Ask Patti: Who Should Pay?

Making a Match: Crashing Chilli's Date!

Making a Match: Larry Birkhead & Melyssa Ford

Patti Turns NeNe's Bridesmaids to Brides

A Waste of a Good Mirror

Getting a Nice Guy for Rachel Uchitel

Breaking 'Matchmaker' History

Two Millionaires That Shouldn't Be Single

The Critical Dick Goes Home Alone

A Dorky Doc and a Hopeless Romantic

Carson Kressley, the Millionaire Whisperer

Patti's Vlog: Everyone Gets a Valentine!

Patti's Vlog: Patti's the Love Doctor

Patti's Vlog: Stefan Richter Tried to Date Patti!

A Bashful Beauty and a Not-So-Golden Oldie

A Shallow Old Dog and a Sweet River Rat

What Rosie Wants and a Gay Hugh Hefner

Great Expectations and the Running Man

Courtney Kerr and a Swedish Peacock

Sarcastic Cheban and a 'Man-diego' Bachelor

Sweetheart Swayze and a Virtual Phantom

Patti's Biggest, Most Tempting Mixer Yet

A Red-Hot Night for the Millionaires

Time for Some Spice: The Ginger Mixer!

Gaynor Gets the Girl (So Does Allison!)

Adam Gaynor Wins, Allison Baver Skates By

Patti Says Leave Boss at the Business

Chef K Wins One for the Lesbian Team

Mitch Berger, NFL Peter Pan, Grows Up

Johnny Out Sweets Yigit

Sweet Yigit Gets No Sugar on His Date

Just Robin Being Robin

Bye-Bye Bradley, Hello Kitty

Robin Kassner Gets Serious

The Rules According to Aimee

Matt "The Candy Man" Riviera

Time for Patti to Give Me a Raise

Skeet Shooting is a Bad Date Idea

Let the Man Be the Man on a Date

Irv's Nerve

Patti's Favorite Episode

Ask Patti: Who Should Pay?

Who should pay on a dinner date? How can you try out for a Millionaire mixer? Find out!

Hi Patti,
When going out with someone for the first time, whether it is coffee or dinner or whatever, should I offer to pay for myself? I have thought this was polite, since at this point I really don't know much about his income, but maybe this is a turnoff? In these "modern" dating times, how do men in their mid 30's to mid 40's feel when the check comes? Thanks and I love the show!

A lady never pays for themselves unless you are masculine energy. Your company to a true gentleman is the gift in itself. In this day and age a man feels good when he does good, which means he loves taking a woman out and paying the bill. Any man who complains about this is not a man, but a boy.

I was wondering where do you find the girls or guys for the mixers?
Rebecca Little

They are pre-selected through the network and anyone can try out.

Hi Patti,
I need your expert advice - my daughter is dating such a loser and she will only take advice from you! Please help!

First of all, run to the bookstore and get Become Your Own Matchmaker which teaches you how to un-bond to a loser. The reason most people are bonded to jerks is because of sex. She needs to stop seeing him and taking his calls. Give it 60 days after that and she will be un-bonded.

How do I join your Matchmaker organization? I have tried almost every dating site and can't seem to find men in their 40's who are emotionally healthy enough for a relationship...where else can I try?

You go to and follow the registration process. Anyone is welcome and I look forward to fixing you up!

Do you ever think it's appropriate for women to go to an upscale bar for drinks? I have had varied responses on this. Some guys think a woman is desperate and looking for sex if she is at the bar and others say they think she is a confident woman and they don't mind seeing a woman alone at the bar...what are your thoughts?

Yes, but I will give you a bit of a tip that will make you stand out from the crowd. “Those who travel in packs do not attract.” If you go out looking classy/sexy by yourself, get situated at the bar, remember to tip the bartender well and bring a topical male friendly book with you between the hours of 4:30 pm to 5:30 pm, men should come up to you once you smile at them. If the guy doesn’t offer to buy you drinks or an oerderve in the first 15 minutes of meeting you then move on. He is either cheap or waiting for a better deal to come along.

Patti! My question is whether you have any specific dating advice for bigger girls? I am young curvy girl who can't find a decent guy who isn't a frat boy or a player that only wants to get some. PLEASE HELP! I am fine being single for now, but I would eventually like to settle down.
Thanks Patti, I love you and your show!

First of all, I love girls like you. I too am curvy and often felt in my youth that nobody wanted me because I wasn’t skinny enough. I can tell you from this old, wise, love yoda that that is simply not true as plenty of men love full figured gals. The problem is, you have to go where those men are. Midwest/Latin men love the women who have a little junk in the trunk and often feel that the girl who is skin and bones is unattractive. You might want to take a vacation to Miami or hit Rush street in Chicago where there are 3 boys to one girl.

Making a Match: Larry Birkhead & Melyssa Ford

Find out what Patti really thought about sexy Melyssa and shy guy Larry's dates.

This week I got to meet one of the sweetest guys in the world, Larry Birkhead: the boy from Kentucky. There’s just one problem: he hasn’t dated in like a decade. This guy needs practice. I mean, he’s drop dead gorgeous and he can’t do anything. I can send him out into the world and the world of a mixer and a date, but he could botch it. Candace and I will give him some mock dating experience and I will pick his date for him. The first time he’ll meet her will be when they go out for the first time. No chance for him to get nervous, and more importantly, no time for the girl to look him up and see who he is. He can stand on his own two feet and just be himself, not Anna Nicole’s ex.

He can stand on his own two feet and just be himself, not Anna Nicole’s ex.

My other client this week is drop dead gorgeous: Melyssa Ford. She’s the star of Blood Sweat and Heels, she used to be in a bunch of music videos, and she was nicknamed the "Video Vixen". I know it’s hard to turn off the beauty and the booty, so I bring her to doctor Pat Allen. Doctor Pat and I have worked together for years. Doctor Pat told Melyssa that she should be leading with her brain. Melyssa can be sexy no matter what: but can she look for the guy who’s interested in what she has to say, not what she looks like?

So I’m doing something new: I get Candace and David to bring a bunch of good appropriate men and women to the mixer. I just want a handful of guys for Melyssa, and a handful of girls for Larry. I introduce the best ones to Melyssa for her to choose from, and I’ll pick the best girl to set up Larry with on a blind date. Melyssa picks Jay. Jay listened to the conversation, and remembered Melyssa liked bowling and cigars. And he took her on a perfect, fun, get-to-know-you date. Meanwhile, Larry met up with his date at Universal Studios. He had a private tour set up, and he and Michelle met for the first time. They had a blast. She knew who he was, but they got past that and they got to know each other. And he took her for dinner and even got a kiss at the end.

So in the end, I’m so happy that both Larry and Melyssa got to learn something. Larry got to know he can be himself and there’s no need to be shy, and she knows (Melyssa) that there are guys out there who can look past her booty and see the great girl underneath.

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