I recently had a first official date with a guy I've known since college. The whole situation started with me messaging him first for advice, and I've been passively aggressive, trying to get him to do most of the asking (which he has although I sometimes have to be the one to organize the actual meeting) However on the date he did it all. But, it went OK - ended early and was fairly awkward. I'd like to see him a 2nd time, but don't want to set it up if it is still his responsibility - yet don't want to not set it up if the girl is supposed to do more after the first date... Advice?

Hi Patti!
I love your show!!! I have been in a relationship for 8 months now, and even though I am still very young, I am wondering if he is the one for me? He is Sagittarius and I am Gemini, are we a good match? I know you say that you should know between 6 months to a year. So that is about now! Please help me make my head a little more clear!
xoxox

Luv, luv, luv your show. Luv your strightforwardness when dealing with some "full of themself"' millionaires. Your "New York" style brings me back to my roots. Keep those millionaires in check.
Now a little self indulgence. Where oh where did you get those gorgeous purple glasses. I need them. Please please share. I remain a loyal follower

Hi Patti
I absolutely love your eyeglasses you wear on the show... Can you tell me the brand they are -- I really want to have them.... >>> lOVE YOUR show>...
Thanks
Laura

I have just recently started watching your show and really like it. You give great advise and best thing is you are a straight shooter. I would love to join your staff because I have always been the person people have come to and I actually enjoy helping others. On my personal is I have been happily married last 10 years and we have 3 awesome young children. I have a Bachelors in business and own a real estate company and DJ company specializing in high end weddings and corporate events. I really would love to for you and feel would be a great asset to you, please give me a shot. Thanks. Darryl

Hi Patti,
Good morning Patti from Vancouver Canada! I love your show so much that my sons and I are watching every time your show is on T.V. I'm single mom with 2 sons @ the age of 17 & 19 years old. I was wondering when would you've a chance to come to Canada to do your show(s) here? I'd love to be 1 of your extras. I'm Vietnamese, was born in Saigon City. I'm 42 years average height of 5'4" & 117 pounds. I go to the gym 5 days per week and I do light weight lifting. I was adopted by an ambassador of Canada in the Malaysia refugee camp in 1982. I had travel with my adopted mom Susan Lee Brown around the world about 40 countries. I'm a para legal but I've an agency that I do extras work for as well. During my spare time I do charity work. Thank you so kindly for reading my comment. Have a lovely day Patti!

Hi Patti,

I'm 18 years old and I watch your show all the time. I'm concerned about my mother. A daughter shouldn't be involved in her mother's love life but because of the men she chooses me and my older sister tend to pay the price for it. My mother has no problem in getting into relationships but she meets these men online and they always turn out wrong for her.

About two years ago she met a man that is 17 years younger than her. this man made our lives miserable and my mom doesn't seem to see that he's not right for her. He depends on my mom too much, put too much responsibility into taking care of his child. He would smoke and drink on purpose because he is to lazy to pick up his son from the bus stop and makes my mom go pick him up. He stole from my child support money. Constantly asking money for unnecessary things when sometimes we have no food.

I recently moved in with my dad in Mississippi to better myself and go to college. My mom says that she is single and living in a one bedroom apartment alone but every time I call her he's always there. I didn't put to much attention to it until I called her at midnight and he was there.

Do you think she lying and went back with this man ?

Karina.

You have a lot of gay man. Where are the women Patti?
I am a 32 yr old, 5’0 slim build, very metaphysical, feminine lesbian that only does assertive dominate to butch, non-smokers. I am originally from Los Angeles CA. lived in Texas for a long time but Iv lived in Hollywood FL for 6 years now to but I really want to travel the world! So yes of cores I will go anywhere to meet you and/or them! How can I contact you to tell you more? And send pics so you can contact me if you ever have someone for me? Or become one of your girls? I Love your show! I hope to hear from you really soon! Thank You!

Patti. I am over 70ty years old but look around 50ty or so. i am ed. and artist, and use to work in the film industry. i have published a few poems,articles and short stories. i love the arts, and am becoming mostly an organic raw foodie person. istill do eat raw cheese goat and other organic cooked items.like rice,eggs and some soups too.
Anyhow i am fearful there is no hope for a woman my ages toe very find anyone. Older peoplearen't popular on TV.So what do you suggest for woman like me to do? i am not religious,,am not into the IT kinda world. I am truely a hippy artist,who is down to eart,very real,direct and out ogin.
Yes i am AN OLDER WOMA AND WELL NOONE IS INTERESTED IN OLDER WOMA.
I AM AT A LOSE AS THE WHERE TO TURN TO FIND SOME WHO IS SAY A LIBRA, or and ARIES or someone i get on well with. someone into the entertainment world,the art,music,writing world. i'd like to find someone any age who is healthy,smart,thoughtful,and like to do creative things together.
Is it hopeless for me to think i might meet someone who would want me I could like.
I am a liberal,not religious,don't drink booze,or animals.
I have don't lots in my life, but now i'd like to be with someone who likes to write together,make films,or travel via a boat or a smaller plane and really just be a team doing creative things as real friends..is it just to unreal and too late for someone like me to find anyone who would want an older woman,a bit non mainstream in my taste and style.i tend to like attractive tall skinny nerds and geeks,wo are bright,funny and super gifted.. Let me know janebond007

DESPERATE;Y SEEKING MARC THE REALTOR

Patti:

I would never do this, nor even consider same, but I was watching your show today, Sunday, February 6th, and saw a man I would kill or die to meet. His name was Marc, was in real estate, and that silly, airhead cougar left him standing outside by the limo. Is she on drugs? He's hot, very polite and seemingly a gentleman; those are hard to find and are few and far between. And she's not all that. Whilst I don't make a million a year, I am also in real estate and do make 6 figures, not that that is important but I am having a difficult time meeting men who make at least somewhat close to what I do. I own my own business, am 46 but am told I look in my mid-30's, and have not intimately dated anyone in over a year and a half; I have high standards, morals and ethics. Anyway you can put him in touch with me; LOL? I live in Texas but due to the nature of my business, I can travel and work from anywhere excepting one week a month. I know this is a long shot but thought it worth the try He was worth the try. Cheers!

I just watched the episode with Beth and Ray. He is so awesome, why did you subject him to Beth? O yeah, she has money!
I don't have a lot of money but I know a quality human being when I see one. Ray was a kind, polite, generous man and I would (like you said Patti) give all I have to experience true romantic love before I die.
I am a retired professional woman living in IDAHO lol and have not met a man in the same character as Ray.
I am heavy into community and paying forward with my time and talents rather than cash. Please find Ray a great woman...someone like me!

Love your show Patti, any chance you can give us less than millionaires a chance to find love...I need help bad and live in Connecticut, and the singles scene for 49 females is so so bleak and i hear it from alot of women in this state. I figured i'd put it out there, or even if you can tell me where you think all the single men are...and i'm talking good ones!

Love the show & your honesty! You are like a female Simon on Idol! I am 47 yrs old. Divorced after 26 years of marriage. Where do I sart? I live inBrielle, NJ. Hook me up!

HI Patty I LOVE LOVE LOVE your show. Me and my sister enjoy watching it every time new episode comes on. But we were wondering why you haven't you matched any African American millionaires with anybody

Love your show....your a natural and a breath of fresh air! Thank you for the entertainment. Taking your advice seriously...maybe I can do a better job looking for the second man in my life. Thank you!

Patty, I love you and I have a question.

I am a little over 50, attractive, highly educated, have a great personality, would there be a market for a appropiate match for me in your group of clients.

Patti,
Great show, love it. I never thought that I'd get hooked on it, but you give spoled people what the need to hear.
I just want to know what's wrong with the ladies and Charlie. Are they nuts for passing on him??
I'm your age, never married and would probably give my right hand for a Charlie.
He's right around my age and seems like a stable and nice man with older kids.
I'm currently in college after a layoff at work and in the process of stating my own business.
Send him my way!
Julie

DEAR PATTI
i LOVE YOUR SHOW i WANT TO KNOW HOW CAN i MEET MY MR RIGHT?

Hi Patti,
I am 32 years old. Most people guess I'm about 22. I am a college grad, have a successful career but also flip homes on the side along with dancing for the Utah Jazz NBA team.
I am 5'4" and weigh 103. I have green/blue eyes, brown hair, and people tell me that I am beautiful. I can send you pics if you like, or meet for an interview. I am open to moving out of Utah. I lived in LA for 2 years and danced professionally out there. I would like to end up in CA or NYC. I am not into any sort of fame. In fact, I'd rather not be video'd on your show. I am just looking for a mature guy between 28-35, who is looking for a relationship. Most men here in Utah have commitment issues, and are unable to graduate from their college days, get a career, and settle down. There is a serious problem here where men pretend they want a relaionship, but in fact, end up using pretty girls instead. I'm tired of it. I feel like I am a catch with everything going for me, and I deserve a man that appreciates that and is done playing around. How can I apply to be set up? I can send you all the pictures you want. I am a homeowner, successful, driven, looooove to travel, and looking for a handsome guy that knows how to treat a woman and can make me laugh. Please let me know how I can apply to be set up. I need to date a Christian. I am LDS but am open to other Christian religions. I do not drink or smoke and prefer a guy that isn't into the club/party scene or cares to smoke and drink.
Please let me know how I can apply. I'd be more than happy to fly to NYC or LA. I plan on moving to LA area within the next year or so. I promise you will want to set me up with your highest quality guy that wants a ten.
Thanks,
Keri Holland
hollandkeri@gmail.com

Hello Patty!
I have an issue i hope you can help me with. I am 31yrs old single mom and i am seeing a 28yrs old gentleman. We have only been talking to each other for about 4months and have seen each other 3tymes but we mostly text each other. He has already asked me to marry him and also he wants me to give him a kid. He said that he loved me so much that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I don't know him that well. I haven't met his family and anyone close to him. Does this relationship sound fishy? I have already tried to breakup with him 3 times but did not work. He said that i was suppose to spend the rest of my life with him and i was the one for him. Can you advice me on what to do in this case.

Hey Patti..first I was you for Halloween and I was cute! I am 40, mother of 2, look about 35, go to the gym 4 times a week, am a professional in IT and am fun, catering to my man and spontaneous. I can't take anymore 30 year old guys or even 34 or 35 for that matter. I want a mature, honest, caring, fun, loyal and most of humerous man that knows what he wants and isn't a player. I would move in a second if that ever happened. I have long black hair, fire green eyes and a witty and sneaky way of joking around. Only issue-I live in Richmond Virginia! Ugh! I don't want to date George Washington. Help me! ~Rachel

Hi Patti,
I have two good looking grown children both of need of someone special to be in their lives and me after 34 years (divorced due to infidelity). How about finding someone for the Old Mom.

Love the show patty, and i really love all of your no nonsense rules. dont you find it ironic that most of the men who come to you for help say that they are looking for someone to settle down with, an honest, down to earth woman, but often tend to still pick the shallow, young bimbos and then get mad when they dont work out for them. Its as if they want to make these women into something they are not..
Men are so stupid, thats why they are easily taken advantage of. Im glad that you are there to knock some sense into their heads. You cant find a woman who is readly to settle down, level headed and down to earth, by picking up young party girls. When will men ever learn? LOL!!

Hi Patti,

Can you start a new branch of Millionaire Matchmaker? Can you do one to find me a gay hubby? I'm a cruise line exec working onboard 5 star luxury ships that sail the World. I've seen almost all of this planet and during all that time I've been seeing it with friends...it would be so nice to finally see some of the World with a hubby....or settle down and have some kids! So there you have it...I want to be the first gay man that you help find a millionaire match!! Up for the challenge?

HI patti!!

I love your show and wanted some advice. I had been dating my boyfriend for over 1 year and 8 months. We hit a a bump in our relationship and I pushed him to commit more to me.. He didn't like that so much so he broke up with me. He said he wants to start over in our relationship as best friends first then see were that takes us. He still talks to me everyday and tells me he loves me. Am I being foolish or is there a chance we will be back together?

Hi Patti,

I love your show, and I would also love to have you play cupid for me. I am single, 49 years old, attractive, no children, and I am ready for a committed relationship. How do I get a hold of you? Thank you very much. Namaste.

Try out for American Idol... Your the only one that can replace Simon! TRust me, just do it!

Hi Patty ...
Love your show!! How can I be one of your girls? I want to meet a great guy, what I have been doing isn't working.
I need help.
How do I contact you with my picture and information?
Thanks
T

Dear Patti,
I have a unique problem. I am in my low 60's and look 50, without plastic surgery. I am more comfortable with younger men, but if I lie about my age on an online single site, and the truth comes out, of course, it doesn't last. I am a bit of a paradox, in that I have a high IQ..140, never had children, have been divorced from 2 wealthy men, with whom I traveled the World, which makes me Worldly, but money isn't the most important thing to me. I just don't seem to fit in anywhere, and people tell me that I am very pretty. I have had men actually write and say "don't you know that men feel intimidated by women who are smart and pretty?"
So, here I am, smart, pretty, Worldly, but have been single for 9
years. My last husband, a physicist and research scientist, went through all of my money, and even though he said he was single, I found he had another wife. I would love to be in a relationship with an intelligent guy who has good values. I have all but given up on trying to find anyone. Any suggestions?

Thank you,

Melinda
I love your show, because you are so "up front", and obviously a good judge of people. I also like your no sex too soon rule. Not many guys want to follow that rule, however, so I just move on.

Hello Gorgeous...
I am a 28 year old gay male, good looking, and tall (about 6'3), blond... and I have never had a "real" boyfriend. My best quality is the ability to have strangers open up to me and like me. People tend to draw themselves to me but at the time seem less interested. My worst quality is I can be somewhat selective and really shy around new people. Patty, gorgeous, Patty my love.... How do I fix this?

On a side note... I loved your book!!!!

Thanks,
Cory

hi Patti,
just a quick question! What does F.D.A. stand for? you use it a lot on the show! just wondering?????

Hi Patti,
I am eighteen years old and I just graduated highschool. Me and my mother watch your show together all the time. We both love it and I'm going to miss watching it with her next year because I'll be moving out for college.It kills me that she is a young looking 41 year old, thin, and beautiful mom that is going to be practicly living alone. Of course my little 12 year old brother will be here but I really want her to find someone. She has been divorced for almost five years now to her highschool sweetheart (my father) who she used to consider her 'soulmate' which I know is not the case. They were nothing close to soulmates I saw it more of just an immature lust-type relationship. It was powerful but it was not love. They have been divorced 2 times, had legal seperations and he was constantly moving in and out of the house between fights (soulmates don't do that). This happened in the amount of 17ish years they were married. My childhood is filled with her tears that my father enjoyed watching her shed. After the divorce she completely shut down.. still she doesn't enjoy doing normal motherly-like things, like planting the garden and cooking. At our old house these things were like her prize possesions. She is very shy and has no self confidence because my father has torn her down so much by telling her she will never find someone else. Even though it took a lot of time I truly think she is over my father... or as over as she will get. She has tried dating a couple of people before she was really over him .. nobody lasted for long though. However she continues to think she will die alone... She tells me she will never love someone the way she loves him. With that said I try to help her realize you never get over your first love, that part is normal. But people do fall in love again. I just need your advise on what to do. I'm completely lost on how to make this situation better. Thank you for your time. I'm looking forward for your resopnse and upcoming shows!

Hey Patti! Love The Show!

I need some good advice. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and I feel like I've fallen into the friend zone. When I went to visit him for his birthday it was mostly us hanging out with his friends. It was fun and all, but I barely talked to him and since I do not really know his friends to well I did a lot of standing around and he would always leave me alone. Is it too much to ask for a random hug or peck on the cheek in a while just to see how I'm doing, or for him to even treat me like his girlfriend around other people. I just need to know if I'm wasting my time waiting for him to change and listening to his excuses.

Hi, Patty,

I love your show. I love the way that you are a straight shooter and dont beat around the bush.

What I am writing about is wondering if you would be interested in expanding your staff here in NYC.

Please advise.

Hey Patti- I have one question and that is, where is Michael Persall and is he still single? He is SUPER cute and I love his shy/timid personality. He seems so genuine and down to earth..what is his story?! Thanks so much, looooove the show!
-LU

Dear Patti,
I do not know what I should do? Every summer when we go to rent a shore house I see the guy (Dominic) I first kissed. Which is crazy. He is not wealthy but he has a rocking surfer's body. When ever I talk to him he always tells me still to this day how much he likes me and how I am beautiful. I just figured it was in the past but this has gone on forever. I still think he has the most beautiful big blue eyes. Truthfully I would not mind stealing another kiss.
Trissy

Dear Patti,
are there very many wealthy women out there that are looking for true love ? Are there many that are interested in us non-millionaire men ?
Sincerely,
Nishan

Patti, how do you go about casting for females to get matched with your millionaires? I would love to be considered. I'm in Boca Raton, FL. I love how you say exactly what you're thinking. I respect that! :) Thanks!

HI! Patty

Questions: Are all the dater real millioners?

Are women and guys are more interested in the money and not relationship?

How many relationships are still going on after the show?

Chelsea is very attractive.

Hi Patti I really like your show. I have a question for you. I know this girl but she is in a relationship with this guy but he ask her that he wants to see other people and I know that he cheats on her. I have been talking to her for time to time I mean chatting online. how can I ask her on a date. The problem is that she is scare of living hime even after knowing what he is doing. she is in college up at UC.Davis.What can I do.

Hi Patti you have amazing advice and I love watching your show. It is very hard for me to find men that respect me as most of them see me as a sex object. I love fashion, I love designers, I love makeup and all of that. I like to emphasize what I have but I do not dress trashy. (well thats what my girlfriends say) However underneat all of that I am a very down-to-earth old fashion girl, very smart pursing a PHD degree and I love volunteering and helping my community. Most men do not see me that way, they think I am shallow and all I do everyday is shop. And I am tired of the fact that everytime I meet a men they do not want to get to know me but rather want to jump into me... if you ask me they are the shallow ones. I just want to know what I can do to change this image.

Hello Patti,

Can you hook me up with Ayinde...I'm from the east coast.

Hi Patti:

I LOVE your show and i think you are just plain fabulous!! I know you have a big thing for teeth, I do too and just started dating a guy about a month ago, who is very goo-looking, great job, very smart, and everything about him is perfect, but he has crooked teeth.
At first, I had a lot of trouble ignoring it and now I think it's not a deal breaker, but if he ever meets my family that is the first thing they will mention. Should I hint options to him like invisa-line? how would I go about doing this??? I need your help! I don't want to stop dating him because of his teeth, but its a big deal to me!!
Again, I have only been seeing him for a little over a month, so I don't know if its too early to approach a subject like this.
Thank you!!

Pattie,what do you have againest redheads?We are great

Hi Patti:

I must say your show has converted me - I was such a huge proponent of not watching reality TV. But OMG, I have seroconverted! I can't believe it took me this long to give this show a chance. I really enjoy how you manage the cast and from the shows I have seen, you are spot on with your selections. After watching the Aindye (sp) and Will episode, I wanted to tell you how mesmerized I was by Naquisha - wow!

I just have one question, why don't you do a thousandaire match maker? I am sure you must get that question - or a variation to it a million times.

Hi patty I'm Serafin,R I just wante to ask you a small question? I been in love with this guy since 8grade.he knows that I like him alot I'm obsses with him.he's now 19years and I'm 20 years old.I'm gay and he's not but he look at me alot when I see him he even kind stuck me when I just to see him and I would do the same to but not to often hehehe so that's mean he likes me and he's gay????
.I love your show I watch them every day I never miss your shows. =]

Hello Patti,

I love your show and I am a full mexican , im 27 yrs old living in the US, I graduated from a US college now Im working and living in AZ. I have a question for you I dated this guy for more than a year and I moved to Mexico for a while and we broke up, we have seen each other once i n a while because I call and hes there and we have agreat time when we are together, but when we talked about a relationship he says is not ready and need time for his own, he wants to be free, hes 34 yrs old, turning 35 in a few days, i said ill invite u to breakfast on your bday w no pressure he said yes? my friends said dont go cause ure going to be hurt, what do you think?

actually I don't have a comment have a well question and a little bit of advice. I'm a very Educated women have my own money ,but looking for a man who has their own as well not looking for a man to support but a man who looks for a women of a same basis. I'm long blonde dark blue eyes 5'4 very barbie like which I hate the simularities of but that's how most men see me , I have a brain andhave the looks but need someone who is looking for their exact what would you prefer for a women like me if you need a picture please ask I would not mind sending one

Patti, I need to ask you a huge favor for a huge problem in my relationship but I cannot go through with this in public. Please let me know by e-mail how can I reach you by e-mail. I am into a serious trouble with my relationship thousands of miles away from your country and I am desperate for help (advice and action)

please contact me