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Reza Farahan

MJ's Denial is Truly Destructive

Reza wanted the reunion to be about one thing and one thing only -- the truth.

Feb 20

Going into the reunion, I felt nothing but excitement and I truly felt right at home in that room. There's something about gilded furniture, crystal chandeliers, and extravagant spreads that make me feel warm and fuzzy inside.

Seeing the rest of the Shahs, regardless of where we are at with one another still makes me feel great. With that said, I decided that reunion day would be about one thing and one thing only, THE TRUTH! Specifically speaking, I would stop enabling MJ and I'd finally confront her about her abuse of alcohol and pills. She has been on a smear campaign trying to convince others that my use of the words "bitch" and "ho" is inexcusable. She even brought up the fact that I had referred to my mother as such. In my heart I know that I love and adore my mother. I fancy myself a comedian and have always used those words to be funny in interviews. I won't lie I do crack myself up. As soon as MJ brought up that fact, I realized what she was trying to do. I couldn't take it and replied that I might refer to my mother as such, but that her mother was a bitch and a ho. It wasn't my finest hour, but I couldn't take another moment of MJ's "smoke and mirror" tactics. Plus, you guys have seen her mother, enough said.

Denial is truly a destructive emotion and regardless of where MJ is at, we all know and have witnessed her excessive use of drugs and alcohol. People all around us from fans to the production staff have at one time or another, mentioned the fact that MJ appears "out of it." The saddest part of the pill conversation to me was her attempt at describing the best way to use Ambien. Mike's support of MJ just perpetuates the cycle and she'll continue to be enabled. I was disappointed that he wasn't honest. Like Asa said, it's really scary when a 40 year old woman is asleep in the hallway of a hotel. That's not just unacceptable behavior, it's dangerous.

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Kbmac 5 pts

I applaud you Reza. It is obvious that your friend MJ has a serious addiction problem and you love her enough to risk losing her friendship to save her life. I have been in your position and understand how devastating it is to watch someone you love slowly kill themselves. I know how hard it is to give an addict a bottom line and stick to it. She is lucky to have someone who cares about her the way you do!! Good luck and stay strong. I will pray for her recovery!!!

jujubees 488 pts

 Kbmac

 Oh, please.  You really believe this?

Heatherbell 354 pts

 Kbmac I would have supported Reza had he actually had a loving and caring behind closed doors intervention with a professional interventionalist . Reza aired very private information, degrading MJ without considering the damages.. he has been enabling a possible problem since the beginning of the show....He needs help with his drinking, in my opinion!

 

iminuru 16 pts

I actually don't think that MJ is a liar? I think that she was cornered and was just trying to defend herself. It is a shame that her best friend Reza didn't back her 100%. I absolutely LOVE MJ! She is my favorite person on that show. And Reza drinks just as much as she does! And many times he provokes her drinking. If she is taking anxiety medicine, it is very personal and her own business. She is not only beautiful, she is a real genuine person. SHAME ON YOU REZA!

 

bevhillsgirl 14 pts

 how can anyone treat any other person the way you did on that reunion show (and the season, to be honest), let alone someone who has been your friend of 20 years.  you really need to step back and decide if you like the person you've become.

Lisa10 28 pts

Reza,

 

Just watched me tapes of the shows.  You acted terrible and what made you think that treating MJ who you called a freind like that was helpful.  If you truly cared you would have pulled back on your nasty comments.

 

 

NYAngel1 124 pts

Your are very very disgusting. And all it took was the nasty Asa to bring it out in you. What person with any kind of self respect would say such disgusting, disrespectful things about a friend and someone's parents.

 

I would be totally ashamed if I were you. I bet your family will now distance them selves from you. All the work it took for MJ to help you reconnect with your father and build a relationship with your grandmother. After all the suffering you, your sister and mother went thru with the rejection of your grandmother and now you have probably pushed her further away after finally getting her to come around. 

 

Very shameful... 

iminuru 16 pts

 NYAngel1

 I Love MJ. She is a genuine person. All the pain she goes through, she still maintains to be a free-spirited and loyal woman!

Ziggs 28 pts

R-Respect your friends E- Except when you wanna be a big reality tv star so you can get more twinks. Z- Zenial, denial I am so just trying to help her in the most cruel way(ratings) A- Amazing(mj) friend you had who accepted you as gay when you were a teen.

lindsayfrommichigan 18 pts

Reza, I am so disappointed in you. You were so funny and such a good friend in S1, now you are just a sell out. I think you just screwed yourself. Look at all your fans who no longer want to watch the show anymore. Don't you realize that people are not attracted to mean behavior? People found you endearing because you were kind and loyal. Now you are mean and backstabbing. Your cast members have you to thank for getting the show cancelled.

OCDisp1 410 pts

Reza, I love you!! Really!!! A true, real friend does not do what you did in front of the cameras.  A real friend takes you off to the side,  I think Asa, is such a bad influence.,  She is so jealous of what you and MJ have as friends, that she will find many ways to manipulate and try to destroy it.  You owe MJ an apology..

cinchy 102 pts

 OCDisp1 I have to agree.  I love Reza, but he dealt a below-the-belt blow.  That was just wrong.

Pasadena47 586 pts

Reza, Your vicious attack on MJ only served to make you look like a contemptious snake!  You have deep seated issues that MJ helped you through and now you throw her away for a couple of new toys, one make of pure plastic, the other made of total bull crap.  Good luck with that you heartless cad.

jbey 1676 pts

hi reza - while i do think what you are saying about MJ is true (the drinking and lying) - I think your approach is all wrong. Even if you are at the point where you want to step back from the friendship for awhile because of the issues - show a little love and compassion

sassol 566 pts

I have been fascinated, watching you courageously and relentlessly seeking closure with your father and your grandmother.  This process, that you, and your family shared  had to be very healing not only for you but for every one of us who went on that journey with you.  But, you do understand that we also saw MJ by your side every step of the way.

 

I'm a fan of yours, however very upset at your recent behavior...  you trampled over friendship,  cultural, and plain human boundaries.  You missed the mark, big time. Your ego got the best of you and perhaps Asa fanned those flames just enough to inflate that ego of yours into a rocket that aimed directly at MJ.  But in the end you must be accountable for your own actions.

 

 MJ does seem to need help with her drinking but what got into you to make you so brutally mean and at times an outright bully.  The more she squirmed the harder you squeezed.   It was really hard to watch, specially when Asa chimed in with her snickering.  This was not the way.

 

Please take respossibility for your part in this mess and move on to helping MJ heal. Hope to see  you and MJ next season.

 

Heatherbell 354 pts

It's so sad when you have a friend that knows your utmost secrets from year's of friendship then in one instance decides to dispose every one of them

grayfox007 161 pts

Raza I must say U R by far the most interesting charecter on this program. I am a straight man and have been married for 41 years but U R also as I say to my wife a very attractive man. If U were straight so many woman would be running to your door. I believe U R correct about MJ she is an addict and showing addiction behavior, keep it up that means U R a good friend. A  good friend is not who always tells what a friend want to hear but a good friend always tells the friend the truth. Hunter

Luashtal 235 pts

@grayfox007 a good friend doesn't do it on National Television, like that!!

Heatherbell 354 pts

@Luashtal. that is right! Reza has had hundreds of opportunities for an intervention...IN PRIVATE for God's sake....

vetalana 375 pts

 grayfox007 so, abusing her is a way to help her? calling her mom a whore is ok? bringing shame on her teenage past and joining the laughing cirle to humilate her? Read his blog...he was protective of Lilly and Asa as if he knows them forever...MJ hurt their filings....oi,oi,oi..Reza comes to the rescue...GG was mean to Asa?...oi,oi,oi...Reza comes to the rescue...MJ was dumped by him in the hole-way in Cabo after he got her drunk...now acting like he is humiliated by her and wants nothing to do with her.

Jen.Camacho.41 57 pts

Omg i just saw the second reunion.  What a messed up friend are you ? im so disappointed in you . How she cared about you with your family and father and for you to tell the world her dirt that didnt need to be aired to get your point across. I loved you the first session and i am disgusted by the second session. To help someone with a problem you personal talk to them tell them your concerns you dont go on national television and tell 20 years of secrets.

smg6611 974 pts

you managed to make MJ a hero and you came out a zero

re68319 154 pts

 sigristmary Asa is not only horrible, she is also talentless which is a double threat.

 
Tessa799 20 pts

my question REZA is why?? there is something else there, ...did you have a talk with MJ and she rejected your advice...or do you think she is getting away with a false image and it pisses you off - so you want to expose her.  there is some deep psychological reasoning for your eruption - these things are not knew about her.....

is she moving on - and you are threatened - even with the drug - and drinking abuse - , people feel threatened .... 

that was quite intense - and destructive - you shared too much.....doesn't she have a new man in her life? do you think he doesn't know the truth... this guy seems to like her regardless... let it be.... for all the pills and alcohol - she looks okay........ 

she needs to make choices that are right for her....but a public witch burning was a bad way to handle the situation... should have taken it down a notch.

backfires 1526 pts

You humiliated yourself on the reunion show and revealed a vile and disgusting side of your personality.  How you could sit there and try to destroy MJ,  vomiting out all her secrets after a twenty year friendship was low and told more about you than it did her. 

smg6611 974 pts

 backfires no one should get involved with him for personal or business can u imagine - he is so unethical he would tell the world about your finances.

Actually I think Reza stop growing emotionally at 15.

Heatherbell 354 pts

Hold on to the commissions you have made past months, who in their right mind would hire you now.. BAD man!!!!

smg6611 974 pts

 Heatherbell Isn't that the truth- he is a sick man no one will trust him.  how could he think that discussing what happened to her at 17 with the bank was an acceptable thing to say on tv

bravousername 65 pts

Asa flim flammed, bamboozed, and scammed you.  She snake charmed you.  You went for the okie doke. She has you doing all of her dirty work for her.  You went for the snake oil ....hook line and sinker.  If I didn't know any better, I would say that she may be a practioner of hypnosis.  Did you know that a hypnotist doesnt have to put you to sleep to work their magic on you.  Plus there is a certain gullable personality that hypnosis works really well on. 

r1b148ba 624 pts

 bravousername

Asa is not responsible for the actions of 40-year old Reza--Reza is. Reza doesn't get off that easily by blaming someone else for the pain he inflicted upon HIS friend. From what I perceived from watching, Asa and MJ were never really friends but more like acquaintances; however, MJ and Reza has a more than 20-year friendship, which should have meant that, not only could Asa not have influenced him to publicly flog MJ, but he would have publicly flogged Asa for even suggesting that he humiliates his FRIEND.

bravousername 65 pts

You say that you can't "sit by and watch MJ self destruct"  She doesn't have to "self" destruct, because she has you to destroy.  How helpful do you think it was for her to have all her personal business spread across the national airwaves, by a so called friend.  What part of your actions do you think was helpful.  Which part of her personal life that you exposed was helpful.  You give the same excuse that any pathological gossip gives....I was just trying to help.  You were just trying to help yourself to a little fame and fortune.  Everyone in your life now knows for sure that if you get mad at them then you will put all of your business out there.  You cannot be trusted.   

Ruby7 16 pts

I am not a fan of MJ but she definitely showed more class than you.  You were a MEAN girl and looked disgusting!!  Wow, the fame got to your head!!

 

bravousername 65 pts

The last few months is the first time that I have every read a TV show blog - because I wanted to know if the rest of the world saw you as I did.  Apparently everyone else sees what I see, that the only person on Shah's who is in denial is you. The denial is that we the viewers don't see through your lame attempt to make a name for yourself on the back of a friend of 20 years.  In another era this would be called a witch hunt.  On other reality shows where the cast members don't really know each other, the bullying and backstabbing is a lot less disturbing.  In this case, your back stabbing hits us all on a visceral level - because its our worse nightmare to have someone who we think is a friend turn on us.

 

irrosey2 79 pts

Reza, you appear to be delusional.  Your words and behavior towards your "so called" friends are what has caused negative reactions toward yourself.  How can you pour alcohol down MJ's throat one day and berate her for substance abuse the next?  Tell me, just what were you trying to accomplish with the "bank robbery" lies you came out with against her?  :You KNOW it didn't go down the way you said.  You sounded pretty desperate.  It sounded like you realized you weren't coming off as you wanted, so you threw the "sink" at MJ.  You do realize you can't become Lilly, don't you?  Lilly is a phony.  Her hair, piled on makeup, fake boobs, are just a facade.  You of all people, know what MJ has suffered over the years.  She had your back when she visited your family with you on season 1.  Yet, you became a whore on season 2.  You don't deserve her forgiveness.  Then, there's GG.  Most of us could see she suffers from some kind of emotional/mental problem.  Did you ever take that into consideration?  Did you have one ounce of sympathy for her?  Seems to most of us that you let "mean girl" Asa, draw you into her web, and influenced your better side.

eve.emanuel.7 305 pts

FRIEND reza  you are NOT...what you are however is a mean & nasty girl who can't be trusted EVER!!!!!!!

Jeanne309 26 pts

You must reevaluate your definition of a friend! You behaved like a mean girl in the worst way. I would never allow someone like you into my life.

bsbfankaren 1964 pts

No sir.  What is truly destructive is a friend who has no idea how to protect a friendship of 25 years, and is far too willing to throw it aside for fame and attention.  You are the one living in a fantasy world, and here's hoping you get the help you need to come back to reality.  Then again, it should require a lie detector test and possibly passing a drug test before MJ should ever consider having you as a friend again.  No matter what happens going forward, the friendship the two of you had in the past is irretrievably broken, and unless you change, no new friendship will be possible.

LadyK2507 401 pts

Reza, I used to like you but after the verbal assault you put on MJ on the reunion show, I don't think I will be watching the show anymore.  You are not a friend nor are you family to MJ, you are her worst nightmare!  I hope that your other so called "friends" remember how you turned on MJ and never share anything with you.  You should truly be ashamed of yourself.

mortifiedrhobhaddict 33 pts

I loved you during season one, but you were so cruel this season and over the top cruel at the reunion.

RealAndFabinNJ 179 pts

Where's your blog trying to justify your deplorable behavior?!  Maybe you're hiding under the rock that you crawled out from?  Thank you for showing the world who you really are. 

muttercup 214 pts

I am so done with this show.  Reza somehow thinks he  is better than everyone.  For someone who calls women the names he does, calls his mom filthy names and  while he himself can't even be monogamous and lies to his partners.  What he did to MJ was the absolute lowest.  This is a perfect example of how not to treat your friends.  Asa is about as disgusting as Reza.

ginajaye 21 pts

OMG! I am finally watching the show from last night. I always enjoyed watching you on the show but after what you did to a friend of 20 years, you were never a friend. A friend sees you through it all and always right there beside you. My kids have experienced being bullied, you are a great example to show that you can't even trust a friend because they can turn their back on you and hurt you very bad. I am shaking my head over and over.

Hulali 9643 pts

You are really NOT someone to critisize others because they take efforts to improve their appearance. You are over weight, have a nasty frito bandito mustache andlaugh like a little girl.  Don't think we can't all see how you style your hair tocomb over the bald spot on your head.  Good grief, there is absoltely NO WAY you are hotter than 98% of the other Persian men in LA.

ValentinaCorleone 140 pts

After watching this trainwreck last night, I felt like I needed a shower. It was the most disgusting display of bullying that I've ever seen. I truly hope that you feel the effect of your words and actions where it hurts most - your wallet. I wouldn't buy a doghouse from you. 

CAranch 35 pts

If you can expose such personal information about a friend of  20 year, its scary to think of what you would do to personal information of a business acquaintance of yours. 

myinfo 5777 pts

Wow…. You acted so over the top mean it was hard to watch.

 

If I was MJ I would never speak to you again.  You are not to be trusted.

 

Why did you feel you needed to call MJ out on national TV?  Did it make you feel like a big man?

 

Instead of spending money on clothes and drawing your mustache in with a sharpie pen, you need to take all that money and go to a physiatrist.  I mean run for help now!!!!!!!!!!!!

MelindaK. 1701 pts

 myinfo I totally agree, his words and actions were deplorable.  MJ should never speak to him again, let alone ever trust him.  He really thought he was cute with all his immature antics and comments.  These people were a disgrace to themselves, each other and most certainly their culture.  Tuned them out after awhile.  Not worth watching these overgrown, conceited people with Asa, Reza and Lilly leading the pack.  Really disgusting.