No one ever said the first year of marriage was easy — in fact, it's notorious for being the hardest year for a couple. With this in mind, we looked to the recently hitched Scheana Shay from Vanderpump Rules to impart some marital wisdom on the couples of Newlyweds: The First Year Season 3, premiering on Sunday, January 3.
In the clip above, the SURver admits that cliches might exist for a reason, as she's realized that "communication is key" to the first year of marriage. But that's not all! Find out what not to do in your first year, and how to keep the bedroom spicy well after the honeymoon.
So communication is key, but are there any other essentials for your first year of marriage?
Scheana Shay: Listening goes hand in hand with communicating, but is one of the most important things you can do. Listen with more than just your ears. If something seems off, talk about it. Know that it's not only about one person in the relationship but the couple as a whole now.
If there was anything you could do over for your first year, what would it be?
Honestly, just being a better listener. There were things Shay was going through that got downplayed because he wasn't speaking up and I wasn't always paying attention. Sometimes things aren't all out there on the surface and you have to dig deeper to find the root of the problem.
Did you learn anything after your first year that you didn’t know before?
Umm, A LOT! And we are now in the best place we've ever been in. Sometimes it takes going through something traumatic or unexpected to find out what's really important, what matters, and what could be done to better it.
If you could tell our Newlyweds one thing not to do, what would it be?
Don't be selfish! You're a team so work together!
Any tips on how to keep the romance going after the wedding, the first year, and beyond?
Everyone is different but I know for me, Shay likes lingerie. So whenever we want to spice it up, I dress it up. He also said to make sure you know what your partner wants. Reciprocation is key!
Don't forget to tune into the season premiere of Newlyweds, on January 3 at 9/8c!