Ask Patti

Patti Stanger answers your questions about love and relationships.

on May 8, 2009


Hi Patti -
I recently had some minor surgery done. With the many follow up visits I've had I have become very fond of my doctor. He usually sticks around to talk to me about other things if he's not too busy. I want to find out if he's interested in me but not saying anything because of our doctor/patient relationship or if he is just a nice guy. How do I subtly let him know I'm interested?

Sounds like he has some GREATTTTTT bedside manner! This is a fine line question. What kind of surgery? How much time did you have to spend together? Are you sure he’s single? A close friend of mine had a very similar situation – it can get sticky. Get him out of the office into a social setting (like a party) where the two of you are just PEOPLE – not doctor/patient...then see if sparks fly.

Hi Patti!
I love your show. I watch it every week religiously. But I want to know more about YOU and YOUR relationships! How did you meet your boyfriend? What's the best date you've ever been on? Alex

Well, if you listened to my new radio show on XM Pink 22 and Mix 24 every Sunday at 3PM Pacific, you’d hear me talk all about him! My co-host, Destin (from the show) is always bringing him up! I love Andy – he has a heart of gold… a matchmaker wanted a job with me, I said if she finds me a man, she’s hired – Andy was the first date she set me up with.

Hi Patti,
I love your show and would like to ask you a question. I have been married for two years to a man that treats me well. The only problem is he has more female friends than I do. Do you think it's OK that he talks to them on the phone when he is at work and bored in the middle of the night because I am sleeping and he cannot talk to me?

A friend is a friend is a friend…. Does he have feminine energy? Do you know them? Do they serve a function besides friendship that you don’t? Honestly though, midnight calls with girls? What happened to late night TV or a book? Sounds fishy!