hi patti my question to you , is my girlfriend is a flight attendent & i see her maybe twice a month , (only dating for 2mths ) and enjoy being with , but when we talk on the phone its the conversations arent long , sometimes i fill that she gets short with me , i hate talking on the phone all the time , dont understand when she is home for a aday or two why she does " nt want to see me if only for an hour , and when i tell her how i fill about her i get no response in return, i think she likes me , the times i do get to see her she always has her 1yr old granddaugther over, only went out on 2 dates , just want to be with her for the long haul and hope that she fills the same way , what can i do to respark are relationship?

Hi Patti,

My girlfriend is obsessed with your books and has lately taking some direction from your advice to her herself. Here is where we are at. She and I have been together for almost 2 year. Had some ups and downs. She has since moved out and going to try and cleanse herself. After reading your book she has learned that if you have been dating a year or more and there is no ring on her finger, then she should consider other options. Well I do want to put a ring on her finger in the worst way, they only problem is she has made it clear that she wants no less then a 5 carat center stone ring. Well, I only make about 175k a year, had some financial troubles in 2010 and beginning for 2011. Paid for all of our living expenses this past year...ect. So me being able to afford a 5 carat ring has not been possible. if she would settle for say a smaller 3 carat ring and love it for the meaning of the commitment, then she would have had one by now. I tell her she is crazy for making such a demand and so does her family.
She is a great girl, I love her to death, but what should I do? She hangs on anything you say so, if you could send some advice it would be appreciated. I am afraid that we may split if I can't purpose!

Thanks and I too love your show.

Dear Patti,
I am 43 yrs young! I am a huge fan of your show of course, anyone who isn't, well , is an idiot. I am curious to know what ever happened to Dave? The beautiful man that (the bitch Shawnna wouldn't date). I am a very interested divorcee from ARKANSAS so please let me know what ever happened to that beautiful man!!!!

Thanks so much,

Diane KUhlman

Hi Patti,
Great show! Please let me know when you are in need of an attractive and successful 50+ exceptional lady seeking a 60+ exceptional gentleman located close to Philadelphia PA. Thanks for your consideration.

Regards,

Catherine

Hi Patty , I have been dateing this man since april, both of our jobs are very important, well its how we both make a living, he carries a CDL, I carry a Liquor Licence and a Gameing Licence...for new years he is having a party for his 15 year old daughter and her friends , i would say about 10 to 15 kids, they are all under age, to me its very wrong in alot of ways moraly and with my job and even his.. to make a long story short , i will not be there and i do know this will end our relationship, but i am fine with that cause to me its just wrong, i was a young girl once but this is all so wrong to me, he says its cause he knows she will be there with him drinking and she will do it anyways so this is his way of watching her.... but its just wrong and what about all the other kids? What if a child over doses on alcohol , to me its just crazy that a grown man is ok with this there is so much to loose , when do we as people at our age, im 41, or at any age as a adult start to take responsibility for our actions? This is the first relationship i have had in 6 years , i do love this man , but his actions are not that of a man , so my Happy New Year will be spent at my home alone, im a bit of a recluse , but i do feel in my heart this is the way i should go, and continue to go.........

Dear Patty:

My name is Ken Kistner and i have a problom when it comes to women and that is i have arthritis. I some times cry my self to sleep because i never had a girlfriend in the hole 45 years i have been on the face on the earth. I was hopeing if any body could help me you could. I do have to tell you thow i'am not a milionaire. my own family does'nt even help me my dad told me i would never get married or have a girlfriend. So please pleease help me.

Ken Kistner.

Hi,
Im 21 yrs old im a gemini and i've been going through hell with relationships. I have been cheated on both of my two last relationships. My ex cheated on me twice and i know i should walk away and I broke away from the relationship but I still love this guy. He completed me and we have soo much fun with him. Is it right that I stay away and their will be someone better in my life?? Please tell me there is really more fish in the sea.

Hey Patti,

I'm about to turn 20 years old in dec 23rd (im known for that girl with the fun, chirstmas spirit like,and well cute, btw i can be sexy but i tend to giggle about it) and i am still single. well im a virgin, roman catholic church. im 170lbs and trying to lose weight, and 5' 9 1/2", im panamanain(mom),american(dad), and Multi-racial with irish,whales, scottish,german(all dad side)/italian, french, native panamain idian( all mom side). was very athletic whe i was in high school, still outgoing, in college with blood,sweat,and tears(cause i have a learning disorder. live in Jacksonville, Fl.

i have done one thing. before i tell, i have a few questions to ask.

This one guy age 23(gemini). he studying culinary art. i met at a club when i was at my ex college(stetson) and we hungout and he kinda hot. like skinny liam hemsworth, well i knew it would not work out because i could tell he slept with girls in his hometown Daytona Beach. most of girls are kinda well sorry to juge but not really pretty more like trashy drunk sluts. which he think so too. anyways i done one thing with him i couldnot believe i done. I gave him blowjobs. (gave him 7 bjs in onenight in a row)(even put him to sleep once)( best kisser ever(makes your feel horny)) lol. i could tell im boring for him cause im a virgin. well i thought we could be bf and gf but now i dont want too. its sad to say this but i kinda see him as a sexy toy/bootycall.because we only now sexting once and while(when he is lonely and horny)

my question is i think i know the answer but hey your the match maker would it work out and could you define the relationship?

the other guy is 21(scorpio) and we met when i was my ex college(Stetson). he looks like ashton kutcher, Jake Gyllenhaal,and ryan reynolds mix.He really really hot. like you might really love him hot. he has a southern accent (north carolina) because he is from north carolina. very athletic. studying sports management. he was my coworker/boss. we work together allot.
we havent kissed or anything but sexskypeting. like sexing but with skype. plus we found out that he only lives 20 mins from me.
we was suppose to hangout out when i was at college there but now im home a a local college. we we do skype itall about sexting and he would be horny and having a beer. i dont know what to do. but he respect of me being a virgin.
i really like but again we barely talk, i try talking but it feel awakrd.

what could i do? could it work?

do you have any advice, tips? is it me or them? what could i do about me being a virgin with guys who are not? help me =)
wish you be like my mentor/wig girl for a week to help me. that would be so awesome.

Love,

Bonita P. :)

Hey Patti,
I was wondering if you had an official stie for dating advice? I am in need of some relationship and conversation tools. I am shy and I find it hard to choose topics to talk about. On one of your shows I realized that you told one of your millionaires to be more topical. I was wondering if you could add to what you said. Is their anymore advice you can offer me? on how to have interesting conversations? I love you! You are the greatest! Maybe you should start a site that shows the entire concept of having conversation the right way. I hope you and some of you quest experts on Millionaire Matchmaker can send me some advice.

Patti!

I watch the show and I have faith in what you do! Your the truth! I need to know why it is difficult for strong women to have relationships. I am 26 and have just started to realize that I am seeking out the wrong type of man. Basically im an alpha female and I used to always go for the alpha male. I see now its a conflict because of the power struggle. Why in order to be with that type of man it requires me to compromise who i am as an individual. Even when I attempt to put faith and effort in; things dissolve after the lies and decit surface. Meaning i learn about the gaggle of other broads waiting in the wings. I need a new approach.......any suggestions?

DEAR PATTI...THIS IS REGARDING MIKE P....I 'M NOT LOOKING TO APPEAR ON YOUR SHOW BUT WHEN I SAW MIKE P......... I WOULD JUST LOVE TO HAVE DINNER WITH HIM ,THERE WAS AN INSTANT ATTRACTION FOR ME AND THAT'S A RARETY I THINK WE HAVE A LOT IN COMMON I I'M ALSO INTO CLASSIC CARS I OWN A 1967 CAMARO AND 89' CADI IF HE LIKES ANIMALS IT WOULD BE A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN........MY CAREER IS IN CARDIOLOGY,I LIVE IN N.Y. BUT HAVE A HOME IN SAN DIEGO ALSO. I'M A GEMINI AND CONSIDERED ATTRACTIVE.....I'M VERY INDEPENDANT SO MOST GUY'S ARE INTIMADATED BY THAT...THE ONLY GUYS THAT ARE CONFIDENT ENOUGH TO APPROACH ME ARE MARRIED MEN SO I REALLY DON'T DATE MUCH ....I WOULD LOVE TO GET THE OPPORTUNITY TO AT LEAST HAVE DINNER WITH MIKE P I KNOW HE WOULD HAVE A GREAT TIME WITH ME .....I'VE NEVER EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT DOING SOMETHING LIKE THIS SOOOOO I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF I'M WRITING TO THE RIGHT PLACE SO IF BY CHANCE YOU DO RECEIVE THIS LETTER OR MAYBE SOMEONE COULD PASS IT ALONG TO PATTI I WOULD APPRECIATE IT...I JUST THOUGHT (MIKE WAS TRYING TO HARD BECAUSE HE WAS 2ND CHOICE AND WAS TRYING TO PUT 5 LBS OF POTATOES IN A 1 LB. BAG...PLEASE MAKE THIS HAPPEN IT WOULD BE A WELCOME HOLIDAY GIFT TO MEET A REAL MAN WHO IS AS SECURE WITH HIMSELF AS I AM, I'M SO TIRED OF THE LOSERS.......I 'M ALSO A GEMINI ,JEW/ ITALIAN , AND HAVE NO FAMILY LEFT AND HAVE SO MUCH LOVE TO GIVE TO THE RIGHT PERSON...........HAPPY HOLIDAY'S DEB

First, I love your show!! Also, Congrats on the weight loss. I am your age and you have insprired me.

I may be an alpha female who needs to get in touch with her beta side. I've been told I am "too intense" and that I may come across too strong and may be intimidating to some men. I am a Scorpio. Also I have been through some life situations which have made me stronger and probably more alpha. This isn't working in the dating arena.

I tend to mirror who I am with, if a man is open and friendly, I follow the lead. However, recently I had a date with a man who I thought I had a successful date with. We talked, laughed and the date lasted for 4 hours and ended with 2 kisses. He said he enjoyed the date but hasn't asked me for a second.

What do I need to do behaviorwise to become more of a beta female in dating?

When you were dating online, did you ever make the first contact or did you always wait for him to contact you?

Thank you.

I love your show! I watch it faithfully.

Hi Patti,
I am a freshman in college, and I have been dating my boyfriend Tanner, also a college freshman, for a year now. We have a lot of respect for each other, and we are both very happy. However, we disagree on one thing. Tanner thinks that if I spend time with people in a group setting, there should only be girls there. He thinks it is risky and inappropriate of me to hang out in groups where guys are present. Tanner says that he is concerned that if he is not there with me, they will attempt to cause rifts in our relationship or flirt with me. I would never take part in a flirtatious exchange with any guy, as I am in a committed relationship. Although I empathize with Tanner's apprehensions, I miss being able to go to large group dinners and cookouts with my old friends from high school, and I would love to get to hang out with my group of college friends as well. I only spend time around quality people, and I never go to parties where people drink excessively. I don't understand why he thinks that going to a dinner at Olive Garden, watching a movie, or going to the mall with a group of co-ed friends without him is so risky. Isn't that a normal part of college? Is he being insecure, or is he right to feel this way? I am open to your advice, and really would like to figure this out! thanks!

Hi Patti,
I am 36, single and more than anything want to find my Mr. Right. I haven't been in a real relationship in years. I work in an office space that is not only occupied by my company but by other companies as well. A new company moved in next door to mine and I've got eyes for a guy that works there. We have said hello in the hallway but nothing more. I've been the aggressor before and it's never quite worked even though guys say they love it when girls are confident enough to make the first move. Especially after reading your book I am more convinced than ever than that's just not true. I know that the company he works for is only going to be in that space temporarily possibly just a few months. Should I wait for him to hopefully one day pass me in the hallway and ask me for my number or should I make the first move? I don't see a ring on his finger but truthfully I don't know anything about him except for that he is very successful and wicked smart (I looked up his company and found a bio of him and what he does). To be the aggressor or not to be. That is the question.
Thanks!

Hi Patyy,

I love your show! I watch it faithfully.I wanted to go on there, butI reside in another state.Anyways, here are my situationS.

I am pretty in 40 to 50 range African American, hot body pretty body, good personality, suucessful middle income lady, no children, i never been married, I dont get allotof dates. I have one ex , we dated 1 or 2 years 8 going on 9 years ago. I call and tex constantky because annually (it seems ) he asks me out 3 times a years and we have AMAZING sex.But like most African American men he wont marry.

I want to marry, it hurts my feelings and i feel disrespected that he wont marry me or take me out. ATthe time it seems like movie like passion as far as not going out and I do not COMPLAIN until afterward.Even aisde from him it was sad in teens, 20s, 30s and now 4ish that I dont go out , get a cal , nothing from weekends, holidays. Its kind of funny because i have not disrespected myself all these years but I do with this man because oF the value and initimacy that I place on sex and linking it to marriage.I joined dating sites and I dont have the inteest to continue to log on and pursue anyone.The ex says I just have to wait, he masturbates allot and that he does not have anyone else. Im pretty sure he is not being honest.He is kinda of take him or leave it to me emotionally because the modern coy men play for woman to all. Imakes me loose interst and respect for him as a man.Never met his family and have no real conversations.

Still when he is gone no one really tries to talk to me.Oddly, so many people ( men not just my mom) say I can't belive you are not married you are so pretty ...your so beautiful...cute whatever.Or you really have it together ( i guess for ethnicity and mddle America). However, I want true wealth- prosperity HELD ONTO and complete fullness in every area.

( I PERSONALLY THINK SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH TH EEX PSYCHOLOGICALLY KINDA LIKE OPRAH WHERE IF YOU REALLY HAD IT ALL TOGETHER YOU COULD CONNECT WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEIGG ON EARTH AND THIS GUY CAN'T BECAUSE i ASSUME THERE ARE BACKGRAOUND OR UNDERLYING ISSUES AND OR A SUBCONSCIOUS PSYCHOLOGICAL DESIRE FOR MEN TO BE TALKED TO AND PARENETED DIFFERENTLY BETTER THAN HEIR MOMS DID.) idkn.

Finally Patty, what are good dating clothing pieces for woman in my age range and daily clothing pieces to get my social life to a healthy peak? Please give any other suggestions and advice on issues I presented here. I thank you sincerely.

Dear Patty,
Ive been married to my best friend for 6 years, we also have four kids. (Two from a previous marriage) The problem is that we are SO close now, there is no mystery or excitement left in our relationship.. The sex is still great, but half the time were laughing at eachother trying to be "sexy" during fourplay and honestly sometimes it feels like just sex between friends, emotionaly anyway. We have tried to spice things up, have a regular date night, role playing... But honestly we can read eachother like an open book, it takes the fun out of sex (emotionally) and I'm getting bored. Also, he doesnt chase me around and "hunt" me like he used to, he doesnt really care if we have sex or not anymore, as long as he gets it once a month he's fine. :( The lack of physical attention is starting to make me feel bad about myself, I have started to think more about other men wanting me. I talk to my husband about it but we really dont know what to do. Please help me. Is this just normally what happdens in a relationship?

Hi Patti
alwayz been a fan of yourz...i am a 22 year old female single and lesbian girl. I am coming to you for advice because I would love to get your advice...well my first love me and her were together for 2yrs but we've been broken up now since 2007 but she currently has a girlfriend of a few years that isn't making her happy...On and off whenever me and my first love spend time kickin it with each other there's some kind of spark that ignites the attraction like how we use to feel towards each other. My question to you is what should I do because I want a lasting relationship with a female that i can marry someday and have a family with but it seems anytime that I get a chance to my first love comes thru and starts acting strange and jealous even though she got a girlfriend. Sometimes I think about my first love but i'm not sure if I should be concerned or not the way she acts if its just jealousy or she still loves me or not.

So i know your rule of 1 year no ring time to go. but we are only 19 almost 20 would that still be the rule? just wandering because I'm ready to at least be engaged but he thinks because of our parents would not be happpy with it so early in life. But he has said he will ask after about 2 or so years when we are older. is this reasonable?

Hi Patti, i love your show. I am just wondering, do you only match model types with your millionaires? Do millionaires like full figured women? I am not a huge person, but i am not skinny and i would like to "catch a millionaire", is the only way to do this by losing 50 lbs? I am just wondering from your experience, i know that you don't know all the millionaire's preferences but this is just a pattern that i am noticing.

Patti-

I'm 31 year old female trying to find love in Texas. I have tried all kinds of online dating sites over the years and always run into the guy who contacts me first, but then says "what do you want to know? I'm an open book!" Am I being too difficult, or shouldn't he ask ME first, seeing as how he reached out to me?

KC

Hey Patti,
I friggin adore your show and love the way you handle your clients! Any way, I'm a gay boy of 20, but I actually just had a question regarding your methods. There is this trend of masculine energy and feminine energy that you base your matchings on, which I totally get, but how do you translate that for a gay/lesbian relationship? Does that still hold true? And what kind of advice would you have for a gay guy like me who tends to fall for the straight guy? Is that too much to ask?

Hi patti,
I love the show and watch it religiously. My question is what does it mean if my ex of over a year starts contacting me after no contact. He began just talking like how are you and blah blah then it started to get sexual. He has a girlfriend so what does this mean. Please help should i continue talking or let them go unanswered???

Hi Patti, I love your show. I need your help, I met Olu my current boyfriend online in May of this yr, We've never met, he is an architect working with a company in African, He is based in the US. Two weeks into the communication via yahoo and telephone he started asking me for money to keep up in Africa, He promise to pay me back when he gets back which I have been doing. I've sent him over Three thousand dollars. He told me that he is in love with me and we talk everyday via yahoo and telephone....I recently asked when he's coming back to the states, he said in 3weeks but he still need more money to finalize his job over there.....should I send him the money? will he pay me back like he promised when he gets back?....pls help.

Hi Patti have you ever found love for any HIV positive men or women ? Would you even consider matching HIV positive men and women ? I definitely think this would be the ultimate challenge for you and your staff. Of course due to HIPPA laws confidentiality would be a must..............

Patti,

How long is too long to wait for your guy to get serious, and start becoming financially responsible? I don't want to be the nagging girlfriend, but I'm 25 in Graduate School busting my ass, working double shifts...doing what I have to do... While he works, but he never pays bills on time, shorts me for rent money here and there, and has no drive or passion... its been a year is it time to move on to Greener pastures, or let him mature and get it together before I say pack your s--t?

Your opinion means a lot!
Kristy from Jersey

hi patti, love your show - i am curious as to how you vet the women who appear on the show to meet the millionaire men - on one episode you said only the best women, but then i saw MOJO on your show - she is what we call a reality whore and pops up all over the place, trying to get as much tv exposure as possible...joe millionaire was the first one, and she actually even appeared on Jerry springer's Baggage - hardly what one would call a class act!

patti,
i think im good luck chuck. ive dated a few guys and theyre all either engaged or married, other than my most recent ex. i feel like no matter how hard i try like im never good enough. my latest relationship was a year and we broke it off because we were fighting and his mother was putting too much stress on both of us. i feel like theres something im doing worng. i am old fashioned, but i do agree with women working. i think it adds character and self respect. i dont wanna be single and lonely when im 30. but i also just dont wanna settle down for just anyone. if you could give me a few pointers i would greatly appreciate it!
thanks you!

First of all, I am totally lost. Every relationship in my life has turned into disaster. I am probably old enough to be your mother but I would just like to get your opinion. I am 60 years old. I have been married 3 times. I have 4 grown children. My longest marriage was 14 years. I have been single since 1996. It has been so long for me that it is becoming obvious to me that I will be spending the rest of my life alone. I am not into money so I am not wanting to meet a rich man but I would like to meet someone who could be my best friend as well as a forever love. I have trust issues because of my past. I have tried dating sites with no luck. I could tell you more about me but wondered what you would have to say after you read my comment.
Thank You
Sandy

Hi, patti
... do you think guys are turned off by the girls that have not been in relationships before or are sexually in-experienced... I'm 23 and never been in a relationship let alone on a date or kissed for that matter...to make matters worse I'm really shy and keep dreaming up my Mr Right... the men around me seem such unlikely candidates to start anything with. Am I trapping my self into a vicious cycle of looking for Mr. perfect thus keeping me out of the loop of everyday romances? or even the chance of finding love?

Im a 15 year old girl and im inlove with this yeah we used to chat but he started ignoring me that realy got to me cause im dangerously inlove with him and cant stop thinking bout him its like im obsessd i siriously need help and by the way weve never met face to face

I married my first boyfriend only three months after we started dating. Soon after, I found myself in an abusive relationship, and struggled to get out of it. Five years ago, I finally got divorced and started dating. I seem to end up with the same kind of man I got away from, until I met Matt. He is so different than anyone else. He makes me smile and the only thing that scares me now is the fact that I am not use to a man being nice to me. Now the problem, I have kids, 6 to be exact, from my marriage. He is divorced but has no kids. I am also legally blind, so transportation falls on him. We have been together for a little over a year and I love him very much, but he still doesn’t know where he wants to go with us, and I don't want my kids getting attached to him, if he just only wants to date.

I started to wonder if I was a burden on him financially, but I pay my way for all of our dates because he has to drive. I also know that 6 kids is a lot, and though I include him in doing things with the kids and holidays, I don’t question him why he doesn’t do the same when it comes to his family. Finally, I know it makes him upset when I can't get away at times, but between working, going to school, and dealing with one of boys cancer, I don't have tons of free time. I have told him that I understood how my situation must be difficult on him, but I want him to be happy, and will understand if he doesn’t want to see me anymore. He said that he cares about me, but that didn’t answer my question. He is so confusing. He got teary eyed and said he knew I didn't want him, and it is why I am ok with letting him go. I don't know what to do. Should I have even asked him where he wants to take our relationship?

Hey Patti,

I'm a 19 year old guy, I have been told by girls that I'm attractive, but I am scared to death of girls.. I finally got up the courage to talk to one of these girls and got her number, I talked to her for 2hrs tonight and I think it went well I made her laugh a lot. But now I want to ask her out and I have no idea how to go about doing this or where I should take her.. Thank you so much Patti.

PS: I love you and your show <3 :)

Pattie, I`ve been seeing this guy for a month now & he`s all that I`ve been looking for EXCEPT our sex life SUCKS . What do i do ?

Hey Patti,
So this guy i have known as an acquaintance contacted me recently pretty much saying he wants to hangout sometime. At the end of our conversation he said he had to go, but text him sometime. Do i text him? or wait and see if he contacts me again? I feel like i should wait and see if he puts in effort to talk to me again and actually make plans, do you agree?

Hope to hear from you,
Tara<3

Patti,

I know this is a stupid question, but I want your opinion. My ex that I still think about a lot cheated on every girl he dated, he cheated on his ex-wife. He is now remarried with kids and he would have cheated with me if I wouldn't have turned him down. He is 39 and this has been going on with him every since I've known him. He is never going to change is he? Am I right when I say, anyone with him will always be miserable, due to his roaming ways. Why does he do this?

PS I am so glas I turned him down!!!

Love to hear from you,
Lisa

Hi Patty,

I have an important question! The past two guys I have dated have been shorter than me (I am 5'7") and I know that for the last guy, it was something that really bothered him. Does the guy always have to be taller and stronger for a relationship to work?

I would LOVE your advice on this. Thank you!!!!!

Hi Patti,

Im only a junior in high-school but i absolutely love what you do! I was wondering how you became a matchmaker? What you do is my ideal career, and i just was wondering what you majored in and what area of study you went through?

Hello Patti

I have purchased your video "Married in a year" video and it was great. I am now dating an old High School crush who I fell out of touch with a few years after High School. He knows I want to be married and have kids which I have vocalized to him. I want to make sure he feels the same way before it gets to deep. Should I make sure we are on the same page about Marriage and Kids before continuing to date him or should i let the relationship play out for 9 months and THEN then state my case and give it 3 more months. I dont want to waste 9 months of my life away if he is not serious about a future marriage or at least saying that from the beginnig. Or should I not even persue him if he has a different goal than me. Im just not clear if I should let it all play out for 9 months and explore chemistry and not bring up marriage at all for 9 months even if to make sure he wants this.

Sincerly
High School Sweetheart

Hi Patti

Is it possible for a woman in her 30s with 4 kids to find love and the man to love the kids as well or is that unrealistic?

Hello Patti, hope all is well.

I'm a young looking 35yo, smart, have a great job, am independent, and told I'm beautiful. Dating isn't usually a problem, but getting a second date is. The men who are attracted to men run the gambit...from gorgeous to downright unattractive, and I treat them all with equal respect, but only agree to dates with those I have an attraction to and have some sort of chemistry with - of course. So what's the problem? I heard you tell a NY woman (the blond who owns a t-shirt shop and had a few tattoos) that she needed to lose the penis and find her vagina. I'm thinking that's my problem too? I'm confident, so it appears aggressive. I'm independent, so I appear more confident and less demure. I need help, Patty. It's more involved than what I'm saying, but really need someone to be a fly on the wall when I date to tell me and show me exactly what I'm doing wrong. I've been told many, many times that I'm intimidating, but I think I'm funny and confident. Argh!

Please help. At 35, my clock is ticking and I hate to say it, I feel desperate (but don't let on that way thank goodness). Help me. I really need it. Please.

Is there someone in Austin TX that you know who can give me some guidance? I've tried counseling, but they're just goofballs with degrees - no true, personal insight. I need YOUR help. Please.

Hi Patti!

I'm a freshly 18-year-old college student at an Ivy League university in New England. I'm smart, friendly, and interested in having a relationship with a quality individual. I've only been on two dates, been kissed once (it was awkward), and have never had a boyfriend, however. I don't know why, but guys just don't seem to ask me out! Am I too young for a service like Millionaire Matchmaker (I would apply to be one of the girls, as I am not--yet--a millionairess)? What's your advice for me? I don't want to end up alone!

Thanks!
College Girl

What is the number one problem with most men that we fail to notice most of the time? As a 35 year old single man that as far as I can tell am not sure what I want in a mate or what I think I should look for as who would make a good wife for myself.

I LOVE YOUR STRAIGHT FORWARD GET TO THE POINT MY QUESTION IS HOW CAN I KNOW IF DATING IS FOR ME? I HAVE NEVER DATED IN MY LIFE AND I AM NOT SURE THAT IT IS FOR ME. I KEEP TO MYSELF AND NEVER SEEM TO KNOW WHAT IT IS I WANT IN A MATE I HAVE SOME IDEAS BUT THEY SEEM TO JUST STAY IDEAS.

Hi Patty! I've been dating my boyfriend for 7months now and for the most part everythings great. He recently went home for a couple of days and we usually txt and talk often but he told me that we didn't need to speak everyday and that he's on vacation and never see's his family but see's me all the time so theirs no need, but when he's home he's constantly texting and calling, why is he doing this? It almost seems like since he has his family and friends im put on the back burner and i feel needy even contacting him like im a burden...

Hi Patty
Good for you for burning Andrea’s teenage list regarding what she wants in a man.

I know that you must receive tons of requests from single girls but hey I am going to throw caution to the wind (I think that is the appropriate saying) and plead my case quickly. I am an attractive 44 year old paralegal looking for my bashert. My list is a bit shorter than Andreas. I want a Jewish, sincere, smart, funny guy who would do anything for me because I will have his back as well. I don’t need nor want drop dead just somebody who has a cuteness to him, someone I am attracted to. I have tried to be in relationships with guys because they were nice even though I had no attraction. Not a good idea!!!!!! I hope to hear back from you and would love to send you my picture. Sherry

Hi patti,

I'm sitting here watching your show right now, I feel awful for this woman Amy that was on the date with the guy, who has his buddies around on the first date. Shes a beautiful woman Kim kardashin has nothing on her. iow we was wondering if shes still out there dating, Because if she is I'd love to show her how men in Texas treat a lady.

Thank you
Don

Patti, I tend to gravitate to "projects" or the guys with a broken past or family. I"ve tried to steer clear of those types but it wasnt working so now im single and stuck. I'm not desperate but I would like to know the key to attracting a classy man with the same values as me. I dress modestly. I dont hangout at bars and clubs. How can I attract a true gentleman and where can I find one?
-Danielle

Hi Patti.I'm a 24 yr old single mom whom loves your show.I just wanted to know if you've ever thought about comin to Atlanta,Ga to do a show?Because there are a few good,hardworking,and beautiful ladies here(like myself)that really need your help on finding a good,educated,strong,stable,manly man in Atlanta.

Patti,

I know that Jason was a Brooklyn douchebag but to be honest; I think he is exactly my type of guy. I am a 23 year old girl from Boston who loves football and sports and would rather be hanging with my friends drinking (guy friends and girl friends) just as Jason seems to and I am not turned off by his frat boy style. Additionally I thought he was extremely attractive and like that he is very athletic. Even though I have a successful job which I take very seriously, like Jason I prefer to spend my free time partying and hanging out. Even though you kicked him out of your office are you still trying to set him up with people?
Thanks, Cordy