Mike Shouhed

Mike disagrees with MJ and Reza's perspective on the fight with Sasha.

on Dec 9, 20130

Being a part of the Gay Pride Parade was epic! To be able to overcome my homophobia and stand proud on a float with cross dressers in front of 400,000 people was an experience that will never be forgotten.

The people that deserved to be there were with me, and the ones that felt like being a bully and hurting others were left behind. MJ needs a checkup from the neck up! Her moral compass is way off.

48 comments
jillyc
jillyc

You seem like a true friend and real person. I agree with your friends be a lion and forget about the sheep. Reza can't help you because he is putting up a front with his money and how good he is at his job. Funny Reza thinks you have growing up to do, he is so immature and self absorbed. He really thinks you shouldn't do what's right you should do what he says. He even admits he was wrong towards Sasha but thinks you should of jump on that despicable bandwagon because your his friend. What about him being your friend and saying he was wrong and proud you did whats right.

JaciRoland
JaciRoland

I was so surprised to see someone on a Bravo show stick up for a friend that they weren't getting along with.  When you told Sasha that he shouldn't talk about Reza without him there to defend himself, I loved it.  However, reading other perspectives in these comments.  I can see the point others make as well, that Reza has gotten to tell his side to the viewers and Sasha should have been able to as well.  I understand you probably weren't thinking about it from that perspective at the time.  I do hope you are reading these and considering those perspectives as well.

 

i.indie
i.indie

Mike, thank you!!  Sometimes saying just that little really says it all.  Thank you!

Toeknee
Toeknee

Such a turn around for someone who use to hate gays....oh god that MJ....another nonsensical judgement

Froggy1
Froggy1

Mike, you are one in a million!  Reza and MJ should take a page from your book.  For a gay man to call another man the F word in a gay bar was inexcusable.  Reza needs to apologize to everyone present.  On a happier note, I hope you see what a gem you have in Jessica.  You are an adorable couple and she obviously loves you very much to be willing to convert.  Put a ring on it!!!

 

friendoftexas
friendoftexas

I've been watching the show since first season and always thought you to be by all appearances a good guy.  You have now shown that you are a man of integrity amongst many who don't even know the definition.  Keep doing you.

quette432004
quette432004

I love you! If Reza wants a friendship with you he needs to earn it. Reza uses y'all to advance his stance with the Persian pride. You have a storyline, build it!

Pursejunkie
Pursejunkie

Mike, you are genuinely a nice guy. Some of the others need to take a lesson from you.

KMO
KMO

Mike, you're the man! Love you and love Jessica. You both seem to take the high road rather than the dirt road most times. Good for you for sticking to what you know is right and being a good friend by calling your good friends out. A true friend doesn't want or allow their friends to be ignorant or act the fool.

Mischa88
Mischa88

Hi, Mike. I am saying this out of love, so don't take it the wrong way. I was proud of you guys for supporting the gay parade. Later, when group bumped into Sasha and the girls wanted to hear about the blow up between Reza and Sasha. Sasha should have been allowed to speak his side of the story. It was not your place to shut him down just because Reza wasn't there. Sasha wasn't "retaliating" against Reza as you stated. He was simply stating the truth about what went down.

 

Everyone has heard about "woe is me" Reza's side and Sasha had EVERY RIGHT to tell his side (the truth). I get that you try to be the righteous guy in the group, but sometimes it is not your place to dictate other people. 

Itokagi23
Itokagi23

Mike,

Please take this opportunity to stop working with Reza, you can do it on your own. I have enormous respect for your brothers for going to school to become dentists, but this is the worst possible time to go into the medical field, you made the right decision. If you continue to stay true to  yourself, you will succeed at whatever you do. 

wrentham
wrentham

Well done! You're the greatest. You beat out all of the reality stars on TV - male, female, gay or straight. I hope Bravo knows how many fans you have and you get your own show!

scrapper
scrapper

i was not sure of you in the first season but i am now,hats off to you for standing up for WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG.not even just the gay issue but the right issue.i love your mom but love the fact that your honest with her and most of all i love the way you admire and respect your girlfriend who is adorable,best of luck to you and your family.

Sabrilevi
Sabrilevi

Hey Mike, like many others, I watch the show because of you. I have a soft spot especially for you and Jessica, since i am an Italian import who converted to Judaism with rabbi Weinberg and married a Jewish man. I think your social circle is not worthy of your friendship and does not value friendship with the same filters as you do. Having said that, I hope I will be proven wrong. Kudos for having such integrity. Jessica is wonderful, no need to tell you that. I wish they stopped pressuring you to get a ring, because they are totally compromising its importance. Best wishes to you lovebirds!

doxyroxy
doxyroxy

Mike, I was proud of you at the gay club for standing up for what's right.  You're a man of good character.  Reza's behavior was depraved.  You told him so.  It doesn't mean you don't love your friend, but it means you can't support his poor behavior or actions.  The same was true of MJ when she left with him.  Sometimes there are things that are bigger & more important than blindly saying I support you no matter what.  You can love a friend unconditionally, but that doesn't mean you must condone a friend's hurtful or hateful behavior toward others.  You took the high road & stayed to support the brothers who were severely & unjustly humiliated by Reza.  Again, I'm proud of you.  It may take a while for Reza to come around to see that it wasn't all about him.

Heidi_Ylenni
Heidi_Ylenni

Love you and you need to marry that girl, you will NOT do better.

Tracirk68
Tracirk68

YOU should be standing front in center in the picture of your group instead of Reza, you are the glue that seems to hold everyone together.  You have never had any REAL drama with anyone and when you see the drama is basically BS or bullying, you call them out on it.  You walk a tight rope between your loyalty to your true self and your loyalty to your friends and you walk that rope very well.  Stay true and love yourself for if you allow others to change you, you will lose yourself.  I loved the rehersal for your wedding, I think you will be a wonderful husband and a very good role model as a father!  I like watching you so much and enjoy Lily's over the top silliness (she also holds on to her morals and doesn't get sloppy drunk) and I am enjoying GG this year, she seems so much better without MJ but it may be because I have never liked MJ.  MJ and Reza are both so worried about creating characters they have become caricatures of themselves, void of any original personality.  (sorry to talk bad about your friends, this is just my opinion based on what has been shown).

Picket@fence
Picket@fence

For this, your mother should be very proud. Yes, she and your father did an awesome job of raising a decent young man.

nimz
nimz

Mike thank you for standing up for the persian gay community.  Unfortunately Reza's treatment of Sasha was shameful.  Your parents raised you right.

nimz
nimz

Mike, gay persian man here, thanks for your support of the community.  Reza's behavior was shameful.  MJ's support for Reza was nearly as shameful.  Your parents raised you right!

ElaineM
ElaineM

You are the only reason to watch this show Mike!   I love your relationship with your parents and girl friend!  Best wishes to you!

debikk
debikk

Mike - you are a good friend to everyone. You are real and there aren't to many people around like that anymore. Stay true to yourself. I understand that Reza has issues, but that gives him no right to treat people the way he does. He is an angry confused person who needs some major therapy. I used to like him - I hope he can come back from this.

erica.cooper
erica.cooper

Reza should have never said what he said - however, your delivery and timing were terrible.  You needed to pull Reza aside, you needed to ask him, as Asa did, about what was going on as you yourself said it was unusual to see him behave that way - a real friend would have been concerned as to why his friend was lashing out inappropriately (clearly there was pain behind his actions).  You had not seen Sasha's behavior at Reza's home - he WAS disrespectful.  Did his behavior Reza's extreme reaction? No.  But a real friend would have confronted him in a more loving way - not calling him to kick him off a float at the Gay Pride parade so that you could flaunt that you are "cured" of your homophobia - btw, apparently that part of MJs moral compass isn't as wrong as yours, as she has never had homophobia.

 

Oh... and the brothers crying because the one was "accused" of being gay or not wanting to be outed?   Hmmm..... if you want to stay in the closet you probably shouldn't go in front of a TV CAMERA WHILE IN A GAY BAR DANCING WITH OTHER BOYS.  

 

Oh, and Sasha was seeking screen time - I suspect he wants to be one of the Shahs.  His extremely hurt feelings and offense at being called "flamboyant" would have rung a bit more true if he wasn't shirtless wearing a pair of assless tights.  Just sayin.

 

Again - Reza was being an ass - but I don't trust the new guy and I don't trust how you approached MJ and NOT Reza.

CristalFlo
CristalFlo

Friends like you are hard to come by. I think its great that you stand up for what you believe in even if it may or not be what your friends believe in. Hopefully in the next episodes we see Reza apologizing to you and Sasha.

markusgrant806@yahoo.com
markusgrant806@yahoo.com

Thank you Bravo for putting someone liek Mike on t.v he is a wonderful role model for young men.

nicolet7490
nicolet7490

At least MJ was easier to crack and realize what she did was wrong.

 

Reza is still caught up in his own hurts and anger instead of doing the one thing first, and that's not to hurt other people and make yourself better.  I just hear excuses from Reeza. 

hazeleyes963
hazeleyes963

Mike continue to be your "true" self. If Reza can't see that you are a "true" friend, then that is his problem and not yours.

mitfordgirl
mitfordgirl

I commend you. I agree with your stand 100%. Doing the right thing is never easy and am glad you are above this drama.

Itokagi23
Itokagi23

Mike, please see Reza for what he really is and forget about doing business with him, he's got a lot to learn about respect and humility. I think perhaps your mother is able to see him for who he really is. He's childish and seld-centered, and his behavior was appalling, to say the least. He's so jealous of you, he will never help you get into 

residential real estate, but there are others who will. You rock! I'm so pleased that you have found your soul-mate, you make a perfect couple!

hazeleyes963
hazeleyes963

MJ's moral compass isn't the only thing that is off about her!!

shysharon
shysharon

you better watch it or im going to fall in love with you!

Blink
Blink

MJ's moral compass has always been off.  With the way you portray yourself on camera, it's hard to believe you surround yourself with such self absorbed entitled individuals such as MJ, Reza and Asa.

greekgirl
greekgirl

Love you! I sure would enjoy watching a big fat Persian wedding.....

LilyL
LilyL

Reza and MJ are not nice people so I think you need to reevaluate your friendships. 

Adoniat
Adoniat

A friend like you is hard to find.  I, for one, would appreciate a friend that let me know when I was wrong.  Honesty is hard to find.

bestofboston
bestofboston

Mike - you always try to stay true and be a good friend but it isn't always easy.  

luree15
luree15

Mike love you!!! You have the heart!! Dont you think MIke and LIlly would make a beautiful couple!!!!! Just saying.................

cindy1963
cindy1963

 @Froggy1 I liked you last season and this season I love you! You are the voice of reason in this group and God knows they need someone who has their head on straight because as Reza put it at Lily's party "there is a Motley Crew" in your group. There's Reza, who goes off at the littlest thing. There's GG, wow what a TEMPER AND MOUTH!! Asa, who is in her own "world" of Diamond Water. MJ, who is trying to get some type of relationship with her mother going and she really drinks too much, if you ask me. Lily, who has a hang-up about her weight and she's got that whole "valley girl" thing going on. And then of course there's you, Mike. You have really gotten it together and I am very happy for you and Jessica. She does love you very much and yes, it's not everyday that you have someone who will convert to their "significant other's" religion. So, I believe the two of you will have many happy years together!! God bless you both and please don't change the person that you are. BTW, I love your mom and dad. They remind me of mine. Have a very Happy New Year!!

Pursejunkie
Pursejunkie

@Mischa88 I agree too.No one has given poor Sasha a chance to express his side of things.

janshell
janshell

 @Blink

I was wondering the same but he has known them longer so maybe he sees something good in them that we are yet to see!

 

cinchy
cinchy

 @luree15 Mikey doesn't seem to like Lilly much.  That's one of the only things about which I disagree with him.  

WindyCity2
WindyCity2

 @luree15 I think Mike's girlfriend, Jessica, would have something to say about that.