Lilly Ghalichi

Lilly explains why she wanted to give GG a chance and why she's not practicing law any time soon.

on Jan 28, 20130

I can't believe how quickly the season is winding down! Episode 9 beings with a conversation between Asa and Reza where he manages to convince her to come to a family dinner to give GG an opportunity to apologize for what happened. Asa is hesitant about attending, but she couldn't resist Reza's charm and agrees to go.

Next, you guys get to see the very first time GG and I ever hung out. We had met briefly at the group dinner where Reza introduced me to everyone, but I hadn't seen or really spoken to her since. I have to admit, I was a bit worried about how GG and I would get along. I had heard about how violent she got with Asa, and I had also heard a lot about her short-fused temper. I am a very non-violent person, and I don't surround myself with those that have a tendency towards violence. With that said, I am a very open-minded person, and I don't judge people based off of what other people say about them, therefore I wanted an opportunity to get to know GG for myself.

I must admit, I had a great time. GG was very warm and friendly towards me. She told me that she has reached out to Asa and really wants a chance to explain herself and apologize for her actions. I really hope these two women will be able to work things out because I do feel bad for how much the group has ostracized her this summer.

66 comments
callie88
callie88

How can you say that you do not like chubby people when you make a comment like I like GG she is skinny.    I know that I keep saying this but you are shallow.  Why do you feel that it is necessary to tell us how much you paid for an item.  I really do not care what you have or how much you purchased something for.

Layne
Layne

Lilly:  This show is your opportunity to put yourself "out there"  - to attract and meet eligible guys, right?  I'm pretty sure you hopped on this bandwagon for a reason ... in any case - guys - serious guys - are not/not/not going to be attracted to your off-the-charts self-absorbtion, artifice and perceived shallowness.   

 

I'm sure you're an intelligent woman, but it is not coming across on this show.  Lilly, you have *got* to tone it down. You are a caricature, with the hair (yeow), the make-up, the voice.  I cannot believe that this is the way you really are ... the way you go out in the real world.  Right??  In any case, it would be great to see a more natural you next season, should you return.  If only to appeal to a worthwhile guy ... as you enter your 30s.

Hulali
Hulali

Maybe if you wear more make up and bigger hair you can get your stale ole boyfriend to marry you !! Please... if after all this time he hasn't asked you to marry him then He's Just Not Into You!! Move on and focus more on your inner beauty, thats what attracts a man for the long distance, men generally hate high maintenence materialistic self centered anorexic girls

elsaro9
elsaro9

Uh-oh: You may be way too rational and clear-sighted for this group! Seriously, though, Lilly: I suspect that you are underestimated quite a bit (beautiful women often are); yet you seem to stay entirely true to your principles and ambitions. Now that is what I call beautiful and successful! 

stephyryan
stephyryan

You have created a great business and it is something you are clearly passionate about. I wish you could let go of some of the more materialistic things about you and just relax and enjoy yourself sometimes. Vacation is a time to have fun and relax, not reference getting your nonexistent fat taken off. You are gorgeous, we know that you know that, so why the big hair, pounds of makeup, and better than thou attitude towards others? You went on vacation knowing there would be drinking and partying and still continued to constantly comment on it. I just think you have SO much potential to be an even greater, more powerful, inspiring woman and you are not taking full advantage of that. 

SunnynSocal
SunnynSocal

What I like about you is you are nice....I am impressed you went to Law School so rock on with the swimwear, law will always be there Dont stress if you gain any weight like you did in mexico you face is beautiful and if you gain ten pounds or forty pounds you will still be beautiful especially if your beauty comes from within. I hope you find a man who appreciates your dreams and supports them.  

sontanedab
sontanedab

Lilly you are a strong woman, much stronger than you even realize. Your friend Neama is basing his opinion and judgment on you on the old country traditional values. Such values are worthy of consideration, they made you to some degree, but following your passion and living your dream as a businessowman -- creating b-kinis or whatever -- does not diminish you as a woman. Anyone who judges you in that fashion is not worhty of your friendship.  Not everyone you love or who claims to love you is necessarily good for you.  Follow your star, fulfill your destiny -- build your empire and be happy internally 100% and you will eventually find the right person for you who will regard you sincerely and completely for who you are and not for how they want to change you.  I know you know all this. You are a breath of fresh air in that show featuring so many likable, even lovable, yet dysfunctional people.

nnsurve
nnsurve

You are so SMART and hard working. Never give that up for ANYONE.

MaggieC2ditto
MaggieC2ditto

BTW you will hate yourself and resent Ali if you give up your business for him.  And it will

never be enough, he will keep expecting more until you have given your soul and he will

give nothing back.  When you have hidden resentment in a relationship it will never, ever

work out.  EVER!  Love yourself first.

MaggieC2ditto
MaggieC2ditto

Lily, dahling, if this or any other guy hasn't scooped you up in 10 YEARS it is time for you

to take control of your life and move on.  And the minute he starts being negative about 

your life decisions, show him the door.  This guy needs a good swift kick, girl.  You are a

12 on a scale of 1-10.  He doesn't know it, let him go, gone, done.  Good luck, although

I do not think you need it at all.

Ittbittit
Ittbittit

I can't believe how shallow most of you are. It is all about what you have, how you look, how much you can drink etc. It is the biggest competition of conspicuous consumption I've seen in quite some time. And most are so childish; he's talking smack about me, she looked at me, shes not keeping it real. You should be called the RHOP..Real Housewives of Persia.

Micheles609
Micheles609

GG acts like little girls on the play ground  what a sorry comment this is but so true. They think they are tough but I never has ever seen her throw a punch somebody is always there to back her up. GG put your money were your mouth is a rock it.

samsung
samsung

YEAH THE GG GRABBING THE KNIFE WAS WEIRD AND STRANGE.

ALL THE EXCUSES WE HAVE MADE FOR HER AND SHE RESORTS BACK TO INEXPLAINABLE INSANE BEHAVIOR. CANT TAKE HER ANYMORE.

 

Sophie22
Sophie22

I can't stand u Lilly but this episode I actually liked you for standing up for yourself against naeme or watever he's name is it's the first time I saw you act like a real person,I jus pitty you that your too weak to get rid of Ali who hangs on to u until something better comes along.

loveallRHW
loveallRHW

that scene with your friend was hard to watch..you looked so hurt and shocked that your success and financial independence was not acceptable to Ali (because of the type of business you run)..I wonder why he never mentioned or hinted that to you in the past..why does he have to send a messenger to tell you this??? I really do wonder what games he's playing with you..

jis72
jis72

Girl ever heard the saying ,"he's not that in to you?" Move on! And judging by your intagram, OMG! you are so in love of your self its disturbing! Do you have a life? Other than just taking pictures of your self? Seriously it pathetic.

Janes
Janes

Anyways... Lilly, even if you change your lifestyle and career just to be with Ali, can you guarantee that he will stay with you forever? How can you trust that he loves you enough when he cannot accept you guys' differences and respect and love you the way you are? A man can fall in love with a stripper and marry him too, regardless of the fact that she might be a stripper, you see love does not look for perfection. I think the reason why you always want to be so perfect is because of how he makes you feel, by not committing to you, he makes you feel like you are just not good enough, hence your obsession to become perfect for him. It is obviously not healthy for you to live your life that way. You are a beautiful woman, be comfortable with how you are. You are still beautiful and even more beautiful if you let yourself gain a healthy weight.

 

I understand that you have invested 10 years of your life for this man and you do not want to accept that you were wrong to trust him and hope for something to come out of it. However, life does not always pan out as we hope it would, as an adult, we should accept things (no matter how painful and undesirable of an outcome they are) and move on.

opusv
opusv

Rule number one. You should never give up anything that is important to you for a man. It never works out well.

wifeywilson
wifeywilson

I ran into Gigi at the mall today and I said hello and she was very warm and pleasant :) remember people these are reality shows and they love the drama!

betsyt
betsyt

Lilly forget the negative comments or the attempts to make you subservient.  You are young, beautiful, rich and clearly smart.  Don't waste all you have in your youth waiting for a guy that doesn't see your qualities because if he did truly appreciate you, he would be with you.  Use what God gave you to find the man that will love and treat you with the respect you deserve. With your beauty and brains you could marry an Arab prince or a wealthy Persian or even white guy.  And keep doing what you love and stay positive. Know your worth.

cndaneli
cndaneli

omg Lilly girl whatsup!?!?!! do you love MJ yet? bc I so do. anyways so I see that you are dating and not waiting for that no-show ALI, good for you girl! bc you know it aint bc you have a sexy swimwear collection he is not proposing. if a man wants you, he will come and get it! please use it before you lose it! who knows if we will all look as great as MJ when we are 40!!!! crazy right? and she parties so much too I want to meet her plastic surgeon cause he is injecting in all the right places ..... it's kind of cool how you were a lawyer for a minute there but no you are all like wearing make up and less clothing and stuff like that... you are so funny! i would want to go shopping with you and then secretly slip you some alcohol cause you need to loosen up a bit, maybe ask MJ for some advice... HAHA JK, kind of. you could both use eachothers advice LETS BE HONEST. i hope you were kidding about the skin tightening thing though cause like, then you are a psycho freak if you weren't but i really wnna like you cause you are so fabulous so i would forgive you if you weren't. peace and love honey buns. 

cinchy
cinchy

Okay, that is it, Lilly.

 

DUMP ALI

 

DUMP ALI

 

DUMP ALI

 

If he can't accept you for you, it's time (way past time) to MOVE ON.  Don't let him force you to change. 

Pasadena47
Pasadena47

The most beautiful women are always the most insecure about themselves.

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

Off and on with someone for years does NOT make a marriage or even a proposal.  It is obvious he knows he can come right back into your life when he is in between dates or a relationship.  Maybe moving on will bring you the love you seek.

You seem so plastic.  If you are passionate about your business than continue to make it work and grow. If not, and law is not for you, tha find out what your dream is.  A man is not going to do that for you.

The dinner parties or any parties never seem to bode well for the lot of you. Mike knew of the issues he was having with Omid long before the dinner. He could have called him on the phone and call him out long before this. 

You seem to pass judgement on people you hardly know.  In the end you will be the odd man out because this group has hung out for better or worse for a long time.

Kandy369
Kandy369

I don't see a problem with any guy being all-out honest about what his needs are, even if the rest of the world thinks his needs are masogynistic.  What is important is whether or not you believe he is masogynistic and possessive, or loving and concerned. 

You don't need a lesson on America vs. Iran, you know the differences-The decision lies in whether or not your bikini business is negotiable.  If your interests (bikini business or otherwise) are non-negotiable now, they will surely become marriage-ending issues down the road.  Invite Ali to see you at work, give him a chance to be flexible.  If he cannot be, you should be forever grateful that you learned this now and not post-matrimony.

But, without spending any appreciable amount of time with this guy, it doesn't matter one way or the other.  If you're gonna live in LA and he's not, it's ovah.  Ovah! So no need to pine over it anymore on national television.

 As for the Shahs, a family-style group with whom you have not yet integrated yourself fully, a little more observing and a little less interjection from you would be lovely.  Great examples of your overstepping: Reza's fight with MJ and GG's appearance at dinner this week:  Your reaction, in order to seem "cool" to the others, was to call MJ fat and in need of diet pills, and to call GG and Omid trash.  Did ya notice no one else chimed in with you?  That's cause they weren't really going at each other in the nasty way you assumed.  They're not really that kind of "Mean Girls" group, when it comes down to it.  And they know that you hardly know MJ, GG or Omid, so it's awkward for you to comment.  You overstepped in assuming Reza would think that cutting down MJ was cute.  You overstepped in assuming that the dinner party would jeer GG/Omid as trash behind their backs.  Just zip it for a while until your opinion becomes desireable to the viewers.

SunShyne_in_Florida
SunShyne_in_Florida

Lily, you are a decent woman, and everyone, including you deserve to do a job that they love.

 

HOWEVER, consider the following:

 

Think about what your life will be like 20+ years from now if you are not with the man that you truly love. 

 

Ask yourself, will a million dollar business be worth not having the person that you love next to you on family gatherings, holidays, vacations, and good and bad times.  A bathing suit company cannot produce your with children and/or family. 

 

You need to really think about you future, and take a few months to make a precise decision. Most importantly, be able to live with your decision without any regrets.    

Babs2011
Babs2011

Lilly,

three words - YOU DESERVE BETTER.

Recite them every day until you really believe it.  That guy Ali is not for you.  Not because he doesn't love you, but because the type of love he is willing to offer you requires such a huge compromise of your soul.  If you give him all of your power, what will be left for the rest of your life?  I hope you will really try hard, maybe even with counseling, to extract yourself from this one-sided relationship.  The reason so many earlier Persians left Iran was to flee the very constraints they want to inpose on you.

bpster
bpster

Lilly happy we got to see a side of you that brings some emotion. That being said I don't want to see any women cry over a man...What a judge-mental person he is!! I don't understand your culture but I do understand that if a man is going to leave you for following your dream he isn't worth having. I wish you well Lilly forget about him!!! You've wasted enough time!!!

Heidi_Ylenni
Heidi_Ylenni

I can’t believe that “your friend” came to see you to tell you that you need to stop doing what you love and are very successful at? It is unbelievable to me that they are acting like somehow you should be ashamed of it? I don’t think that you should let it bother you, though clearly it hurt. It is not like you are involved in pornography.

I did notice that when you spoke to him that we heard your real voice for maybe the first time. You were not trying to sound cute and ditsy. I really liked it better. You are clearly very smart and a very successful business woman I hope going forward that we get to hear your real voice more often.

KathyH
KathyH

Hi Lilly, I have to admit I have been on the fence with you for a while.  But this weeks episode really bothered me in seeing real emotion when your friend came by to see you.  I really felt for you, to be subjected to that kind of judgement by someone you care for and then stabbed in the heart when he makes the remark that the reason why you are not married is because of your company?!  That was insulting, you are a smart, independent and beautiful woman.  If you lived in Persia you would have died from being stifled.  You are your own person and accountable to only you.  I wish I had been in that room to chastise him.  instead of being proud of your accomplishment he tries to brow beat you into being a submissive wife.  I commend you for staying true to you, and frankly if that is what is keeping Ali in Texas than leave him there and be with a man who can appreciate the beauty, strength, love, intelligence and individuality that you bring to this world.  Work if girl like no one else can!  You are a role model!

KrisJones311
KrisJones311

:Lilly lilly lilly.....your 15 minutes on this show is winding down honey. That dinner was horrible (like all the rest of them). Mike pushed that fight on, Mike stood up and threatened Omid, Omid said lets TALK about this outside MIKE said NO and kept it going. That was not GG or Omids fault. Stop blaming that child for everything Shahs! Also she picked up the knives to defuse the situation. She was taking them away?? She wasnt even mad. Now we've seen this thang get mad before did she look mad?! last thing....why do you guys keep trying to get Asa and GG back as friends?! WHO REALLY WANTS TO BE ASAS FRIEND?!

zocola
zocola

Your friend gave you advice as a persian man not a harvard grad.

WandaP
WandaP

Lilly, Love your name, wear some color more than black!! Why do you feel bad for going for ur dream. Your parents wanted u to be an attorney, u did there requirements, they should have respect AND APPRECIATE ur hard work.. Do u know out of all the woman, ur the only one who has ethics!! And WORKS! Be proud.. As for your boy friend, he's not girL IN TO YOU, or even proud of your success, OR he would be by your side, living in lA. EVERYTHING is on HIS terms, sounds like he's going by the Other Persian culture that allows them to controle everyone and everything... MOVEON beautiful.. Find a man tht would accept u !

Pasadena47
Pasadena47

Lily my dear,  Last episode I actually liked you and will totally support you if you do not decide to stop your business to satisfy  Ali's desire to reduce you to a posession that he considers worthy of his attention.  Who in the hell is he to dictate to you what is shameful or unaccepable?  

 

I have photo's of women in two-piece bathing suits on the Caspian Sea's shoreline, circa 1970 something.  This guy has major hang-ups about your being a business woman and although I would respect your wishes if you stopped because your parent's felt deeply about your ability to do something different and productive, this weasel Ali had to send his friend on his behalf to give you a "Pep Talk" about the "Maybe he is ashamed, blah blah blah"

 

If he wants to treat you like he is the man, you the woman,  then he should man-up and tell you, not send another man to do the job.

 

Do not compromise who you are to garner his approval.  If you do, then be prepared to don a Chador and do not be surprised if you are treated like his personal slave.

LolaL
LolaL

How weird were you on that date?  Why did you have that nice spend his money on you when you were set on just acting so whack?  He thought you were so beautiful, too beautiful to even be available but at the end he sure knew why you never go on dates and have no boyfriend. 

shysharon
shysharon

I forgot you were even there.

MissRay
MissRay

I feel like we got to see a completely different side of you in this episode. It just shows the rest of the world how much pressure persian women are under to not only live up to the high standards of their family but to standards for their boyfriends/husbands. Maybe this contributes to your need to be "perfect." It was so hard to watch the part when your boyfriends best friend (sorry I forgot his name) visited you at work and basically said you needed to return to law and your swimsuit business was a joke. (btw  I can't wait to buy one!) Then he mentioned that your business may be a reason you are not married yet. I saw the pain and hurt on your face, as  viewers, we have not seen that vulnerable side of you. It truly broke my heart. You held yourself together so well and you were so polite to him. (considering what he had just told you!) This is obviously a conversation he has had with Ali. (well since they are best friends I would assume it has come up, since he is so blunt I am sure he would not be afraid to ask Ali how he felt about it) I do not know if you have talked to Ali about his friends confrontation and asked how he felt about your business yet. Either way, I remember you saying how Ali was your first everything,  the one and only love of your life,  despite that, I hope that you can remain strong and not compromise yourself and your business to accomodate him.

OhUKno
OhUKno

I saw Asa's face (and Reza') when Omid said your close friends were telling him that you had been trashing him. Asa had a guilt look on her face as if she hoped it wouldn't be exposed. We all saw Asa and all hanging out with Omid the night GG wasn't invited to MJ's cousin's event. Maybe Asa just whispered in Reza's ear and Reza in his gossipping mode told Omid. Who knows but I don't think it was GG who started that mess. Don't believe me. Watch the footage back for Asa's reaction. It wasn't surprise it was a bit of fear as if she was hoping to not be revealed as the source. Also, between Diamond water in a big vat that only has one tiny diamond in it, not a bed of diamonds for the water to cascade over (as if it would make it less ridiculous) and to her NEVER having performed but calling herself a Pop Priestess, to Driving a Benz, having a mansion but then pretending to be broke so her friends can pay her way all the time...ASA is the FAKEST of them all. I won't even go into how she had a such a spiritual connection with the big diamond til she realized it was out of her price range, then suddenly the more affordable diamond became the "ONE" that she connected with the most. LOL. Fake Fake Fake, Asa is Fake.

nycgal24
nycgal24

 @loveallRHW Lily, Ali is not into you at all and he's not worth wasting another day or 10 years waiting around for. Dump him and move on with your life and your business.

cinchy
cinchy

 @Janes I love this post.  I hope Lilly reads it and learns from it.

 

When you're in Lilly's situation, you feel like you've invested too much time (years!) in a person to turn back now.  You've also invested too much love.

 

Well, speaking from personal experience, you CAN move on.  You'll be broken hearted at first.  Eat lots of chocolate and spend some time with girlfriends.

 

Little by little, you'll think less and less about Ali.  After a while (not as long as you think!), you'll stop thinking about him.  You will have moved on.  After that, when you do ever think of Ali, you'll think, "I'm so glad I moved on.  He just wasn't right for me" and you'll be so grateful that you did move on because you'll be with your real Mr. Right.

 

Trust me.

Praussie
Praussie

 @Kandy369 I agree with your 2nd paragraph. :Lilly came off as an airhead and mean and nasty. Lilly you're not beautiful.  Your plastic is.  Beauty comes from within.  Work on that.  Forget the plastic surgeon and seek some moral values.  Believing you are better than everyone else will never get you love.  You will meet people like you.  Shallow.  Sorry.  It's not you.  It's Reza, Asa and Mike.  I've never seen people that I truly was so disgusted with and yet YOU admire them.  Yuck.

cinchy
cinchy

What if she does marry him and then she realizes that she doesn't love him (because he forced her to give up something she loved - her business)?

cinchy
cinchy

I wish I could "like" this comment a thousand times.

Praussie
Praussie

 @KrisJones311 Asa is the crazy one in the show.  Did you see her butt cheeks hanging out and she thought that was cute!!!???  Crazy.  Style is supposed to be beautiful.  Not a statement of how stupid you can sink to.

Jessdeck
Jessdeck

@KrisJones311 "Lets talk outside" means lets go fight lol Mike started it, definitely, but Omid certainly didn't do anything to diffuse the situation. I don't know why, when Omid heard all of this supposed trash talking Mike was doing, why he wouldn't just pick up the phone, and nip it all in the bud! No, he had to start talking trash himself, and that's when things get ugly, like this! So silly.

bpster
bpster

 @Lana Why would you even bother......seriously!!! Don't waste your time!! He is a loser no matter how you look at it. 

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

 @OhUKno

 Asa didn't tell Omid anything.  If anybody, it was GG putting crap in Omid's ear and he should know better than to listen to her after her erractic behavior.  Neither did Reza, MJ, nor Lilly.  They are friends of Mike's.  I took it as Omid talking crap (like he always does when drunk) about Mike.  Mike had every right to be pissed off.  Why did GG bring him anyway?  And the way she came in and just ignored Asa meant she wasn't there to mend fences or apologize.  She should have just left.

Janes
Janes

 @cinchy I completely agree with you on how hard and painful it can be to truly move on, but life is not easy. Lilly needs to grasp the fact that no matter how long she waits and hopes for something, it does not mean that she will get it. I hope she gets to this realization before it is too late.

Janes
Janes

 @greenbean She is displaying her life for everyone to see and comment on on national TV. Oh well!