Cast Blog: #SHAHS

Lilly: "Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right"

Lilly weighs in on Reza's hurtful toast.

This was in interesting episode because everyone got to meet two fresh faces, Asa’s boyfriend Jermaine and my big sister Yassi.

The episode starts with a continuation of the huge fight between MJ and Reza in their office. I can’t even believe the things they said to each other! This fight is serious. They have been friends for years, so I hope they work it out sooner rather than later.

I am also excited to see what comes of the new partnership between Reza and Mike. I don’t know Mike very well, but he does not seem “dumb as rocks” as MJ states he is. To the contrary, he seems to be sharp, hungry, and ready to work (not to mention handsome!) I wish them the best.

Yassi is my OLDER sister. Yes, I realize she is far more blessed than I am genetically and she is eternally a hot 21-year-old, but she is still my OLDER sister. Love/hate her for that! My sister and I are very close. We love and support each other in every way possible. We may look identical on the outside, however, personality wise, we are complete opposites.  

I was invited to have drinks with the group and a comedian by the name of Tehran. I actually know Tehran personally from his comedy shows, so I’m excited on the one hand. On the other hand, I have some anxiety about attending because MJ and Omid will be there. I have heard SO many horrible things MJ has been saying about me behind my back, and the last time I saw Omid he threatened to backhand me, so I decided I would invite my sister to come along for moral support. Plus, I want her to finally meet everyone!  

Before we get to that night, can we please talk about the conversation that GG and Mike had at GG’s house? WTF?! My head is still spinning from listening to it. GG changes her story 10 times during the course of the conversation, and at this point, I don’t think she even remembers the truth of what actually happened.The scene with Asa and her boyfriend Jermaine was very touching for me. Persians in general can be very racist towards African Americans. There is a huge stigma in the Persian community associated with Persian girls dating African American men. To many Persian fathers, it is unacceptable. Watching Asa and Jermaine interact with each other is so refreshing because it rains on all of those stigmas. Their love for each other radiates the screen, and their support and encouragement towards one another is touching. I hope Asa’s courage in sharing her relationship with the world helps to break so many prejudicial boundaries that still exist. Black, White, Brown, Yellow, Gay, Straight, Male, Female: we are all equal. We are all one. And, love is blind.

This episode also gives a glimpse into one of my favorite times of the day: GLAM SQUAD TIME!! I have the most amazing team of hair and makeup artists that I use for special occasions. I call them my #GhalichiGLAM squad. While glamming me out in this episode you will hear me tell my makeup artist, “I love the way you make my nose look like I have had a nose job.” I don’t want this to be misleading as I HAVE had a nose job. (CLICK HERE to read my blog post on what plastic surgery I have and have NOT had). 

Sometimes there isn’t enough time to show the whole conversation, so it can be confusing. What my makeup artist and I were discussing at the time is how contouring (or “shading”) with darker foundation (or powder) on the sides of the nose can actually make your nose look entirely different (as though you’ve had a nose job)! I just wanted to clear that up in case it mislead viewers into thinking I was born with this little nose (hello, I’m Persian!)

Off to the event my sister and I go. As usual, from the moment MJ walks in (late) she is ready to attack me. I politely say hello to her, introduce her to my sister, and the first words that come out of her mouth are “Lilly, you should have worn that dress instead” while she points at my sister.

Enough is enough. I am a classy woman and don’t need to belittle other women, but at the same time, I will be damned if I sit back and let someone constantly attack me.  MJ needs to learn that you can’t dish it and expect not to take it.What I don’t understand is why she would attack me about my dress and what I should have worn anyway. As Reza stated earlier when she called him fat, does she not have a mirror at her house? It’s the oldest saying in the book: people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.

I do think it was a little insensitive of Reza to toast to everyone except for MJ. I get that they are fighting, and Reza is also fed up with how disrespectful she constantly is towards me and Asa, but as a friend for over 20 years, there is probably a better, more private way to deal with it. I am by no means excusing MJ’s bad behavior, I am simply saying two wrongs don’t make a right.

I like to end this week’s blog post by saying "OH MY GOD" -- watching Asa’s mom’s road rage was hilarious. I have met her mother in real life and she is the sweetest, kindest woman. To see that same harmless woman have that extreme of a level of road rage was hysterical! Come on -- her mom works her butt off and supports her entire family, she is entitled to a little road rage. 

xoxo

 

 

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Asifa Mirza dishes on her relationship with Bobby's mom.

Bravotv.com: Do you get along with Bobby's mom?
Asifa Mirza: It wouldn't be unconventional for me to say that most women don't get along with their mother-in-law. With that said I'm dealing with a mother-in-law who has only one child and is currently single, so her son is the only immediate family she has. She is a very nice lady, but is extremely biased towards her son and is in denial of her son's issues and faults. Unlike Bobby's mother, my mother stays out of our issues and never states that her daughter is perfect and everything is Bobby's fault. When I started to have issues my mother said to me, "Asifa, you are an adult and have the power to make mature choices. If you are having issues, then go to counseling or leave." On the other hand, Bobby's mother gets involved to the point where she's on the phone while we are having an argument. She constantly states that everything is my fault and that her son only started to have a temper when he met me. She is blinded by ego and pride, and it's easier for her to blame me than to take responsibility for her child's upbringing. Bobby and I come from two different upbringings, he saw his mother go through multiple divorces, and she is now single. While I came from parents who argued, disagreed, but worked hard to stay together and a create a strong family unit. For me divorce was never a topic growing up, but for Bobby that's all he saw. I don't have a perfect family and my parents constantly point out the things I do wrong (I know I have flaws), but Bobby's mother thinks she is perfect, her son is perfect, and that if anything goes wrong, it’s my fault. She and I are at odds and are very indifferent towards one another. But as his mother, I do need to put my differences aside and have more respect for her.

Bravotv.com: Is Bobby too much of a mama's boy?
AM: Bobby is the epitome of a mama’s boy, and so are a lot of other men.

Bravotv.com: Do you think Reza made the right decision calling off the wedding?
AM: Yes, I feel that Reza wasn't confident at the time and didn't know what he wanted. He made the right choice by taking his time and thinking things through.

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