Ask Patti: Second Dates and Best Friends

Patti Stanger answers your questions about love and relationships.


Hi Patti -
I recently had some minor surgery done. With the many follow up visits I've had I have become very fond of my doctor. He usually sticks around to talk to me about other things if he's not too busy. I want to find out if he's interested in me but not saying anything because of our doctor/patient relationship or if he is just a nice guy. How do I subtly let him know I'm interested?

Sounds like he has some GREATTTTTT bedside manner! This is a fine line question. What kind of surgery? How much time did you have to spend together? Are you sure he’s single? A close friend of mine had a very similar situation – it can get sticky. Get him out of the office into a social setting (like a party) where the two of you are just PEOPLE – not doctor/patient...then see if sparks fly.

Hi Patti!
I love your show. I watch it every week religiously. But I want to know more about YOU and YOUR relationships! How did you meet your boyfriend? What's the best date you've ever been on? Alex

Well, if you listened to my new radio show on XM Pink 22 and Mix 24 every Sunday at 3PM Pacific, you’d hear me talk all about him! My co-host, Destin (from the show) is always bringing him up! I love Andy – he has a heart of gold… a matchmaker wanted a job with me, I said if she finds me a man, she’s hired – Andy was the first date she set me up with.

Hi Patti,
I love your show and would like to ask you a question. I have been married for two years to a man that treats me well. The only problem is he has more female friends than I do. Do you think it's OK that he talks to them on the phone when he is at work and bored in the middle of the night because I am sleeping and he cannot talk to me?

A friend is a friend is a friend…. Does he have feminine energy? Do you know them? Do they serve a function besides friendship that you don’t? Honestly though, midnight calls with girls? What happened to late night TV or a book? Sounds fishy!

Quick question.
I've been currently dating my b/f for about 5 months now. He suddenly had an out burst where he started screaming at me due to all the stress he's been under. Although we've discussed how to solve this problem and have him handle it correctly, I'm still startled by what happened. Lately any loud noise triggers my mind into believing he's freaking out again. Basically my mind's making bad associations and is believing everything he does is an out lash of some kind. I'm thinking about leaving, but at the same time it's not fair to just leave if he's going to work at it (and has). What do you think?

I think it goes deeper than just that. If you’re thinking about leaving, there’s usually a good reason for it.

Hey Patti,
I went on a first date with a guy, and it wasn't bad, but it wasn't great either. I get the feeling he'll call for a second date...should I take it, or not waste my time?

Men sometimes need to be driven twice around the block before you decide to take him off the lot. If you’re thinking about a second date this much – you should probably do it.

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Making a Match: Brooklyn Chooses Sizzle vs. Substance

Patti dishes on what it was like working with Thicker Than Water Brooklyn Tankard and getting a New York player to start take matchmaking seriously.

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from RHOA’s Kenya Moore and Sheree Whitfield to rap royalty Romeo Miller.

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle the good (Brooklyn on French kissing), the bad (Amit’s beard)—and the hilarious (Patti’s New York accent!).

This week, she talks about setting up Thicker Than Water's Brooklyn Tankard and teaching this Long Island divorcee to stop looking for love at the clubs. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

Brooklyn Tankard the star of Thicker Than Water is up this week. Brooklyn is pretty funny and exciting, she’s a little bit off though. She’s basically a single mom with a daughter and you know she doesn’t get to meet quality men, she really hasn’t found her equal.

My other client this week is liquor entrepreneur Amit Ram, he’s from Long Island. He’s got this awful f---ing beard on his face. Girls in the clubs like his beard, yeah, yeah in 1959 they do, not in 2015.

For those two we chose to do a Hot Seat Mixer. That means Brooklyn and Amit interview potential dates and if they don’t like someone they can kick them out of the hot seat, but if they like them, they get to stay. So it’s kind of like musical chairs.

Brooklyn goes through a bunch of guys and some of them are really awesome. I personally love Jason, he’s tall, he’s older, he’s been divorced, he has kids, he’s a very solid guy. But Brooklyn’s got her eye on Michael who's a bit younger, really hot, super sexy, has sort of a football player look -- and she can’t take her eyes off of him. Instead of going for the substance she’s going for the sizzle.

Meanwhile, Amit chose a great little petite girl named Daniella, she’s also a gym rat like him, they have a lot in common. He’s taken her on an interesting date, free-running training, you know when run and when you jump and you climb, it’s kind of extreme dating. They’re both pretty bad at it, but they love working out so they have a really great time. Then he takes her to a nice dinner at a classy place, Miceli’s.

I just hope Brooklyn took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville, because she needs a lot of work.

Patti Stanger

Brooklyn had a really nice date with Michael, they went peddle boating. But Michael didn’t ask much about Brooklyn, and this didn’t really work out for her because she likes to be the center of attention. So I don’t think that she chose well. I think it should’ve been Jason, which is the one I wanted her to go out with all along. I just hope she took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville because she needs a lot of work. I bet she'll be back again next time.      

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