Mike Shouhed

Mike opens up about his relationship with Jessica.

on Feb 120

Like all good things, even Shahs has to come to an end! What an amazing season it has been. We have been through so much. My love for Jessica has grown so much. I will marry her soon...but not just yet. As my love affair with Jessica is at an all-time high, my anger and disappointment with Reza has been bringing me down. I was on the verge of losing a best friend, a brother, someone who has been by my side through so much. We have a lot of mending to do!

53 comments
Moosesalakis
Moosesalakis

Mike, youre awesome. You've been fair to all your friends and they dont even a know how many times they might have had to dial 911 with those fingernails a mile and half long. Even Reza, boy that guy would have been hounded with all that gold he wears, and he had you there to scare away the ghouls who would grab them some Reza gold.

I like you Mike. Whats not to like? Unless you dont get married to Jessica, then? Hand across throat/

RocknRoyal
RocknRoyal

Mike your one of my favorites, I believe everyone should be absolutely 100% sure when they get married. If you are hesitant for what ever reason, it is YOUR right. Marriage is suppose to be forever, and once your married your married. Only you know whats best for you. I think Jessica converting before she was even engaged was foolish on her behalf. I do not believe it's necessary for one to give up their religious beliefs for someone else but that's just my opinion. Stay true to yourself, if it's true love it will be there forever.

sillytv
sillytv

Mike you are something of a baby. Jessica has changed her whole religious identity just to suit you, and yet you are still fretting about marriage and the possibility that you might be marrying soon. I wonder what Jessica's parents think of this? Also, your infatuation with your fast friends with their fast toys and fast women is rather adolescent. In a similar vein, your ring buying trip seemed about how the ring reflected on you and your success rather than celebrating Jessica and your commitment to her. Perhaps it is time to reflect soberly on your relationships and your expectations of others, and of yourself.

CaBchMom
CaBchMom

Mike, Jessica knows how much money you make already. She knows what she is getting into and yet Jessica learned to cook Persian food, converted to your religion, embraced your family and loves you without a doubt. She is young, sweet, intelligent and beautiful. Marry her or she will be the one that "got away" and you will regret it forever. It doesn't matter how much money you think you should have OR how big you think her ring should be…that stuff doesn't matter. Marry her and concentrate on your career and family.  


Padee
Padee

Mike you are totally in the right.  Reza changes like the wind.  You and he were gonna Run LA.  I guess he must be scared of you cause he ran like a big ole girl and disappeared.  He should have taken you under his wing  and when you learned residential let you fly.  You have been such a good friend to MJ and she has not returned the favor.  She always takes Reza's side no matter what.  So she doesn't deserve a friend like you.

Mike you the MAN.  The cream will rise to the top.  Just keep being your wonderful self.

Padee
Padee

Mike I don't blame you for being so angry at Reza.  You and Reza made big plans to Run LA but Reza completely checked out.  And that MJ and her grandiose opinions about the situation.  Tell MJ opinions are like a..holes everybody's got one.  She hasn't looked too busy lately.  Reza needs to take you under his wing and show you how residential works then let you fly.  If he really cared about you he would.  Shane on him.

Your more of a man than anyone I have ever seen and I'm 58 years old.  Don't ever change and marry Jessica she's a good girl

nvt
nvt

You want the Wedding a successful man would have without the success. You having a half a million dollar Wedding would be a lie and a farce. Jessica loves you but you have been warned. Man up or some other guy will.

debmerc888
debmerc888

Mike you seemed so angry at Reza still on the Reunion. I agree with you that Reza should have helped you more, and worked with you!! But it was so sad to hear you and Reza say your relationship would never be the same. I would go to therapy if you have to with him, and don't give up on such a special bond. You both are probably a little wrong, look for the common ground. Family fights too, but they have to make up. Look at it like that. You will work through the hurt and anger and get whole again with him if you make it a priority!

Igirl@84
Igirl@84

It seems to me that Mke is himself not sure if he wants to marry Jessica. 

Igirl@84
Igirl@84

Mike has not been a good friend to Reza.  His anger and disappointment with Reza is totally unjustified.  MJ is right in saying that Mike wanted to make quick money without paying his dues. Mike will loose a wonderful friend like Reza if his expectations from him continues  and if he pulls another stunt  like taking sides with a stranger in a bar/restaurant.  As far as his girlfriend is concerned, the relationship does not seem real.  Mike is too much into material things.

suzycal60@gmail.com
suzycal60@gmail.com

Mike lately you have been acting crazy used to be my favorite you are losing it my friend sometimes you look like a wild animal hope to see you in better shape next season love you please take care

catlady123
catlady123

Money doesn't make a happy marriage.  Love does.  Marry her before she leaves you.  Its coming!!!!

patcaseygold
patcaseygold

I think the only reason you haven't asked Jessica to marry you is that you can't afford to buy her the ring YOU think a persian man should buy his wife to be. She would be happy with whatever you gave her. She has gone through so much for you and yet you keep putting this off. Forget about the material things!!!

DeJesusmom
DeJesusmom

Mike, I think you need to know yourself a little better before you get married so waiting a  bit is the right thing to do. Get your professional self settled and everything else will fall I to place. I think you also need to have a sit down with Jessica about the roles you intend to have in your relationship. Being controlled doesn't seem like a comfortable fit for you and in love it's all about respecting each other and each others relationships whether it be with family or friends. Jessica seems like a strong girl but sometimes it appears she may be a little envious of how deep you love is for your friends. Some boundaries should be known right up front because it seems like the more she attaches herself to you the shorter the leash is getting and you don't seem like the type of person that will handle duct tape on your mouth and a rope around your neck very well. She seems to feel comfortable being bitchy with your friends and at times belittling to you. Not a good look for any woman to disrespect the person they love. Who knows maybe it's all in the editing. Good luck and go slow. Better to go slow and be right than go fast and have it fall apart. Good luck.

imk505
imk505

Mike, I really like you and I feel you're a really good person but you are too consumed with outward appearances. Frankly, I don't think you deserve Jessica at this time in your life. You are totally failing to see that she will ride and die for you, no matter what. Please, seek therapy so that you can be confident with who you are, right now at this very moment. You'll never have success until you accept yourself for who you are and stop comparing yourself to others. Good luck, I believe you can do it. Don't let your life pass you by in order to live up to someone else's expectations. 

vanderpumprules07
vanderpumprules07

Mike, you need to have a SERIOUS sit down with your parents about what love is. Because if you are postponing the engagement for you to get more money, you will do the same thing about the wedding, the kids, and everything else.

balharbour
balharbour

You had better hurry up and marry Jessica before she comes to her senses and dumps your ass!  You just don't strike me as marriage material - you seem to be a bit of a Jax.  Also - lets face it - you may never be a great success so waiting for something that may never happen is just a ridiculous reason. Personally - I hope she dumps you and moves onto to greener pastures!

eve.emanuel.7
eve.emanuel.7

its a shame to see that you are waiting to get rich first in order to get married! please don't  wait you might lose her.

skizzy79
skizzy79

It's troubling that you're more worried about appearances and how much you can spend on anything wedding related than you are about being grateful for finding the right girl.

I hope you don't lose her because you can't grow up in time .....

michelle.lucas.3150
michelle.lucas.3150

Hope you are not using Reza or a $500,000.00 dollar wedding as an excuse for not getting married. Is it really commitment issues instead?

StrawberryChampagne
StrawberryChampagne

Mike, It's not Reza's responsibility to carry you. Step up and take the bull by the horns. You appear to have champagne taste on a beer budget. It will be interesting to see how you end up in five years.

CarlaB
CarlaB

Like many of the previous posts, it is a shame that you are waiting for the big wedding and big ring. Wise up and just marry the woman you love and who loves you. It's insane to spend so much on a wedding, which is one day. Spend your time building up happy memories being with the one you love. If you make her wait too long, she will move on. That would be a shame.

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

Mike  should take money out of the equation  Jessica doesn't seem to care ...I think Mike should go back to Law school it's obvious he needs self esteem he has two brothers who are Doctors and I think they are younger that has got to be tough

LBME
LBME

I don't understand why so many people think that Mike should hurry up and marry Jessica.  She's all wrong for him.  She is pressuring him to marry her and have kids ASAP because he's old and she doesn't "wanna have kids with a 40 year old".  She needs to move on and find someone closer to her own age (whatever that may be).

Jessica being "too good of a girl", having her head on her shoulders, being "hot", being a nurse, coming from a good family, stating that she loves Mike, and that she's converting, are not reasons for Mike to marry her.  Everything is about her and not about them.  These two should not be together - it won't last.  I wish you both all the best, just separately.  Good luck finding true love.

nadalotta
nadalotta

Mike, I feel sorry for Jessica.  She's done everything but beg you to propose and yet you hold off.  She's intelligent, beautiful, has a great career and is converting - what have YOU done for HER lately?  Besides not bringing home much money, that is (and blaming Reza for it).   

You don't have to marry her tomorrow - or even this year.  Just propose!

merriment
merriment

Your blog suggests that you are not marrying Jessica out of severe depression over your relationship with Reza.  On the show, though, you indicated that you were not marrying her because a Persian wedding averages half a million dollars.  If you think it's a bad idea to marry while severely depressed, I agree with you. However, I don't think you should be depressed over a falling out with Reza. 

Look around:  Reza's fallen out with MJ, Lily, GG, you, etc. In the beginning, he even called Asa a "broke down Punky Brewster."  At some point, all of you have to realize his personality and hold him accountable. 

As far as denying yourself happiness and risking loss of Jessica so you can impress people by spending half a million bucks to impress people who are only going to talk behind your back anyway, good grief!  Please get your priorities straight.




NJ-Roses
NJ-Roses

Marry Jessica!  Put a Ring Pop on her finger, if you have to.  Have a small home wedding.  Get your life together and have a beautiful family.

Big, fancy weddings are over-rated and soon forgotten.  Save your money for a good home to raise your children.

Mazel!

bestofboston
bestofboston

Mike - your priorities are so screwed up.  You're putting the "all mighty dollar" before the woman you claim to love.

You're starting to look a  little "long in the tooth" so I wouldn't wait much longer.  Jessica is a beautiful woman and any guy would snatch her up in a minute.  Don't b stupid.  Do you want to end up like MJ - having no one that loves  you and always having to be the outsider at every function?  MJ is getting out of life just what she deserves - nothing but you and Jessica deserve more....

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

Get your priorities straight.  Your woman should be more important to you than ridiculous things like $500k weddings!  If that is really the Persian norm, which btw I know it's not as I have tons of Persian friends, then you need to go another route cuz it's not cute to leave your half million dollar wedding to go back to your one bedroom apt in Culver city and park in your carport.  Seriously.  


And don't be surprised when Jessica wises up and leaves you - I have no idea why she has stayed for so long. She doesn't care about the $60k ring or the $500,000 wedding, you do, and that's a direct reflection how how ignorant you are about real life.

debmerc888
debmerc888

p.s. You are assuming when you get married you will have kids right away. Did you know a lot of people struggle with infertility, especially the older they get??

debmerc888
debmerc888

Mike, Mike, Mike!  I know in your culture a lot of importance is placed on the cost/size of the engagement ring and the wedding, but the woman you LOVE doesn't seem to want to wait for those things! That's what really matters! She's right, starting a family at 40 is not the way to go. When your child (your FIRST child that is) is 10 you will be 50!! Of course people do it, but is it best for your future kids?? Be a leader in your family, and take a stand,. Say that you are putting your girlfriend and your own happiness before money.  As long as she is the one for you, you would be crazy to wait, and let her slip away!  So glad you and Reza are back on track. He's not perfect, but who is?   

9judgenot
9judgenot

It was nice to see you guys back to your old selves.  Good Luck!


jperry45
jperry45

I don't think Mike is ready to get married,well Mike you better get ready because Jessica said she is having kids with a 40 year old.  Your business may never get up and running like you want, so have a small wedding and maybe you will stay together until death do you part, most people that have large weddings don't stay together two years especially in the hollywood area. I hope things work out for you both.

Lillith88
Lillith88

Mike --

It's obvious to everyone but you that YOU are the prize in Jessica's eyes. You have what every man hopes for -- a woman who cherishes him for who he is, not what he can spend on her. What you spend on the wedding is irrelevant, and I'll bet she'd want you if you had nothing more than a plain gold band and a one-bedroom apartment to offer her. You've found a woman with depth, so try showing some!

msmith76
msmith76

Mike:

There i snothing loving about your group.  Jessica should be your priority not REZA.  He is not a friend to you.  Its in appropriate for people to be coming into your private space to look at your body.  It si disrespectful.  You guys can not hav eit both ways.  You respect your religion but then you act like you live in a porno world.  Get your stuff together.

nfarmer
nfarmer

like they say love is blind

msmith76
msmith76

For get about th efake promises Reza made with you.  He is not a friend.  Go about working on you.  Reza will be what he is Fake,  I hope Adam does not marry him. I do not know how you can want to be with other men everyday of the week yet want to marry Adam the next day.  Something is not right.

Stella70131
Stella70131

@patcaseygold Were I Jessica, I'd have one step out the door.  You're being pretentious and egotistical about the proposal, making it all about how successful you are and forget about the fact that it's the marriage that's what's important, not the wedding and all the trappings. If you believe that a Persian engagement party should cost 100 grand, you must be smoking crack. And believe it not, 20 grand for a ring is plenty. Jessica is clearly committed to you - you can tell by her actions. You are committed to your image, and that's just sad.

msmith76
msmith76

That $35,000 you spent of that bus should have been spent on a ring for Jessica.  That was a huge waste of money.

msmith76
msmith76

Mike is better than Jax from Vanderpump rules but he is hung up on himself and clearly he thinks mor eof himself than he should.  However I love his realtionship with his family.  He is a good man.  He needs to belive in himself.

msmith76
msmith76

No, although I think that Reza getting engaged was just a way for Reza to embarrass Mike.  We all know REZA is a fraud.  He is not ready to marry Adam.  I bet when the show resumes they are not even engaged.

bravo-tv-viewer
bravo-tv-viewer

@susanzavagli  Mike won't go back to school because it's too much work. Even Mike's mom had stated that he's not one to put in the time and effort of hard work. He wants everything the easy way...with little effort on his part. I often wonder if the shoe was on the other foot and Jessica asked him to convert to becoming a Catholic would he do that for her? I seriously doubt it, because it would take a lot of time and effort - two things Mike knows nothing about.


I really like Mike and wish he would go back to Law school so that he can get work on a career instead of just a job.


cinchy
cinchy

@NJ-Roses I hope he takes this advice.  Jessica may have been a little vain in listing her attributes, but she's right.  She's hot (etc.)!  Tsk, tsk, tsk, Mikey.  You're gonna let her slip away over your silly hang ups about a (ridiculous!) $1/2 mill wedding and all, and then you'll be sorry..  

msmith76
msmith76

Exactly, unattractive MJ eatting Choclate crossants and fighting GG at horse races?  Not attractive.

dfaiola1019
dfaiola1019

@bestofboston Please don't talk meanly about MJ.  She has some issues because of her Mom and doesn't need someone she doesn't even know putting her down.  Treat people the way you wanted to be treated.  You should NEVER kick someone when they're down!  Just sayin'

ellen2012
ellen2012

@bjunebug28  Man up. You are going to lose Jessica. She certainly told you in her actions that she will not wait for you to make "a half mill" for a.wedding. You are a.fool.to think she wants that!  I think you appeared weepy and jealous when Reza proposed to Adam!  You had better hop to it or you will lose


debmerc888
debmerc888

He is not ignorant about real life, that is what he grew up around.  It's tough to go against cultural norms. Hopefully he will though! Mike, it's America, people just want to see you happy. A respectable ring and wedding, not spending a fortune is what you should be going for.

msmith76
msmith76

They are and that is not good.  A lot of back stabbing.  This is not what friends are about.  When is GG going to grow up?  She has a beautiful sister.  She is jealous of her.

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

@bravo-tv-viewer @susanzavagli Mike was spoiled when he was in commercial real estate and the market was hot.......once you taste the good life it's hard to back peddle......I do agree he doesn't want to put time and effort into bettering himself.....he is looking for the silver platter.....the money he wasted on a bus wrap could have bought a nice ring for Jessca......he gambled on the bus thing .......personally I don't think he is a good businessman....I like him too and I hope he finds himself 

msmith76
msmith76

Im not sure Mikes parents celebrate more than they can afford.  I think they do what they can within their means.  That is the difference.