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How do I get on your show..I love it and I love you!!!!

Hi Patti!
I just recently read your book about how to become my own matchmaker. However, while reading the chapter called "mirror mirror," I wondered if the same advice would be applied to me. I am a Black/Mexican women who wants a Caucasian man. Is there any different rules that apply to an interracial couple?? Thanks for all your help!

Hi Patti,

Do you have nice looking womem in their 40's who are looking for a yunng man of 47' thanks.

Hi Patti,

The guy I am interested in is single and asked me if I was dating anyone. I thought he was going to ask me out, but then he goes on to say, "I should introduce you to my friend." I giggled a bit, and he responded with a giggle "what? i'm just trying to help." Is he even interested in getting to know me? What should I do?

Patti, congratulations with the success of the show. Watching it is entertaining and enlightening. It makes me wonder how some of the girls get into the mixers; I feel that I am a better candidate than most of them. I'm an independent 27 year old filipino woman looking for love.
What do I need to do to attend a mixer and get a chance at love?

Hi Patty,
I do not feel i can ask any family or friends this because I am afraid of what they will think. I am engaged to a man that I have known less then a year and I love him very much however, when he drinks he becomes a completely different person he wants to argue and put holes in walls and doors to the point in which it scares me. I have talked to him about it and he has tried to make an effort but I have a feeling it's going to happen again he says he needs to let loose every now and then. When he drinks and we are out in public he gets loud and then gets mad at me for saying anything. There is no talking to him about it the next day either he doesn't want to hear it. He also has a bit of the his way or no way syndrome so I am just so confused.... and the clock is ticking till our wedding!

Patty,
Like watching your show. Im a 39 m in pennsylvannia. Ive been single for the last 3 yrs. Most of my firneds are all married and have kids so if they have parties they have all other married friends over. Ive been on and off dating sites and most of them I find are people who are just playing. Im not much of a bar or club type of guy so I have no clue anymore what to do. Do you have any suggestions?

Hi Patti,
I'm 42 and have been dating a guy (46) on and off for about 5 years. We would only go 'off' due to his commitment issues. I even told him that I didn't want to get married, just engaged to show we were committed to each other. But he's even afraid of doing that. He says he loves me and is miserable without me. I'm miserable without him. I saw on your show you had a hypnotist...do you know any in Dallas? Any advice?

Hi Patti. Iam a 49 year old woman who has been divorced 10 years. I have been out on dates through these years but I have not had a serious relationship yet. I have eveb been on the online service match.com and until now I have not met the one. All I can say is that men now a days are going for the younger ones with the perfect body and not truly giving someone like me a chance to get to know me. I consider myself a good catch, I do not look bad for my age and I have a good head on shoulders. I just want to know what are the things you have to do to attract someone who is serious about looking for a serious relationship and not playing mind games or the feelings of that other person.Just to let you know I live in El Paso Texas and live alone. One of my perks is that I live alone because my kids are grown and are in the military. I consider this a bonus because many women still have kids living at home. I don't mind if the man I meet has children but I guess this hasn't attracted anyone to me. What do you advice. Thank you for taking the time to read my email. Take care and good luck in matching hearts tigether. Yolanda

I am wondering how I would go about getting on your show. What are the guidelines for the people you choose to be potential dates? I feel that I would be a perfect candidate for Millionaire Matchmaker.

Please let me know what the process is that I need to follow.

Thank you!!!

patty,
i need some help with things. first i noticed that not many straight men type on this sight, that is unfortunate. i need advise and i figured why not ask the expert. that aside i am 21yo male, 6'1" brown hair blue eyes and single, with a gentle yet comedic personality. i have been lovingly nick named by many of my female friend the teddy bear (dont tell them but i like it). my issue is not at all that i cant meet girls. its that when i meet a girl i am interested in i find a hard time expressing it to them. do you have any pointers for a secretly shy guy like me? truly your "the teddy bear"

Hi Patty,
Love your show.....there is this man that I think likes me and I definately like him. I after about a month got brave and went up to him and introduced myself to him. I wanted to congratulate him and told him my name and also told him that he inspires me. He then told me how old he is and that he has two dogs. I then told him that it is just me except I have my daughter every other week. We (I) pretty much left it at that. Since then I have said hello and how are you. I am stuck now and do not know what to do next.

Dear Patti,

I live in Washington Heights in Manhattan in a young religious Jewish singles community. There is something that all the girls here are struggling with. We don't usually ask guys out and are mostly set up by friends or matchmakers.I am 24 years old and have only been on one date, through a Jewish dating website. Most of my friends are between 23 and 27 and we seem to be in dating ruts. We either don't get set up or we don't get asked out. Patti when you are completely dependent on a matchmaker's help how do you find a match?

HI PATTTI,
I MET THIS GUY OFF A ONLINE SERVICE AND WE HAVE BEEN SEEING EACH NOE FOR ABOUT 2 MONTHS. HE USUALLY TAKES ME OUT ONCE A WEEK TO EAT BUT THATS ALL. BUT HE HAS LET ME KNOW IN CATTY WAYS THAT HE SEES ANOTHER WOMAN AS WELL. I JUST DON,T KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT THIS. I WANT TO BE THE ONLY ONE.

hey Patti,

i need your help with something that my friend is doing. i love my friend and i want to be with her. we have been together before and people were saying bad things about us so we broke up. i need your help to get her back. i watch your shows when i get the chance and i know what to do but i don't know if i'm doing it right. thank you for reading this comment but if you could message me at springer.austin@yahoo.com or springer23@gmail.com. thanks

Patti- HELP!

Have I entered the friend zone!!!? I have listened to your audio book and watched your TV episodes and nothing mentions the "friend zone". I was hoping for your advice or input on my current situation.

I met my first guy off an online dating website in September 2008. We hung out non stop for 2-3 months: going hiking, watching movies, park walks, and a few concerts. We kissed only a few times, but would cuddle all the time. He started working out of town and stopped calling or texting. But than 6 months later he texted, he was in town and wanted to go hiking. Than he told me I could come visit him for a weekend?? I'm so confused on what he wants! I have feelings for him and want more than friendship, but I don't know where he stands? Have I entered the friend zone? Or is he just not interesting in me? I don't want to waste my time.
Your help is GREATLY appreciated. Thank you!

Patti what price do you charge for your servis

Hi Patti,

I need your advise, I have found myself in a very frustrating position. I got married to this guy without doing my research on him. He is dirt poor but pretended to be able to take care of me. I need to get out of this marriage but I find myself without family, friends or a job now since I left everything and came to this strange land to him. (I know it was really very stupid).

Would you consider having me in your club as one of the girls for your guys?

Lisa

Hello Patti, I have a question. I want to know how to get a guy to ask you out on a first date. I mean a guy that's actually worth dating. Te guys I usually date are LOOSERS. You know the kind that have a job when U first start dating them,then a month later they quit their job and expect you to support them.PLEASE I NEED REAL HELP. This is a real 911.

Hi Patti,
I'm in my early 60's, look younger than my chronological age and I'm finding it difficult to meet a nice guy (taller than me and slender-average, 58-64...over that age does not work for me) who's looking for a long-term relationship leading to marriage. I'm tall 5'9" and thin-average size, long yet curvy. My ten "Must-Haves" are: good vocabulary, warm, non-smoker, happy, sexy, energetic, positive, financially stable-independent, creative, giving.
Thank you for any advice you may offer.

Hi Patti, (I SHOULD'VE POSTED THIS HERE)

I'm 21 years old about to be 22 in 9 days, and my dilemma is that I am completely in love with a guy that I met my freshmen year in college. When we first started, we liked each other very much, but things got sketchy and we ended up being on and off for a year. During the "off" times, we both definitely dated other people. We lost touch sophomore year, but just recently I got in touch with him, and I realized that there is no other guy in this world that I love besides him. Still, he now has a girlfriend with whom he's been with for 2 years. I don't know what to do, and I know even though I am young, I love him so much, and I couldn't picture my life without him. Do you think I should try to win him back?...

dear patti- love your show. i think all men should watch it and take notes haha

but here is my dilema. i know my boyfriend loves me more than anything. he would do anything that i ask and i know he would never cheat. i dont know why but i get so jealous if he wants to hang w a friend or if he doesnt pay attention to me all the time. its my own insecurities i know. i just dont know how to change. he is the kindest and most respectful boyfriend ever. help me please! i dont want to push him away

Dear Patti! I’m true fan of your show and I can tell that I learn a lot from you. Thank you!
I need your advice or see your reaction on my situation.
Did you ever have experiences with your clients or not clients when they ask that the person be STD tested before they can start/continue a relationship?
If you did, do you think its' normal? What would be your reaction to request like that?

Patti, I know that most of your clients are single, but your advice can be used for married couples as well. My husband is boring and lazy. On every weekend all he wants to do is stay in. I work hard so on the weekend that I am off ,I want to go out. What can I do?

Hi Patti,
I need advice ASAP. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years...Yes 10 years. And im only 22 and he is 23. We talk about the future, moving in together and getting engaged but he never want's to put a date on it. I would like to be in engaged within the next two years but he alway's get's upset when i talk about it. "Let it just happen" he tells me. Latly we have been fighting A LOT. He is very immature and doesnt not know how to pick his battles and arrgue like an adult. I don't know what to do. I think we should go to therepy if we want to work it out, but he wont go. I'm constintly telling him its over let's break up but i don't know what i want. I feel like i've been with him so long that i created all of these dream of him in it because he is all i know. I really do love him but i'm in a bad spot. Things are changing in my life and im getting older and learning how to be an adult myself. But does that mean i need in a change in my love life??? Please, please give me any kind of adivce i'm to young to be feeling drained and confused. Thank you.

Good Evening Patti,

I have to say you are one amazing woman. I love your honesty.

The question I have for you goes along with your view on Lesbian and Gay Dating. I've been single for just over 2 years now. I rarely go out with men because I know how the date is going to end. I am the type of man that would rather get to know a person before sleeping with them. How and where would I go about meeting a man with the same beliefs? I do believe that the town I live in has a little to do with the situation. The people here are so far behind the times. You even mention the word "gay" and people tend to look the other and pretend they heard nothing.

I would really appreciate any input that you may have. Thank you for all that you do and for being such an honest woman.

Sincerely,
Jorge

Hi Patti!

I like how you give advice and you don't hold back you say how it is. I really need your advice.

I have been sleeping with a guy who I work with for 2 years, he comes over to my place once or twice a week and we hang out watch movies, maybe go get food we have sex he spends the night, sometimes he spends the next day with me, I really think I have fallen for this guy but I'm afraid to ask him how he feels. should I not bother asking him, sice we started having sex first then became good friends after the fact. It just eats at me everyday and I don't know what to do. Can you please offer me some advice?

Patty, thanks for your input on the videos, when I catch your show I can not stop watching. It's great to view from the outside situations that come up in dating and what you recommend. I'm an expert by mistakes, going on my second divorce, as an artist I placed by mates needs above my creative career, like building her a ten bedroom eight bath home and just when the trim work was about to be finish she dumped me.
Four years I worked on that house! When we first met I turned down a Filmmaking scholarship she had just finish Medical School and did not want to wait for me.(blind and stupid with Love) She just got the band a year ago and lost 100 pounds, then said goodbye, I realize that I had stopped everything creative for my mate and twelve years had flown by.
I live in West Palm Beach now lots of money here not too many real people.
God has always touched my life with great Ideas for business and blessed me with a creative mind I'm sure to reinvent myself again.

My new thinking on dating- I'm sure!- No more mister nice guy, not mean, still faithful but get on my goals or forget it and her family better be all together no weird conflicts with family members. My family is just too normal and I need that same background influence in any future mate-a normal family background a must!

I don't miss her, my sad part at 55, it seems like it's too late for me to hold that little baby in my arms you know when it grabs your thumb with those tiny little fingers and that first little whisper you hear when it says papi or when it cuddles under your neck and falls a sleep! That's hard to let go! But so be fate!

Patty, I have a question where do the nature inspiring artistic heavy thinkers where do we go to meet that special mate? Walking on the beach is great for the soul and biking great for the legs but unless you are already published ones exposure to creative artistic thinkers is limited, I can only hope that the energy that floods our minds with inspirational ideas is also working in the realm of bringing souls together.

Then after seeing your work I have to wonder, when not possible life's realm creates a vision inside a vessel as yourself to take action on it's behalf and create further harmony in this beautiful world two souls at a time.
When are you coming to West Palm Beach?

A friend of your work
Luis

Hi Patti, I love your show and I watch it almost every time that its on (if i can). Heres my delima, I am a 20 year old single mother. I am already divorced. I think I found a great guy and it seems to be the only thing we dont have in common is that he's in the Marine Corps and I'm in the Army however, I'm a bit worried about our relationship because 3 days into it he asked me to move me and my daughter in. I'm not sure what to do. Can you give me some advice please?!?! I'm in great need of it. Thank you,
Cheryl

Hey Patti
Im 26, single mother of 2 boys. I am independant, I have everything I need in life except a good man. I am very pretty, have a great body, great personality, but no luck with men. I really want to find someone to marry, Im a great mother and house wife, why am I divorced because my ex was a bad husband and still is a bad father. My boys are getting older (turning 9 & 5yrs old) and its becoming harder for me to date. Please can you help or send me the right way.. Thank you

I need Professional Advice Please
Hello Patti,

First of all I'd like o congratulate you on your show, I enjoy seeing how you give great tips to make a relationship work great, care to pass some advice this way?
My situation is the following:
I'm 20 years old working towards getting certified as a medical billing and claim specialist and working towards my minor in psychology. I met my boyfriend at work and at first I didn't think he'd be interested in me but then we began to talk and we ht it off, things wee great. He mad me his girlfriend after 3 onths, I got pregnant. We weren't ready fora child he was't ready and I opted for getting an abortion which I always regret. Unfortunately, after that his mother passed away and he decided that breaking up with me was the best solution and he had to move on to San Diego;however, we'd be keeping in touch calling, texting and writing to each other. According to him he doesn't believe in long distance relationships but he loves me and in 6 moths if I'm single will continue on with our plans of getting married and moving in together. I understand he's hurting rightnow but I don't see why if he loes me he's pushing me away, I really do love him and I want things to work out with us ,we'v been through a lot and I don't want to loose him, what can I do?What can I tell him to make understand that I'm there for him and I want to be part of his life? Please Help

Hey Patti,

First of all, i LOVE you and your show and its a real eye opener for me.

Ok So i can see all these post and I dont even know if you'll even view my post but it couldn't hurt to post right?

Here's the thing I'm 23 and I've NEVER had a boyfriend and I don't get it. I mean WHY?! haha like i think i'm okay in the looks department (i like make up and clothes and shoes), i'm not really introverted, i do go to parties, i think i'm ok in the personality department too.

I've tried running it in my head a billion times i'm not needy or clingy. i definitely like guys and i dont like pretty boys. i've been called picky so i try to keep myself open-minded. i've been hit on by guys but like by gross or old guys (i like to stay in my own age group.) maybe you know the psychology with late bloomers like me if there are any. because i dont know what i'm doing wrong or what's wrong with me.

Hi Patti,

I am a 30-year-old, female, Jewish lawyer, often described as beautiful and sexy, in a city full of beautiful, bright women. I have no trouble getting attention and dating, but I don't seem to be finding the right guy. I feel that, for the men in whom I'm interested, there is always another woman around the corner who is thinner, hotter, has more connections, etc. All superficial. I want for there to be someone out there for me. Is there something that may be wrong with my approach? (BTW - I'd like to find a cute Israeli like Uri but, of course, he wants someone who weighs 100 lbs, like Tatyana - oy!)

Thank you,

J

Do you really think it is impossible to find love at 50?

What would you recommend to someone who is thinking about re-entering the dating scene after a seventeen year hiatus? I've been focused on raising my son as a single mother and am now at the stage where he's about to launch his life and I'd like to re-launch mine. I'd love to get some tips and insight into today's dating scene. Sounds a little intimidating these days. I'm set to turn forty in a few weeks.

Hey Patti. Just wanted to you you to know that I really like your show and I like the fact that you're not afraid to put some of those men and women in their place. I have to thank my friend Jaclyn for telling me about your show. Anyway, Im 21 and single. I'm the nice,sweet guy who always gets put in the friendzone and advice giver role by girls. I would never cheat,abuse or try to control a girl's lifew. I'd always treat her with respect. Im also a hopeless romantic since I've only had one girlfriend which cheated on me throught our entire relationship. We went out for 5 months. I try to look for another gf,but every girl I seem to run into either has a boyfriend, is married or engaged. It seems that girls only want the nice guy when they either want to lead him on,use him for money,ask for advice on what to do when her jerk bf hurts her only to take him back in 2 days, or to make her short tempered,violent boyfriend jealous.I'm starting to wonder if women only go for the ahole jerks and the nice guys (like me) are doomed to be single forever. I wouldn't mind going out with an older woman (like from late 20s-mid 30s)and I also like bigger girls. The girl's hair color,race or body type doesn't matter to me IS there hope for a guy like me to finally finde THE ONE?
G. (who wonders if nice guys finish last after all)

Hi, Patti! The French say the perfect man for a woman is half his age plus seven. I'm a 29 year old woman, and a man who's 44 sounds a bit old for me. Is the French saying true? What standard do you use? Thanks!

Patti,

I love what you are doing with the show and I do agree that men need to learn more etiquette when it comes to women. I am 46 years old and totally in a rut when it comes to finding my soul mate. I've been divorced for 12 years having one relationship during that time and found out he was a using piece of crap with no heart what so ever. Talked a big talk, but when it come to push or shove he was a total loser. Learned my lesson there. I have a big heart which I tend to wear on my sleeve and usually get hurt from that. I feel I am on a dead end street when it comes to finding the right man. Anyone out there between the ages of 47 to 56 that would be a good catch? Wish you were in the Illinois area. We need someone like you to help the Illinois girls out. Thanks for your time and keep up the good work on the show. You are one in a million!

Patti,
I really enjoy watching your show and have learned alot even at 54yrs of age. I do have some questions for you. As you know I'm 54. I have never been married but have raised a beautiful 27yr old daughter that I raised alone, her father has had no involvement other than to pay child support that I had go to court to get. In the past I always picked the wrong men, (Joanna's father ened up with his brother's wife, divorcing her 20yrs later, and marrying a girl my daughter went to school with and having a child) for example. I would really like to meet a nice man and have a relationship with but I wonder if it's too late for someone my age. Your help and advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks, Debbie

Hi Patti!
I saw you show. It was great. I wanted to get some advices from the expert like you. When you like a guy and not sure if that person like you, what would you do? How do you know if that person like you or not? The other day, I saw him and he looked at me and I also looked at him. We did not talk. Next time, should I just smile? What if he doesnt smile back? Is that a sign?

Hi Patty!
Hope all is pleasant.
I need your help,I was watching your show with Jimmy D from Chicago; I agree with you he needs a strong independent ..Italiandyva in his life! The whole time I was watching and just thinking I would be his perfect mate. I am not Polish but he'll forget that quick. hee hee I am hoping for the opportunity to meet him. I would like to know if it would be possible to arrange an afternoon for us?

i Patti,
I love your show! I love how honest you are so that is why I'm writing to you. When I was 6 months old I was dingiest with congenital lyphedema.( I don't have a lymphatic system in my right leg) The Dr.'s told my parents as I get older I would live a sedentary life. Well, thanks to my parents and my brother and determination to prove the Dr.'s wrong that did not happen. I played sports all of my life and try to go to the gym about 3-4 times a week. The only problem is that my R leg is still much bigger then my left leg. Dating in NYC and Long Island is hard enough and to add this to the mix it just makes it that much more difficult. I was in a long term relationship that ended last July. As I get older, I'm 28 I find it more and more discouraging that I'm going to find someone to love me for me despite my flaws. Do you think I have any luck in finding love or am I just to damaged? I am trying really hard I did the hole jdate thing and now eharmoney but I'm just about to give up!
What should I do please help!!!

Hello Patti,

COngratulations on your show. i wish you the best of success in your future, i have an idea how much work you have put into it,therefore you really deserve it. i watched the show last night and could not help to feel related to Alanna, the girl from Boston who went on a date with the CEO of the internet company who i believe lives in FLorida.
I am a 35 year old professional from Miami,who altough not a millionare would like to have a chance to take her out on a date and show her what a real gentlemen can do for such a mature and well rounded woman. i heard her story about her sister who just passed away and how it made her realize the important things in life and how important it is to have someone who you really care for and with whom to share the small but important things in our everyday lives. my grandmother past away a few weeks ago and i remember how she always wanted me to meet that special someone to spend the rest of my life with. i have lived a very active life, i have also been involved in a lot of different relationships but after my grandmother passed away something deep inside of me changed and after listening to Alanna last night i felt that she could be that special person in my life.
i understand you are an extremely busy business woman but i would like to ask you if there is a way that i could get in contact with her, in other words i am asking you to give me a chance to get to know this woman..i need a shot at love and you are the one who could help me. what do you say?

i am looking forward hearing back from you.....

Patti,
DON'T CHANGE!!!! You are a tell it like it is kinda gal...let these "never been told NO millionaires" get a dose of your reality...like they say, "the truth hurts" but then again, that's why they are single and coming to you for guidance...Two words, "Job Security" ha ha ha ...I can't complain, I'm 40 and have been married for 22 years...life is good! As for people raggin on you about not being married? If you are truely happy with yourself and your relationship, why change?...happy is, as happy does...(that's soooo gumpish huh?) Anyways...Love the show!!!!

Hi Patti~ I love your show ps! It's fabulous! My question deals with my ex boyfriend. I am still madly in love with him and he says he loves me but now he has this girl that's a friend of his that is moving in to his house with her kids, and he won't let me come over because she doesn't like me and because she thinks he is dating her friend still. Should I get rid of him for good for this? Or is this normal?! I'm so confused, please help!

Hi my question is more for you Pattie.I have watched your show on and off since it started I saw you on Oprah. But as I watched I noticed you have a good understanding of your clients and how they should behave which is a good thing. But I noticed you were dating a guy and now from what I saw on this show your not. Are in some way like some of your clients picky on the type of guy you Date because of what you do is it because your beliefs are in Judism being jewish is not a nationality. I was raised Roman Catholice and I have dated woman of jewish faith. I'm not overly religious because to me any religion that the men who put woman 2nd are fools. Any way what type of guy do you look for Tall Dark and Handsome or Six Foot Two Eyes of Blue and with a career where they have mony. You said on one show you were 47 you may be happy but what about later I know that all men want kids and if you plan on marrying someday would you date a blue collar guy I ask because you seem to have it together except in the relation dept. Whats that saying about Doctors they make the worst patiance becuse they have all the ansewrs I just ask because you are an attractive woman an would make a great catch I missed the boat so I can't picture you missing it. Well Take Care.

Patti,

I love your show; I love watching you handle your employees and your clients. I would absolutely love to work for you! You need someone who is stronger, more organized and aggressive in finding the girls you need, and who loves working as much as you, but yet, an employee who knows and respects that you are the owner and boss, and they show the respect towards you that you deserve. I am not into pumping sunshine up people's ass, but I want to tell you that I like how you handle these millionaires, but you need someone who works for you that can be as blunt and bold as you, so they can handle all the things you don't want to waste your time handling, yet always stay in their place and realize you are in charge. You need a true right-hand woman, so to speak. So, if you are ever interested in taking advantage of enjoying a little more of your love life and personal life, and be able to trust someone who doesn't want to own your company and run it, but truly work for you and always have your best interest, then please let me know. I am a very successful, mother of four, happily married, who would love to work for you to help people really find true love. Life is not worth living until you have experienced true love. No amount of money will ever beat that. If I never hear from you, I wish you much continued success.
Sincerely,
Lisa P.S. Your parents seem so wonderful! You are so blessed to still have your mother in your life.

Patti, I don't watch television. I came across your show by accident and you are great! The show is "meh" but you are a joy to watch. As a man, I can say that it will be difficult for you to find a man, because you need someone who can live in your shadow and men are ego bags, so it will be hard. But, it's "do-able". As a gay man, I can tell you Dr. N is gay. He is a narcissist and he is gay, just trying to hide it via your show! Also, he's an eye physician that does some "plastic" procedures, as a physician as well, it is offensive that he pawns himself off as a plastic surgeon so people will respect him. He didn't do five years of surgery residency followed by two or three years of plastic surgery. You finish college at 22 med school at 26 surgery five years is 31 and plastic surgery two years at least is 33. That would leave him one year to build a practice in Beverly Hills. Impossible. I think you shouldn't be upset by people who comment on your being single, its hard to find a man who can be subservient. I'm also from Brooklyn via DC and Philly and you are an east coast girl. They don't get you out there. You need to be with someone who is east coast; my opinion. I think you are beautiful, powerful and fun as ken! Don't wait too long to settle down, you would be a great mommie! Love at yah!
Moose

Patti
I enjoy your show and was just catching up on an old episode today. I was wondering if you do background checks on your "millionaires"? I just googled Harold Wrobel and this is what I found: I would hope you wouldn't let a guy like that in to your club.

HAROLD SAMUEL WROBEL [#120783], 40, of Pacific Palisades was suspended for one year, stayed, placed on three years of probation and was ordered to take the MPRE within one year. The order took effect Feb. 18, 2000.

In 1997, Wrobel was convicted of conspiracy to violate currency reporting requirements. He was acquitted of charges of conspiracy to launder drug trafficking proceeds and money laundering.

Wrobel was arrested with another California lawyer and a Las Vegas casino collections manager for their roles in exchanging large amounts of currency, supposedly derived from drug sales, for money orders. The scheme was actually a Drug Enforcement Agency sting operation, with the DEA supplying the money.

The other lawyer gave Wrobel two payments of $100,000 in currency which he exchanged for cashiers checks. Wrobel then structured deposits of the cash into his accounts to avoid the $10,000 statutory reporting requirement and was paid $3,000 for conducting the transactions.

He was arrested during a third, similar transaction.

This guy stopped by my house once saying someone told him I needed a handyman. We started talking right away, I offered him some of my DVDs to watch and return. He was calling all the time wanting to spend time with me and a month later he said that he is in love with someone else, doesn't know how to get over her, she's married and has a boyfriend. He wanted to know how to get over, he said everyone tells him I am good for him. He continually tells me he is in love with someone else. His family and dear friends tell me I should wait, what do you think? I know he cares about me and wants to spend time with me, I celebrated Easter with his family

See I have been with my guy for a while and he has cheated on me twice. the first time the young lady called my cellular phone telling me some of the same things that he has told her & a lot of other personal things. I took him back and we were suppose to go out to dinner and i saw monkey bites on his neck. He said that she popped up on his job and did it yet he "pushed her away" We are still together but i don't trust him. Now he calls all of the time and now he says that he loves me... what should you suggest that i do???

Please help me... Thank you... Candy

Hi Patti! Just wanted to send an idea your way. It seems like several of "The Bachelor" girls from this past season where on your show. BAD idea! They where booted off ASAP for obvious reasons. Not good girls for you to have to waste your precious time on. Very loud, confrontational, not pretty people. What you do is a wonderful thing! Love to watch as much as possible. Thanks for your time.

Dear Patti,
I have a question about birthdays. When you first begin dating a fella and his birthday comes before yours does what should you get him if anything? My birthday is in November so it's inevitably that any guy I date wi;; have a birthday before mine. Thanks

A question:
I am 57 and, as every other human on this earth, am looking for real love. I am on 2 website dating services but although I send a note to someone who seems interesting, I very rarely hear back from them. My son says they are not members and can "look" but can't respond. It doesn't seem fair that the matching service sends ME their photos and profiles as if they are members.
In your opinion...where is the best place to find an older man(he doesn't have to be a millionaire...I would only dream) but at this age, he should be very comfortable. Am I chasing a pipe-dream?
PS...love your show.

Hello Patti,

I want to marry my two year old son's father who I have known and dated off and on since 1995. We were engaged and never made it to the altar;-( What can I do to get my soulmate to the big dance? He lives in Kentucky and I live in Florida. He moved back home when our engagement fell through. I still love him and I know he still loves me so what do I need to do to marry this man I am willing and ready to do what I need to do to make this happen! Thanks for your time and expertise
Monilicious

Dear Patty,
First off- I think you are great! Hilarious and to the point! All those people that say you have no business doing what you do since you are single, need to pull their thumbs out and pay better attention! You are amazing!

Now to my question. My husband and I dated on and off for several years, he went to korea for the military and stayed there 3 years. All of which we were off again.. lol. When he returned I was enjoying life and having a good old time just doing whatever, and then he started talking to me again, we started dating again, and then planned a wedding in a month and got married. Things were great- 7 months later I'm bored. Really bored. I find myself leaving the house just to get away. So here it is.. How can I improve the match I have already made?!?

Thanks for everything!
Mandalynne

Hi patti,
I saw you on Dr. Phill and I like the way you see things.
My question is this: I always belive in respect, honor, and been faithful, I never belive in affairs and datting a lot of people, I met a guy a few years ago I thought he was the one, we were connected plannig for the future, the house, the jobs, everything, until one day he told me he was going to leave me.

From that moment on I discovered that he was cheating on me during the 3 years we spend together, he did this with my supossed friends, collegues at work an ending list of people. I was devastated but I got stronger to continue with my life. 4 years ago I met this wonderful guy everybody's dream, we've being together sice then. He is kind, hard worker, supportive, handsome, and when I'm with out him I'm lost, I love him very much, but lately, sometimes I feel like I had miss something, maybe I was wrong at not datting a lot of people or something, may I could have more "fun" if you know what i mean?.
Why do I have this feellings?
Am I damage for that past relationship?
Why this fellings make me fell so bad?
P.S. Sorry for my english I am not american, I am learning.

Hello Patti!
I love watching your show, I am so impressed by your skills in match making... I myself am a traditional type of gal who keeps it classy.
I am only 19 and I know I have loads of time ahead for love, and a serious relationship, but I want substance.
The dating scene here in NYC is different than what I am used to and I was wondering if you could give me some advice as too if I should date older men, or am I just ready for something that guys are not ready for yet?
Please help a confused romantic.

Thank you.
~ Iris

Hey Patti,
My name is cassie. I have seen your show a few times and i must say i love your attitude. My future career is to become a matchmaker. I never thought of a matchmaker as a true life career until i saw Millionaire Matchmaker. I am 15 years old and i was just wondering if you could help me figure out what i would need to do to become a matchmaker. I have the passion of helping others to find true love and the skill to do so. So if you can, please guide me so i will be able to do what im best at.
Thank you,
Cassie

I think I have given up on love.

After years of abusive relationships, etc. And waiting 20 years to get married then being divorced in a year, I think I have given up on finding the one. I'm tired of being the strong one.... Do you think there are any REAL men left????....... One's that believe in taking care of a woman financially, emotionally, etc.??? It's been me to do all that all these years (I'm 43 this month), and to be honest I'm tired!lol

What are the odd's of finding a man who is successful & wants to be "the man" in the relationship???

Hello Patty,
I have a question, How do i get over being so shy and timid when I meet guys?

I have a 30 year old male interest in me 40 year old and he works nights and whenever I try to call him I get his answering machine. This is a new relationship and he pursue me and I did question his intentions and he did admit that he recently came out of a relationship and she is trying to get back with him and he don't know. I told him we can be friends until he decides. While at my home he got a phone call which he decided not to answer and made some accuse to go to his car and was out there for a while. When he return I told him if he isn't in this for the right reasons serious relationship than go on about his business. If he just want to have fun, I am not the one. When we are together or talking on the phone I feel like he is so sincere but he can joke so seriously therefore he can lie convincingly. I am so hot for him but I am thinking with my mind and not with my body and heart. What do you think should I leave him alone and is he serious about me or trying to add another notch to his belt?

How do you get your hair so shiny????

I don't see many ordinary women being matched with millionaires on your show (I haven't watched every single episode either). Do you have to be a model type to get a great looking guy? At 45 and it's hard to meet a great looking, thoughtful, honest guy who isn't a millionaire, never mind one who is. And I look pretty good but no, I don't have rock hard abs I (who would after having twins at 39??) How about getting some not so 20 something looking women on your show?

Hi Patti,

I was wondering whatever happened to Heidi and Bill? I was for sure that Bill would change his ways after meeting a beautiful woman, however, I read that they are continuing a long distant relationship. Did they ever go beyond that? I truly thing that they were made for each other, the fact that they obviously had chemistry at first sight.

If only I was a man...

Your show The Millionaire Matchmaker is a great show, but I only see straights. Wonder if you also match gay millionaire men and women? I bet there are gay millionaires out there looking for a partner.

Hi Patti, love the show. I hail from the Jersey shore. I am divorced-have 2 grown daughters and just got out of a 10 year relationship (which included being engaged twice) and then me realizing it just wouldn't work as he was 14 years my senior. I am 54 years young and love the fact that you are so honest about your age on the show. The men in NJ are similar to those of New York ( which you reference quite a bit on the show). Is it worth it for me to try internet matchmaking- or try to swing it out on my own? I really don't go to bars or anywhere will I can meet someone.

Hi Patti, I am a 62 year young lady. I watch your show all the time. I met someone who is not my usual type but since my type never come thru as honest real men I figured I would try a guy not tall, good looking and younger then myself. He is retired and loves to fly as a hobby and also does it for an organization and they use him a lot. I have told him that I understand how he loves doing this and if our relationship were worked on more I wouldn't mind. We, due to something physical, hadn't seen each other for 6 months. We got together after that and we spoke about it and he told me how wrong he was and that we would start new, well that lasted 3 days and he is back flying. I e mailed him, only because I could not contact him as he must be out of cell phone range, that since he can't even commit to a week of not flying and work on our relationship I assume it is not important to him and this is not what I want. I do really like him and think if he could give us a chance we could have so much fun as we do have a lot in common but I guess he doesn't. Did I say the right thing, you always have the right words to say,,Did I do right in the wording? Thanks so much. Stephie

Patti,
Is Hatch still looking for love? You did a great job with him! I loved everything about him and even watch the repeat shows because of it!
Love what you're doing with your show!
Best wishes for more success!
Jeanne

I am a 61 year old women and have had a hard time meeting men. Men my age go for younger women and find them. It doesn't seem fair but that the way it is these days.
Where do I meet men my age? I have tried a few dating websites and they seem to be just for sex and one night stands. I want a nice relationship with a nice man.
Any advice????
Thanks.......

Hello from Europe (Romania)!!! U are great, i like your show. My question is u are working just with people from USA? I will like to be part of your work, to help me to find my half...I am 33 years old, romantic , sensitive and beautiful. I can travell to USA , my profile on millionaire match.com is corinalovely from Bucharest... please give me one answer even if it is negative. kiss u

Hey Patti,
Saw the show for the first time this weekend and it was real and interesting. I saw the episode where the beautiful, single, 41 yr young lady, Heidi Cornell, was looking for the right man. I am a 38 yr young, single, fit, honest, loyal father, and I know exactly how difficult it is to find that right person. Heidi seems amazing, and if things did not workout with her, is there anyway to find that out?? I definitely I wish her all the best because she seems great, but it also seems like she is looking for me!! So as much as I wish her sucess, I would like to meet her and see what could happen! Thanks for your time. Keep it up.

Hi Patti,

I just bought your book and I wanted to say OMG! You have given some great advice. Some of the things were so simple and very do-able even for those of us not quite making millions. When I bought your book I was hoping to have some advice on things I could do. But as it turns out I needed someone to point out things that I was doing that, looking back, were just wrong on so many levels. Now, I tend to be an alpha female. When I wanted to go out with a guy I’d go straight up to him, start a conversation, get the number exchange going etc. And I was always let down because I was never ending up with the gentleman and the man I was looking for. I was a little over active. Now that I’ve decided to stop hunting I’ve been approached by more men than ever. Not to mention a kinder and classier man that I was looking for. In fact, my recent Mr. Maybe has matched up to my top 5. After our first date, Tuesday night, which went smoothly, he texted me to make sure I got home. Which I thought was very sweet. Then I didn’t hear from him till Wednesday. When he called I was so excited and he said how great a time he had etc and asked me out for Friday. And as we were talking he mentioned the phone working both ways so I immediately whipped out the traditional girl card and how it made me feel like a lady when he called and how it made him look like the confident man that I know he is in my eyes. And after boosting his ego, it has never been mentioned again. What was I thinking? It’s so much easier letting the men do the work. And I am keeping count and fully intend on the 4:1 ratio. He has a homemade cheesecake coming up around the corner. I’m more open then ever to meeting my Mr. Right. I will never again settle for Mr. Right Now.

Thanks for everything,

Jamie

Patti, thanks for the opportunity. Just like you I am in my 40's and do not look it. I am 44-years-old. I weigh 120 lbs. 5'7. I am a Black woman and would prefer dating within my own race. However, I did have a five year relationship with a White man. Patti, like most women I do not want to be alone the rest of my life. However, I still feel great about life and my chances of finding my match. Problem? I don't even look. I reside in the Northern Illinois region and I am not impressed. One part of me say's, don't worry it will come to you. The doubter in me say's, you aren't even trying, you are too picky and 10 more years are going to fly by before you know it and you will still be single. I don't feel desperate at all. Is this normal? Should I at least be concerned? Because...oddly...I am not.

Hello Patti,
I do love your show. Question, I am a 61 yr old woman and I have been single for awhile now. I would love to get into a permanent relationship, but I have a problem. I have a "hidden disability (Lupus)" where I look fine. I feel that finding true love will never happen for me and I really don't want to be alone as I get older. I don't have much to bring to the plate. What is the reality for me.

Hi Patti
I am a 41 year old black woman who would like to know if you will ever set up a date for a lady like mw with one of your millionaire because everytime i look at your show all i see is white and even as a black 41 year old i stll do attract younger men because men closer to my age seem to be looking for a younger women so please help thank you very much
beverly from new york

Dear Patti,

I am 39 yrs old, I have no problems when it comes to attracting a man, but my main problem is probable keeping them. I need your help, I wish that I could be one of those client you find a love one for. So far I have been married 3 times and strike out. I have a baby boy he is almost two, and he is my life. I have migraines everyday which makes me feel like I will never find the right guy. I don't use my sickness as and excuse, I do everthing an average house wife do and more. Love cooking, baking, decorating. I have a masters degree in criminal justice. I am economically independent. No my income is just okay. I am trying to buy a house and pay my school loans. I am a black hispanic so I am outspoken and that get me into trouble, I call it like I see it. I grew up in Panama so my first language is spanish. I love traveling and I am a true romantic. So I do believed that I have good and bad qualities, but the guy that was or is around in my life was romantic until he had me and and now he is not. I look extremely young and he is 51 he look young too butso there is that insecurity of me leaving. I got tired and left. I am scared that becuase I am sick I am going to spend the rest of my life alone, because I want more. I want romance, someone who thinks about me and let me know without the fear of been in love.
Patti why don't help common people like me to find love.
I know you bussy, but I need your help. Should I settle with what I have infront of me even though I feel he don't or hear anything I say, because he believes that I am trying to bring him down when I say anything! Yes he is my son father? We were engage, but I left.

Patti,

In honor of YOU and National Poetry Month, I wrote a poem inspired by your fantastic show (and your fabulousness!).

Check it out here: http://heatherstrang.com/blog/writing/

Happy Matchmaking,
xoHeather :)

I'm 41 and have never really dated. I got sick at 22 and have struggled since. I'd love to go out and try dating, but don't think I have the slightest clue how to. Actually I'm terrified to try as I feel sure I will make an absolute fool of myself. Men make me nervous and I act it.

Looking forward to your advice and hope you aren't calling a looser because of my situation.

Thanks

Hi Patti I am a 25 year old single latin mother looking for love how do I get an interview with you? I am in the South Florida area. Love your show your great.

Hi Patti,
I love your new look and your show is incredible. The way you put the men and women in their place is enlightening to all.
I am 47 and divorced 5 years. My kids are almost out of the house. I would date occasionally on line and have been left very disappointed with the needy men I seem to attract and the strong independant man who seems to want someone younger. I feel I am pretty, fun, stable and independant. I do know how to let the man lead, feel wanted and important - however I'm still waiting for him to cross my path.
Any advice you can offer would be apprciated.

Thank you
Cindy

Hi Patti
On your show, for every millionaire there are dozens of women, does this reflect life in real world America, i.e. the good men are already married. Women want to marry a hansome man with plenty of money, but this type of man is either already married or does not want to get married ( why should he buy the cow, if he can get the milk thru the fence). Therefore the ideal bachelor, men who are Rich, good-looking, AND single don't exist, except for guys who want to sleep with more than one woman.

Hey hi patty,
i love your show and most especially your vastness and insight into relationships, but above all; i love the fact that you still hand over everything to God.
i am a 20yr old black girl,i 'm in college and play college basketball, i am 6feet 2 inches tall.
i am shy but very nice when i get to know someone... the thing is i want to go into a relationship but cant seem to meet or see a good guy.. That makes me withdrawn cos i am a good christian girl, raised up well but i aint the loud type and wont do some things that i feel God doesnt like.Howevr, i am still fun to be with.
How can i meet a man of my dreams.
Can you help?
thanks and God bless you

Patti,
I have recently become a fan of your show and you--i never watched reality tv until i stumbled upon your show. I am a 25 year old woman, lived in a lot of major cities, have multiple degrees, and i'm an attractive (size 2-4) woman and an heiress. i can't seem to find a relationship that works. i'm out a lot and meet lots of people, but it just never is right. Maybe it's the circle I'm in, but I haven't had a relationship in a long time. Things just never seem to click properly. I have a fear that I may never meet the right man. Any advice?

Dear Patti, Love your show and your tough love. This might sound strange but I have some different type of challenges then maybe what you’re used too. Anyway I am a mixed 43 year old male 6"2" raised in white suburbia most of my life. I also I was married 15 years and raised 8 kids. 5 were hers and 3 we had together so I got fixed not planning to have anymore kids. Anyway I find it so hard finding the right woman for me. Because I look like I am 25-30 so the older woman don't seem to be interested and the younger girls love me because I am older and more mature but fun. But they all want to start there own families. And I would never rob someone of that joy.

Online dating stinks because the type of women I am mostly attracted too pick white guys which I understand I usually pick white girls. That is just what I am comfortable around. Anyway I never have a problem in person with the color thing much but then it is the age thing. I am a successful engineer and a financially secure professional. I think I am a fun loving guy with plenty of leadership ability. I am a musician and also teach bible fellowships two times a week I am active and have a great place on the beach. I am easy going and just looking for a woman that is kind of in the same boat as me. But it seems like there is no boat. I am in a weird place. I like woman my own age and am attracted to them. But it seems like I keep ending up with younger girls to date and they just either want to just have fun or are thinking of a family and marriage in the near future. Any advice for me! I seems like women my age just want a boy toy and are not serious about a real relationship or they are so stuck in there ways no one can get along with them or they are looking for Mr. perfect. One other thing is I meet many that have waited so long they want to start a family at 40 and need to start having kids like right now! Do you have any advice for me? Thanks, EW

PS I am attracted to your type by the way...

Patti,

Thanks for your show. Really, it's so insightful.

Over the years, I've had people tell me I choose guys who are too good looking, and that's why they cheat, but unfortunately, I don't think that's the whole story, because I've seen even unattractive, unsuccessful men do the same thing the first chance they got. One friend comes to mind who pined for a woman for years. I thought, well, he will be so good to her once he meets her. But in reality, he finally got a woman to date and then I guess the confidence boost made him attractive to another woman, so he jumped right on the opportunity to be going out with both of them, and was gloating about it, like he'd waited his whole life to pull this off.

I have no faith anymore. What say you?

Dear Patti,

I'm maybe a 7. I have a problem feeling good about most relationships because I'm seasoned enough to know that most men never stop yearning for that 10. I'm not sure I can live with being what some man settled for. I think I deserve to be really valued. How do women get over this hurdle so they don't have to be alone or jump from one man to the next?

Patti, sometimes I look at myself and my attitude toward men and I think, boy, are you jaded, but then I watch your show and feel better, because it validates what my experience has been. As someone who used to be in the music business, I saw things no woman was meant to see, and the inescapable conclusion has been, "If they can, they will." I'm not one to settle for living with blinders on, so I mostly do without! You seem to have your eyes open and yet still manage a good relationship. Please save me by telling me something redeeming about "men who can."

Hello Patti, I watch your show every Thursday and love it and you! I'am 49 and was married for 23 years, now divorced going on 7 years. My Ex was an alcoholic, and an abuser. I have been dating on and off, and finally found someone that I like and that is compatible with me. We just went out on our third date, dinner, and dancing, and had a sexual evening. Do you think I should have waited? My daughter always gives me on dating, like don't kiss on the first date etc. Should I date other men, if I do I won't feel right, like I cheated or something. Hope you come to maryland someday, I think your great, and beautiful. Are you married, have a boyfriend, or married. Thanks Jeanie!

Hey Patti!
I watch your show every Thursday night! I love setting up with friends with people I know. I've successfully set up like over 10 couples one of which is getting married in June and I am in the wedding. Are you ever coming to Baltimore? It would be my dream to meet you, work with you, and just hang out with you!