Dating in Silicon Valley sucks!
Two years in Silicon Valley, two years I've been single. I find dating in Silicon Valley harder than it was in London. Maybe it's because I'm older and uglier, but I know I'm not alone. I live with five single men, all in tech, all looking for love and all finding it difficult in the land of html 5 and java script.
But it should be easy for us, right? We are all technologically savvy, creative people who are dialed into the latest apps and sites for dating and not afraid to try them out in real-life. Heck, we even hacked together a video dating site over a weekend, unsatisfied with the current online-dating market.
So why aren't they working? We could write a doctrine on the problems with online dating: people making fake profiles, being different than how they look in photos, the time versus reward of effort that has to go into organizing a date. But perhaps we should be blaming ourselves instead of the world around us. I mean we are all self-absorbed entrepreneurs who believe we've got what it takes to build the next world-changing company and won't let anything get in the way of that -- sex or no sex.
Who has the capacity to invest emotional energy into a relationship when your start-up needs every inch of your attention to be a success? Especially when love cannot be quantified and the emotional investment that has to go into a relationship has no guaranteed return.
We set high expectations for ourselves because we think we are amazing. The journey we've had to go on and sacrifices we've had to make to get here mean we cannot introduce anything into our lives which might knock us off course and send us in a different (maybe the wrong) direction. Humans have never been so easily connected to so many people around the world than now with the advent of social media. And that also creates dating dilemmas; FOMA (Fear Of Missing Out) is a current theme amongst my friends; in Silicon Valley there are six or seven events every night you can go to -- we meet so many new, incredible people every week it's hard to settle for one or easy to think next week you will probably meet someone even more beautiful, intelligent, and amazing.
Silicon Valley is also an incredibly small social circle where you are likely to bump into your past and present hook-ups, so what happens when you date the same guy as your friends? On tonight's episode of Start-Ups: Silicon Valley I go on a date with Jay -- a cute guy Sarah previously dated.
When Sarah finds out she takes revenge on Jay by making him wet (not the kind you are thinking).
Tune in to Bravo at 10pm tonight to find out what I'm talking about!
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