Cast Blog: #MATCHMAKER

Ask Patti: Moving Towards Marriage

Making a Match: Patti Melts and Bravo Reunions

Making a Match: Speidi, Bad Guys & Playboy

Making a Match: The Real Perez and Sexy Sonja

Making a Match: Making Jill (and Ally) Happy

Making a Match: Crashing Chilli's Date!

Making a Match: Larry Birkhead & Melyssa Ford

Patti Turns NeNe's Bridesmaids to Brides

A Waste of a Good Mirror

Getting a Nice Guy for Rachel Uchitel

Breaking 'Matchmaker' History

Two Millionaires That Shouldn't Be Single

The Critical Dick Goes Home Alone

A Dorky Doc and a Hopeless Romantic

Carson Kressley, the Millionaire Whisperer

Patti's Vlog: Everyone Gets a Valentine!

Patti's Vlog: Patti's the Love Doctor

Patti's Vlog: Stefan Richter Tried to Date Patti!

A Bashful Beauty and a Not-So-Golden Oldie

A Shallow Old Dog and a Sweet River Rat

What Rosie Wants and a Gay Hugh Hefner

Great Expectations and the Running Man

Courtney Kerr and a Swedish Peacock

Sarcastic Cheban and a 'Man-diego' Bachelor

Sweetheart Swayze and a Virtual Phantom

Patti's Biggest, Most Tempting Mixer Yet

A Red-Hot Night for the Millionaires

Time for Some Spice: The Ginger Mixer!

Gaynor Gets the Girl (So Does Allison!)

Adam Gaynor Wins, Allison Baver Skates By

Patti Says Leave Boss at the Business

Chef K Wins One for the Lesbian Team

Mitch Berger, NFL Peter Pan, Grows Up

Johnny Out Sweets Yigit

Sweet Yigit Gets No Sugar on His Date

Just Robin Being Robin

Bye-Bye Bradley, Hello Kitty

Robin Kassner Gets Serious

The Rules According to Aimee

Matt "The Candy Man" Riviera

Time for Patti to Give Me a Raise

Ask Patti: Moving Towards Marriage

Patti answers your questions about when to consider marriage.

Patti,
I love the Heidi and Bill storyline - any more updates on their relationship?

You’re not the only one who loves these two! They aren’t following my club rules for a successful relationship, but they’re trying! I love Heidi!

Patti-
I know relationships all seem to have various speeds to them, however how long should one date another before marriage is considered? Should ultimatums ever be used? When should you walk away? Is there a timeline that should be followed? First time you meet their parents? He meets your parents? You are introduced to his friends and vice versa? Does it change depending on backgrounds, for example Race or Ethnicity? Or even religion? One of my colleagues dated a guy for 22 years and he never married her. I don't want to waste my time. I am 32 (he's 37) and we've dated for 4 years, I want a family and he has said he wants the same thing. What do I do? Help!

You have asked many questions, so I’ll tackle a few. First, you should consider marriage after 9 months of dating in a serious monogamous relationship, which is in my book “Become Your Own Matchmaker”. I don’t advise ultimatums, rather “Me-amatums”, which is another technique highlighted in my book. Many of your other questions are answered in my book as well... But to get to the last, important question, if you have “dated” for 4 years and he hasn’t proposed, it’s time to take the next step and have a serious talk about the your collaborative future together.

Patti,
You are adorable and I love the show. I am increasingly irritated at a few of the disgruntled millionaires trying to insult you by showcasing you are not married. Why do they assume your boyfriend is not ready? Does it occur to them that you might not be married because you are not ready?

Thanks for the love and support! I’m not sure the millionaires assume my boyfriend isn’t ready or not. Some of these guys are angry and will attack any perceived “problem” with me or my staff if we supply tough love. I showcase the philosophy that you don’t have to be married to be happy or in love. I’m content at where the relationship is at present – this what I want.

Hi Patti! I love the show so much. I'm a business owner in pet care. Your approach with people has been really inspiring to me. You have a real way of saying exactly what you think and are so confident. People may not always like what you say but they respect it. Your attitude has really influenced me to be more confident. I think if I decide to move in with my long distance boyfriend, he will propose.. Why do you think if you live with a man before marriage, he won't propose? I understand the logic somewhat. But, we love each other and want to be together. It seems like the natural choice in moving forward. He's a good man and not your typical jackass. We've talked for a year and dated exclusively for about 6 mos. I'll be 30 in July and he's 32. We're both successful in our fields. I think we've both been out there long enough and are ready to settle down. So why isn't it okay to move in before marriage?
Thanks!
Monica

Monica, It’s the old adage, “Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free”. Such as with my own relationship, we live separately, and will live together if and when we get married. Once the couple moves in together, it changes the dynamics of the relationship, and takes away some of the mystery and mystique of the woman. Give it another 3 months and reevaluate your future. I don’t condone living together – even if Destin is doing it!

Hi Patti,
I have been dating a really great guy for a month: Jewish, gorgeous who's a yacht captain. He works for mega millionaires who travel often so his life belongs to them. When we're together it's glorious! He's the perfect gentleman. When he's away on the yacht I seldom hear from him. Is dating a workaholic worth it?
Shanna S

Shanna, Congratulations on your new relationship with the gorgeous captain! It’s great he has a job with a future. Have you talked about your feelings regarding his lack of communication? He may not know this is a problem, or it may not be a problem to him. Expression of your wants and needs early on in a relationship will result in healthier communication later on down the road. I suggest you two sit down and discuss concerns while the relationship is forming. And remember, a man (or woman) who loves their job is better than one who doesn’t!

Patti, dearest:
I want to exude your sexiness. How on earth do you walk in such stilettos without falling or wailing from pain at the end of the day?
Clumsy and clueless

Dear Clumsy, Stillettos and Patti go together like hand in glove. Wearing heels has always come naturally to me, and I could probably run the LA marathon in a nice pair of Jimmy Choos! My definition of sexiness is being yourself to your best ability. Highlight the positive, work it and shine girl!

Hey Patti,
I am 23 years old and I am earning my degree in school counseling. My boyfriend is 28 and we have been dating 2 years and 2 months. I am ready for marriage but he says he is not ready. How do I move him toward the altar a little faster? Help! Thanks
Kim

The good thing is you are very young. Is the relationship monogamous and exclusive? Is your boyfriend in school or working on starting or furthering his career? Are you close to finishing your degree? There is no race to the alter until you have jobs, careers and other assorted plans discussed. Have you talked about these issues? Maybe your man has a master plan. You won’t know until you have a nice discussion. Good luck Kim!

Have a question for Patti? Leave it below and check back next week!

Making a Match: The Real Perez and Sexy Sonja

Patti strips Mario Lavandeira of his Perez Hilton persona and takes Sonja Morgan's love life into her own hands with a secret weapon.

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from Larry Birkhead and 'Chili' Thomas to Stephanie Pratt.

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle the good (crashing Chilli's date), the bad (Sonja's fast-burning match Thomas)—and the hilarious (kicking Jill Zarin out!). This week, she talks about setting up RHONY's own Sonja Morgan, Perez Hilton, and more. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

 So this week I’m setting up Perez Hilton. I met Sonja Morgan and she’s from The Real Housewives of New York City. She’s got a high profile divorce from American royalty, aka J.P. Morgan. So Sonja wants a down to earth, really strong guy with money who can travel at a moment’s notice to New York. And Perez wants the ultimate husband. So this is a big deal. And because his reputation is so bad, I gotta find guys who will date him.

 We get down to Sonja’s guys and there’s Thomas and Kent, which end up being the last two guys that I really like. Thomas is super sexy and hot, a little overt, too much wanting to get into her pants. And then there’s Kent who’s so steady, he’s got four kids, he’s really rich, and more importantly, he’s kind of a slow burn -- whereas Thomas is a fast burn. 

 Now, we grab David and we go through the guys for Perez. It’s a blind date. So Perez and his date meet for the first time. I knew this was going to happen, everybody in the gay community, it’s such a small town, and everyong knows eachother. I was like aw, sh--. But, the good thing about it, Perez had a I really good time. I think that after Greg accepted Perez and didn’t make him feel bad about his past, and Perez realized that Greg was a really nice guy, they became friends. It wasn’t a love match, but his confidence soared. I think this was a real learning lesson.

Perez wants the ultimate husband. So this is a big deal. And because his reputation is so bad, I gotta find guys who will date him.

 Sonja chooses Thomas at the mixer and I was kinda bummed because I knew that Thomas was all sex and all talk no action. I had something else up my sleeve. Just to protect myself. So the secret weapon I had was Rocco Dispirito. Rocco Dispirito is a good friend of mine. He just had a new cookbook out and I thought, ‘What a great way to get to know someone if you cook with them!’ So me and Rocco were on a date, and Sonja and Thomas were on a date. And before I knew it, they were flirting and touching and kissing, and I was like, ‘Oh sh--, oh sh--.’ I decided to pull a switch.

 So I pull Kent in and Sonja’s in shock because she didn’t know she was getting two dates and not just one. And of course, Sonja being the flirt and Sagittarius that she is, she just rose to the occasion. Before long, they’re on a date and Thomas is out. It was romance dujour!