The Persian Version

Reza shares the emotions behind the Shabbat dinner and his reconciliation with his dad.

Apr 6, 20120

But my advice is, absolutely. No matter what you think you're doing, actions that others take in your family, profound actions, like the s--t that went down in my family, they affect you later on in life. No matter how good you sweep it under the rug, that s--t is still under that rug.

Bravotv.com: It looks like we kind of, in the finale, we see a little bit of that going on with MJ and her mom. Can you give us a preview of what their conversation is like?
Reza: Obviously I don't want to spoil anything for the audience, and I want MJ to be able tell it from her perspective, but the difference is MJ doesn't cry. She's got thicker skin and her rug is like a heavy pile shag. When she sweeps things under it, you really forget that they're there. My rug is like a thin tapestry. When you sweep too much under it, you can feel it when you're walking on it. Hers is so thick and she does a good job with almost pretending like it doesn't even exist. So for her to get to that place, I was really proud of her.

But the problem is, she is really good at masking it over and her mom is really great at deflecting, so I don't necessarily know or want to tell you what the outcome was, but I'm just really proud of my girl for getting to the place that she was able to acknowledge that "Wait a minute, there's stuff here that needs to be said."

Want to know what Asa thought of the episode? Read her take here.

52 comments
Angi58
Angi58

I love your show. Its nice to know that even though we have-different cultures we are all the same and different. Thank you for enlightening us.

Zahra
Zahra

I just want you to know there are some Muslim Persians leaving in great neck community granted the percentage of Iranian Jewish in great neck are much higher than Iranian Muslim but there are some in Kings Point, Great Neck, Little Neck or any other areas that are predominantly wealthy Jewish areas.

Cynthia Cea Balakit
Cynthia Cea Balakit

I love, love, love the show. Reza you made me cry last sunday. I am glad you had a chance to talk with your dad. I love the whole cast except for GG, she is crazy and no brain...MJ is a pretty girl and i like Asa for being herself....ohhhhh i love Mike and Sammy too. I wish they don't include GG on the next season....GG needs to be checked in the nuts house...

SD Viewer
SD Viewer

reza you all's show is awesome! i love you all even GG! you all have been so open, and vulnerable and at times obnoxious but it's been so entertaining! also i think your show has def open peoples eyes to Iranian culture. Great job!

PR
PR

Reza, my husband & i were so emotional over the episode with you and your dad! wow that took a lot but we are so happy that you both made peace. it's unfortunate that your grandmother did not acknowledge you but don't worry about that she's the one who will pay for that later. you be you and you seem to be so real. love the show.

gemmagirl
gemmagirl

Reza..love your sense of humor on this show and your one liners! It was such a moving scene with your dad and so happy you guys are working it out. p.s. What's up with GG's busted looking condo she lives in? She must spend all her money on her clothes and shoes! Not judging..just surprised!

Nanita
Nanita

I also am a product of a mix religion and race family. But forturnately I had a great family life that seemed to come together so effortless. Watching this episode brought me to tears because it just reminded me that there were sooo many ways things could have fallen apart due too outside influences. From your tragic story I found another level of appreciation for what I have been blessed with. So, I thank you for sharing this sensitive part of your life with us :)

SusanRussellLV
SusanRussellLV

Reza, I can see that you are a beautiful person with a big heart and I just love you. My heart was breaking for you when you were talking to your father. I felt bad for him to. I wish I could give you both a hug. Reza if you have not yet, you have to forgive your Grandmother for two reasons. (1) The resentment and anger only affects you. You have to forgive her for you. (2) Back in that time she lived, she did what everyone would have done and acted the way everyone would have acted. She did what she did with the limited experience she had in that era. Reza, Italians did not want their children to marry the Irish, Serbians would disown their kids today for marrying Croatians, Greeks would have killed their children for dating a Turk and on and on for the last 2000 years. Forgive her for her ignorance and know that is has nothing to do with you. I am sorry she has not accepted it and apologized, but the old timers are limited in their thinking. Thank GOD it is a new world and people are trying to break free from their governments and religions and strive to live in peace. Hugs and kisses Reza.

Tammy Tarr
Tammy Tarr

Reza,

I love your heart! I felt your pain, forgiveness is where the healing begins.

Much happiness to you! Tammy San Clemente Ca.

askum95
askum95

Reza, I get the respect your elders and all that, but what your dad said about why he never, ever, attempted to be apart of your life is pathetic...Sorry I also understand how an elder in a family is the go to person when you need advice. I find his excuse lame and pathetic. To turn your back, walk away from your child (children) is hard to wrap the thought around my brain! You are an amazing person and you and your mother are the reason you have turned out as beautiful as one can get. Can't say that about your dad... sorry.

De'Anna
De'Anna

There is something about you! You touch my heart !!! I just love you and wish you the BEST!!!! You are my fav on this show!!

Aisha Habibi
Aisha Habibi

Reza,

It is really wierd because I rarely have enough time to watch TV but the show is amazing. I'm not one of those people that gets into TV but you are so real. I was so touched by the talk you had with your father. My father disowned me when I converted from Christianity to Islam. We still do not talk at all. He lives in Alaska but I haven't been there since 2003. :(

On a more positive note, I loved when you said "Hes a hoe but he's not a hoe hoe." That made me laugh because my father also is a hoe...ahahaha.This show brings back so many memories of my college days in Riverside, Ca at UCR. In traffic, LA was a hike but I love that city. We would go every weekend. I now live in Washington, DC. I only go to LA once a year, on my birthday (July, 19) but I make sure to eat at Irani resturants as much as possible. I even have some favorite spots in OC but I haven't found a good place near DC yet. :( My school was full of many ethnicities but I mostly chilled with the Irani's and Afghans. I love everything about Persian Culture! I even learned how to cook Persian FOOD! :) If you ever want to party big in DC you are definatly invited to my place for some bomb a#$ Naderi Kabob or whatever you like. My husband basically runs DC so hit me up and I will take you to the hottest places around. No waiting in lines VIP all the way. We can even find you some khiar shoor! ;P

Aisha

Aussie83
Aussie83

I've not seen anything so moving on tv in a long time. Feel kinda teary. Good luck with everything Reza and I'm sorry your grandma is such a stubborn old dingbat.

Sam's mom in FLA
Sam's mom in FLA

Reza you are priceless. Congratulations on settling things with your father. Now, can you get GG to calm down??? Love you and the show.

theresalovesbravo
theresalovesbravo

Reza, I absolutely think you are an amazing soul. Your ability to forgive your father without holding on to the past just shows what a wonderfully, well grounded person you are. I give you so much credit for having the ability to look beyond the past, and look forward to the future. I love the show and find you so entertaining, I just wish show didn't close so soon and had more episodes for Season 1. I look forward to the reunion show and also look forward to many more seasons to come. I wish you and your father many many years of happiness and love. And the ability to share in each others personal joys and accomplishments. : )

Tired OC Viewer
Tired OC Viewer

LOVE YOU! You make the show. It would be a total snoozefest without you!

RealHousewifeSoBe
RealHousewifeSoBe

You and MJ are my fav favs.....she is a super friend ,and so are you..and your sense of humor!!! Love you guys and look forward to watching each week....please tell GG to get some therapy!!! She is like a chihuahua in a pitbull costume!!! those designer clothes dont help when she is blowing off the top of her head!!

Cyn12
Cyn12

I love, love love this show. Everyone is so interesting and full of life. My favorites are of course Reza and Asa. The episodes go so fast and I am hungry for more. Vh1 you have a real winner !

Dalal
Dalal

Reza..just want to say i love u soooooooooooo much.you r one of kind.

Brenda B
Brenda B

Reza, great show. I was once told by a Jewish friend that the children could be Jewish only if the mother was. Is that true?

Habibi
Habibi

Hi Reza--I think you are such a strong person by allowing the reconnection with your father on camera. I completely understand the situation, as my father is a Muslim Arab and my mother is a Christian American. My Arab grandmother will not have anything to do with me because I am not Muslim. The rest of my fathers's side of the family is wonderful, although the majority of them are still in the Middle East. I'm not sure if people really understand how different the family dynamic can be in the Middle East, and I did not speak to my father for 30 years (I'm 34 now) because of the situation with my Grandmother. Anyway, I know Farsi and Arabic are different, but inshallah everything will work out with you and your family. And by the way, you're fabulous! :)

doe7
doe7

Reza, I just love you! That you can say that you are sensitive and emotional is very special, because most men won't admit those traits... and they are such special assets. It had to be so hard to go to see your father... but it was so wonderful to see the reconciliation... thankyou for sharing such a precious moment of your life! And never let him go... as far as gramma goes; well how can she not love her grandson? I cried at the way she treated you!!! It is her loss... and Reza... you forgot something... you have the BEST sense of humor... you have me laughing so hard that the tears are running down my cheeks... I can't wait for Sunday! I love the show... Bless youxox

Grants Pass Gal
Grants Pass Gal

THANK YOU FOR SHARING SUCH AN INTIMATE MOMENT WITH US REZA! OMG your grandmother is such a hard hearted old thing. Glad you made peace with your dad and hope you truly feel better about it all. Love the show and hope it continues.

MartaC
MartaC

Reza-I so enjoy watching you with all your friends, but watching you with your father and the family - not your grandmother - was so wonderful and thouching. Having MJ with you was so great as well. She is such a friend. Making peace with your father is a good thing to do. Your grandmother is so old school and just needs to be put in another part of your heart - far far back. You have a wonderful mother, good family and wonderful friends and a new relationship now with your father. Just be happy and if you have made anyone along the way see that all people should get along, then you have served in this life well, and from what we see, you certainly have. You are a kind, loving person who gives so much to others, from your heart. Be happy knowing that you have none of your grandmother in you - you are what you are from your mother and parts of your father, as well. Love the show, much more than I thought I would. I was extremely upset with Asa and her not telling her friend to mind her own business at the "girls night out" - for her to butt in when GG was talking to HER friends, was totally wrong. Asa should never have confronted GG,

BarbraAnn
BarbraAnn

My heart goes out to you, Reza! When you looked into the camera and begged these two warring sides to get real, I couldn't believe it --- you could change the world --- just by being you. Bravo to Bravo and all your cast. Stay true to your souls. --- Shastagirl from NY

pacificluv
pacificluv

Reza! That was harsh the way you acted to your father in NY. I could never imagine displaying that type of mean reaction to my father. Then for you to say that about your grandmother too. I mean come on, she's your grandma, let her live with her own stupidity but for you to call her a b_ _ ch. That's going too far. Culture should teach, those kinds of behavior come back to bite you. You need to let God deal with her feelings for you, not you.

LisaLou
LisaLou

I just want to say, thank you for sharing your story with your father. I applaud your continued efforts to reach out to him and his family. You truly know how to forgive and love!

Lennis
Lennis

Sunday's show was the best show that ever appeared on TV, why? Because you where honest, and courageous, and truthful. It took me 62yrs to tell my Mom the truth of how I really felt about her choices, decisions regarding my life. I cried for 2 days, talk about flood gates opening. I understand what your Father felt, between a rock and a hard place, re: his Mother.

Reza you are blessed with a "Christ" attitude to bring people together. You will always prosper because of your openess to life. You are loved Reza.

martihere4theparti
martihere4theparti

What a powerful scene with you and your father. It was very moving and emotional, and a healing moment for you and your dad.I am sure many people wish they could have the same conversation, and can't. Your dad was at least receptive and cried. Now you can move on to a better place with him. You made an excellent point about all people coming together, regardless of religion. Very Zen of you. Maybe there is one part Buddhist somewhere in your eclectic worldview. You came from a place of insecurity, overweight as a child and awkward, and now look at you! You go, Reza! Your real friendships with MJ and the others is also touching. Keep on keeping it real!

Carmen Victoria
Carmen Victoria

Watching you is so refreshing, I enjoy your funny and "right on" comments, you dress up so elegant, I love every episode, can't wait for the 2nd season. Thank you for raising the bar in good manners, and good taste in everything you do. Love your positive energy, your mother did a great job!!!! please give her a big kiss from me. You are a blessed man.

jdoe58
jdoe58

I love the show and all of you on it. I wish I could have gone to Vegas with all of you...so much fun to watch. I hope the show comes back for another season.

ViewerTerry from Sedona,AZ
ViewerTerry from Sedona,AZ

Reza, Thank you for sharing something so painful with us (the viewer). I do know what it is like to have a father that is being pressured to not see you. Mine was a step mother, she taught me what evil is. His mother also did not like Me even as a little girl. She hated my mom for getting pregnant but took it out on me. Your grandmother is old and ignorant, her way of thinking is what needs to change in this world. Thank you for expressing your feelings to all that those ideas of your grandmother's are wrong, bad and hateful. The rest of your family seemed very loving and cared deeply for you. I am so glad that your father and you now have a relationship. Keep loving him, his mother must have made your parents marriage HELL!!! My father passed away and I had to find out from the newspaper and we lived in the same town. No one from his side called me, my evil step mother got What she always wanted. Me Out of his life. Now all I have are even more Unanswed question. I am 57 and after the age of six, was never alone with my father and will never be.

Monica
Monica

Reza! I super love u!!! I cried watching u express all your suffering throughout the years and also seeing what a great human being u are right now...it specially touched me because my son is going through the same experience with his father. So, he can relate to u and it doesn't matter that u r Persian and we r Puerto Rican. As u said people/family need to love each for who they r, we r all citizens of the same world!!!! XOXO

Viewer456
Viewer456

Reza, I think you are great, but you let your father off the hook way too easily. His mother didn't like his wife, so he fooled around and left her? He hasn't seen you for 16 years because you are half Muslim? Your father was a grown man at the time. He CHOSE to do what his mother said. I'm sorry that your grandmother is an unkind woman, but why did your father not send your a birthday gift or call you? She would never have found out. He did it his way because it was easier for him.

Also, if you were GG's friend, you would not have blown off her parents' party to go on a blind date. What was that about? It was disrespectful of you. Would you have been ok if GG didn't go to your birthday in Vegas because she had a blind date? I don't think so.

vernon G
vernon G

Dear Reza,

I was watching your conversation with your Father this evening , I was brought down to tears watching you - I felt your pain and how horrible you must have felt for not feeling loved because you are not Jewish. Love is a big word but you had the guts to express your soul!

You are amazing and even more amazing for expressing your soul! my peace and love surround you in the future ! hugs and blessings Vernon

ViewerHoHoHoe
ViewerHoHoHoe

It seemed like the "rental???" car in NYC had a SmartTag Transponder on the windshield. You normally don't get those with a rental car. what's the story behind the car?

If I had not watched the show, I would have thought that your Father's mother andyour father were husband and wife. they don't look that much different in age.

Amir
Amir

Reza I think you are awesome!!!! All of my friends and anyone else I have talked about the show with agrees that you rock!!! You're making all of us Persians in Silicon Valley proud for just being you!!!!

GD
GD

Reza,

You should be proud of yourself. You are smart, kind, a great son, a great friend.

I love the way you handled yourself with your father. I am sorry for the pain your grandmother and father have inflicted you. Ashamed of your grandmother's behavior. Please understand it was her lost. Your father owes you a lot. It is beautiful how you are willing to move forward with him and make things better for your own sake.

You are the best one in the show. It is great to watch your life.

Theresa LaSalle
Theresa LaSalle

Reza,

You have me hysterical so much of the time.However, more importantly.I teach history about the middle east...focusing on the Palestianian and Israeli conflict. So tired to teaching this madness...and there you are ..you said it all...beautifully...to love each other...Wish you could go around to the public and private schools and reach out to our kids who are taught such madness by the adults around them.

Love you forever, Theresa

anet
anet

The best show ever

Lady Doodah
Lady Doodah

It is so terribly sad to stand by your parent's coffin thinking of all the things you wished you had said or done to heal the old wounds. Your time here is so short and so much is wasted. It is unbearably painful to know your parent rejects you for some superstition or religious law from four thousand years ago. Mend fences while you can so you will be free of the guilt and pain. Eat, pray, love.

eleven11
eleven11

Reza - you are a breath of fresh air! You are extremely profound and articulate. You seem to have a way of cutting right to the issue in a way that we all just get it! There were a few things that resonated with me in this episode that really drove me to comment. First, your way of explaining the culture and the religion of the Persian community was very enlightening and educational. I really learned more in that few minutes than I did in a whole college class on religion. When you talked about how everyone should just accept people for who they are no matter what their religion or culture was very powerful. Second, your friendship with MJ is so heartwarming. You get each other and you have each other's back. We can tell that you two really care about each other. I enjoyed the show and I want to thank you for letting us get a glimpse into your life. I really hope that Bravo brings you back!!

BKS
BKS

Love you Reza the King :O) You need to have your own show STAT! I tune in every week just to see you and so sad the last show is next week, boooo! Andy Cohen needs to give you your own show STAT. You are a special gift from God I wish nothing but the BEST for you! xo

NordicPrincess
NordicPrincess

I love you Reza, you make the show 2000000%. I tune in just for you as I am sure all your fans do :O) Andy Cohen needs to give you your own show!! xo

drla
drla

Reza -- I knew there was depth and soul beneath your hilarious and upbeat exterior, always happens that way! You are so grounded in your straightforward take on it all and you ability to be self-deprecating in your humor, love it!!

I too, recently had a rug that was overflowing with dust bunnies and there was no more room. It took me six months of not speaking to my parents to finally let the flood gates open. Funny, because I use the rug analogy too in describing the years of masking the hurt. Our relationship is in a much better place now and while one parent is still a bit of a stubborn old dog and other has learned new tricks. You're right, Reza, open the flood gates and talk it out. Once on the other side, life is so much better!

I anoint you the second most grounded person in Beverly Hills (I still hold the title. After all, age and beauty before studliness and a hot pimp-stache)!

Sending real hugs

maliapika
maliapika

Dear Reza, What a breath of fresh air you are! Your charming, funny, and articulate. It's been enjoyable watching you and listening to your straight forward take on things. Your like a Persian Bethany!

Curlz
Curlz

Reza, I just love your side comments, especially because your right on! Say it Reza!

Di
Di

Reza, I'd be proud to have you for my grandson, stay your sweet self.

Viewer88
Viewer88

I am so confused because this was posted april 6 and I just saw it tonight, Reza thank you for sharing all of this and for your plea to Muslims/ Jews and middle easterners to 'stop the b.s.' and just get along. Maybe I have been under a rock but to me it seems like this is not something I see commonly discussed on television in this way (on such a personal level) and Bravo really has put it in a palatable format. I hope this show continues for many years to come. I am glad you and your father have gone forward...Bravo did not show any interaction with you and your grandmother and I would love to know if that ever worked itself out or if you are still not speaking.

Di
Di

I would be proud and honored to have you for my grandson Reza...you have been my favorite from the start of SOS. Your compassion comes through on tv and I hope your relationship with your father remains forgiving and loving. I wish you the best and who cares about what cranky granny thinks. You are awesome and your mom must be VERY proud of you and she loves you with all her heart! That's all that counts...