Stuck in Between Sarah and Jay

David reveals how torn up he was after Jay left.

Let's start on a light note, shall we? I finally got to share with the world my Cantonese skills at dinner in Mountain View at Fu Lam Mum! I love everything about the language, and I especially am a fan of everything Hong Kong -- it rivals Toyko as my favorite place in the east. Would you believe I still haven't been there? I'll admit that I have a secret fantasy of being Bill Murray's character from Lost in Translation, flying around various places in Asia as the token white guy on commercials. If you know anyone who can hook me up, tell them to email me at the address listed at the bottom of my website! I need the money, haha, especially considering that I've liquidated all my cash, investments, and everything else to my name so we can keep our house. And it's true, I am hella strapped for cash, enough to ask Sarah to loan me some (and get denied, oy vey)! At $10,000 a tweet, Sarah only needs to write about 40 characters to afford a $3k loan, no? It's OK; another friend of mine gave me the loan, and -- here's the kicker -- I paid it back in LESS THAN TWO WEEKS by working my ass off on my contract programming gig. I would never ask for money if I couldn't pay it back quickly. And I proved that. Now hopefully I'll never have to do that again.

Which brings us to, well, the poo hitting the fan. Hermione says it right: "Having enemies in Silicon Valley is bad for business." That's why I do my best to get along. But as each day goes by, it gets harder and harder to stand by Sarah's side while she alienates and upsets other people that matter in my life. I can definitely say it's not common Silicon Valley behavior to throw a drink in someone's face. If someone's angry at someone, they might write some passive-aggressive tweets or even a nasty blog post about shady tactics used in their business. But throwing drinks is an aggressive act -- it's using physical force with the intention of causing harm to someone, which is the dictionary definition of violence. And folks in business out here won't go far if they use violence as a tactic of self-expression, no matter how innocent it may seem.

That night was so painful and miserable. I brought my friends together, looking forward to an awesome night. And it just blew up in my face when Sarah threw that drink. I did my best to be there for her as a friend, but I really wanted to be there for my buddy Jay. As soon as I discovered Jay left, I went to a corner by myself and just cried. I cried a lot, because I felt so embarrassed and upset for him, but I felt so stuck in the middle -- and believe me, I was incredibly angry at Sarah. Normally when someone hurts a friend of mine, I do what I can to protect that friend. But what do I do when one friend hurts another? How can I be there for both of them and yet help them make amends? It's ripping me apart. Stress in business is hard enough, but this is too much.

I spent a lot of time trying to convince Sarah to apologize to Jay, and we'll see if that happens. For now, I just have to stay focused on my business... I don't have time for this kind of drama!

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Cheers,
Dave

 

Ending the Friendship with Sarah

David reacts to Sarah's accusations.

Building a product is hard enough, but launching it and putting a big event together to generate marketing buzz for it at the same time was almost enough to put me over the edge! But I've been working my butt off to get GoalSponsors out the door and launched, and after several months of effort, I was able to have a successful launch event and gain enough buzz to get a great set of beta users to test out the product! It's live in the app store if you'd like to give it a try:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/goalsponsors/id563679640

I'm proud of myself, for sure, but I definitely didn't do it alone. There were several other companies that have helped me quite a bit, including NoXcuses Fitness and especially Appcelerator, who has gone above and beyond the call of duty to help me make my app and my launch a success. A good number of people showed up to the launch event -- not an AMAZING number, but a strong 100-150ish, and after all the beta signups, I've been able to test my product out on real people, get feedback, and launch something that's now helping people achieve their biggest goals in life! In fact, the total weight loss of our users is in the hundreds of pounds, and we've only been live for the past month or so! On the business side of things, life is going well.On the personal side of things, not everything is so great. It's really hard to see someone that you've been close to turn around and do something to hurt you. When Sarah asked me to meet with her that day, she sent a text asking if I had time to get together and when I asked what it was about, she alluded to it being about business, and then quickly changed the subject. Nevertheless, I showed up in generally good spirits, so I was caught completely off guard when she accused of "physically assaulting," even "tackling" her -- thank goodness the world was able to see the moment she was referring to, in which she tries to interrupt Hermione's presentation at my event and I come to her calmly and escort her away from the stage, smiling and being generally friendly, as I didn't want to create drama at my own event.

So that hurt me quite a bit. Also, she was upset that I didn't provide a booth for her, but she literally never asked me, and the truth is (and I told her this) that if she wanted a booth, all she had to do was tell me and I would have given it to her. Ben and Hermione asked, and that was why I gave them one. Sarah never did.

There's a lot more to that conversation at the Four Seasons, from accusing me of trying to keep her and Hermione apart to trying to take credit for someone else's work in helping put together my event, the list of things she threw at me that day was quite large, and to this day I don't understand why she did it, knowing that I was her confidant, that I was there when everyone else was against her... why me, of all people? Was it just to create drama? Just to establish herself as the queen bee or, dare I say it, the villain?Needless to say, that was the last conversation I had with Sarah. I'm all for second chances when people make mistakes that were unintentional, but the kind of cold calculation Sarah did that day made me realize that it is better for me to let the friendship end and not do anything further to try and continue it. For once I was a part of the drama, not just the instigator of it -- and boy was that a reminder that it's better to be on the sidelines when the poo hits the fan!

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Cheers,
Dave