Patti Stanger's newest hire is lawyer and beauty queen Candace Smith who, as the Millionaire Matchmaker's Director of Recruiting, is in charge of finding both new clients and new love connections for them. It's a role she will be mastering in the new season of the show—and if you're ready to find new love in 2015, Candace has some expert advice to share.
Her first tip is all about the importance of putting yourself first. "I emphasize the importance of self-love with all clients, especially women because they tend to have difficulty expressing their wants and needs for fear of scaring a man away," Candace tells Essence. "I suggest women first focus on their overall betterment, physically, emotionally, spiritually and professionally, and then they will feel confident in what they bring to the table and be willing to walk away if need be."
While so many women focus on being sexy, men are attracted to happy, vibrant, confident people. Smile!
Next, it's important to make sure you're getting out and going to the right places. "Some of my favorite places [to meet people] are grocery stores, upscale sports bars, steakhouses and comedy clubs," she reveals. "I suggest expanding your social circle with philanthropic activities—whether you join a committee at a museum, volunteer at a shelter or get involved in the extracurricular activities of a church or spiritual center. A solid circle of quality friends is always a wonderful resource and there is nothing wrong with sharing with them that you are ready to date in case they know of anyone great."
And once someone catches your eye, put that newfound confidence to use. "While so many women focus on being sexy, in reality men, as most people, are attracted to happy, vibrant, confident people. Smile!" Candace advises. "Then, simply approach him in the same way you would if you noticed a girl you thought you went to high school with—be authentic, secure and casual. Please avoid pick up lines and tactics like acting as if you recognize him or know him. Introduce yourself and ask a relevant question. For example, if a game is on, ask whom he is rooting for or if he is eating, ask how the dish is. You will know and feel if there is interest and can adjust accordingly."
See Patti and Candace make new love matches every Thursday at 10 PM on the new season of Millionaire Matchmaker.