Time For A History Lesson

The job that changed it all

Y'know, the question I get the most is, "What's it like working for Patti?" I figure this is the perfect place to answer that.

First, let's start with a little history lesson:

I started working for Patti about a year ago. I was putting in time at the now defunct Tower Records on Sunset in between film projects when she found me through a referral on Craig's List (ahh Craig's List, the one stop shop for used TVs, personal assistants and transvestite love.) I had sworn off assistant work and company managing, but I liked our phone call and decided to meet with her (eh, why not?) I warned her first (of course) of my "interesting" appearance, then went in to be interviewed.destin_01_102_320x240.jpg

Right off the bat, we totally hit it off! We knew within minutes we were a right fit for each other, and I started the next day. Within weeks I found myself completely assimilated into her life and the life of the business -- taking on every hat, performing every role and learning more about love than I ever thought possible. I became schooled by a master of relationships, and learned I had a hidden knack for it. I have never given out so much love advice in my life, (friends, family, clients, people on the street,) and I'm pretty much always right. Who knew?

And now here I am...on Bravo...on a reality show...talking to a computer. Weird.

So, back to the question, "What's it like working for Patti?" Well, honestly, it's pretty damn spectacular. I get time off whenever I need it, (to film, write, etc.,) we travel a lot, I go to the best restaurants and nightclubs, I get bonuses and I get the freedom to treat the business and its clients as my own. Not to mention Patti and I have our great relationship. I understand her, She understands me. We are both lucky.

She may be short-tempered, loud, stubborn and feisty, but that's her and I wouldn't have it any other way. I love my job and I love my boss. How could you not?


Making a Match: Brooklyn Chooses Sizzle vs. Substance

Patti dishes on what it was like working with Thicker Than Water Brooklyn Tankard and getting a New York player to start take matchmaking seriously.

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from RHOA’s Kenya Moore and Sheree Whitfield to rap royalty Romeo Miller.

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle the good (Brooklyn on French kissing), the bad (Amit’s beard)—and the hilarious (Patti’s New York accent!).

This week, she talks about setting up Thicker Than Water's Brooklyn Tankard and teaching this Long Island divorcee to stop looking for love at the clubs. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

Brooklyn Tankard the star of Thicker Than Water is up this week. Brooklyn is pretty funny and exciting, she’s a little bit off though. She’s basically a single mom with a daughter and you know she doesn’t get to meet quality men, she really hasn’t found her equal.

My other client this week is liquor entrepreneur Amit Ram, he’s from Long Island. He’s got this awful f---ing beard on his face. Girls in the clubs like his beard, yeah, yeah in 1959 they do, not in 2015.

For those two we chose to do a Hot Seat Mixer. That means Brooklyn and Amit interview potential dates and if they don’t like someone they can kick them out of the hot seat, but if they like them, they get to stay. So it’s kind of like musical chairs.

Brooklyn goes through a bunch of guys and some of them are really awesome. I personally love Jason, he’s tall, he’s older, he’s been divorced, he has kids, he’s a very solid guy. But Brooklyn’s got her eye on Michael who's a bit younger, really hot, super sexy, has sort of a football player look -- and she can’t take her eyes off of him. Instead of going for the substance she’s going for the sizzle.

Meanwhile, Amit chose a great little petite girl named Daniella, she’s also a gym rat like him, they have a lot in common. He’s taken her on an interesting date, free-running training, you know when run and when you jump and you climb, it’s kind of extreme dating. They’re both pretty bad at it, but they love working out so they have a really great time. Then he takes her to a nice dinner at a classy place, Miceli’s.

I just hope Brooklyn took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville, because she needs a lot of work.

Patti Stanger

Brooklyn had a really nice date with Michael, they went peddle boating. But Michael didn’t ask much about Brooklyn, and this didn’t really work out for her because she likes to be the center of attention. So I don’t think that she chose well. I think it should’ve been Jason, which is the one I wanted her to go out with all along. I just hope she took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville because she needs a lot of work. I bet she'll be back again next time.      

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