I am a 21 year old college student and am in a committed, monogamous relationship with my 28 year old boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. While I recognize I still have a lot of learning and growth to do, do you think that someone cannot experience true love at my age? Is it somehow wrong or naive of me to be excited about working towards this common goal? What "stage of life" (rather than specific age) do you think is best to enter into marriage?
Cat, you’re in a catch-22. On the one hand, you’re young and haven’t experienced life – you may be smart, but you have no wisdom. On the other hand, your heart is telling you you’re in love and that this is the ONE. The question you have to ask yourself is, “What’s more important to me… finishing the stage of life that is freedom, or taking the next step.” That’s a question you have to ask yourself seriously. The one thing you don’t want to do is take the wrong step.
I've just started watching your show, and now I'm addicted! I'm 21, and I've dated 6 gay men before, one being my ex-fiancé of two years. I'm usually the first person (even before their parents or friends) they "come out" to because they say I'm so accepting of people. I like a sensitive, well-kept man with my same interests (stereotypical of gay men). How can you tell if a guy is gay, or just metro? Why do gay men date women (if they say they knew all along?!) And WHY do they come out to ME? Thanks!
Dawn, STOP IT. There are PLENTY of well-kept men out in the world that aren’t gay. What, are you picking them up at gay bars? You know what you’re doing, and why you’re doing it. This sounds more like a person that is purposely sabotaging their own love life because they’re afraid to be in serious relationship more than anything else.
hey patti, my name is maile im from hawaii, and i watch your show every week. i think that your amazing and what you do is great, i was wondering would you ever expand your business to other states, i think you would do well. well let me know... thanks for doing what you do. maile...
Hey Patti, First of all let my say I absolutely love your show.My name is Cecilia and I have been in a relationship with a guy going on 5 years. I am 23 years old and I want a future with him but he still doesnt know what he wants with me in the future. Should I continue to stick around waiting for him to want marriage and the whole shabang or should I just give up?
I watch your show weekly and love it! After last nights episode I wanted to commend you for taking your heartfelt stance on Marriage and personal choice. I have always known, that marriage may not be for me too. My goals haven't always been marriage and I have been judged for it for years. I, too, feel comfortable with the Oprah type of relationship.
However, I know who I am and love my life. My career goals are high and this is a large part of my life also.
Thank you for taking this public stance and talking about this much needed topic.
Hello Patti! I absolutely adore your show and believe in what you do 100%. You tell people what they need to hear, though they may not appreciate it or like it, to prepare them for true love. I think that blonde hussy with the shameless see-through dress who had the audacity to question what you do and your relationship should take a look at herself before she casts stones at you. I think you look fabulous and hope to someday be so fortunate. I thought you handled her in a respectable way and loved hearing that for some waiting to marry can be the right step. I've been dating my soulmate for the past year and a half and I know he's the one, but why should I rush this stage of my life? I'm enjoying life as it is now. I would totally work for you if it weren't L.A. so I'm praying you expand!
Hi Patti, I am a faithful watcher of the show. I learn a lot, on a weekly basis. I do have a question, though. I am a divorced mother of 3 girls. Have a pretty solid job, but I am in school for law. I have been in this on again off again relationship with a man whom I feel is my soul mate. We just never seemed to have the proper timing, and now that he has gone ove to fight the war and has a girlfreind, he has admitted that he was in love with two women, and that I was one of them. What should I do in this situation. Wait for him or move on? My kids deserve the life that we could provide, not money wise, just the love. This is weighing heavily in my mind, and your insight would be great.
Hey Patti...just an FYI; I saw the show yesterday with Josie on it the second time. You know, the one where she tries to insult you and your staff while "gatecrashing". You do know that she was on that other cable "game/reality" show Battle of the Bods. I can't remember the station; it's obvious that she is portraying herself this way on purpose in an attempt to get her own reality show. She was the same way on Battle of the Bods. She said that she was a model for Playboy or Penthouse and was treating the other truly beautiful women like doo doo. Again, it's obvious what she is trying to do. If I were you, I wouldn't let anything she says or does get under your skin. She wants a reaction. I would have her arrested for trespassing and/or stalking whenever that animal is near!!! - Kristina
I've watched your show from the beginning. I really like the concept but you really should help these guys more. Like the guy who peed in front of his date. OMG. The hair, the jewelry, the clothes, the mannerisms. These guys should be told from the get go you are in charge and there is a reason they are single. You need at least a week to cool these guys up before they meet anyone. Employ a clothes/lifestyle stylist and a hairstylist. I realize time is money but OMG who would want some of these guys no matter how much money they have.Ick. Good luck to you, Patti
Aloha Patti, My husband and I enjoy watching your show. The recent episode where you saw a psychic to check on your love life - if after 4 years you're not sure you want to marry someone or you're wondering if they're your soulmate - well, they're not. When you're with the right person, you know it. Been there, done that. Just thought I'd share. Aloha, Lois
Hi Patti! I am 22 years old and a size 14. How important is a girls weight to a guy? Will it prevent me from falling in love? I try dieting, but it doesn't work and I'm scared I will never meet a man that will love me because of it!
What do you think?? Thank you!! and ps. I think you are SO awesome! I love your personality and thing you are absolutely amazing at what you do!!!!
I saw you on Tyra Banks' talk show and you read off a list of cities where men out number the women. Would you please send me that list? I'm thinking of a change and I'm would relocate.
Hi Patti, I have been in many bad abusive controlling relationships. I am from Australia and would love to send you some of my pics. I definately need help, I feel trapped, used and unappreciated. The guy I am currently with freaks if a guy even talks to me, then went and cheated with escorts because he says I cheated when I didn't. He gave them money while nickel and diming me and compleltely betrayed and dishonored any way he could. Please help!
Hi Patti! Love your show! I never miss an episode! Can you give me some advice? I'm 28 and I've been in a relationship for 1.5 years with a nice guy. My issue is that I've been pretty passive about the entire thing because I'm not in love with him. I like him and think he's a good person and a great boyfriend but no sparks. From the beginning he was the aggressor...approaching me, asking me out and referring to me as his girlfriend before actually asking me if I wanted to be. I just went along with it because he was nice company and other dates I'd been on before him were horrible. I never meant for this to even last this long but just kept going along with it through all the relationship milestones...holidays, meeting fam, anniversary, etc... i was content keeping things low-key and casual but he would keep pushing for taking the next step (like meeting fam or taking vacations together) to make things more serious even though he said he told me he didn't mind keeping things casual. I kept telling him that I wasn't interested in a serious relationship but didn't break up with him so we just continued on as a couple. After a while i thought maybe I'd fall for him since he can be really sweet (if a bit too sensitive and submissive) but it hasn't happened. He says he loves me though...so I feel a bit bad that he's in love and I'm not. I really really like him but its definitely not love. I feel that if I stay with him like I've been doing, I'd just be settling and not really be happy. Sometimes I think that if I end things, I may never meet my "mr. right" and will regret letting him go. My friends are dying to meet someone as good as my boyfriend so I keep wondering why I'm not head over heels for him since he's a great person and a good boyfriend... I just don't feel any passion for him...and I think I'm nuts for not being able to feel for him like he does for me. It's not like I want to get married...just don't think its for me; but I do want someone in my life...is it too much to ask for some physical attraction and passion included in the package? I want a good boyfriend, a great relationship...but I also don't want to be bored.
Hi Patti, Love your show, I love how you handle your clients!!! I have to echo maile's comment about you going to other states. Keep up the great work I will always be a fan.
Patti, I need help! I'm still in love with the guy who dumped me last year. We dated for two years and i can't seem to get over it regardless of what I do. How much longer until I can be happy again?!
Your an amazing person, doing what your doing for people. I am 20 years old. I'm fun, young and energetic. I'm ready to settle down, have a family and find a great guy who is successful, loves to travel and has the same goals in life. I live in Vancouver, BC and find it very hard to find a guy here or anywhere that wants the same things. I don't like to party but have friends over for dinner parties and go to gala's etc. A lot of my friends are twice my age and are all happily married. Do you have any advice on how to find someone who is looking for the same things? or Any suggestions for men.
Thanks For all the great advice and tips and look forward to hearing from you!
Hey, Patty I wanted to say a few things but first off let me say that I love your show. I am 33 and still single. I have been pretty content because I am a very independant woman, but I wanted to see if you could suggest the best places to meet men because I haven't had any luck with the recent set ups.
Patti honey...I'm an "old" broad - married 34 years - YIKES!! I say you go for what makes you totally happy, don't over think it - just go with the flow - I'm tellin' ya. If your man loves you, he'll love you unconditionally with your decision. A marriage "certificate" is a piece of paper - your love for each other will long last that paper. You're strong, intelligent, quick witted, and have a true love soul, and you're wise enough to know what's right for you. BTW, I just love your show - maybe expand to "older" peeps looking for companionship and love for their "golden" years....YIKES! Where's Dr. Nettles when you need him. Keep up the great work you do - and continue to enjoy your life - Janet
hi patti, love the show but, one thing that bothers me is that you mention penis tooo much. enough already we know they have them and they think with them. one more thing, i dont think you need so much hair. get a new style, your over due. sorry if i hurt your feelings, i do like your show.
Hi Patti, I think you are amazing at your ability to read people and I am having a hard time with my love life right now. I have found the guy, I believe, will always be The One for me. He and I agree on almost everything, he hits all the right chords with me and he says I do with him as well. The problem is he lives 12 hours away and while he says he wants the relationship and wants to be with me and wants the same things I can go weeks without hearing from him. In order for us to have a, what I call "real" relationship (as in actually seeing each other) He wants me to just give up everything where I live and move down with him with no real savings to live off of till I can find a job. He did offer to help me out financially until then. I am trying not to put all my eggs into this basket because of the communication issue which he admits he is HORRIBLE about. I have a 18 month old son to consider as well. While I wouldnt mind making the move I DO have to consider my son and would like the time to save up the money to cover my bills and such till I can get a job down there. It would take me about a year and a half because I am finishing school as well. Should I just up and go given my feelings or should I stick to and do the conservative good girl thing and risk losing him because he doesnt want to wait for us to be together?
I'm 20 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. Things were going great until he lost his job. For the past 6 months I find that I'm the only one who can do things now. If I ask him to do something he is always saying " I don't have money to do what you want" and it makes me feel guilty ,so I end up paying. He is not bothering to look for a job now and its hard for me to support my lifestyle and now him, its way to much stress. Should I leave him Or force a job on him?
Dear Patti, The people on your show are millionaires and pretty girls, these are the kind of people who could get a mate without somebodies help. The people who really need a TV show that one could learn something about courtship from, are losers and plain girls. Would it not be more useful to show how a loser could hook up with a girl who would have to settle for him? Perhaps 1 of the men on a show could be a millionaire, and the other one could be a loser.
I happened to catch your show several weeks ago, and thought it was fantastic, edgy, and creative. Reading a previous 'Comment', I also support the idea of selecting candidates from other states. Sometimes in a diverse country, we find our soul mates in other locales, especially when others assist and see what we often don't see ourselves.
Several of us in our late 40s and early 50s, who look and have a young life style, would love to be on your show... count me in!
Keep up the ongoing effort! It is so nice to be able to do something you really enjoy... and one can definitely see you have the passion for it.... now, please come to the Midwest. :-D
Where does a 24 year old girl go to meet nice men who are looking for a relationship? I don't have luck at bars and am sick of dating co-workers! Where do I go to find Mr. Right?
I have been watching your show on and off for a couple of months now, seems like you need to place a "placebo" date with some of these men htat contract your services. Seems like this would be able to allow you to really get a true gauge on what these YAHOO's are up to. It really does seem like most of these guys are just not serious and are wasting your time.
Well...when you want a stunt double....let me know.
Hi Patti,I love your show. I'm 27 and a single gal living in NY. How do I get on your show, I want love too!
Just wanted to say Alex Edelstein, even with his hair long, is just my type! I like long blond hair maybe because I grew up in SoCal at the beach. How do I get to be one of the lovely ladies you introduce your great available men to?
Dear Patti; I am a 39 year old divorced mother of two, I haven't dated in about 2 years having been burned badly. What would be the first step best for me? I have made dramatic changes in my life and it's time to find someone to light the fire again...any advice?
hey patti, i just started watching today April 18th...i was disappointed when i saw paul davis introduced as being from the university of michigan which is absolutely incorrect. paul davis was a crucial member of the michigan state spartan team that went to the final four in 2005...as a michigan state fan and huge paul davis fan i will no longer watch this program and would not recommend this show to any of my friends or colleagues. it also would not hurt you to be nicer to the people you are trying to set up with relationships.
Hello Patti, I'm not a millionaire and I've been watching your show for a while and I would love to come to LA and take Alanna out to dinner and get to know her better. She seems very interested. I would love to talk with you sometime.
Hello Patti, I love your show because it keeps my dreams alive. I am 45yrs. old, 5'6, 135, all natural hair, little make up and a million dollar smile. I have an eight year old son. I am single and have been for several years. I have peace in my life no drama but would love to date a potential husband. Oh, I never been married so I am a little set in my own way (willing to make changes for the right one). I would love to be on your shown when you have African American males in search of a independent women that would love to have a soul mate. Thanks keep up the great work.
the comment about men needind to be chivrolous. sometimes women just want to open there own car door, or door to the restaurant.
I have asked them to let me open the door for them and they still do it themselves.
Sorry is the person just not interested any more or what?
Hi Patti. My name is Tammy, and I love your show. I wish I lived out by you and you could help me find a husband. I, like you, am older, 47, and I have never been lucky in love. I attract men that want one night stands, or else they are married, never any one that want to get to know me. The older I get, the more I lose my confidence. I used to be the girl that when I walked in the room every man looked at me, now I walk in and no one notices me. I signed up for millionaire dating.com, but so far the few men that have contacted me are looking for sex for money. I am not a prostitute! What am I doing wrong? I do not drink so going out to a bar isnt for me. I am a single Mom, most men do not want someone else's child. Any advice?
Hi Patti I wanted to let you know that I love your show. I love the way you tell it like it is and you do not sugar coat anything. I watch your show faithfully and I try to take notes on how I should carry myself and how real mean should treat the women they say they care about. I am still single but I am not in a hurry to ruch into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. Again I just wanted to say I love your show and keep up the real talk.
I love your show and what you do, but if you are supposedly so successful 99% of the time, why have I not once see you get a match. I wish your show wasn't always re-runs, and I would love to actually see a match for a change.
Hey Patti, Love your show. Don't really watch reality shows except on Bravo. Caught your's by accident and was hooked. Love the way you put the guys in their place. When you tell them that their penis is talking... reminds me of an old joke but true....."Why do men give their penis a name?" Answer..."Because they don't want a complete stranger making their decisions for them." 'Nuf said... Aside from that would like to see (sometimes) a "normal" girl , without punched out puppies, in your mixer and see where she winds up, especially with the shy ones.
I'm a 19 year old college student and haven't had a boyfriend yet. I can't seem to attract any guys at my school and can't figure out what's up. I see the stereotype guys who want the 'easy' girl and that's just not me. I'm not a huge partier so I don't meet a majority of the guys. Any suggestions for finding a good guy at college?
Hey Patti, I am 24 year old and just finish getting my BA in college. I use to date a really bad man and I stopped dating 3 years ago to put my education first. Now that I’m finish with college how do I get back into the dating pool? I feel like I lost touch with the real world trying to do well in school. I never really meet a good man where do I meet them? P.S. I love the show… -Lisa
Dear Patti, This is not a question for you but more of a letter to commend you on how you handled the "crasher" on your last episode. I have seen that episode more than once, and each time, I was moved by your speech and thought that you handled yourself with a ladylike, respectful and professional demeanor (as you always do). I am a professional in my thirties, educated, independent and a budding business owner. I can't tell you how many times I get "judged" by society because I am not doing "the cookie cutter thing to do at my age......married ...kids..etc". Your speech spoke for all of us that share the same feeling that you have regarding marriage. I feel the same way...when the time is right..I will know what to do. Thank you for speaking MY feelings with class,credibility and dignity for the world to hear!! I LOVE what you do.....
Good Day Patti:-)
I am 31 years old and would love to be on your show! Can you please advise me how to go about it?
Love your show! I have a friend that is fabulous,confident,well-educated,open-minded,independent and beautiful. She is always looking for love, but cannot find "the one". She may be a bit cynical when it comes to true love....Perfect for your show, so how would I sign her up? Do you find these women or do they find you?
I love your show. I've gained great insight into the mail psyche from it. However, I've had a hard time finding my own soul mate. I've had 2 "starter" marriages and I have 2 kids living at home. Do you have any advice for single parents that will help in finding that one right person?
I adore your show and you are a real life saver for many.
I'm just emerging from a legal matter involving several major financial institutions that involved me as a witness/victim in a ("massive") financial crime. That is behind me and there is a very-very-extremely large ("landmark") sum of money in front of me after four years of drama, divorce and several relocations I'm having a hard time re-entering normal life. The stress changed me a bit and my job right now is to be patient and wait on the Settlement. I'm a blank slate with a lot of character pluses, reasonably good looking, sorta famous, east coaster who enjoyes the simple things. I need to reset my life 'right now'.
How do I reinvent myself in my new life?
Is there a basic 1,2,3 that I can go through to get the best presentation of the 'real me' to attract the right mate? It has been an isolating experience but I'm an incredibly interesting person with a wardrobe that probably sucks.
If you can make some basic recomendations I'd appreciate the help.
I'm a huge fan of your show and I love how willing you are to help people who find relationships difficult. My problem is not with finding a guy, but rather keeping a guy. I'm only 17 so I know I'm young but I have never been comfortable in relationships so whenever I get into one, i end it within 2 weeks. I'm always thinking of some reason to break it off, and I'm realizing that I'm hurting so many amazing guys who really care about me, but I can't help it. Am I just not cut out for relationships? Why do I always want out whenever I get into a perfectly fine, committed relationship? Is it just shock of something unknown or is there an underlying problem with me? Thanks for all your wisdom- Aubrey
I love how you have the uncanny ability to assess these men! I wish that you could figure men out so easily. I am 37 years old engaged to a man age 35 in Miami Beach, FL. We have been together almost 5 years and he asked me to marry him 1 1/2 years ago. I kept trying to move forward with wedding plans but some issues came up such as a death in the family and other things with his family and him. Now he says he is not ready to move forward and we just don't want the same things. I want to have a family and live a life together with a husband/friend. I am moving out and I have decided to give him the ring back. Am I doing the right thing? Should we consider trying to still date after I move out? Or should I try to meet someone who really wants the same things, or is a little bit older who may be ready for a marriage and life together?
My name is Glenn and I live in Florida.
I enjoy watching your show. Its very entertaining and funny.
The best part is when your clients just don't get it. With the fee they are paying you think your input would be taken more seriously.
Also I have no problem going bowling on a first date.
Dear Patti, I watch your show and have picked up some excellent pointers. I used to date a guy like the Doc (plastic surgeon) for the past 5 years and 4 months. He did tell me at the beginning, he was picky, I know now, I should've yielded and run the other way. Unfortunately, I didn't and now my heart is hurt and confused. He gives me mixed messages, and works a lot. I WILL NOT CALL HIM ANYMORE. I've loan this man a total of $1,650. He did pay me back. I became initmate with him after 5 months into the realationship. I caught him with a pair of women's biki underwear in September 2008 in his bathroom hanging in his showers to dry on one visit and I began to see him different afterwards. Did I mention, we have never been out to dinner, a cup of coffee, a ride in his Mezedes Benz. I want to know how do I let him go and think like a man, selffish, heartless AND NOT LOOK BACK?. We are not seeing each other any more AS OF YESTERDAY 04/18/09. I really appreciate any comment(s). Thanks in advance and for your time and show.
Hi Patti! My name is John. I live in New Jersey. I can't beleave that you are not married. I think that you are a very beautiful women. I'm 51 years old today. If you are interested in me please E/Mail me. I work for the Atlantic City Pres news paper. I m a mechanic. I'm very easy going and have a good sence of humor. I'm 5 feet 8inches tall and weigh about 180 pounds. My eyes are Hazel and I have Blond hair kind of going bald. I love Nascar, Golfing, Bowling,Movies, and Itilian Food I'm all Irish. I hope to hear from you soon.
I love watching your show, Patti. You're tough, a lot like my own personality ! As far as my own personal relationship(s), I find more joy in matchmaking and marrying off my friends/aqaintances. Wow, wouldn't I love to come out and work with you, gaining the experience of a master, towards helping future friends !