Ask Patti

Patti Stanger answers your questions about love and relationships.

on May 8, 2009

Quick question.
I've been currently dating my b/f for about 5 months now. He suddenly had an out burst where he started screaming at me due to all the stress he's been under. Although we've discussed how to solve this problem and have him handle it correctly, I'm still startled by what happened. Lately any loud noise triggers my mind into believing he's freaking out again. Basically my mind's making bad associations and is believing everything he does is an out lash of some kind. I'm thinking about leaving, but at the same time it's not fair to just leave if he's going to work at it (and has). What do you think?

I think it goes deeper than just that. If you’re thinking about leaving, there’s usually a good reason for it.

Hey Patti,
I went on a first date with a guy, and it wasn't bad, but it wasn't great either. I get the feeling he'll call for a second date...should I take it, or not waste my time?

Men sometimes need to be driven twice around the block before you decide to take him off the lot. If you’re thinking about a second date this much – you should probably do it.