“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
I really do not have a lot to say about this episode. First of all, I would never intentionally hurt Chanel and not be there for her that night her and Amanda were going out. I do suffer from Colitis and the fact that all the girls were saying I was hungover was a crock. If I am not feeling well I have every right to take care of myself. Yes, I had been away that weekend with Rob and maybe the travelling and eating different food triggered my stomach. Regardless it just felt like a lot of “Erica bashing” and demoralizing my character and calling me a liar.
Then deciding to have a lunch to talk openly about me behind my back? Seriously? That isn’t what looking out for a friend is. Casey made it clear we weren't friends and her discussing her concern is nice and all, but really not her place. Anyone of the girls could have made a phone call to me privately, and that would have been appropriate to start.
Joey said it pretty right-on. That it wasn't right. It was nice to have her have my back and recognize that.
Ashlee and I were just becoming close at the time, and I must say I do not like that she was talking about me at lunch, but she did agree it wasn't right to confront me like that, which I appreciate. But I must say when her and Casey were shoe shopping they shouldn't have been discussing me. It really felt like gossiping at that point.
Lastl,y I would like to say I was enjoying a very nice day with my parents and was about to have dinner with my mom when I had unexpected visitors. Even if Chanel and Casey were in the area they should have called and asked me if I was free to talk. I just felt very ambushed and taken off-guard.
I appreciate anyone who has concern for me and is looking out for me, but there is a time and a place. Also, Casey and I not being friends made it feel very uncomfortable to me.
It really hurt my feelings that they showed up uninvited like that. But I did hear what they said regardless of how they went about it and do believe that it came from a good place.
Over the past year, I have made many positive changes in my life. I have a great therapist and have worked out a lot of inner anxiety I was suffering from. I am in a much better place and always try to be the best person I can every new day.
“Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.” -Albert Camus
Thank you for reading!!!!
Gotta say...big fan of your dad. He seems nice and it was good to see him talk to you a bit about your future.
When Erica drinks too much, her mouth doesn't want to shut up . She slurs her words and many sentences do not make sense. Someone please show Erica a tape of herself in that drunken state and show it to her .
Im happy to hear you are in a good place in your life. What you think and how you feel about yourself is all that matter
I think you are awesome! Please, please, please continue enjoying your life. It is unfortunate that people have to pretend other people have problems in order to feel valuable, but those are the breaks! May God continue to bless you, onward and upward!
I am not too fond of you as a person. You're cute (not drop dead gorgeous) but appear very self centered. I do have to tell you though...YOU DEFINATELY MAKE THE SHOW! Love your boyfriend...cute, successful, and seems nice. You r very lucky to have him so you should be a little nicer to him.
casey should NEVER have been in your home discussing anything personal with you- PERIOD.
I completely agree with your opinion of Casey and Chanel ambushing you. If they really cared as much as they said they did about your well-being I would think it would be obvious to have one of your friends be there to discuss it with you, not someone who so openly shows their dislike of you. I think Casey used it as an opportunity to bad mouth you and convince others of your instability. Casey seems to be really hung up on old issues and, I'm not sure if its editing, but she seems like an immature, vindictive mean girl who chooses to focus on drama instead of moving on with her life. I think it was unfair of them and your real "friends" should maybe re-evaluate their approach on friendship, it seems to be weak.
Thanks for reading (if you do) and good luck with improving your life.
There's definitely an adderall issue. You don't take adderall after being out all night, drinking. You are to sleep, awaken and then take your adderall. Cameras caught you taking it and offering one to you boyfriend for recreational use. If you won't change for yourself, then remember that you are setting an example for those watching you on television. God Bless.
Oh my gosh, sweetie, you are a hot mess. I really hope you can get it together soon. It's difficult to watch.
It's obvious you have some serious problems and after listening to your mother I can see why. Does she know what an enabler is? You are living in the past and I think all that talk about you being the "prettiest girl on Long Island" is ridiculous. I hope you get some help. Chanel is not your friend when she brings your enemy to your home uninvited to "help."
Sure, like we believe that's what it was about.
erica i think you're awesome. i absolutely got hooked on the show because of you. you're very confident and natural and although you sometimes came come off as a bit arrogant, what actually comes out of your mouth IS common sense! my only concern though would be regarding your relationship with rob; i obviously don't know the whole story but you do come off very tough on him.
I hope you got help. It is painfully obvious by all the twitching and convulsing you have a drug problem, not only alcohol.
Totally weird for Casey to be any part of any "intervention" or whatever that was!
Erica don't listen to them. Casey is crazy, she's blaming all on you just because her dad did the same to her mom. Casey is bad and hard headed. You need to kick her to the curb.
Reba39forever hello..... we are talking about 100 years ago, they were young and in high school. For someone to date other people boyfriends and girlfriends can happen in any school. Erica said Casey and Dave were already broken up before she dated him. So you get over it too.
I agree that they should have called. That was not respectful to your time and your space. Notwithstanding if you could put that aside and see where they are coming from perhaps that could be helpful. Evaluate your behavior and look at how you are allowing viewers to see you. Being too intoxicated to the point of being uncontrollable emotionally is a sign of an emotional drunk which lends itself to a potential problem. It does not mean that you need to stop drinking but it does mean that you need to be aware of your limitations.
I think everyone can agree Casey had no business giving you advice. She is not your friend, and she has enough problems of her own that she's not working on.. But, when you are out of control, and falling down drunk, literally, people are going to talk, either out of concern or disgust. That's just how it is.
Erica I agree with you. Casey has a lot if nerve touting herself as a hero. She's the worst. Hang in there girl!
This blog was good. I feel it was even handed. I do agree that their concern was valid, but they way it was handled was wrong. Casey should not have been there. Chanel should have called.
Girls do talk though - that is normal. And your behavior was worrisome. I am glad you made positive changes.
Erica, you felt ambushed because you WERE ambushed. Maybe it was coming from a good place with Chanel but form Casey? Not so much.
And I have to say, you treat your boyfriend like dirt. Are boyfriends commodities to uber wealthy Jewish girls?????????
I didn't bring religion into it -- Erica herself did. She catalogued his alleged attributes when she was describing what a catch he is. Watch a rerun. In every episode they stress the religion of their dates/boyfriends, and stress how important it is to marry in the faith.
NameChange you sound antisimetic... you are going to label all wealthy jewish girls together and make a comment like yours. Only 2% of the world population is Jewish and it is important in our religion to maintain the traditions by marrying within our faith. If any of these women married outside the faith it would be ok but not ideal. Most religious people want a spouse with the same beliefs/ religion, a non Jew might not be down for being kosher, following the sabbath weekly, and rising children Jewish. I was once dumped by a guy b/c he was Protestant and didn't want to get serious with someone of another faith as it would upset his family.
beebee321 NameChange Rollinwiththehomies
beebee321 Rollinwiththehomies you both sound waaaaay too oversensitive re: the girls being described as jewish. that is stupid. When you focus on that, you miss the substance of what people like NameChange are saying.
they are jewish but not representative of all jews. period
That really was very unfair to you. Even if you are on a reality tv show, there are certain things that should be private. I think Chanel meant well but bringing along Casey was a serious lapse in judgment. I also can't believe Casey would congratulate herself on how selfless she is being. This was a cheap way to generate "drama" on a reality show that Casey is a part of and has a stake in. There was nothing selfless about it. Most importantly,. I hope you really are healthy now.