Golnesa "GG" Gharachedaghi

GG explains why she blew up at MJ.

on Dec 10, 20130

Oh myyy!!! Where do I start? OK well first of all I must say it's pretty ballsy of Jessica to convert to another religion without a ring on her finger yet. But because I know her, I know how amazing she is, and Mike would be stupid to not eventually lock in the deal and give her the best life ever! Mazel to Mike and Jessica!!!
 
I'm trying to be a supportive sister and take my sister to different places with me so she can get her mind off of her divorce. But when she tells me that she and MJ are talking and hanging out all of the time, it makes my blood boil! First and foremost, my sister shouldn't be hanging out with anyone that I don't get along with, but that's something I will deal with later. What the f-ck is MJ trying to prove by hanging out with my sister? If she and I are not getting along, then she needs to stay far away from anything related to me. MJ knows that my sister and I are just starting to mend our relationship, so why doesn't she respect that and back the f-ck off?
 
Onto nicer things... I just love, love, love seeing Reza and Adam together. Adam is one of my favorite people right now. He's so calm, sweet, caring, and understanding. I'm so happy Reza has him in his life. I think if it weren't for Adam, I'm not certain if Reza would've gone to therapy. I think Adam is showing Reza ways of dealing with his past because of his understanding ways of life. I guess it makes it easier for Reza to open up. Even though I do not believe there is any justification for Reza using the "F" word towards another gay man, I must say I'm proud he's trying to fix things by working on himself first. If anyone knows what it feels like to learn lessons from f-cking up in life, it's ME!

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tmartell
tmartell

GG I have to say when I watch you onTV, you remind me so much of myself when I was much younger of course,it makes me smile

Socialebritey_SF
Socialebritey_SF

Btw it seems to me that your sister is trying everything she can to actually be a featured member on the show, maybe she is trying for her own story-line and using you is just a means to an end for her. Shameful as she is, I would think both of you would be embarrassed that your parents have to witness this behavior. It is also clear your sister is jealous of you, she could not keep her marriage going and she is acting out because of it. Sometimes when we hurt, in turn it is easy to hurt those that we love. In our minds they will always be there.

paula.justice.129
paula.justice.129

GG I have really come to love you and hope many can see the awesome person you truly are. Your sister is a nasty vindictive person and I now see why there are deep rooted issues i between you too. She lacks loyalty and is spiteful toward you. Continue to shine as your sister is not fooling anyone anymore. Neither is MJ. Love always!

berry_interesting@
berry_interesting@

GG -- you are adorable and so fun to watch.  Quit drinking and you will be a true jewel. Seriously.

You can be relaxed and fun without booze, and if you don't cut down now, it will affect your health - long term.

Keep having fun and being the real you -- just take good care!

Monababy
Monababy

I completely get why you are upset and you must realize that MJ wants to upset you and is a master manipulator. It seems to me that you care more about that relationship than she does, she knows it,  and therefore, she uses it to have power over you.  In my opinion, she is the one with anger issues, she just expresses them like a snake in the grass.


Family is everything but, your sister is quite frankly, toxic for you.  She wants to minimize you at any chance she has which generally equates to envy and you allow her to have that power over you - don't give anyone your power.  She may be envious of your freedom; she has a lot of responsibilities but, those are her choices, not yours to feel bad about.  I am sure you would be happy to be in her situation with children etc.  I will bet you anything that when you have a child, your relationship with your sister will completely change because you will no longer have the freedom she so desperately desires.


You are a sensitive person, not a bad thing but, please learn to recognize when you are being manipulated.  You are very trusting, and believe me, anyone would be as pissed as you are - I don't see anger management issues but they sure do love to label you with it.  Do not own that title anymore.  That emotionless look that MJ gives you, to make you feel unimportant and meaningless is her weapon - it is a form of abuse.  She wants you to feel like you mean nothing.  I would want to rip her hair out too!  But you cant, just walk away... lol....


Lastly, I think you know what they are doing but,  you don't understand why which makes you question your value.  Its sad to me that people who are suppose care about us, would so quickly try to minimize our feelings and our existence for that matter.  These are not people you should surround yourself with or try to, you may never get their approval. 


You are right, they are both shady and your mom, hugging and giving any value to MJ was really sad because as a mother, I would have punched her, not hug her..  Do not allow their shadiness and jealousy to reflect your value!  Let them own it by just walking away.  Giving them any reaction just gives them the satisfaction and power they want.  They want to make you look bad!

lavone
lavone

i so love how crazy you are because you are you not like mj!and love that you say what you think!

judyrock
judyrock

I totally understand why you are upset with both your sister and MJ.  You have really grown up a lot this season.  Team GG!

ruke
ruke

GG, it is so very obvious that you are allergic to alcohol. You need to stop drinking. GG, you totally destroy every single function you attend. Please, for everyone's sake, especially yours, stop drinking.

mariannabare
mariannabare

GG, you've always been my fav--you're fascinating and beautiful and can actually learn and improve from your life experiences.


I'm no fashion expert, but I kept wishing you and MJ would exchange hats at the races that day.

bemaubi
bemaubi

Its so good to see all the positive changes you have made.  Really, thats all you can do.  You will never be perfect, none of us are but we can look at ourselves and make the necessary adjustments.  That is what you are doing and hopefully you will keep it up.  I hope you remember this side of MJ and your sister.  That isn't to say you shouldn't forgive.  You should.  Forgiveness is for yourself.  Also, it was really nice seeing you with your niece it speaks volumes about you.

CharleneFL
CharleneFL

I'm sure you've heard it before on past seasons, didn't like you all thaaaat much, but I AM LOVING YOU THIS SEASON!  I can tell you've done some self reflecting which I respect, keep it up, I think you're great! 

Gingertee21
Gingertee21

I get it GG, MJ really, I mean really hurt you. She used you and now that she has Reza, she does not need you anymore. You are much better than you were but keep working on your anger (pain). MJ is playing your sister against you and because of the competitiveness your sister has with you, she is allowing it to happen. It seems that your sister used you while going through some of the hardships of her dissolving marriage. You and Mike were right, MJ needs to stop it. Reza needs to stop instigating as well, but since his is totally classless, he won't. You should hold onto the relationships that are sincere and let the others go, it's not worth it. Your sister is always trying to show the world that you are a mess but I find her to be very much a mess, and she has children. I notice the smirk on her face on the upcoming episode when you see her with MJ and I wonder why she feels the need to hurt your feelings. I think she is low for that. To hell with them, just do you and have a ball. 

Ellie007
Ellie007

GG, your one stupid broad. no one would want to marry you! I would be afraid to have children with you! you are mental and need some major help

ruke
ruke

GG, I have a daughter who reacts exactly as you do, especially when she is drinking . It is so very disturbing & makes her family & friends afraid to be around her. The fact that you want marriage & children scares me. Children do not respond positively to the hysterical fits, threats, rages. I have a Grandson who is now going to mental therapy & taking meds. due to his Mother's actions. Please GG, before you marry & have children get help with your attitude, for your sake as well as a husband & child.

As a Mother I can tell you, you are killing your parents, destroying most of your friendships & driving any decent man away. Only you can fix this situation.

debmerc888
debmerc888

Hi GG:  Congratulations on all the positive changes you have made in your life. It is terrible to see the way MJ treats you, with Reza supporting her. Pathetic. You have risen above by supporting your sister during HER darkest hour, controlling your anger in the face of MJ's behavior, and wishing Mike and Jessica all the best.

 

Your sister. Wow. To show up with MJ at the party was a total betrayal. "Golnesa doesn't get to dictate who my friends are".  Talk about missing the point. How about just stay away from your own sister's enemies??? Leila is tough to really figure out. I hope you can surround yourself with TRUE friends, and continue to move forward. Don't slide back to your old ways, you are looking like a winner.

Debbs
Debbs

You seriously need to speak to a mental health professional. You are nuts.  

lavone
lavone

hi GG love the show and love who you are! yes you do get crazy sometimes and we all know to keep the knives away  and have you ever met jaxs old girl friend because she like crazy so if yall ever run into each other omg that would be some good tv because you would be the one to put her in her place because someone needs too and mj needs to get her own sister have a great day!

Maggietish
Maggietish

Its nice to hear you wish Mike & Jessica well - no one else on the show has done that or shown such class. I was never a fan because of your nasty/erratic behavior but my opinion of you has changed.   Its great that you're working on your anger issues.   Its clear that MJ is a self-absorbed pathetic woman who only gets enjoyment out of the grief she causes others.  She is so jealous of everyone else (especially other women) that she goes into attack mode all the time.  She complains about her Mother's attitude - her Mother is wonderful compared to her.  She has no right to talk to you Sean or give the 3rd degree to the other guy Asa's party.  Its none of her business who you date or what you do.  The fact that she doesn't see that she was wrong only proves what a mental case she really is.  Who cares what she thinks--she's nothing but a mess.  She is so consumed with jealousy - she can't stand to see anyone happy - she is just a miserable person who likes to spread the misery.  Every time she sees Lilly she goes into attack mode.  We get it, she doesn't like Lilly, so what.  She's hooked up with your sister just to bother you.  I'm surprised at your sister, however, she's dead wrong to side with MJ..  Even when my sister and I fight we always have each others back and what your Sister is doing in totally wrong===family just doesn't do that to family especially when she knows what MJ has done to you and how viscious she is..

Skullzgirl6
Skullzgirl6

I never liked you before khanum! This season showed you are working on your anger issues, which is lazem-e!  I think MJ is a low class slob, who has a drinking problem, and maybe a pill problem, as well.

 

She pulls all kinds of goh, and acts innocent and unaware of what she has caused, let alone apologized for it. i sometimes wonder if all of this is for the show and fake.....? Some of it is too unbelievable to be real life.....?

 

Baharhal, hope to see more of your evolution in life and on the show.

Lubby
Lubby

I'm with you girlfriends keep mum. Not anyones business especially MJ she is coming off this season as a complete self centered, bit*h. Why she would feel the need to comment on ANYONES relationship is annoying. She needs to humble herself and apologize. 

WandaP
WandaP

GG what MJ did was wrong, but your putting your self in that situation in the first place.. You just become a raging hotness when it comes to drinking, especially tequila, =ragenessa! We r emotional creatures, but u need not only rage therapy, but family therapy, u don't handle any relationship well.

tulip805
tulip805

She's has been shown getting needed therapy. I wonder if she was abused as a child because she has so much anger. The drinking doesn't help. Her violent outbursts are going to get her in a lot of trouble if she doesn't get some self-control. She also seems to be stuck in that princess role. She is a little old for that.

JaidaM
JaidaM

GG you're doing a great job,keep up the good work! 

JaidaM
JaidaM

I been down with GG since the show began, I'm just like her in so many ways. I get angry and i hold things inside and sometimes explode but what i admire most about you is that you want to change and you are doing everything you can to stay calm and think before you react. You have come such a long way and you need to say goodbye to MJ because that is not a real friend. I went through a similar situation with a friend and at some point you have to realize that in order to progress in life you have to get rid of the people who don't allow you to do so. You are strong and you have people around you who really care about you so appreciate those relationships because those are the ones worth fighting for. If i were on the show i'd have your back G! Yours truly, ya girl from the D! 

Ali-oops
Ali-oops

So extremely tired of you and your drunken tirades!  You could be beautiful, but you choose to be a drunk instead!!  You are not a good friend to anyone, so you truly do not deserve to have any.  Fake life, fake friends, fake story line.  No class - not worth watching!!

juleslove
juleslove

MJ is kind of a hot mess.  I think she has to get involved in others' drama to make herself seem more relevant.  I feel sorry for her.  In her mind she is something that she is not....maybe instead of buying clothes 4 sizes too small she should invest in a reality check.

Moosesalakis
Moosesalakis

Where can you find a sample of the poetry GG's Uncle writes?

 

Pinouye
Pinouye

It always seemed like you had anger management issues as week as alcohol abuse issues, and that you'd take it out on people for no reason. This season I see that it is warranted at times. But just remember to always be in control of yourself...you will gain more respect when you are fully sober and have your emotions in check. I hear too many "I am Persian" excuses on this show...but guess what...you are an adult first, and adults find a way to get their point across without fighting, pushing, punching, yelling, etc.

timmons22
timmons22

GG, you've come a long way since I started watching during Season 2, and I appreciate your honest efforts to grow & change.  It's fair & appropriate that you expect a lot from others because we've seen you give THEM a lot.  I don't think you're out of line AT ALL, though ppl like MJ will discredit your growth in order to take the spotlight off the fact that they are shallow and fake.  And finally, who cares how you act when you're drunk - I agree that ppl shouldn't "play with the fire."  In the end it's how we act when SOBER that shows who we really are.  Look around you & tread carefully; only Mike can really be trusted.  And Lilly, maybe...TAKE CARE!!!

Ruby-Lena
Ruby-Lena

Don't allow MJ and Reza to annoy you so much.  It's obvious they don't respect you. And, consider Anger Therapy and AA. 

qw33nb33
qw33nb33

Thanks for writing and letting me know how you feel.

cheeks78
cheeks78

I've grown to like you a lot since I think you are starting to turn the tide and own up to a lot of your bad behavior...BUT you need an intervention for the drinking problem. You drink way too much, let your anger take control, and you go bat shyt nuts on everybody! What MJ did was wrong and you definitely deserve an apology but you aren't going to get one so keep her at a distance and this will likely hurt her more than you lashing out at her and embarrassing yourself in the process. I think you are way better than this and need something to occupy your time. You seemed really at home while in the woods, perhaps you should explore that side of you and see if you can make a career out of it. Threatening to hurt people when you know you are never going to do it, is just childish. You are not going to risk your freedom to beat somebody up and I really don't think you can. When you threatened Asa, she backed you off and shrugged you off....honestly I think she'd wipe the floor with your azz but you can go ahead and keep thinking you are a persian thug if you want to! Peace!

AmusedSomuch
AmusedSomuch

I'm with you GG. It's nobody's business what you do in your personal life other than you and that issue is between you and your boyfriend. You weren't together at that time so I don't think that would be termed as cheating BUT, that's not the point. The point is, MJ, who really is extremely fickle and confused as far as friends go, should have kept her mouth shut. It's just not her business. I just feel like I'm watching grade school students when I watch the drama with Reza and MJ. They need to stop blaming her mother, what he grew up with and look at what they have, the opportunities they have and go from there and be grateful. Create the life they want with positives and stop creating trouble with negatives. I think you've done a great job in controlling your temper but I also think anyone would lose it with the circles she talks in. When you try to address something, she dances in so many circles that it gives you a headache to watch, I can't imagine even being a part of the unedited version...ugh! Keep on going in the good direction.  Sometimes, we outgrow our friends when we are headed in a better direction.

Maria72753
Maria72753

GG...I have seen you really try to "take a break" in order to control your anger this season, more than ever.                MJ pushes your buttons on purpose hoping she will set you off by playing with your necklace, rolling her eyes or ignoring you. KNOW, when she is trying to get to you and stay calm GG...stay calm!!! That will mess up her whole day.   When you lose it, she wins! Best wishes!

linda@123
linda@123

GG MJ Doesn't deserve you as her friend leave her alone.  What she told your boyfriend was hating in the highest degree.  Do not think she is your friend with friends like MJ who needs enemies.

nicolet7490
nicolet7490

Why would you expect MJ to own up to her mistakes and apologize when you also have a hard time and may I say still at this point not apologized or admitted of your infidelity?

 

MJ was not lying, and yes she should not have done what she did, but when the fact that she did you had the ballpark to admit something instead lied and made it seem like MJ was lying which is not right.  Own up to it when the opportunity rises...

 

When you admit your mistakes and own up to them it's easier for everyone else to follow/

shysharon
shysharon

well your level of not getting along is indescribable to expect a sister to rationally cooperate with, HOWEVER I have a sister who has no problem hanging with people who have not been cool with me, so I get it....the difference is, I think my sister is the one who puts the wedge there and THEN hangs out with the other! You on the other hand linked MJ with your sister...and what she did was TV drama, I'm sure this isn't real, no one would do that in real life!

kekekinz1
kekekinz1

Hmm, I wasn't aware that sisters cant share friends. But lets not forget it was you that brought them together. It started off as work and turned to friendship. They just clicked... get over it! If MJ gets between you and your sister's relationship the only person to blame is your sister since her loyalty should lie with you.

piperbeau
piperbeau

You do act a fool when you drink... But I enjoy you on the show!! Definitely my fav!

kiki13
kiki13

GG- I watch the show only to see what you and Lilly are going to do next.  The rest of those people are so messed up- except for Mike and his girlfriend (she's a real sweetheart and I wish the best for them).  

You are doing great so keep it up.  Just don't cheat anymore- that's not good for anybody and people will be hurt by it.

Either stay with your boyfriend or give him up- but don't cheat.  I vote for staying with him so far- he's cute and you look like you could really be good together. 

Stay away from the idiot MJ- she's no friend and will never be one.  You can't trust her no matter what she says.  Mj will eventually try to get back with you- but she will hurt you again, so don't let her in.  For that matter- I would be very careful about Reza also- he's the reason MJ said that to your boyfriend to begin with.  He told her you were making out with someone and he was giggling about it, egging her on to do what she did.  Reza needs grow up a lot.

Anyhow- I really like how you enjoy the simple things in life like the camping trip and love seeing you with your sister and niece.  And your dad- he is cool!!  Keep up the good work GG!!  You got one big fan right here!! xx

 

 

pinklipgloss
pinklipgloss

Hi GG!  MJ has displayed the maturity level of a 5th grader because who else would go out of their way to hurt their best friend?!  While at Lilly's party you clearly stated that you and your boyfriend were taking a break so you were "free to do what you wanted during this time".  Because MJ wasn't at the party (because she wasn't mature enough to RSVP in time to attend!), she did not know this information when she acted like "the mean girl" & deliberately yet incorrectly threw you under the bus.  WHO does this to their best friend?!

Moreover, I am amazed that MJ does not see that what she did by (incorrectly) telling on you to your boyfriend was wrong.  Again, she did NOT have all of the facts when she told on you, she was NOT even at the party during the night in question AND bottom line, what you did was NONE of her business!  Period!

GG, as the saying goes, sometimes it is best to do some "spring cleaning" in the friends department and move on.  You deserve so much more in a friend and from a friendship...don't lower yourself to her level!  Hold onto your morals, keep your head held high and never stop showing us your beautiful smile - & those super cool hair extensions!

quette432004
quette432004

GG, don't allow Reza to rename you with loch-nesa. No! 1st, Reza @ your sister bday party told MJ that you was making out with Shayan. What MJ did afterwards was absolutely wrong but don't give Reza a free pass either. You are a beautiful young lady and have your own storyline. Build on your storyline. Make MJ, Reza & Asa work for your friendship. You and your family are wonderful and take adventures we want to see. I love watching you & Sean together. He is the ying to your yang. Hold on to him GG, fight for him & stop making him disposable. If you make him feel you don't appreciate him; he will be on the move. Make a committment to invest in each other. I believe your angry is based on you begging from a friendship with MJ. I wish you develop the attitude that if your friendship is not valuable to her, then you don't place any worth on it & it is disposable. I have watched MJ pet your arm, drink out of your glass, toss your friendship away, jealous that you always have a man and now spending time with your sister to make you know she is in control of your life. Please stop giving her this power! Your source of anger - MJ! You have shown with Anita how you can make a mistake, apologize and form a great friendship afterwards.

Gingertee21
Gingertee21

 @debmerc888 Leila is a desperate mess. She seems to be in need of attention at the expense of her sister.

Cocobeans12345
Cocobeans12345

 @debmerc888 Umm GG said she wanted to slice her sister's face with a knife last season...something tells me that they don't have the typical sister-sister relationship.

Gingertee21
Gingertee21

 @Pinouye GG might need to work on her anger but Stevie Wonder can see the reasons. GG seems to get used by people who are "friends in need" (Leila and MJ) and that hurts. She needs to work on how she handles things, which you can see she is trying to do, but the people on the other end of it are by no means innocent. GG has come a long way since Season One, we cannot say that for the remaining cast.

mll50
mll50

 @Pinouye

 "to many I amPersian excuse"?  Do you ever read the news about the Middle East?  This show is a prime examle of how none of them (individuals or coutnries) can get along with ANYONE else.

debmerc888
debmerc888

Yes,  that was a crazy thing to say, but I think Leila has for years taken a more passive aggressive stance against GG and taken advantage of the fact that GG has a temper to make her look bad.  GG is moving to a better place though, and although she struggles with her anger issues it looks like she has chosen to try and better herself. No one is perfect though and when people purposely push her buttons, like MJ, she might slip up.