Have you read the poem If by Rudyard Kipling? That poem gives me a lot of inner strength on tough days, like the one you saw in Montauk, Sunday.
“If can you can keep your head while all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too; ….”
It relates to all facets of my life, family, friends, and career.
This week’s episode of Princesses was unbelievable. I remember every last word and facial expression from when it took place. It was pure, uncut, and very tough. Watching myself from across the table I can see everyone’s frustration building, including mine. All I wanted was for Ashlee to stop talking and vanish, (I guess half of my wish came true).
Instead of me stating the obvious about how I felt that day in this blog, I instead want to take all of my hurt, frustration, and anger towards Ashlee (and even some towards Casey, who is a sycophant!) and put it aside. I will rather explain why the “mom” comment got me so upset.
Ashlee crawled around the table leaned closed into my face, catching me off-guard and whispered something about my mother. She’s lucky I didn’t knock her teeth out! This would have been very #unkam of me! At the time, and even still now, I am not even exactly sure what her comment was in reference to. She has never met with or spoken to my mother. It was a very blind, very low blow.
For the record, my mother is the most warm, loving, deeply caring human being on this planet! Yes, on this planet! She wouldn’t hurt a fly! Actually, she would probably jump in front of a moving bus just to save that fly and nurse it back to health and give it a place to live with all the “amenities” a fly could ask for -- including mixed cheeses! That’s how unbelievably good-hearted she is. She raised me to take chances, love myself, and be stronger than her. She gave me everything she is and everything she is not which groomed me into the woman I am today!
Joey keep working hard! Wishing your business venture well. You, Amanda and Erica are my favorite and much more level headed and real than the others. No one is perfect, but you three come off as deep down good people. Anyone that would continually put down people without excessive parental money is a bad person. Good luck to you.
You are an amazing young lady you dad is not tough he just lacks some finess but I admire him for giving you the fishing rod and teaching you to fish. So you can eat for the rest of your life. Ashlee on the other hand unfortunately has not been given any life tools and at 30 finds it necessary to call her parents crying for help says a lot about her future. You my dear Joey hold your head high don't apologize for who you are because who you are is someone who will Inspire others so good luck in your life.
Don't get angry and end up saying something that is hurtful or demeans your castmates. It will end up hurting your business, which I'm sure you hope lasts longer than this tv show.
Ashlee is a nut case. Nothing that comes out of her mouth has any relevence to the normal world. I would run very fast in the opposite direction of her...she is not a good person.
I could see the pain in your eyes. That was a vicious low blow. But, you know what? You are bigger than that. Ashley is a delusional, spoiled brat and a down right mean one at that. Hang in there Doll...
Joey, you are a great person! Ashley is a very disturbed individual, she is in need of serious help! If ever a case of "arrested development" this is a serious case right here. I teach Pre-K children and they are far more mature than Ashlee. Her parents should be really proud of the job they did raising her. BaaaHaHa!!
I live on Long Island too and when this show first aired I wanted to die of embarrassment. I hoped that the millions of viewers wouldn't think that everyone here acted this way. Then I watched you, and you made me proud of our neighborhood! Thanks for being such a positive light. Best of luck to you!
Good luck Joey. I raised my 28 yr old daughter to be just like you . Stay focused and away from Ashley. She has ISSUES.
Ashlee "apology" to the group was just wrong. She puts herself on such a high horse that she can't see her own wrongs. People like her pollute the world with their narcissistic views. Keep doing what you are doing and dont worry about her.
How did you ever become friends wiyh that group????? You are a business driven girl . Remember who you are. Here is just a little advice, with your limited budget you may have to rethink where you are going to move . Do not be intimidated by those girls . Live within your means, you do not have to impress anyone . Look for a mall studio in manhattan .
Joey, just because a dwarf brought your family up,particularly your mum, you don't owe anyone an explanation for your family. You were attacked by a Chihuahua.a teacup Yorkie in her words, and having 4 dogs, 2of which are a Rottweiler and a Doberman, the others a Chi and Pug, my larger dogs are the ones who put up with the little ones barking at them and nipping and biting. So Ashley was spot on in describing herself as that. I think you're a positive person that's pulled herself up and tried to be polite to Casey and Ashley. Neither of which have the combined mentality of a teenager. I look forward to kissamint and hope you have great success with it. Also, I don't think you meant to be mean to Ashley by telling her she's funny looking. She is. But it appears,with her height and enlarged head that she suffers from some type of dwarfism. But even little people would never use that as an excuse for such behaviour.
Love your blog, Joey! I find it funny how there are always comparisons drawn between the north and south shores on the show...yet it's ironic how the most immature, idiotic and low-class behavior is exhibited by two of the characters who are from the north shore! You exude a tremendous amount of class and sophistication on a constant basis. Ashlee is a very negative person who is clearly threatened by you, and Casey, well...she gravitates toward negativity...describing her as a sycophant is 100% spot on! Let's see how long their friendship lasts before they have some kind of feud, LOL! My advice to you...stick with Amanda, Erica and Chanel...they are positive, fun-loving girls who clearly have your back and your best interests at heart. Don't ever allow Ashlee or Casey to get under your skin and bring out the worst in you! You are SO much better than that! :) And, good luck with your business endeavors! :D
Kudos to Joey for showing sheer restraint, I personally would have went ballistic on Ashley.
I can't imagine why Amanda's mom would claim that all you girls were just jealous of Amanda. In what alternate universe would anyone envy anything about Ashley.
I'd never seen someone start the drama, then cry, claiming that "their all so mean to me". True crazy, that Ashley.
Ok just added my email to your kissamint website, I will be a buyer of all favors! And for stocking stuffers if hey are out. You will be a huge success!
Hold your head high. Any person who bases their opinion on anybody by money or material possessions especially when theirs are their parents is a shallow person. If this is what you are looking for in life you will never be happy. Money doesn't buy you class it just gives you money!! Keep working to be the strong, smart woman you are. Leave that 2nd grade BS behind. Anyone who mentions taking sides is a child, that other "girl" is a 30yr old immature emotionally stunted insecure, narcissist. The fact that she can't let anyone see her without heels speaks volumes. You are smart and beautiful and do not let anyone bring you down. Go get me, I will buy KAM and tell all my friends too! Hard work and determination will leave you satisfied much more than your daddy's credit card!!!! Best of luck to you!
OMG..the more I watch of this episode, the more crazy Ashlee is! Holy crap! Lol! Sorry to keep posting over and over, but I just can't believe how insane and ignorant she is......
Joey, you seem to be a down-to-earth young woman with determination to succeed. I wish you the best, but wonder why you would want to be "friends" with some of these girls?
You are pure class and hilarity and Ashlee is a sad, miserable little girl who is clearly threatened by you. Fortunately, you are going big places and will soon forget who she even is!
You are awesome, Joey!! You are the prettiest, most refined, smartest and flat out wittiest person on this show! (Love Amanda, too) The females on the show who struggle the most with you are seemingly the weirdest, least independent, most insecure and sorry if this sounds like misogyny,but LEAST ATTRACTIVE women on the program. They SHOULD be insecure around you and so they resort to pathetic shunning and ganging up on you when you instinctively behave as you wish. Your parents did a great job raising you--I CAN't wait to buy KISSAMINT!!! Bring it on, Sweetheart!!
Hopefully, after reading everyone else blogs (if they do) the really spoiled, rude, crazy and really mean ones might get a wakeup call about themselves and maybe Ashlee parents will get her the help she needs. And it's pretty obvious most people really like you. Quit hanging out with the people who are hurting you.
I am a mother of two daughters. I have raised them both to have the most stellar of work ethics and to be humble and thankful and grateful for all that we have. I have raised them to be like you. Keep your chin up! (and don't talk dirty anymore, it cheapens a woman. ) Kissamint for everyone's Christmas stockings!!
Joey, you have held your own, and despite the madness, you have kept up with the best of them. I know it's been said but you do remind me of a young Bethenny Frankel, smart and quick with the tongue.. and hopefully you'll end up a successful business woman like her. Wishing you all the success in the world. You deserve it. xo
Joey,love u. Not just saying that cause I m from Freeport also. Speaking of Freeport why we gettin such a bad rap. Anyway at this point I feel sorry for Ashley. She has some serious issues she is going to have to deal with. A reality show might not have been the best thing for her. This show is exposing all of her insecurities none of which she ever had to deal with or realized she had because she was living in a bubble. You are the complete opposite. Because u r so independent and determined and have parents that push u 2 b this way things like all this pettiness only make you stronger. Although your dad did come off as overly harsh I will chalk it up to editing. At the end of the day this show has put u on the map. I have no doubt that this is the stepping stone u needed to jump start the business. Reality tv is working for u. Ashley,not so much! Wishing u all the best and mayb I'll c u on the mile!
Joey never worry about being the poor girl looking in! You have more character, strength, drive and balls than any Ashlee or Casey. I would love to see how they would cry if daddy didn't foot their bills for a year. You gave Trashlee exactly what she gave you....difference you didn't play the victim. Just remember Bethanny once was the poor girl looking in and now look at her empire!
I love that when I told my husband that I hope Kissamint does well, he answered "if nothing else, to prove her father wrong!" Men and women seem to like you Joey. Rock on....
I cannot wait until Kissamint sky rockets and you become wealthy and famous. That is going to really get under Ashlee's skin! You and Amanda are my favorite...hands down!
Joey, I feel bad for you having to be assaulted every week by a legit crazy person on national TV. You are handling it with strength and grace! Everyone is pulling for you girl. We can all only hope that Ashlee gets the help she needs. She is really one sad little lawn gnome.
Stay strong and classy. don't stoop to Ashlee or Casy's level. Don't yell or fight with them, they will always twist things to make YOU look like the bad one. Just keep the facts straight and be the calm, normal one :) good luck with kissamint!
We obviously don't know what's going on w/you & your mom...but instead of giving a whole long schpeal about how great your mom is (& maybe she is) the fact that Amanda said your r'ship w/her is fragile & your reaction to Ashlee's dopey comment just doesn't seem to add up to her being this unbelievably good-hearted person. But, whatever. You're pretty much one of my favorites (sharing the spotlight w/Chanel, Jeff & his parents).
Bummer about Ashlee being such a kook. I enjoyed her the first few episodes -- thought she was quirky, but cute. Now I think she's the #1 crazy (with Erica coming in right behind her).
Joey, you remind me of a younger version of Bethenny Frankel! You rock! Ashley, you remind me of a young Jill Zarin: vindictive and jealous!!! You should be ashamed of yourself...
Joey, the 3 in my family who watch the show think you are the best. Ashlee is not worth the scum your dad washes off his boat hull. She a SNOB and looks down on you because of where you live and the money you don't have YET
But you have so much more then her Ashlee thinks Money Means Class Her dad has money and Ashlee has no class You have Brains, Looks, Class, and you are building a business.. Ashlee is doing nothing zero
Joey- just be thankful you do not have to be her!! Who would want to be friends with her when her perception of reality is so skewed? Come on.. Her parents should have to keep her- they created that monster!! if i were them, i would be so embarrassed at what they have done! She is 30 and acts like a 6yr old and they let her get away with it. Grow up Ashley
On a show of really icky shallow girls your less icky than one of them. Sorry that's the best I can do on this one.
What you should be doing is thanking the reality tv gods for having a spoiled troll senselessly attack you and thus catapult you as one of the most likeable girls on the show. You had all the qualities of course- hard working, relatable, logical, sensible- but thanks to Ashlee, you finally stand out from the pack! Good luck on KAM- I know I'll be buying one.
Joey, Ashlee is a "case study". A true narcissist. SHE is the controlling, manipulative one.
Most if not all the previous comments are spot on! I notice Ashlee has yet to blog because she KNOWS there is NOTHING that she can say to justify her behavior. She whispered her comment because she knew it was inappropriate and undeserved. She wanted to hurt you since she obviously looked foolish and managed to make herself look even more foolish. You are level headed, responsible, beautiful, smart and driven. That is reason enough to kick this person to the curb and carry on.
Keep your head up you are the most normal one on the show. Your beautiful, hard working, sensible, and are the most connected to reality. My daughters cant wait for KissaMint to come out- I know you'll hit a home run with that. Good for you- see where living a true life and being an authentic person can get you- Ashlee take notice!
I have never written anything on this site, I enjoy many of the Bravo shows for what they are "Entertainment", however I felt compelled to write after I watched the fight at the vineyard with Ashlee and Joey. I have always felt the relationship that is portrayed between Ashlee and her parents seems to be unhealthy at best and quite honestly just plain "creepy."
When I watched the 5 year old version of Ashlee call her parents and cry hysterically it reminded me of my 3 and 4 year old grandchildren arguing and then coming to Mimi to resolve their issues. "Really!!!!"
Wow! That Ashlee is a loon! Andy got Dr V to intervene in the mess going on over at the RHNJ he needs to have an intervention with Ashlee. That child is a mess! She's painful to watch.
Is Joey a little abrasive possibly but not any more than the others and quite frankly Joey is very very watchable.
I wavered each week on who I supported... You or Ashlee. Girl, you forever have my love and support. You are motivated, gorgeous, and driven to make something of yourself. That alone deserves props... Ashlee thinks daddy will save her from life, and somehow a prince will appear and want her nasty self?? Not woman, a girl. A childish wanna-be that hasn't left high school. I was so disturbed by ashlee's comments to you and I am so proud of how you handled yourself. You arena inspiration to women everywhere that want to make something of themselves. I am 29 and I strive to have goals like you do. You are a strong, INDEPENDENT woman.... Ashlee is nasty, childish, and a disgrace to independent women everywhere! And anyone who supports her selfish, disgusting behavior should really re-evaluate their life. Casey uss to be my favorite, but after tonight I am disgusted by her and her troll doll of a friend. Love love you Joey!!! Keep your head up girlie!!!!