Ask Patti: Relationship Maintenance?

Making a Match: Crashing Chilli's Date!

Making a Match: Larry Birkhead & Melyssa Ford

Patti Turns NeNe's Bridesmaids to Brides

A Waste of a Good Mirror

Getting a Nice Guy for Rachel Uchitel

Breaking 'Matchmaker' History

Two Millionaires That Shouldn't Be Single

The Critical Dick Goes Home Alone

A Dorky Doc and a Hopeless Romantic

Carson Kressley, the Millionaire Whisperer

Patti's Vlog: Everyone Gets a Valentine!

Patti's Vlog: Patti's the Love Doctor

Patti's Vlog: Stefan Richter Tried to Date Patti!

A Bashful Beauty and a Not-So-Golden Oldie

A Shallow Old Dog and a Sweet River Rat

What Rosie Wants and a Gay Hugh Hefner

Great Expectations and the Running Man

Courtney Kerr and a Swedish Peacock

Sarcastic Cheban and a 'Man-diego' Bachelor

Sweetheart Swayze and a Virtual Phantom

Patti's Biggest, Most Tempting Mixer Yet

A Red-Hot Night for the Millionaires

Time for Some Spice: The Ginger Mixer!

Gaynor Gets the Girl (So Does Allison!)

Adam Gaynor Wins, Allison Baver Skates By

Patti Says Leave Boss at the Business

Chef K Wins One for the Lesbian Team

Mitch Berger, NFL Peter Pan, Grows Up

Johnny Out Sweets Yigit

Sweet Yigit Gets No Sugar on His Date

Just Robin Being Robin

Bye-Bye Bradley, Hello Kitty

Robin Kassner Gets Serious

The Rules According to Aimee

Matt "The Candy Man" Riviera

Time for Patti to Give Me a Raise

Skeet Shooting is a Bad Date Idea

Let the Man Be the Man on a Date

Irv's Nerve

Patti's Favorite Episode

Ask Patti: Relationship Maintenance?

Patti answers questions about long distance relationships and popping the big question!

You don't need to be a millionaire to get relationship advice from Patti Stanger! Post your questions below and be sure to check back next week for a response from Patti!

Was it fun to have Sex Toy Dave back?

He’s always interesting and doesn’t disappoint! Come on, he’s everyone’s favorite metrosexual! He’s a pain, but there is a spot in my heart for him – I really do hope he grows up enough to have true love someday.

Why do so many people believe that finding love after 40 is impossible?

Because men in America tend to be ageists and think that women over 40 are no longer valuable. I hate it, I do – but that’s what I see. Have you watched the show?!

It's usually men who only want to date younger women, but are you seeing more and more women who only want to date younger men?

No. Especially because most women who are successful prefer richer men – and those men tend to be older. Yes, there are ‘cougars’ out there – but not as many as people believe there are.

What's your definition of the "Holy Grail?"

The holy grail of men - a CONFIDENT, SEXY HUNTER who truly loves women.

How do you weed out people who aren't truly serious about dating?

If a person is not consistent by checking, calling, texting, etc – they generally tend to not be into you.

How long should someone wait for the "Big Question"? My brother has been with the same girl for almost three years, she moved in with him last June. The rest of the family and their friends are waiting for him to pop the question, but he seems reluctant. How long should his girlfriend wait before she takes matters in her own hands?

First of all you need to run to the bookstore and buy my book Become Your Own Matchmaker. A woman should never give a man more than a year. Never move in with him without a ring (ahem, Rachel). And in my book it will give her the negotiation words to get what she wants!

Hi Patti!
I'm a huge fan of your show and even have your book, which gives so much great insight into how we should be raising the bar as women (both in how we portray ourselves and what we accept in a partner). I had a question about my own relationship. I was dating a guy for a month and it was great. We became such good friends, and progressed the relationship, had the same ideals about family, wanted the same out of life- we couldn't see enough of each other, but he then went to the opposite coast for work for 3 months. He's asked ME to fly out there to see him. He's not offered to pay for the flight, and I know he doesn't make a lot of money, but should I expect him to offer to pay at least for half? What do you think? Thanks for all your great advice!

The relationship is too soon for a guy who makes no money to buy a ticket like that – however, if this guy was serious about you he would figure out a way to come back and see you for at least a weekend. I suggest he chase you – not the other way around.

Hi Patti,
Love the show! I am 29 I have been dating a (25 year old) guy for about a year now, however a month after our initial date, he left for boot camp. I stuck with him through boot and his numerous moves. I have to say I am completely devoted and in love with him, and I want to be in this for the long haul... however, I just want to know, can, and do you think long distance relationships work, and if so, HOW? I NEED TIPS! Right now he is stationed on American soil, however, he is about 800 miles away, and I can only get down there once every 2 months. My friends think I am going on vacation, however, I call my trips "relationship maintenance."

First of all, long distance relationships go faster to seal the deal. But you must give your guy ‘chase space’ in order to miss you especially since he is serving our country and has a lot on his mind. Men in the service tend to marry faster as they often don’t know when they’re going to come home from a mission. The way to keep the relationship alive is through communication. In today’s modern society you can use text and email to keep the love alive as he may not be by a phone.

Hello Patti,
Do you have any plans to do the Matchmaker on the east coast? I would love to help in NYC!?
Just curious,

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Making a Match: Larry Birkhead & Melyssa Ford

Find out what Patti really thought about sexy Melyssa and shy guy Larry's dates.

This week I got to meet one of the sweetest guys in the world, Larry Birkhead: the boy from Kentucky. There’s just one problem: he hasn’t dated in like a decade. This guy needs practice. I mean, he’s drop dead gorgeous and he can’t do anything. I can send him out into the world and the world of a mixer and a date, but he could botch it. Candace and I will give him some mock dating experience and I will pick his date for him. The first time he’ll meet her will be when they go out for the first time. No chance for him to get nervous, and more importantly, no time for the girl to look him up and see who he is. He can stand on his own two feet and just be himself, not Anna Nicole’s ex.

He can stand on his own two feet and just be himself, not Anna Nicole’s ex.

My other client this week is drop dead gorgeous: Melyssa Ford. She’s the star of Blood Sweat and Heels, she used to be in a bunch of music videos, and she was nicknamed the "Video Vixen". I know it’s hard to turn off the beauty and the booty, so I bring her to doctor Pat Allen. Doctor Pat and I have worked together for years. Doctor Pat told Melyssa that she should be leading with her brain. Melyssa can be sexy no matter what: but can she look for the guy who’s interested in what she has to say, not what she looks like?

So I’m doing something new: I get Candace and David to bring a bunch of good appropriate men and women to the mixer. I just want a handful of guys for Melyssa, and a handful of girls for Larry. I introduce the best ones to Melyssa for her to choose from, and I’ll pick the best girl to set up Larry with on a blind date. Melyssa picks Jay. Jay listened to the conversation, and remembered Melyssa liked bowling and cigars. And he took her on a perfect, fun, get-to-know-you date. Meanwhile, Larry met up with his date at Universal Studios. He had a private tour set up, and he and Michelle met for the first time. They had a blast. She knew who he was, but they got past that and they got to know each other. And he took her for dinner and even got a kiss at the end.

So in the end, I’m so happy that both Larry and Melyssa got to learn something. Larry got to know he can be himself and there’s no need to be shy, and she knows (Melyssa) that there are guys out there who can look past her booty and see the great girl underneath.

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