Mercedes "MJ" Javid

MJ explains why she revealed GG's makeout session.

on Nov 20, 20130

I struggle to write this week's blog knowing half the Bravosphere is tweeting me evil comments from last night's episode. All I can say is that I've been through worse, and despite the toils of my friendships, my priority is to stand up and take less shit from people around me. I love my friends, but I can't take abuse without fighting back for what I believe. Our friendship dynamic is extremely complicated. Our emotions run high when we we're faced with taking sides against each other. Bottom line: we feel loyal to one another, but being honest with each comes at a cost.  

In the situation where Shawn ogled other girls at the club, I felt insulted by his behavior. Emotionally, I was equally as offended as if it were my man who was eye f---ing other girls, and I felt it to be hurtful and extremely disrespectful. Shawn traveled to Las Vegas and New York a lot and GG was always questioning his loyalty to her. When I said what I said to him, in my mind, at that moment, I was sticking up for her, by taking a dig at him. I thought he deserved it, and that my comment was one-upping his stares. But right after I said that, I saw that it totally backfired, at which point I realized I meddled counter-productively, and I removed myself from the situation.   

When Reza comes over to discuss the other night, it's obvious that my mischief was a mistake, and as much I meant to make nothing more than a playful stab at Shawn for acting "douche" toward her, she wasn't laughing with me, and I ended up being the douche. And she took it and ran with it, and accused me of having malicious intent, which I did not at all have. I felt as betrayed by GG, for having my loyalty taken into question so easily. All of a sudden, even though I acknowledged, was honest, fully owned it, and apologized for a momentary lapse of reason, she made a capital case out of it, and it was as though I was never a good friend in all our years of loyalty. Our loyalty which ran both ways. Suddenly, my funds in the bank of GG were depleted  to zero. For me, that created something even bigger, it spoke volumes for how much she can f--- up and how I was not given the benefit of the doubt.  

About Leila. I am extremely happy  I was called upon to help Leila clean up this painful and complicated mess that her divorce has caused her. I have seen firsthand that she is an AMAZING, uber present, loving, and devoted mother; and has really kept it together as a mother through the worst night mare of divorce with a young daughter and an infant son, Nico and Jordan. When Golnesa comes over to try and arm chair quarter back GG,  I find it laughable. She is not in any way involved in grown-up business affairs, and certainly not her sister's process through determining if she should sell or lease the house. Leila and her husband had the stressful burden of litigating between selling or leasing the property in a down market, and as a non greedy realtor, I encouraged them to make the most sound, financially benficial decision. You'll see more of what I mean, as the season unfolds, both my work ethic and friendship ethic.  

Best line of the episode is from Leila: I heard MJ put both Lilly in a box and shipped her back to Texas. Comic relief.

213 comments
JLYNNAUSTIN
JLYNNAUSTIN

your behavior is perfectly sound considering your mothers rejection.  don't listen to stupid

JLYNNAUSTIN
JLYNNAUSTIN

MJ, I spent my entire life where you are today.  My mom and I never got along, and she never loved me and I knew it.  The diff between me and you was that I accepted it. I always had hard times making realtionships,, when I had kids, I was seriously hindered because I didn't have a mother figure to deal with.  What I learned was that I could do the best I could, and it would always be better than what I got, it wasn't perfect, but it was what I wanted.  I never got the mother I always wanted, I never got a mother who wouldn't put me down at every call and do worse when I became a mother.  BUT I learned that I could be better than her, and I could give my kids the mothering that I never had. The day I "divorced" my mother and quit including her in my life was the best day of my life.  Today she gets included only when I allow her to be, and when she starts berating me, she is given a "pass of 6 months or so, or forever".  Do not let your mother control you.  That is what she is doing, don't let your need for her forget who you are,, that is a slippy slope.  Your mom will suck the life out of you so she feels better about her abandoning you.  Don't let that happen.  If you do, it is YOUR fault.  Let your Mom go,, let her go, let yourself go.

ProudNavyWife
ProudNavyWife

MJ -   If you happen to be perusing the Bravo blogs, I hope you get a chance to read this.....please stop the petty jealousy and the mean comments, that you give to GG and Lily.  They are not perfect, and they were once "good" friends to you, so I don't know why you would ruin that.  To call GG's parents and say the names that you called their daughter still just blows my mind.  You can blame it on the alcohol, or whatever you want to blame it on, it was disgusting.  I hope your apologies to GG were sincere, I would have a really hard time trusting you again.  I can see why you and Reza are BFF's, you two deserve each other.  BTW, at the reunion, F.O.B. is not "a tease" as you said, it is very offensive.

Padee
Padee

Mo-cedes, I swear I try to dislike you and most of the time I do but then I see and hear your mother and know exactly where it comes from.  All things considered you turned out pretty good.  Your mother is a piece of work.  But you do need to work harder at being a friend to GG and Leila.  Mike loves you and has been so good to you but you give nothing in return, nothing.  You and Reza better not ever lose touch with each other cause you are going to be the only ones you have left.  It's called BURNING BRIDGES!

Golparitehrani
Golparitehrani

No wonder your Mom treats like she does. Your behavior and comments are beyond undignified. Lily was right when she said you have no class. And, you are in no way fit to be a mother. 

cathy.williamson.146
cathy.williamson.146

MJ, I have to say I can see where you get your attitude from, your mother. I feel very sorry for you having to deal with her your entire life. sorry to say your mother is the toxic one not you. and I do agree with a lot of the ppl on this blog when they refer to your attire. it is very beautiful clothing. unfortunately you never seem to wear your own size. boobs are a beautiful thing, just not back boobs. also, please give gg a break, she really has improved herself with the anger management. it seems that for some reason you know exactly what button to push with her to set her off. if you are truly her friend then support her. don't try to see how long it will take to bring her back down to where she was before. respect is an easy thing, easy to give and easy to get. Peace to you

debmerc888
debmerc888

MJ: My heart went out to you when you tried to share your experiences with your Mom at the spa.  Know this though MJ; she DOES love you. I am a mom, and I can tell you no matter how she acts, if she belittles you or is cold, she does love you in her heart very much. Sometimes she may not like you, but believe me, that's different. She may not always be proud of you either, but again, that IS different. She loves you.

Your mom must have had some tough times to be the way she is, or maybe truly it's just her personality.  The trick for you is to NOT become like her, in this way at least. Have a warm, compassionate heart, or you will never get what you really want out of life.  Work on that, so you don't miss out on real friendships and a loving man.

ojoyous1
ojoyous1

You are so hurt by your mother yet you are just like her...even worse...isn't that crazy?  stop being mean....

kcat
kcat

JAYZUS Girl, put them damn boobs away!  You lay them out like they're on a platter - no wonder you don't have a man!

mynikki59
mynikki59

You are such a LILLY WANT TO BE........You are mean, self centered and a trouble maker....please get a life, your own and stop trying to be Lilly....you will never achieve that.

cindy1963
cindy1963

Hey MJ, I remember in Season 1 when you guys were going to Las Vegas for Reza's birthday and you were all going in a private jet and you said "I only fly private and I feel sorry for the people that have to fly commercial." So what happened? You guys flew "commercial" to Turkey! How did it feel? Now you know what the majority of us have to go through! You see, those of us who have watched this show since day 1 remember these little details.I'm looking forward to seeing Part 2 next week. But you really do need to start being a little nicer if you want to find a good man and get married and keep the good friends that you have. And keep on working on your relationship with your mom because that is VERY important!! My mom and I always had a GREAT relationship and I loved her very, very much and when she passed away 4 years ago, a piece of me went with her. She was my best friend and I could talk to her about anything so please make it work with your mom. Love her and tell her that you love her, appreciate her and spend as much time as you can with her. THERE IS NO ONE LIKE A MOTHER! MINE WAS THE BEST AND I MISS HER VERY MUCH! So  MJ, stop being mean to people.

paula.justice.129
paula.justice.129

Used to love you but I am no longer a fan. You are so mean, spiteful and vindictive. Strike one was supporting Reza against Sasha. Not withstanding Reza outing you on camera during the last reunion. We can see that GG is trying hard to improve but still has ways to go. However, going and befriending her sister was a lowdown spiteful disgusting thing to do- even to an enemy. You are mean and need to check yourself. I totally see now why you have so many issues in your life MJ. Start being kind and positive if you want things to change.

Monababy
Monababy

I actually felt bad for you last season.  That blank uncaring look you give GG is your way to minimize her and make her feel unimportant and you know it hurts her.  


You are being very very creepy and I totally get why one would get frustrated and upset.  You betrayed GG plain and simple and you will do it again.  If I were her, I would stay clear of you as she gives more value to the friendship then you do. 


GG should love you from a distance and really stay away from you as you are toxic for her.  To pull her family into it so that they will disregard her too is manipulating all of them.  Its beyond evil and very hard to watch. 

piperbeau
piperbeau

MJ I love you on this show!! BUT you are showing the world a very immature side to you! Really you were wrong for outing GG to her boyfriend... I don't care if she cheated on him every day, it wasn't your place as GG's friend to say anything! You really are stirring the pot this season!! It is getting a tad frustrating to watch! You seem to forget Reza trashed you on such a huge level and platform... I don't get the devoted loyalty you have for him?! He crossed a boundary that many people would be unwilling to forgive?! I don't quite understand why GG is so bothered by you hanging out with her sister? In my eyes she should be happy her sister is out and about and not wallowing in her tears!! I would understand if you and her sister sat there and talked sh*t about her?! but if that isn't the case I don't see the harm in it... You and GG are by far my favs! I really hope you two mend fences! 

debmerc888
debmerc888

HI MJ: I thought you looked great in the Race Track dress. It was very flattering on you! You are too hard on yourself sometimes. You"re still treating GG badly though!  I hope that it is different now though in real time, because we are probably watching episodes from 6 months ago. 

If not, wake up and stop mistreating GG! It's not OK.

All the best.

tch857
tch857

MJ you are delusional. GG is the ONLY one who has stood by you, god knows why with the way you treat her. She is definitely not perfect but she is basically honest with her feelings, you are not. You are being friends with her sister to damage their relationship, how low are you? Maybe if you dropped a hundred pounds and got into SERIOUS therapy you can be salvaged but I doubt it. You are a hateful, nasty person and you and Reza deserve each other.

debmerc888
debmerc888

MJ: You have been a terrible friend to GG. Why do you treat her so badly? You constantly attack her. Didn't she stand by you last year? She has made phenomenal improvements to her attitudes and actions while you spiral downward. You are in your own world. It's terrible to see the way you act towards GG. You and Reza do not bring out the best in each other.  Why don't you update your blog? Maybe you don't want to see people's comments? Take responsiblity for the way you act.

SweetMistyLisa
SweetMistyLisa

I have to record the show so that I can forward pass mj's parts. Ruining the show!

cab61
cab61

Not that I like GG or anything because she's about as crazy as they come but you weren't saying that remark to Shawn to help GG. You couldn't believe she was jealous and acting the way she was because she had kissed a guy at another party. You thought she was wrong for giving him crap about looking at other women so you told him what she had done. Your reasoning doesn't even make sense.

jillyc
jillyc

Put your drink down and write your blog.

Ali-oops
Ali-oops

I miss you MJ - you haven't been blogging here - please don't stop giving us the benefit of hearing from you - not all of us in the Bravosphere are against you, you know?  You are looking very beautiful in the latest installments of Shah's.  The new fitting bra's are doing you a world of good.  I suffer from the same body type as you and I am so pleased to see what a good fit will do for you.  Your make-up is always impeccable - I love it.  It is important that we hear from you, don't let everyone else run with the story line - you matter too!

martyc
martyc

Here's the thing, I basically like the show, but I can't figure out how you all make money. Rizza  I see makes money, but Mike and the ladies, not so much. Lilly, we see working, but I don't think swimwear can keep her the way she lives. That leads me to believe that the parents are supporting their kids. The horrible selfish behavior of the women and Mike' not putting in the time at the office does not lead to the life they live: the jewelry, clothes and cars. What gives, it can't be the salary from Bravo...what gives?

Chicago_Lee
Chicago_Lee

Your problem is that you have a real problem admitting when you are wrong.  Everyone makes mistakes, but the ability to determine when one's actions are wrong and ask for forgiveness, is a true sign of a good person.  You truly need to work on that.  Maybe you get it from how your mother treats you.  If that is that case, then don't use it as an excuse; use it as a teaching moment for yourself!

kenha1983
kenha1983

You thought process is annoying, frustrating, and extremely unintelligent!  You're a horrible friend...how do u not see that!  Would you do that to Reza?  Do you not remember how no one but GG was there for you!?!

Pinouye
Pinouye

Beauty is both internal and external...you exhibit NEITHER.

biancashines
biancashines

Don't apologize for Anything.   Good ridance to GG  she is asking for negative stuff to happen, just by being herself - and remember  that stuff rubs off on those around them.  So run girl, run

KimC
KimC

All I can say is disgusting best describes you on this show and after Reza's unbecoming behavior you two really do deserve each other. Ugh to you both!

LilyL
LilyL

You are so in hiding from the truth!  Afraid to blog for weeks.  LOL  You can run but you can't hide from the ugly truth.

9judgenot
9judgenot

MJ, What's up?  Why aren't you writing your blog?  You need to face the music.  Can't handle the honest comments, you need to have thick skin (remember) Put your big-girl panties on and give us your lame and jaded excuses of why you are one of the oldest-miss-guided girls on this show.  What has age brought you?  Definitely, not wisdom.  Why do you enjoy hurting GG so much, is it because you shared way to much about Reza with her and you don't want all of what you said to come out and have Reza mad at you again.  Perhaps, GG has just served her purpose for you and now you don't need her cause your partner is crime is back.  You and Reza are so much a like!

Enya107
Enya107

Go back to therapy. You obviously came from a dysfunctional family.

rjax
rjax

I was never team GG........You Made me team GG...

She finally got  apology out of your drunk ars.....That was Fake and Forced

You are a Hot Mess

 

 

Mamacita_1
Mamacita_1

MJ did it cause she doesn't want GG to be married and happy before her.  She wants to keep her angry and miserable because she likes the company....

Mamacita_1
Mamacita_1

I am absolutely disgusted by you.  You cannot fix classless sloppy drunks. Stop talking nasty about Lilly. You are so jealous that she has more class in her little pinky then you have in your whole body. Being a lady is not being uppity. That remark that was said about sending Lilly back to Texas was just as disgraceful, bitchy and just plain mean. You are all the Persian version of mean girls (Bullies). Lilly is doing grown up things and you all think your still at a FRAT house. And no one should assume they are too good to RSVP to any party.

rabbit21492
rabbit21492

MJ I love you. Throughout all the seasons you have been real unlike certain castmates. You haven't changed from season 1. Yes you drink too much and have tendecies to put your foot in your mouth i.e the whole telling gg's bf about the makeout session. Its human nature to make mistakes and not always apologize, even harder to apologize especially when you don't feel as if you did something wrong. Lilly is something else and needs a huge piece of humble pie maybe the whole thing. In my opinion your issue with her is you don't like how she is as a person and the vibe you get off from her. In the beginning she was ok but now she seems like she is better than everyone else. The show was so much better without persian barbie. I urge you to stay away form Reza seeing as how he betrayed you last season and ruined the friendship. He is a toxic person and needs therapy to help fight his demons as well as find peace within. 

 

You and Mike should have gone into business together. The friendship between you two is real. I'm happy GG has been working on herself but she needs to cut you some slack. Rome wasn't built in a day. Every friendship has issues. A sit down needs to be had between you and GG without the others around in a calm area so you two can work on your friendship. I believe you two could be like thelma & louise. Just have to work on things. The whole Lilly situation needs to be dropped asap. I say be cordial to her and stop the digs. Your all adults and need to act like it. 

PetraG
PetraG

In the words of your mustached bestie "No one is buying this snake oil your selling".  You really are pathological.  You are the Casey Anthony of SOS.  You will run every angle until dead. And to think I felt sorry for you last season.  I understand now that Reza's backstabbing you was karma well due.  Shame on you for thinking the Bravosphere is dumb enough to believe this rambling.  Tisk tisk

Michelle1875947
Michelle1875947

MJ I think you broke the golden rule of friendship by ratting on her, but what I am most irritated with about is her comment about Sacramento and the people who live here and the disgusted look you gave when talking about not only our city of but the people who live here the episode on the 26th of November. I live here in Sacramento and not only is it a beautiful place but the people who live here are awesome. Please take your ass back to LA and stay there where jerk offs like you belong!!!!!!!!!!!! xoxo

fuzzybub
fuzzybub

Does anyone believe anything MJ says about anything? She is a grown woman who still blames her mother for all of her own issues. She is delusional self centered and to be blunt mean spirited. I watch the show and wonder if this is just a character created by Bravo because how could an ACTUAL human being be this way?

notmynj
notmynj

Own your crap.  You knew exactly what you were doing and obviously enjoyed manipulating the situation for your amusement.  Slow clap for Vida as she's accomplished creating a mini-Me to continue her reign of terror.  Your actions are mirroring the mind games we've watched her play on you.  Guess if you "can't beat 'em, join 'em" applies in this situation.  You've done the impossible; made Lily and GG seem like the genuine ones while you, Reza and Asa are showing yourselves to be grade A fakes.

bai970
bai970

You are a terrible friend.  To tell and then to act like it was okay that you did it and loudly proclaim how NOT sorry you are?  Not just a terrible friend you are a terrible person.

debmerc888
debmerc888

Try and understand, people act out what they've been shown.

tiamimi4
tiamimi4

Dear MJ, I'm all for loving your body and having very high self-esteem, but you as alt me every time you are on camara.  Please for the love of all you consider holy  start to dress for your age and bosy type. Its not cute, please show you respect yourself by wearing appropriate sizes.    

judyrock
judyrock

I too had big breasts, and finally got a breast reduction.  It was the best thing I ever did in my life.  Believe me, most guys don't like watermelons being held up by platters.  

redhibiscus
redhibiscus

 @Mamacita_1 Exactly!   GG is slim, pretty and has a boyfriend...MJ can't stand it....she's so jealous and petty.

mara.tirado.7
mara.tirado.7

 @Mamacita_1MJ is so misguided, she needs to learn how to love herself first then maybe she will no longer hope to sleep with Reza or lust after Mike's Mr. Big. lol  I guess staying in a drunken stupor softens the pain for her? Everyone is moving forward and seems to be growing and doing things for themselves...MJ is still stuck with her "MOMMY DOESN'T LOVE ME" issues. sigh. Pobrecita!

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @PetraG  That is a little (a lot) harsh!!! Are you seriously comparing her to a child killer?!!!

p-note
p-note

 @fuzzybub   I'm beginning to think what Reza said about her at the reunion was true!!!