Mercedes "MJ" Javid

MJ thinks it might be best she didn't go to Lilly's birthday party.

on Nov 6, 20130

I love the season beginning with the once blooming bromance between my boys Reza and Mike at the Porsche dealership. They would definitely have to travel far outside in order to truly find a great deal on a Porche. For the record, that is REZA's HAIR, au natural, sans gel, not a wig. It's really cute when he wears his hair that way, because its his way of saying he's tired, on vacation, or "just can't right now."  

Vida and me. Sigh. I love my mom.  What happened to the phrase, "It's like a riding a bike... once you learn, you never forget how???" This is another thing that makes Vida so unique -- she actually did forget how to ride a bike. I thought her willingness to try something that she's not comfortable with was adorable, risking crocodile's et al. Her naiveté cracks me up. Asking, or maybe demanding that Vida try to tap into her inner Cyndi Lauper is my way clever new method to inspire her to lighten up and try to have fun. P.S. Nothing thus far would stop me from working on my relationship with my mom.  

When I received Lilly's EVITE, I truly considered it the equivalent of backyard BBQ, come one, come all. However, for a formal event, an invitation with RSVP cards to return is more appropriate, especially if the party thrower desires an accurate headcount. Who does Lilly think she is trying to fool? Her favorite thing to do is to lecture the world on how to show class, but maybe she should have budgeted for a party planner. It looks like she spent it on her four dress changes, which to me, is embarrassing. Bottom line, she attempted to use her party as a grand, public insult toward me. Why else would she go from one extreme, to invite me and to sit at her table to then flip to the extreme, "I'm actually going to make she won't even get in."


Anti-Hoarding

I love Golnesa. I love spending time with her. She is one of the few people I like to spend time with in the world. She is one of the most non-judgmental, devoted friends, and we have the best of times together. I'm really glad that she brought up the question of how I'm planning to refute the false and vicious rumors of having a drug or alcohol problem. If I didn't defend myself sufficiently in the past, I'm saying it here now, that while I do enjoy an adult beverage, or three, I drink responsibly, during social occasions or vacations, not during a work day, and not excessively to a point that its anyone else's business. On that note, I'm also not a bank robber, never was.  I'm not an addict, I never was. I am a little bit of a hoarder. I'm guilty as sin of holding on to expensive clothes that are too small for me. Also, how do I know that white, leather, nautical Prada book bag isn't going to save the day one afternoon in spring?

Michael joon's Jessica joon is taking conversion classes. I got one question, two words, "Got ring?"

It warmed my heart to see my friends missing me at the party, and clearly, they stepped up to have my back. But when I saw the way the party went down, I'm  glad a guardian angel was looking out -- I really wouldn't have fit in to that type of crowd. We're Persian and our parties have a pulse; they're not pageants with self-appointed prom queens. 

81 comments
lindahaywood
lindahaywood

MJ, why are you so unhappy with yourself?  I ask that because you do things to your so called friends that show you like to tear down others so that you look good, you are a BULLY and you are too intelligent to be acting that way.  I cannot  believe you  would tell a friend's boyfriend that she kissed someone else, or called her parents or befriended her sister just to piss her off.  You use your other friends to once again make yourself look or feel better.  A BULLY is someone who definitely doesn't like herself much.  and BTW you really do need to stay away from the sweets, you are so insecure because you don't take care of yourself and cannot compete with GG or Lilly that is why you are so mean to them......reflect a bit young lady or should I say little girl and grow up!  Reza if he was true friend should not allow you to behave that way either he just condones that and it is WRONG.

cindy1963
cindy1963

MJ, 

Why are you always so concerned about the way you look? When you met up with Mike after the whole "Club Nur fiasco" you kissed him and the first question out of your mouth was "how do I look?" What does it matter how you look? Are you that self-conscious? It must be the fact that your mother never gave you any compliments growing up and even until now, it is hard to get something positive out of your mother when it comes to you! You need to get serious about your future and find a husband already. What are you waiting for? BTW, it would be nice if you wrote a blog or two. Are you that busy? Or is it that you cannot be bothered? All of you people on all of the shows probably don't read these comments anyway but if we take the time to write our comments, I think you all should take time and update us on what the episode was about in your words and what we can expect for the rest of the season. No one is that busy!!! AND SLOW IT DOWN ON THE ALCOHOL!!

KarenMY
KarenMY

Would someone PLEASE tell Mohammad that MJ thinks parties at his estate suck so she can be kept off his guest list from now on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What were your words MJ? "They are not very good". Well if that is the case MJ if you get another invitation to one of his parties respond just respond "sorry your parties suck so I won't be able to attend" or will you not be able to resist the free booze even though they suck (to you)? And one more thing, the next time you tell Lily she judges for a living, don't make the next sentence that she lives off her boyfriend because guess what stupid, that is judging someone and that makes you a hypocrite. You are so full of yourself I am having a very hard time watching this season with you and unfortunately Reza too being on it. Why don't both of you go humble yourselves and volunteer at a food kitchen for the homeless or something along those lines instead of going to spa's all the time. I would definitely like to see an episode like that.

greekgirl
greekgirl

Wow MJ, you are your mothers daughter aren't you?

Toeknee
Toeknee

Mj...check your ego at the door....when someone who you hate invites you to a formal sit down dinner....humble yourself and say yes and thank you.....waiting till the last minute and then expecting lily to roll out the red carpet for you....i don't think so

alliexo96
alliexo96

Hi MJ I am a big fan of the show (and of course you) and I have a question for you. My name is Allie and I am a high school senior at Penncrest High School in Media, Pa. We are studying the Middle East in our International Relations class and Iran is one of the main country's we are studying. I know you are very busy, but I was wondering if you could talk to my International Relations class about Iran and your experiences with Iran. It would be greatly appreciated if you could do so. Thank you! -Allie p.s here is my email: alliexo96@gmail.com

la12ce
la12ce

Rude,rude,rude. What planet do you live on? It is rude not to RSVP. Do you think rules don't apply to you? Are you so special? Totally Team Lilly on this one! You don't like her, you Reply your Regrets. Simple. You blew it up into this embarrassing thing...and You should be the one embarassed. Lily did nothing wrong, she was kind enough to invite you.

LouisVlover
LouisVlover

Mj. I soooooo covet your necklace. The gold(obvy) one with the two lion heads that connect at the front. Like they're both biting it. OMG LOVE IT MUST HAVE IT WHERE DID YOU GET IT??????

tessanne
tessanne

MJ, you are turning into your mother.

Anella
Anella

Glad I don't have a so-called friend like you!!  What you did to GG is so uncool!  GG is your friend and you go and tell her boyfriend that?!!  And you're explanation for it is so bulls**t!!  Liked you but now I don't! You're evil and don't know the meaning of friendship!! GG stood by you when everyone was against you & this is how you repay her?!! Evil biotch!!

shelly3630@gmail.com
shelly3630@gmail.com

You are a poor excuse for a friend, a human, you are just mean!!!!! Can you except responsibility for anything ever!!! You turn on everyone, you are loyal to no one! No wonder you can not get a man, who would want someone who acts like you, you act like a high school, mean girl. I mean did you watch that movie and want to make your life around it! My teenagers were watching, and when you said "I win" they could not stop laughing because you sounded like the girls in their school!  They had to walk away because they couldn't stand to watch anymore, they thought it was so disgusting, and imagined that you must of lost what little clients you had, because there is no one in their right mind that would want to work with someone they know acts, and abuses people like that, how could you trust someone with your personal information. So I have to thank you for that because you are a great way to teach my daughters on what it looks like, to be a pompous a**, to take no responsibility, to be rude, and how important it is not to be like you, no matter what, money does not make it better, and it works, their response was "no amount of money would make me want to be like that women"!!!! 

@Lyndi1
@Lyndi1

 

 

I'm so happy to see you back this season, & looking better than ever!! I've read through some of these comments & I'm blown away to see so many negative, harshly judgmental opinions. It really saddens me, because I find you to be such a loving soul with a refreshing, loyal to a fault, forgiving & deliciously humorous young woman. You've been through such an awful lot of ridicule & back stabbing attack on your character that it was so hard to watch. My prayers have remained with you & I was so relieved to see you in episode 1 being you awesome self! It's very telling to me that Reza finally showed up at your apartment as soon as the cameras started rolling again. That wasn't lost on your fans, & I can only hope it wasn't lost on you! As for Lilly's party, naturally production was there, so any extra drama she could muster she just had to attempt! I'm so glad you didn't attend that fiasco of a party! Moving on, I'm really getting a kick out of watching yours & your mothers relationship grow & develop. It seems she has finally become willing to take a good look at herself & is making a sincere attempt to hear & recognize your needs & even enjoying it!!! You honestly are my favorite, & I'm begging you not change who you are! We've seen too often how our beloved reality stars get caught up in their sudden fame & then turn into unrecognizable monsters!! Reza is one of the best examples I've ever seen & can't even watch his scenes. Stay true to yourself MJ! As we know, this time too shall pass, we're left with who we are & what we've become. Do your best to always be able to look in that mirror & recognize, respect & be proud of the person looking back!! By the way, I'm thrilled to see Leila taking part in this season! She seems to be such a strong & positive lady, pretty too! God bless you & yours!                                                           P.S. Your TH interviews crack me up! You have such a delightful sense of humor & one of my fav's was About Lily's hair enters the room... 

jules@1216
jules@1216

Stop blaming your mother for your issues.  Just own it, keep going to therapy and move on.  You look great this season, hopefully you have moved onfrie. you have such great

sultanmehmet
sultanmehmet

MJ - I agree with you that Lily is a phony and fake (by her acts - such as the fake birthday/prom party).

 

On the other hand if your friends stood by you and never went to Lily's birthday party then that would have shown you that they are your friends. However they are phonies too - they rushed over for free baglava.

shelly3630@gmail.com
shelly3630@gmail.com

I'm sorry, but you are nothing but a bully, sitting at that table was just like a lunch table in hight school! "These are my friends not yours" 'I win" Grow up! You didn't like the girl from day one, Why? you called her a name from the moment you met her why? Wasn't because she was friends with your best friend, so why? Was it because you were jealous? Because she was what you weren't? Because she fit in her clothing? Did you know, falling out of your clothing is not attractive, do you look in the mirror, do you know your correct size? So how does it feel? It isn't attractive, at all, you acted to her exactly like your mother acts to you, you are doing exactly what an abused person grows up does and turns into the abuser! It was disgusting, you bullied another person, made her feel horrible, because you thought you were to good to RSVP to her party, what does RSVP mean? No matter if she could of or couldn't of, you were to busy, drinking your wine, getting your nails done to hit yes? Please, take some responsibility in what part you had in it, you would of done the same think if it was her, you actually wouldn't of invited her, just like you didn't even invite you friend when you were told not to. 

DawnMarie12
DawnMarie12

M.J.  You have been rude and mean toward Lily from the first time you met her.  You formed a judgement against her for no apparent reason.   YOU HAVE LOW SELF WORTH AND IT SHOWS.  PLEASE GET SOME THERAPY!  YOU HATE FOR LILY REFLECTS BACK ON YOUR LOW SELF ESTEEM.  Lily is a sweet person who is flashy,beautiful, and has self worth.   YOU ARE JEALOUS OF LILY. PLEASE GET HELP. 

Don_B
Don_B

wow, can't believe how jealous MJ is of Lilly...right from the very beginning.  Reza trashed her, called her a bank robber, drugger & drunk...and she jumps on Lilly?  No RSVP, means your not attending...especially with a formal sit down......you can argue that all you want...your wrong....

i.indie
i.indie

Girl - you know you're not right on this one.  Yes, I consider an evite tacky but I'm also more than 30 years old and clearly we do things differently.  Regardless, it was an invite with a response requested.  When a host invites you to an event, they are then not required to invite you again, and again, and again.  You're right - if she really wanted you there she would have gotten over your rudeness of not responding and at least asked you a second time.  But she didn't and she didn't. To suggest that it was proper etiquette to do so is disingenuous to say the least.  The truth is you likely weren't that interested in attending, put off responding (or else you would have been excited to respond immediately) and then got caught it in.  It's fine, we all play the passive aggressive card from time to time. HOWEVER, to then become a victim over it and suggest she dissed you?  Well that's being both ridiculous and manipulative.  No.  You didn't really want to go.  She didn't really want to invite you.  Own it and next time decline politely.  Thanks

SaraJan
SaraJan

I am 100% team Galichi on the RSVP thing! MJ was intently disrespecting to Lilly by not answering and expecting to just be let it. Lilly thought of inviting you even though you're not friends, therefore, you should've shown respect for the act. It was a pointed rebuke, and had you went, you would've deserved to be held out, you're not that important to not RSVP and just show up, get over yourself and have some class!

sarah100
sarah100

MJ have you ever considered getting boob reduction? I think you will look much nicer if you do.

packageoflove
packageoflove

What's up with your profile picture? Is that from 20 years ago and 50 pounds ago??

SapphireSherry
SapphireSherry

MJ, you are beautiful this season. You have a different, and good, aura about yourself. Just keep pushing through the issues in your life: tardiness (it really smacks of a sense of entitlement), being honest with yourself, etc. You go girl go! I can see progress and am happy for you.

GirlFromKY
GirlFromKY

Wow MJ.  Your new haircut is awesome but you really do need to get over yourself.  I can't even believe you're really trying to say Lilly went out of her way to conjure and pay for a 300-person catered sit down dinner event for the sole purpose to embarrass YOU???  OMG girl, you are seriously off your damn rocker.  I don't believe for one minute you're being truthful about your bbq come one come all perception of her evite either...but then again MJ, you continuously show you live in quite the delusional world.  And then when you add an accusation like "I'm actually going to make she won't even get in" it just further confirms the whackadoodle reputation you have created for yourself and all by yourself.  Remember, there would have been NO WAY she could have barred you from getting in if you'd have just politely RSVP'd before the cut off date.....duh......you did this to YOURSELF MJ.  You need to quit with your lies. 

cindy1963
cindy1963

MJ, I love your hair the way it was in last night's episode!! You look so much younger, prettier and personally I don't like too much hair in the face. It really makes you look good. Keep it like that and please don't ever put your hair like Lilly's because it just looks ridiculous! I don't like her much anyway. She is way too stuck up!! Again, please stay with that hairdo. Very nice!

Lubby
Lubby

I love your new hairdo! Absolutely love it on you. You've stepped up the clothes also you look great. I've always liked you I think you are who you are on a reality tv show and haven't changed much. It's refreshing. I wish you well. 

RileyRoo
RileyRoo

Love your blog...and don't like Lily at all...yuck.

Debster1
Debster1

Love you MJ!! Lilly was being sneaky and I don't understand why Reza waited so long to warn you about the invitation. The party didn't look that fun to me anyways, so you didn't miss much. 

rosyposy
rosyposy

I don't get why Reza waited till the day before the dinner to prompt you to RSVP.   Anyone should know that a sit down dinner party requires an accurate head count.  I was pushed into setting up a card table in a corner to accomodate extras.....it irritated me partly because no matter what, the people at the card table felt insulted.  Would you have preferred that? 

Blink
Blink

So, I see you're right back where you were when you first meet Lily.  No growth at all in reference to your attitude with her.  Just admit you were wrong in not RSVPing.  I'm not sure why she even invited you, just because she's friends with people who are friends with you doesn't mean she has to always include you in things....you sure don't include her.  We get it MJ, "you don't like Lily."  Please don't let that be your whole s/l this year.  Jealousy is an ugly trait, especially when there is no reason to be.

biancashines
biancashines

Don't let 'em bust your balls, you are beautiful and real.  Haters don't listen to them or let them get you down MJ !

terry244
terry244

Love ur blog Mj!! I agree with u 100% Lilly made a total ass out of herself at that bday party! Who does she think she is! And changing into 4 different dresses.... shes far from NENE LEEKS! Lilly cant even put a patch on Nenes ass! Dont feel like u have to explain ur drinking or drug so called problem! Just because u take a ambien  and have a few glasses of wine doesnt make u a drugy or a alcoholic! Lilly is very jealous of u and the other cast mates relationships. They all have ur bak and Lilly cant stand that! Keep being true we love watching u! xoxo

chenchen00
chenchen00

Everyone is so quick to judge you, Mercedes, but few will stand up for you and say that Lily has taken such deep digs at you since coming on the show, especially about your weight. .. I've seen it countless times.  While there are a few things I like about Lily, she has that attitude that she is in a better class than you, and it's sad.  I'm so sorry you have grown up with a dysfunctional mother in life but we can either be victims or victors, the choice is yours.  Don't let that silly party or anything pertaining to it get to you.  It's very catty and high school the way Lily acted and yes, you were guilty of not RSVP'ing but by not attending the party, it's not the end of the world.  As far as your alleged bad "habits" only you know if you are addicted or not but if alcohol is becoming a crutch for you, I hope you will seek counseling and professional help to curb it.  Your fans love you. <3

Marni511
Marni511

I love you! You are fun and fabulous!!

Rustydog
Rustydog

Your mother really messed you up.  She didn't even teach you the basics of RSVPing.  Shame on you. 

fell
fell

MJ, what in the hell is wrong with you? Did you honestly expect to show up, no RSVP and be welcomed? Face it, you have never liked Lilly from day one. She is everything you are not. I would think that a woman in her 40's would have a little insight into her own self. But sadly you do not. And then you let that trouble maker Reza come over and here he goes again, stirring that always bubbling pot. I wonder sometimes what happened to all you in your past. All of you (except Lilly and maybe Mike) act like y'all are stuck in some weird time warp, where  y'alls mental growth stopped at 13 years of age. Grow up!

PlasticPeggy
PlasticPeggy

You are so ridiculous.  Her party was not about you, and she couldn't have cared less that you were there.  You're a jerk to sit there and talk about etiquette, party or otherwise.  You had a guest at your house and took 45 minutes to drink some wine in your galley kitchen 10 feet away from the couch. 

 

Let's talk about etiquette.

nvt
nvt

You were rude and have been rude. Your constant lateness is an example of the fact that you feel you are more important than others. Lateness on a constant basis is a demand for attention. You are in denial about your issues, all of them. Your Mother is mean as a snake and so are you.

tjjpt
tjjpt

The way you tried to be the life of a party by dressing so skimpy and moved around on the sand disgustingly, the way you let Reza touch your boobs.....ugh.   And how you are so jealous of Lilly......despicable.

nlb1525
nlb1525

Even when I go to my 5 year old nephew's birthday party; and my sister sends out evites; she is expecting a response so that she knows how many hot dogs and goody bags to buy.

Hulali
Hulali

Since the dinner part of the party was limited why didn't you just show up later and attend the after party?

Juanitajo19
Juanitajo19

Guess you didn't see the previews for next week show, huh?

freshidea
freshidea

 @chenchen00

 Watch the first episode, MJ started in with Lilly day one. Lilly was only defending herself as anyone would do, if you were treated in this manner.

jenjen2641
jenjen2641

This girl is just crazy when it comes to Lilly. She has not liked her since she first saw her without even talking to her or anything. I think she is really mad at Reza for being friends with Lilly but is taking some of that anger out on Lilly. Mj looked and acted like a crazy person on last nights WWHL. She got so mad at Andy for saying that the word of the night was Lilly. Then got crazy when Lilly won the poll queation. MJ needs some major counsenling. I think MJ has self esteem issues and that's why she doesn't like Lilly either. MJ needs to grow up and get off this let's all hate Lilly train!!! One last thing, why was ok for MJ NOT to invite Lilly to her birthday but yet when Lilly DOES invite MJ and MJ DOESN'T rsvp and chooses not to go to the party at all (cause MJ could have still gone to the party after the dinner, but chose not to) Lilly is the bad guy????

Basic101
Basic101

 @tjjpt

 And to accept Reza's apology by way of Roses.  First time he reached out since the reunion and no talk of the accusations from the reunion.  Bizarre. 

RileyRoo
RileyRoo

 @Hulali

 Because Lilly said she would have security posted at the gate and wouldn't let MJ in...

ksabo1963
ksabo1963

 @RileyRoo  @Hulali I am sorry I didn't see where MJ offered to come to the come to the party and skip the dinner and I watched that twice now