Ask Patti: Relationship Maintenance?

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Courtney Kerr and a Swedish Peacock

Sarcastic Cheban and a 'Man-diego' Bachelor

Sweetheart Swayze and a Virtual Phantom

Patti's Biggest, Most Tempting Mixer Yet

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Patti Says Leave Boss at the Business

Chef K Wins One for the Lesbian Team

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Robin Kassner Gets Serious

The Rules According to Aimee

Matt "The Candy Man" Riviera

Time for Patti to Give Me a Raise

Ask Patti: Relationship Maintenance?

Patti answers questions about long distance relationships and popping the big question!

You don't need to be a millionaire to get relationship advice from Patti Stanger! Post your questions below and be sure to check back next week for a response from Patti!

Was it fun to have Sex Toy Dave back?

He’s always interesting and doesn’t disappoint! Come on, he’s everyone’s favorite metrosexual! He’s a pain, but there is a spot in my heart for him – I really do hope he grows up enough to have true love someday.

Why do so many people believe that finding love after 40 is impossible?

Because men in America tend to be ageists and think that women over 40 are no longer valuable. I hate it, I do – but that’s what I see. Have you watched the show?!

It's usually men who only want to date younger women, but are you seeing more and more women who only want to date younger men?

No. Especially because most women who are successful prefer richer men – and those men tend to be older. Yes, there are ‘cougars’ out there – but not as many as people believe there are.

What's your definition of the "Holy Grail?"

The holy grail of men - a CONFIDENT, SEXY HUNTER who truly loves women.

How do you weed out people who aren't truly serious about dating?

If a person is not consistent by checking, calling, texting, etc – they generally tend to not be into you.

How long should someone wait for the "Big Question"? My brother has been with the same girl for almost three years, she moved in with him last June. The rest of the family and their friends are waiting for him to pop the question, but he seems reluctant. How long should his girlfriend wait before she takes matters in her own hands?

First of all you need to run to the bookstore and buy my book Become Your Own Matchmaker. A woman should never give a man more than a year. Never move in with him without a ring (ahem, Rachel). And in my book it will give her the negotiation words to get what she wants!

Hi Patti!
I'm a huge fan of your show and even have your book, which gives so much great insight into how we should be raising the bar as women (both in how we portray ourselves and what we accept in a partner). I had a question about my own relationship. I was dating a guy for a month and it was great. We became such good friends, and progressed the relationship, had the same ideals about family, wanted the same out of life- we couldn't see enough of each other, but he then went to the opposite coast for work for 3 months. He's asked ME to fly out there to see him. He's not offered to pay for the flight, and I know he doesn't make a lot of money, but should I expect him to offer to pay at least for half? What do you think? Thanks for all your great advice!

The relationship is too soon for a guy who makes no money to buy a ticket like that – however, if this guy was serious about you he would figure out a way to come back and see you for at least a weekend. I suggest he chase you – not the other way around.

Hi Patti,
Love the show! I am 29 I have been dating a (25 year old) guy for about a year now, however a month after our initial date, he left for boot camp. I stuck with him through boot and his numerous moves. I have to say I am completely devoted and in love with him, and I want to be in this for the long haul... however, I just want to know, can, and do you think long distance relationships work, and if so, HOW? I NEED TIPS! Right now he is stationed on American soil, however, he is about 800 miles away, and I can only get down there once every 2 months. My friends think I am going on vacation, however, I call my trips "relationship maintenance."

First of all, long distance relationships go faster to seal the deal. But you must give your guy ‘chase space’ in order to miss you especially since he is serving our country and has a lot on his mind. Men in the service tend to marry faster as they often don’t know when they’re going to come home from a mission. The way to keep the relationship alive is through communication. In today’s modern society you can use text and email to keep the love alive as he may not be by a phone.

Hello Patti,
Do you have any plans to do the Matchmaker on the east coast? I would love to help in NYC!?
Just curious,

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Making a Match: Speidi, Bad Guys & Playboy

Patti talks working with Speidi to break Stephanie Pratt of her bad boy habit and setting up former Playmate Kari Whitman.

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from Perez Hilton and 'Chili' Thomas to Real Miami Housewife Marysol Patton.

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle the good (a real-life 'Ghost' moment), the bad (boys in Stephanie Pratt's case)—and the hilarious (a man pole dancing for Speidi!). 

This week, she talks about setting up Stephanie Pratt, Playboy Bunnny Kari Whitman and more. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

So this week I have Stephanie Pratt, Spencer Pratt's sister! She is drop dead smokin' gorgeous. The problem is she dates bad boys. Bad boys who have no bank accounts. Bad boys who won't even take her to dinner! So, I decide that Speidi needs to come in and help me with recruiting. I mean I need Spencer. He is the voice of reason. And you know what I notice that Spencer and Heidi are so madly in love. 

I also decided to fix up Kari Whitman this week. She used to be engaged to Don Johnson among many other stars. Kari needs to cleanse bad habits and old habits that were clinging to her exes. Kari needs a little bit of loosening up because she's like a stiff girl. She's got like a stick up her ass. She's all hoity-toity. Like, the botox don't move, neither do the tits. 

She's got like a stick up her ass. She's all hoity-toity. Like, the botox don't move, neither do the tits.

If there's anyone literally who can help Kari detox, it's Tracy Anderson. She's like a mad scientist that can help get your inner balance. Before we meet the guys, Tracy gives us a whole new exercise routine, which by the way I've been using -- and do you see that? That's from Tracy Anderson. Now, we're recruiting for Kari. So these guys come in. They're drop dead gorgeous and they're all dress in workout gear. 
So we decide, my team and I, that we're going to do a dinner mixer. Stephanie is leaning toward Trevor the whole time. But we also like Dutch, who's a really great guy. So it's Dutch or Trevor, Dutch or Trevor. We're not sure yet, but those two are in it to win it. Kari totally likes Kevin and Emilio. So I was really, really shocked because Kari chose Emilio. I wasn't sure she was going to go that way. But then Stephanie chose what I wanted, which was Trevor!
Trevor and Stephanie had this amazing dinner at Beach Cafe on the Santa Monica Pier. They won prizes on the pier, they went on the Ferris wheel. And they kissed!
Kari met Emilio at the pottery shop where they had a lesson of getting dirty with clay. It was a real Ghost moment, very sexy. They went for oysters and Emilio created a special drink for her and they shared a sexy kiss. That was a really romantic date, by the way.
Really proud of my clients this week and as always, they nailed it! These two found love, it was awesome this week. Best week yet!