done the same.
Let me start off by saying, in high school I met a guy, Dave. We had mutual friends and became very good friends upon meeting. There was as an immediate spark between him and me, and feelings developed as we became closer friends. I was aware that he was in a relationship and did not try to steal him away from Casey. I respected their relationship and he and I only hung out as friends until he broke up with her. I want to make it clear that I only became aware of the fact that she had already brought a prom dress for his prom after they had broken up, and he and I already began dating. Casey and I were acquaintances in high school, and I was really never introduced to her. She was also younger, so had different friends. I never intended to break “girl code” and have her be hurt by me dating Dave after they were broken up. I would never intentionally hurt anyone, but sometimes in our lives our actions, good or bad, can ultimately hurt someone. If I could go back 12 years, there are many things I would do differently, but we can only learn from the past. I tried my best to sincerely apologize to Casey for any hurt what so ever my actions caused her.
I have a huge heart and mean only the best for those around me that I am close with and not. If it came off that I didn’t care that he and I dating hurt her when Joey and I talked, I want to be clear that I do not feel that way nor take her feelings lightly. I care about anyone I have hurt in the past and present. Joey and I were just becoming close, and I wasn’t trying to make the situation between Casey and me a mountain from a mole hole.
After seeing the episode, I really had no idea Casey felt that Dave was the love of her life at 15. It does hurt me to see her talk of that situation of him breaking up with her and how it up brought up emotions about her father leaving her. Prior to thi,s I thought that something that had happened so long ago would have been something of the past and maybe didn’t realize how traumatic the situation was for Casey. I hope moving forward she can move past this.
Erica you have grown up and your apology seem genuine, if casey dont want to get over that she is not worth your time. Instead try to be a better person and stop abusing alcohol. it affect your ability to see the world clearly...
You seemed genuine with your apology, it honestly seemed that you were sincere. You seem to drink way to much....please stop, it will make you look old and ruin your life. Be happy! Appreciate your life!
Erica -- you may have been a "big deal/hot" in high school but you definitely peaked. How very very sad for you.
You are NO BIG DEAL and rather dim on top of it. Oh, and lets not forget neurotic as hell!
Erica, you seem to have had your glory and is done for. All down hill for you now. You are rather ugly, misshaped and I think karma is having a field day with yoy . Good luck , dear old thing, you are gonna need it
Go Erica:-) casey is clearly an insecure freak who can't get over it. She was one of those so so girls in high school who now has found herbackbone and is trying to prove it to her self. It ain't even about you. And I am sure she is slobbering over the fact that your looks are looking a little tired and she only has a slight start of baggage under her eyes.. you are still hot to me though. Sexy sexy sexy. Not one ounce of sexy in casey.
Go Erica:-) casey is clearly an insecure freak who can't get over it. She was one of those so so girls in high school who now has found herbackbone and is trying to prove it to her self. It ain't even about you. And I am sure she is slobbering over the fact that your looks are looking a little tired and she only has a slight start of baggage under her eyes.. you are still hot to me though.
Erica, You are not in high school anymore. Of course, spreading your legs to high school boys would make you "hot".
I'm so sorry for your loss, - your grandmother reminds me of Judy Garland, beautiful.
It's sad that Casey has been this affected by her breakup, but you shouldn't be punished or despised for something that happened so long ago when you were all teenagers! She is clearly dragging her issues with her father into this scenario, and her feelings really don't have anything to do with you. They probably don't really have much to do with the exboyfriend - she is just super-sensitive to abandonment and needs to deal with it, rather than dwell on it.
You made a mistake when you were a teenager, 15 years ago. Yes, you should apologize, but after the way Casey attacked you, I can see why you didn't. She is awful. Apologize because it's the right thing to do, but then move far away from that basket-case. She is blaming you because it's easier than dealing with any deeper-rooted issues.
My issue is this, you were a spoiled brat and are still a spoiled brat with no respect for yourself or any one else. I can honestly say, I to was very popular in high school to, and my parents would get me whatever I wanted, but what makes me very different is, I actually cared about myself and other people, I cared if something I did hurt someone, and actually made a choice not to do it, and I took care of ill and family members that passed away, when I was in high school. I actually didn't see someone else who was pretty and say "oh I need to take their boyfriend" to prove that I was better, and I can about guarantee that is what it was. You said, she had her dress, they were going to the prom, no matter if it takes two or not, you could of stayed away, but no you needed to "prove" you were prettier to no one else but to yourself and that you get what you want. And you know if you knew Joey's boyfriend, had a girlfriend before you slept with him, it wouldn't of made a diffidence to you, it probably would of made it better for you. Just like you said at dinner "no one tells me to shut up". You still have no respect for yourself, or your family acting the way you do, you have to respect for the way you make people feel, just as long as you feel good, its about "YOU". Well, one day "YOU" will be standing all alone and wondering why, with all your wonderful stuff, don't wonder why.
Erica, Whether you did or didn't is in the past. Casey has other issues other than this whole boyfriend thing. I wouldn't worry about it. She needs to deal. All in all, you can't take someone who doesn't want to be taken.
Erica, If you didn't mean to take Casey's feelings lightly, then why did you say that you don't care if you slept with her boyfriend 5 times? You are clearly all about Erica, and to have Joey say that you also slept with HER boyfriend should have shocked you into confronting your past and looking to make amends. Of course, it had no affect on you. But what should we expect from someone who thinks it's OK to serve unkosher meat to someone she knows keeps kosher? Horrible. And no surprise that you don't apologize for it on this blog. The last scene, of you drunkenly smoking and crying to your boyfriend says it all. Poor Erica, everyone picks on her and she doesn't know why. You peaked in high school, as the Best Looking Girl on Long Island, my dear.
Erika - First of all, so sorry for your loss. Grandmothers often provide the unconditional love and great advice that many of us need.
Now, you are a boyfriend stealer. You stated so yourself in the episode. Something to the effect, if I see a guy I want, I go for it. You also didn't state any remorse in taking somebody else's boyfriend. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if you're the kind of young woman who enjoys the thrill of the game and if the guy is involved with someone else - it's so much more exciting.
No, Casey did not handle the situation correctly. But this is reality tv after all. However, she seems like a very caring, very nice person - or at least she comes across this way on tv. While you come across as an entitled, self absorbed little beyotch. If you have time to change your image, I would do so.
First of all I want to commend Bravo for putting a show on other than another Housewives drama.Great job!
I really disagree with all the negative comments on Erica's blog about her being a BF stealer and the mean comments about Casey needing to get over her insecurities and daddy issues. Casey has every right to feel the way she's feeling. These things stay with you for a good part of your life and shape the person you become.
I love your blog Erica. It shows you do have a good heart. Oh and PS, to you and your cast mates, just because everyone graduated from high school 10 years ago doesn't mean that high school is over and done with especially if you're living in the same home you grew up in, in the same town and are for the most part in touch with the same group of people.
Knowing what you did about the trip that you were all going to be together, you should have made it a point to reach out to Casey to discuss prior to being under the same roof for the weekend. It would have set the tone in a different way. The relationship that broke up for whatever reason, meant something to her and her feelings about the relationship, the guy or you for that matter. The breakup held a completely different meaning for her outside of her issues with her dad.
I remember when I was 15 and when someone tells you they love you at 15, they become the whole world to you. That's just a fact. Someday if you have a little girl, you'll understand.
I applaud your sentiments written in your blog and am sorry for the loss of your grandmother.
I really like the show and the group of girls and am looking forward to more.
Casey needs a shrink to deal with her insecurities. The world cannot run around her because her dad hurt her and her mom. Erica should not be blamed because Casey is insecure due to her father bad deeds. Casey projected anger at the wrong person. Besides, if anybody is at fault,,,it is the boy that switched Casey and started dating Erica...Men are not a pillow cases. If a boy/man switches girlfriends...it is this boy/man fault...not the girls fault. They are responsible for their actions. I bet anything that at some point in Caey life she was dating a man that wash in relationship prior to start dating her. double standard...propositional blame-game at the wrong person.
Telling someone to "just get over" you stealing their boyfriend when they already have trust issues is incredibly immature. Stealing a person's boyfriend, well in your case MULTIPLE boyfriends, is such a horrible thing to do and it shows that you are an incredibly selfish and manipulative person. Casey's boyfriend didn't leave her because she was a bitch either, that was entirely your fault. And please stop with the "oh it was high school, I'm too old to be dealing with high school drama" bullshit; you never apologized to any of those girls for ruining their relationships and apparently you're still known as a man-stealer around Long Island so it looks like nothing has changed. Grow up.
You r a COMPLETE train wreck...u may have been the best in high school but getting older isn't treating you very well...u have no manners, no morals and u r just annoying!! It's quite sad actually that u don't know how to act like a normal person....get a grip!
Erica, I'm not saying Casey was correct, because that wasn't cool, but just trying to be ''nice'' to someone you know is mad at you is also not cool. Maybe start off with an apology? I'm only saying it because someone recently called me to apologize to me for something that happened and she was trying to be nice by talking about the weather! Really?
You made a mistake years ago with boys. You were young. Casey's feelings were hurt. While that sucks, it might be time to buck up and move on. Many people have been cheated on in their lives, and they move on. She says you ruined her life, but she's the one that gives you that kind of power so many years later. No one coming to your defense during that dinner table mess should make you reevaluate some of your friendships.
Really? Shame on you Erica! I know it must be difficult having once been the 'hottest girl on Long Island,' and now...not so much. Maybe you can start working from the inside out, and own up to your promiscuity (and excessive alcohol intake), and selfishness with no regard for the results of your actions other than that they benefit you somehow. Also, the saying is 'mountain out of a mole hill.' I grew up on the North Shore myself, and I never understood girls like you. It's interesting to watch. Hopefully you no longer keep your eye on the boyfriends of others and have learned to respect the fact your friend keeps Kosher.
Do yourself a favor and lay off the alcohol. You are not appealing in any way when drinking. As for the boyfriend stealing......it's old news and should be forgotten......by everyone.
29 is old enough to figure out the basics. A little thing like passing off non kosher as kosher says a lot about you.
It does sound like you are trying to rewrite history.... It's a bit hard to picture you as an innocent teenage girl who just happened to start dating a guy after he broke up with his girlfriend. Considering that they just showed that chat you had with Joey, you probably would be better off just admitting that you slept around in high school and at best just didn't care about the feelings of others (but more likely thrived on the knowledge that you could get a guy to dump his GF for you).
Casey should grow up at this point. You were trying to make conversation with her at the house, but she opted to initially ignore you. If she is still focused on what happened back in high school then I totally see why she is still single.
Really you never did nothing in High School you regret? These women are close to 30 years old Get over it
@whammus she said that because she was pissed off in the moment after being attacked and humiliated at the dinner table. Casey was so far out of line.
She said she didn't care because she was upset after being insulted during dinner. After someone told you to shut up, I don't think you'd be too sympathetic either. Casey needs to move on and get a life!
@whammus I totally agree with you! She only peaked in high school, which is a whomping 4 years!!!! Unless, she got left backed, and her high school years were 6 years due to all the tramping around. She seems so proud to be a boyfriend stealer. I think it's so pathetic to hold on to your "hot girl" title back in high school. Look at yourself now.
So it's only the guys' fault? The woman who knowingly goes after a taken man shoulders no blame? Sorry, not buying it. Besides, who's to say that the only reason Dave left Casey was because he knew Erica wanted him? I know she was young, but here's the point: she knew it was wrong and did it anyway. Teenagers may be impulsive and immature, but they understand some degree of personal responsiblity. Is she a boyfriend stealer? Yes. But that doesn't mean she can't change.Just a thought.
@taniasveta based on your commen I'm gonna guess you like to be a man stealer...lets see how far that takes you in life....
@twinzmom7790 Sorry, I used the wrong names,..Erica, Ashlee and Amanda. Okay with Casey so far even though she needs to move on.
yes n no! I don't hold grudges from high school, but I don't make friends with people who did me wrong (enough that I remember it!) from high school, either!
@AriBAllen @whammus I agree, I'm sorry but it was high school. If Erica took take him he wasn't hers to begin with. They all need to get over themselves
@AriBAllen @whammus Casey did not say "shut up". She said " Be quiet". Erica used the term shut up, because Erica constantly uses fowl language without any kind of respect for others. Shut up is considered a poor choice of words in my home. Be quiet, has much more class. Erica also talks with food in her mouth ...big turnoff. BE QUIET ERICA! And I doubt she could be silent long enough to meditate.
@ChexyReynolds I think your comment is uncalled for. I happen to agree and I am no man stealer. It's real life, if someone can take your man, he wasn't yours to begin with. A woman that flirts with a man that is in a relationship shouldn't be doing it but in the end the man doesn't have to respond to that temptation. Get real
@ChexyReynolds You are right and I agree any person should break up with their boyfriend, whatever instead of cheating. I would never date someone who I knew had cheated. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
@24hrhousewife well I see your point to a certain extent....however if a man or a woman "cheats" on their significant other then they should have enough respect for that individual to end the relationship before that happens....personally I don't see how a person can justify doing something like that to another person...that is real life....also, I wouldn't want to be with a man that cheated on his woman...it's completely disrespectful.....