You don't need to be a millionaire to get relationship advice from Patti Stanger! Post your questions below and be sure to check back next week for a response from Patti!
Was it fun to have Sex Toy Dave back?
He’s always interesting and doesn’t disappoint! Come on, he’s everyone’s favorite metrosexual! He’s a pain, but there is a spot in my heart for him – I really do hope he grows up enough to have true love someday.
Why do so many people believe that finding love after 40 is impossible?
Because men in America tend to be ageists and think that women over 40 are no longer valuable. I hate it, I do – but that’s what I see. Have you watched the show?!
It's usually men who only want to date younger women, but are you seeing more and more women who only want to date younger men?
No. Especially because most women who are successful prefer richer men – and those men tend to be older. Yes, there are ‘cougars’ out there – but not as many as people believe there are.
What's your definition of the "Holy Grail?"
The holy grail of men - a CONFIDENT, SEXY HUNTER who truly loves women.
How do you weed out people who aren't truly serious about dating?
If a person is not consistent by checking, calling, texting, etc – they generally tend to not be into you.
I love your show. Being a single mom, there are many guys on your show that make good impressions. It's sad most of the woman are so superficial. The two men that made a big impression on me were Derrick (he was a possible recruit for Shauna), and Tony. Keep up the good work... Your awesome.
this message is for patti stanger. i just feel like she is on point with all she know and do. and i was wondering if she was hiring any new personnel to work with public relations
Hey Patti, I love the show and I'm really glad to see you've added a few women millionaires to your roster. I would love to see you set up a gay man millionaire or maybe a lesbian( Jackie Warner) would be good too.
you say never wait a year? YOUR NOT MARRIED! that's like a dietician being over weight! c mon patti, by the way i dont think you need to ride destin and rachael you don't all the time need a ring or marriage to be commited people do have financial problems sometimes paying your gas bill is more important then paying on a ring
Hi Patty, I just turned 38 and am back in the dating scene(recently divorced) for the first time basically since I was a teenager. I live in an area of predominantly older people, which only makes meeting someone that much harder. I'm intelligent, attractive, fit and active. Is it too much to ask to find the same in a similar age? I've tried a couple online services, but there hardly seems to be any decent men out there who care to make any effort. What I wanted to ask was this: When going out with someone for the first time, whether it be coffee or dinner or whatever, should I offer to pay for myself? I have thought this was polite, since at this point I really don't know much about his income, but maybe this is a turnoff? In these "modern" dating times, how do men in their mid 30's to mid 40's feel when the check comes? Thanks and I love the show! Jen
Just a little words of encouragement- Went to Florida State University and a year or so after graduation, i ran into this really cute guy that i had a class with while vacationing in Las Vegas. I always thought he was hot, but in college i had a boyfriend. So we totally partied it up while in Vegas. I still lived in Florida. He had moved out to California for the perfect dream job. We had fun both probably thinking "so we'll have a nice weekend.....what could this possibly lead to?" So we went home having exchanged, email addresses, phone numbers, and no expectations. Except that emails/phone calls and a family that stilll lived in FL started initial visits. Eventually he asked me to go out there. A very strange no rules/regulations relationship led us down the aisle just three years later. Followed all of Patti's rules. He may have moved back to FL for me, but he stayed at his parents' till there was a ring on my finger. We just celebrated our 4 year anniversary yesterday, have one beautiful and perfect son and are VIGOROUSLY trying for the next. And we're just soooo happy. Who would have thought????
Well this blog actually side tracked me. I had initially signed in to ask if anyone had the mental stability of the millionairess who came on and actually had the nerve to question Patti's style! Patty, you look a BILLION times better and younger than that other woman. Honestly, i am 29 and before you revealed your age online, i had you pegged at 34! This i swear to you!
Patti, you are so so so amazing. I absolutely love your show and I think you are so beautiful. You represent the type of woman I want to be, strong, intelligent, and gorgeous. I think your crew are so nice and all I keep telling my fiance is that I wish I had a mentor like you around here! You just put me in such a good mood, and make me feel like gods gift for just being a woman. Thank you for everything!
Hello Patty, I love your show & advice! My guy & I have dated for going on 4 yrs. We are in our 60's. We enjoy spending lots of time together.We both have our own homes & each live alone. I am nearing retirement. We have talked about moving in & marriage a little. I told him I am not the shack up kind of woman ,so he knows. We just had this conversation this week after all this time. We are both Grandparents & I think thats a cheap thing for our grandkids to see - anyway I deserve marriage! We have talked to relatives who work for IRS & they said NO! Why do you want to marry & pay all that taxes?? I don't give a damn about the taxes I care about RESPECT & MORALS more than money. We both have good jobs & he makes double my annual salary. Should I bring it up again or wait on him to bring it up or propose?? Thank you for being such a strong,courageous,confident,beautiful women for us to look up to! You have a great staff too! Your parents are adorable!! Regards & a big hug. Maria
Hey Patti- I would love to know if you are looking for more help with your agency?? I would love to become a part of your matchmaking company. I met my husband Jim 16 years ago though the Great Expectations dating service in Mountain View, Ca. 16 years ago. I truly believe in finding your right match and I did so through that agency. I love what you do and how straight forward you are with all of your clients. Keep up the great work!!
Patti,YOUR SHOW ROCKS!!!! You are the coolest, funniest, gal on T.V. I hate reality shows, but happen to see five minutes of the show last month, and have been hooked ever since! Can I be on your show? Not a millionaire, but maybe you could have a show for the average guy.
Keep up the great work
Patti, I hate to say it, but Shauna was right: your bangs aren't doing you any favors! My gf & I agree, that bangs are probably the right look for you as you say, but you need to trim them up so they are visibly separate from your eyebrows! And maybe pull your hair back in a ponytail for some variation: all we've seen so far [just started watching the show a week or two ago] is Patti DarkHelmet. Change it up!
Your comments about Shauna's botox overload were equally accurate, even tho' neither my gf or I could place what was strange about her at first until we caught the repeat of the show [having missed the 1st half the 1st time thru...] Still, you have to give her points for daring to come out to L.A. & mix it up in Lo-Cal So. Cal., where the money is plastic & the people are too!
Thank you so much for writing your book. I LOVE it! I have started the 30 day detox and although its my second try at cleaning out my closet persay I finally understand a little more as to why I've been having a dificult time waiting for the right guy to show up. I love your tough straight shot view points. We or I will speak for me I needed the kick in the butt to check myself and make a few changes. Thanks again Diva!!!
Hi Patty. I am a little older than you & have been widowed for 15 years now. I love your show & am glad to see that you demand good morals/standards & respect for women from your male clients. I think you are providing very valuable information to the young ladies of today by showing them how they should be treated by men. Also, don't lose the bangs. You look great the way you are, & that includes not looking like a toothpick. Keep up the good work!
You noted in a recent episode where to meet men with money -- courthouse, hospital, comic book stores. I'd like more advice on this topic, and I am sure many of your viewers would as well How do you meet at doctor, who is working, for example, at a hospital?
Patty - I don't think it was necessary to talk about what great Blow jobs you give. You have No Class and I, for one, will no longer watch your show. You are a Lousy matchmaker and I don't believe your 99% satisfaction record judging by what I see on the show.
Hi patti! my boyfriend and i are huge fans of your show. you are so dead on, it's spooky. but, i have a quesiton...
my boyfriend has been on tour for 6 weeks, which was hard but doable. we have been together for 5 months. however, i just found out he is going on a 4 week tour in europe, then an all summer US tour. he will be gone for several months...with little communication b/c the life of a tour mgr. is crAzy. anyways, do you have any suggestions? like, is it too pushy to talk about expectation levels while he is away?
Patti, I watch your show all the time. I love how you are very upfront and honest with the guys. You give them a good love kick in the butt, and I always clap when you do it. Just wish you could give some guys here in Ohio a good kick as well. Keep it up!!
I've been dating someone for nearly a year, have no clue where it's heading or what it is. At times he makes me feel like a million, the other times not so much. What shuld I do, ride the waves or get out of the waters?
Patti, in the intro to your show, you say that you have a 99% success rate, yet I have yet to see one match that has worked from the shows. Why no follow-up on couples as that would be the best PR??
Hi Patti- Love your show! I just watched the episode with Jeff Koz and thought he was just adorable, and couldn't' stop thinking about him. I hope that you have found his soul mate. Honestly there have been some of your guys that I could care less about, but Jeff seemed so genuine and sincere - a truly likeable guy. I am 52, mother of two wonderful young men, divorced for 7 years and I am currently trying the dating scene. Which at this age, can really suck sometimes. I have learned a great deal from watching your show and have kept a positive and open mind, and learned confidence when it comes to dating especially at this point in my life. Keep doing what you're doing! You and and your staff are a joy to watch.
I think this show is the best. Patti tells it like it is. You can't be in more honest than Patti. I loved the one with the millionaire bitch Shauna from Mn. Isn't it interesting when people don't like to hear the truth. I hope Patti never changes. You go girl.
Hey Patti, just started watching ur show and it's great i like it i wish i can be apart of it cuz i like older sucessful woman i think it's sexy but im not no millionaire lol so sucks for me...i liked shana tht superficial B what u like to call her, i tihk she is wild and sexii and she needs a wild guy like my self specailly if she like young guys! like Ashton Kutcher... ur great i love ur personality..w/b
When are you going to come up to San Francisco and try it hear? It is vitually impossible to even date anybody in the bay area.
I think you would find it very challenging to try matchmaking in this city. I just turned 40 and have only dated 2 guys in the last 8 years in SF. I am looking at moving to another city since I feel it is not happening to me here. I would love to see a show based out of SF.
Hi Patti, i love you show.... Just wondering, i got divorced few years agos(married for 6 and im only 25 age old)... till cant put myself out there completely and dont know how to do it, in someway i think im scared to get hurt ago,,, how do i do it?
thanx for the attention to the present
I just watched season 2, episode 5, (I think) Chris, the millionair surfer......and age-ist! Well, let me just say.....I LOVE surfing and I would have loved the first date as surfing then dinner. He was right on one thing....unless you know the high you get riding a wave, you won't get it. and I also liked the fact he wasn't into material things. Very cool. But my God......35 is young! The gal he picked was awesome and smart and beautiful. He didn't call her again...what a jerk. He is a age-ist!!!!!! I will tell you, I am 53 and could hold my own with any 20-something. I surf, rock-climb and play the drums. I look younger then my age and guys in their 20's always ask me out. That being said, I would never discount anyone because of their age. Chris is cutting himself short because he is so narrow-minded. I just can't believe this......I am soooooooo mad! I just had to sound off.
Thank you! surfmamma
Hi Patti, Hola Patricia,
I love your program, I have a suggestion ... you should integrate your, Millonaire Latin. It would be interesting to do something like Latin Millionaire in Spanish.
Me encanta tu programa, tengo una sugerencia...deberias integrar a tu programa latinos y latinas Milllonarios. Seria interesante hacer algo como ¨Latin Millionaire¨ en español, para los latinos.
You're doing a fabulous job of sharing your ability to link people together, and to entertain the TV viewers; coupled with your teaching the "ageist" and silly boys, how to be men! Very enjoyable! Your patience is admired. Cheers! And warm wishes, Laurie-Beth
Patti, dearest: I want to exude your sexiness. How on earth do you walk in such stilettos without falling or wailing from pain at the end of the day? -Clumsy and clueless
Patti, You got it wrong about men not wanting woman over 40. I'm 50 years old and I still get my pick. Marriage, no I am not married right now and I don't care about that. The right one will come. I'm having fun! Patricia in Massachusetts
Patti - thanks for revealing your real age on the show. I was a little curious and had you pegged at 41 or 42 at the most - only because you had mentioned that you were over forty. You look fabulous and inspire those of us that are approaching 40.
hello Patti, I have been divorced for many years and just ended a long term relationship, I am looking to move out to aneheim calf durning the summer and want to know are the men any tuffer there then they are here in nyc, I fell in love with jeff you had him on last week and the girl was just so mean to him. I am 43 and have 3 kids 2 girls 21 and 19 and my son 15.. what are the men out there like when it comes to single moms and having that longterm relationship. I look forward to hearing from you and your staff, I think you all are amazing and I love the show. Thanks a hopeless romantic.. is there any out there
Laurence was so mean to that cute Samantha. What a jerk. Hope she finds her millionaire and that we see her again on the show.
Patti, I'm 28 years old and I loved Jeff the jazz musician! He made me laugh out loud the entire episode. If I was single I would definitely give you a call and to ask you to hook me up. He's so hot! Just dropping by to wish him luck in love and I just wanted to say I Love LOVE!! Keep up the good work! Post Script: Surfing is an awesome first date and money is just paper.
Hi Patti, I have been dating a really great guy for a month: Jewish, gorgeous who's a yacht captain. He works for mega millionaires who travel often so his life belongs to them. When we're together it's glorious! He's the perfect gentleman. When he's away on the yacht I seldom hear from him. Is dating a workaholic worth it?
Hi Patti! I love the show so much. I'm a business owner in pet care. Your approach with people has been really inspiring to me. You have a real way of saying exactly what you think and are so confident. People may not always like what you say but they respect it. Your attitude has really influenced me to be more confident.
I think if I decide to move in with my long distance boyfriend, he will propose.. Why do you think if you live with a man before marriage, he won't propose?? I understand the logic somewhat. But, we love eachother and want to be together. It seems like the natural choice in moving forward. He's a good man and not your typical jackass. We've talked for a year and dated exclusively for about 6 mos. I'll be 30 in July and he's 32. We're both successful in our fields. I think we've both been out there long enough and are ready to settle down. So why isn't it okay to move in before marriage??? Thanks!!
Hi Patti, I love your show! I just have to say that generally I think you are a great judge of character. However, for the first time I was so disappointed by the way that you treated Jimmy D from Chicago. He seems like a genuinely nice guy. When he called Cara nuts he was only saying out loud was everyone watching was already thinking. She a Scientologist! Need I say more? If that's not enough, she was so superficial and a major airhead. Please tell me your chewing him out was only staged for TV and not how you really feel...The girl has serious issues. Jimmy I love you!
Patti, I just wanted to say, when I seen Farrah Franklin, my heart stopped, because of the beautty, and then to hear her laugh, OMG, I just LOVE her laugh, my heart kicked in and ran the Kentucky Derby :). I have my own money, I do NOT need a woman to complete me, I want one to have a relationship and do things with, Love is the biggest thing I want in life, I just can't find it, a real woman that is honest, and real. And I have dated, but I have no luck with them. They are out to cheat, take my money, and I can't stand that. And you proberly don't read this blog, but God Blessed me with a positive attitude, good sense of humor, and honest. I am a retired US Army Soldier. Thank you Great Show!!! HOOAH!!!
Hi Patti! I adore you and your show, and really appreciate all the blunt but positive advice you give. After reading these last few blogs, I've decided to order your book with express shipping! Your advice is so down to earth. In this modern age, women really need to be instructed on how to act in relationships, and you provide that gift, so...thank you so much.
As for me, I am newly re-entering the dating scene after taking almost a year off to work on myself emotionally and career-wise. I hope your book has a chapter on "telephone protocol" because I no longer know how that works. For example, if a guy waits the usual two days to call me (after asking for my number), is that a sign of insecurity, or is it still considered "cool"? I'm 32 and so don't have as much patience for go-nowhere guys as I did in my 20's. I need your book!! Can't wait to see it.
Hi Patti. This is not a comment, a just have a question: What a women has to do to get in to Your millionaires club. P.S I love Your show!!!!
I live in Brazil and would like to know if it is possible to sign up with Millionaire Matchmaker from Brazil. Maybe this is not possible, but I need to know if a girl needs to be living in the US to participate.
I love the program.
I live in Brazil and would like to know if it is possible to sign up with Millionaire Matchmaker from Brazil. Maybe this is not possible, but I need to know if a girl needs to be living in the US to participate.
I love the program.
Dear Patti, I am married to a military man who is overseas, we try to talk everyday, but sometimes we run out of things to talk about. Do you have any tips? People do listen so sometimes can't be hot and heavy on the phone or web cam.
Hi, my name is Nicole from Puerto Rico, i married twice, aaa no I did not kill them,:) my comment is to Lance, God what's wrong with you??? And I told you that with respect, look you say one thing and them say another that contradict tha first, I see in you that you so selfish, inmature.
First of all, my friend how you said that you felt in love with the girl, only when you saw her, my friend i think that you dont know what you want for real, also maybe you act so fast and other thing that we the woman dont like, and this is that the men are calling constantly and are so posesive, no ,no you have to be cool, remenber in our society, the woman scare herself with that profile, cause remember that our newspaper are full of death woman by her boyfriend :( and how is that the girl cheat on you, God, maybe is time to stop writing, cause not finish, but for real Lance you need help from , read again, and again, your letter and you will see.
Well Patti, I like your program a lot, make me laugh and at the same time, we'll see , "the people and how think.
Thanks, and lot of hugs for all of you :)
My boyfriend and I go to the same college. This summer, which starts when we will have been together for about 5 months, he will be working about four hours away. We will see each other many weekends, but it won't be anything like our current situation, where we see each other for at least 30 minutes every day. How should we keep our young relationship healthy and help it keep growing?
P.S. I really really want to know how you keep your face and figure looking so fabulous! I wish you'd publish some beauty secrets!
I would like to ask if you could help me find the right person for me. I live in the south and am a farmer and I dont get too do a lot of traveling I have over a million in assets but I do not make a million also Iam a workaholic I love it. Iam not a bar hopper and living in a rural area its had to meet people. I was married for a number of years and I mis that one person that would make my life complete. I have no kids but would love to have one or two before its to late. Can you help get me on the right track.
Dear Patti, I just saw your show, in Athens, Greece. And to be honest, I felt that I really would like for you to be my Matchmaker. Is that possible ? And what does something like that cost. I'm a bit more mature than the girl in your show but I'm sure that there must be older millionaires out there who are looking for a woman that would really care for them. And to really know that the person next to them is there from the heart, respect and gratitude. I am a very giving person. And I know how to value and reward a person who knows my worth and appreciates what I am all about. In a nut shell, I haven't been too lucky on my own. Do you think you can help ? We can get into more detail if you wish to get in touch and if you think, a woman from the Mediterranean with an older, sophisticated wealthy man would make it interesting for you to take on this happening. Thanking you( more than you possibly know ) Yours sincerely, Helen Mattes.
I have been dating a wonderful man for the last three years. We had been 1000 miles apart for the first two years, as I was finalizing my divorce and custody. I fianlly moved from Indiana to Denver to be closer to him(a year ago after the divorce was done). However, it seems that being in the same city with him this last year has been very stressful and hard on us, and we dont seem to be as happy in the relationship as we were early on. He is very distant to me, doesn't talk to me much anymore and I feel like we're on two different planets, versus being minutes from each other....Now I'm confused... should I continue to try and make this work or forget it, and move on?