Erica Gimbel

Erica explains why she couldn't wait for Chanel on the boat and says what she really thinks about Casey.

on Aug 9, 20130

It is progress not perfection.

"For what it's worth: it's never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There's no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same; there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find that you're not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again." -- The Curious Case of Benjamin Button

I want to share with you all, which I believe, throughout this season I have been clear on; I am far from perfect and have my issues. This is something I have learned and come to accept. I should never be ashamed; I must, as everyone else who relates should embrace them. I also want to emphasize that one should never judge another unless they have walked in a mile their shoes. I truly try to live by this. I have a big heart and always act and behave with the best intentions for those I love and care for. I am truly blessed to have some amazing friendships like Joey, Chanel, and Amanda and a family that always stands by my side. I am so grateful beyond words could ever explain for the love and support that I have in my life. I would like to especially thank my father for taking off time from work and for his Captain Tommy, first mate, and of course Rob for showing my friends such an amazing day.

On a different note, Ashlee and I have been close and maybe there are things regarding our friendship that are not as they seem. Times over the past year when she was sick I always there for her and vice versa. But, not everything is seen. And from my point of view it almost seems like they were completely forgotten about. However, at the winery I said things out of anger I was wrong for. I never said Ashlee's parents were “short f---s” I said they were short. Regardless of what I said it was wrong. No matter the type of friend Ashlee has been to me and how angry I was there is no excuse for that. I deeply apologize to her and parents if I offended them in anyway. Her parents and sister were always nothing but beyond warm and loving to me and I think they are great people. I wish I could take back what I said, but we all make mistakes. . .especially when we feel angry.

21 comments
kaykay2003
kaykay2003

Erika I enjoyed watching you on the show. You are one of the "real" ones that most women can relate to. None of us are perfect but your intentions always seemed to come from a good place. You were one of my favorites.

steve.snedlecker
steve.snedlecker

my dear you are young and smart do not settle ever not for friends or men.. and the kind of men you have in your life at this point since you are up and down over him.. i would have to say he may not be the right one for you .. in life love comes to you and you will know all other men fade away they no longer matter to you .. when the right one comes along.. i am just saying..

 

do not beat yourself up over that girl Ashley she needs to grow up i really mean it.. i understand that she has had some health issues i get it what dont get is why she thinks she is above everyone else. she is not..i understand her parents how close she is too them... a bit too close its going to be hard for her to ever find a man who will be able to marry her.. cause of her family.. does she have any other brothers or sisters it would help if she did.. cause its not healthy her living with her family at her age.. 

but that is her deal not yours.. 

you seem like such a sweet gal really you do.. i like you from the start and all the way to the end.. Casey is off base with you and she is not a good person who really should be in your life.. cause she acts like i am miss New york and also i can come back and lord over everyone how they should run there lives.. its not right by any means.. really its not.. she needs to go her own way and has done so very well i might add.. 

but that is her life and you do not have to be like her or do anything she does.. by any means.. she is not kind to you ... she treats you like you are below her or dirt either way 

you can live your life without people like her in there.. and be just as happy i know this for a fact... 

good luck take care i hope they renew i would love to see what happens in a years time ... she who has a man and who does not.. Ashley wont i know this for a fact unless her father pays for him to be around.. she is not ever going to marry.. who have a party at the age of 30 given by there parents yes at 3 not at 30.. and then to give her a ring wow how do you say creepy... 

smile honey you are sweet.. stay sweet and honest heart will get you every thing you need in life

califgirl9498
califgirl9498

You are my favorite on the show!  Casey is completely ridiculous and out of line for ever bringing up a high school issue.  She is a pompous brat who is perfect to be Ashlee's bff...

sandy47
sandy47

I thought you were one of the real ones on the show and showed  how people have issues and can come out stronger, I think it was so wrong that Casey was one of the people who came over to talk to you about your drinking issues, She enjoyed it and wanted you to fly off so bad. I think she was disappointed that you did not, I was so sick of her bringing  up how you stole her boyfriend in high school 10 years ago. She needs therapy herself to get over her issues. Ashlee is not a true friend and will turn on you again if you let her back into your life. She owes you a apology and never gave one to anyone there and never apologize for ruining your plans. Who goes to the hospital for having a fight with friends and has to have a Benadryl for a panic attack.. I have never heard of that. the best of luck to you and I hope you are on the next season to see your journey.

Shopgirl23
Shopgirl23

Good luck in your life Erica! You deserve the best :-)

RealisticHousewife
RealisticHousewife

Erica

What someone like Ashlee doesnt apparently GET is that no one likes her fake,entitled, selfish, unforgiving, Im better then everyone else attitude. Ashlee has so little ability to see herself that she is completely clueless.  You are real.

We all make mistakes and thats what makes you real.  What is UNREAL is Ashlees inability to admit that she makes mistakes like all the rest of us.  Her God complex is insulting.

Elle12
Elle12

Ashley - Great blog. Your honesty is admirable, and almost all the girls should learn from you. 

Stop apologizing because you didn't want to make your dad wait. Family comes first, so continue to do you.

Lck
Lck

I agree with many other posters.. Casey is a lost cause, so don't bother anymore. You tried, but she's got some real problems and just isn't worth it. Ashlee also, is not worth the trouble. She expects loyalty, but gives none back. People like these don't add to your life, they drain it. You need to work on yourself at this point. You look like a bit of a mess most of the time, and please close your mouth when chewing food..please. Good luck, and don't move in with your boyfriend until you're absolutely sure.

mrsbean11
mrsbean11

Casey was delighted to see you have your drinking episodes, she was delighted to be invited to your little "intervention". I think its safe to say that you screwing her bf .....in high school (sigh) ..... probably burned her a little more than it would most people. But its even safer to say that she might have some personality issues despite her efforts to look like she's so put together. No one of normal emotional intelligence would hold such a grudge for that long, and no one of spiritual superiority would revel in watching another young woman have an emotional episode. 

 

I think it burns her that despite you having done some shady shit, your definitely capable of being a very happy, bright, lovable person, much more than she could ever be even if she tried. Thats why she has to surround herself with such phony crappy people, and work at such a pretentious restaurant/bar. She blends in nicely, and her dulled and jaded personality doesn't stick out. You need to just put the sauce down for a while, figure your shit out, (cut -out your time with your friends for a little bit) and do YOU. Once you get your happy back, you wont over drink, and you'll enjoy the "party nights" much more. 

Karianne
Karianne

Erica - you apologized to Casey, that is all you can do. If she chooses to remain bitter and hateful toward you that is her cross to bear, not yours. She is not worthy of another second of your time and energy. Move on and keep your distance from her whenever possible. She is not important in your life.

momx3
momx3

We all have eyes and ears and we know what we saw!  You should not be bullied in to being Ashlee's friend.  She appears to be a master at manipulation and intimidation, mean-girl style.  SO glad that the camera has finally caught up with her.  Serious health problems are one thing and we ALL feel bad for her about that, but her revolting behavior negates all of that sympathy!  Feh.  She needs to grow up!  Seriously, a 30 year old thinking her fake disappearance warrants her photo ON A MILK CARTON?!  Calling Dr. Freud!  Ashlee, they put kidnapped CHILDREN on milk cartons!  Emotionally, you're 7, but that does not make you a child for the purposes of "Missing Children Alerts!"  So sad, so sick, yet so funny all at the same time!

As for Casey, the viewers of the show have her number.  She's another mean girl who is hiding behind the "loyalty or death" mantra.  She is disingenuous at best and appears not to have gotten over H.S., despite her protestations to the contrary.  Her stone face says it all.  I wouldn't waste another second of your life on her. 

Hang with the nice girls: Amanda, Joey and hopefully Chanel will wake up to Ashlee's machinations. 

Just continue to be your self!  I hope that you are signing on for Season 2.

nicoled
nicoled

Erica,

Great blog, dont worry about Casey, I'm sure you arent missing out on too much having her as a friend! . I have to say that you and Amanda were my favs this season. The two of you kept it real, were fun to watch and never acted like spoiled brats. Cant wait for the next season!

bravovicki
bravovicki

Erica,

As the season went on I liked you better it is good that you said sorry for the comment about her parents

Don't worry about Casey you told her many times you were wrong so don't worry about it.

when Ashley asked you about text message you could have turned around and ask if she had send a mean text on Joey she was the on manipulating you don't sweat it. 

Health issues is no excuse for bad behavior I have lupus too it is a bad thing but I can tell me my friends would tell me out right I was wrong.

msmurphy6861
msmurphy6861

erica, have done everything u can to mahe ammends w/ casy u did ur part feel good about it and move on to better things.  She obviously can't!!

Cards
Cards

Erica, you have gone above and beyond with Casey. Seriously, dont bother anymore. Just because Chanel likes her, for whatever reason, doesnt mean she's a good person or an "amazing friend". Cut your ties and move on. She sucks. 

VJS1953
VJS1953

Erica, I must say that initially I didn't care for you at all.  However, this blog was mature, honest and sensitive.  My perception is that Amanda, Chanel, Joey and you are more mature than Ashlee and Casey.  I think Casey is almost there, but Ashlee is like a child.  I am so sorry that she is dealing with medical issues; but that is no excuse for acting like a spoiled brat.  She's ridiculous. Embarrassing to watch!

dnicole086
dnicole086

I have to admit I was not a fan of yours at all the first few episodes.  As the show went on, I grew to like you a little more. The turning point for me was when you admitted your issues in the finale and you seemed so sincere.Those were not fake tears, unlike Ashley. It takes a really brave person to actually admit ther faults and when they are wrong and I'm really proud of you! Do not feel bad that Casey doesn't know how to let go of things that went on in highschool. Those are her issues not yours. Casey and Ashley just haven't grown up yet and matured like we have seen you do this season. 

Heymon
Heymon

Erica...baby girl....you are alright in my book.  You're a bit wild which I identify with and you have a heart of gold and there's an honesty to you that I really find endearing.  You seem like a girl that's mad desperate to get out of a cage and fly.  But you're comfortable so you stay.  Understandable.  Your father was waiting and Ashlee didn't care.  Now, if it would have been HER father waiting.  GIRL.  Do you.  Watch the booze.  But keep being you :)

LivHazel
LivHazel

Hi Erica!  I appreciated you more and more as the season progressed.  I love people who are able to apologize when they've screwed up; which you certainly have, especially to Casey (who, in my opinion, needs to just move on).  I want to let you know too that, as a viewer, you letting Joey know what Ashlee said in text messages was ok.  You shouldn't enable and be blindly loyal to people who are mean.  

 

I'm glad your friendship with Joey has grown; I like her.  I think her "oops" moment (calling Ashlee "funny looking"), was a weak moment said in anger and, as a viewer, is seems Ashlee's comments and behavior are far more deliberate.    

 

BTW - weren't you soooo mad when Ashlee said you're "easily manipulated" when she was doing that very thing to you, but accusing Joey of doing the same???  UGH!!   Just for the record, too, I recognize that Ashlee has health issues and that can cause legitimate stress and worry; however, I don't believe having health issues gives you the right to be disrespectful.

eastcoastgal38
eastcoastgal38

Erica,

 

Good blog. It's nice when someone acknowledges they aren't perfect and that there is room for growth. Good luck to you in the future...

bravovicki
bravovicki

 @LivHazel

 When Joey said the funny looking comment it was a joke

the old joke is someone says they are funny and you say yeah funny looking or funny smelling

I don't think she meant it mean I just remembered the old joke from when I was little