A 42-year-old woman decided to take the plunge—and decided she didn’t need a groom to do it.
Once divorced Desiree Longabaughm got married again, to herself, in a romantic ceremony under the Eiffel Tower. She also changed her name, and is now known as Beautiful Existence.
Three pals joined her on the trip to Paris, where Desiree wore a white dress to her wedding, along with Converse sneakers. She had written vows to herself and it was officiated by a minister in the U.S. over Skype.
It wasn’t a cheap affair, either. The bride spent $9,000 on the wedding, which included flights, a photographer, and a week in Paris. Her wedding date was also her birthday.
“I believe everybody should self-marry before they even marry anyone else,” Desiree said. “It allows you to drop that pressure of having to have somebody else with you in order to be successful. I’d recommend it as much as I’d recommend being a parent, because the level of love you’ll feel is something you can’t describe until you do it.”
Desiree has two sons, Edge, 16 and Epic, 6 from her 10 year marriage. She went through a painful divorce before falling for herself.
“After years of exploring different theories on how to understand myself, self-marriage felt right,” she said. “Why couldn’t I have a fun, fantastic ceremony the way that I wanted it to be without somebody else’s approval? The current norms around marriage and long-term relationships just don’t fit in with and honor who I am as a person. Before I get into any kind of relationship, I needed to commit to myself first. The highest measurement of success society pretty much has is whether or not you’re in a couple, but it shouldn’t be that way.”
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