Ask Patti:

Making a Match: Beauty, Bikinis and Breaking The Rules

Making a Match: A Bachelor's Bachelor

Making a Match: A #Matchmaker First!

Making a Match: The Matchmaker is Always Right

Making a Match: Patti Melts and Bravo Reunions

Making a Match: Speidi, Bad Guys & Playboy

Making a Match: The Real Perez and Sexy Sonja

Making a Match: Making Jill (and Ally) Happy

Making a Match: Crashing Chilli's Date!

Making a Match: Larry Birkhead & Melyssa Ford

Patti Turns NeNe's Bridesmaids to Brides

A Waste of a Good Mirror

Getting a Nice Guy for Rachel Uchitel

Breaking 'Matchmaker' History

Two Millionaires That Shouldn't Be Single

The Critical Dick Goes Home Alone

A Dorky Doc and a Hopeless Romantic

Carson Kressley, the Millionaire Whisperer

Patti's Vlog: Everyone Gets a Valentine!

Patti's Vlog: Patti's the Love Doctor

Patti's Vlog: Stefan Richter Tried to Date Patti!

A Bashful Beauty and a Not-So-Golden Oldie

A Shallow Old Dog and a Sweet River Rat

What Rosie Wants and a Gay Hugh Hefner

Great Expectations and the Running Man

Courtney Kerr and a Swedish Peacock

Sarcastic Cheban and a 'Man-diego' Bachelor

Sweetheart Swayze and a Virtual Phantom

Patti's Biggest, Most Tempting Mixer Yet

A Red-Hot Night for the Millionaires

Time for Some Spice: The Ginger Mixer!

Gaynor Gets the Girl (So Does Allison!)

Adam Gaynor Wins, Allison Baver Skates By

Patti Says Leave Boss at the Business

Chef K Wins One for the Lesbian Team

Mitch Berger, NFL Peter Pan, Grows Up

Johnny Out Sweets Yigit

Sweet Yigit Gets No Sugar on His Date

Just Robin Being Robin

Bye-Bye Bradley, Hello Kitty

Ask Patti:

Patti Stanger answers your relationship questions!

You don't need to be a millionaire to get relationship advice from Patti Stanger! Post your questions below and be sure to check back next week for a response from Patti!

In Love with a Broken Man
Is there a way to make things work with a man who has an insecure ego? Broke up with a man who said I made him feel "inadequate all the time". I make more money than him and footed the bill a lot during our 2 year relationship (he didn't ask for it, I just did it). He's 13 years older than me with 2 adult kids in college from his first marriage (he's been divorced nearly 20 years). I've never been married and have no kids, therefore I didn't have the same obligations or responsibilities and was able to spend my money any way I wanted. We live in two different states, so we were doing the long-distance thing... I still love him very much. I work in the domestic violence field and I can honestly say that I have truly found one of the "good ones", but he just happens to be insecure because of his financial "situation"...Does love really conquer all?

In my book, Become Your Own Matchmaker, I always feel it’s important to let the man lead even if he makes less money than the woman. If you continue to foot the bill you end up emasculating him, which will eventually cut your sex appeal. It doesn’t matter if a man takes you for pizza coffee or a beer. Once he puts his hand in his pocket to pay for you, that shows interest. Here’s a tip I use with my boyfriend, I am the one who makes more money than he does, however I let him make all the plans and pay for all the dates – I buy the groceries and every four times he takes me out I take him to brunch, lunch or drinks which is a lesser value than what he paid to take me out. The four to one rule is a standard of living that everyone, be it rich or poor, should live by. The reason is - when a man leads with his money (even if doesn’t have much) he is showing providership towards the female – which allows the female to relax and be sexually potent.

Reality Show Love
I just watched the season finale of The Bachelor, and I am wondering what you think of that show! Is it really possible to find true love that way?

Yes, however it has to be someone that doesn’t have a fame-whore agenda. In Millionaire Matchmaker season finale (2) you will meet a gay gentleman who came on to the show looking for true love because the last ten years of his life have been spent working. On the show he never ever talked about his business because he was strictly there to find true love. TV can be used as a vehicle to meet your soulmate – but your intentions must be pure.

Friends With the Ex
Is it wrong for women to stay friends with an ex-boyfriend?

It is not wrong, however enough time must pass – at least a year… preferably if you are both in relationships.

What is the biggest mistake you think women make when trying to find their soul mate?

Not buying the book Become Your Own Matchmaker (out NOW!) or joining!!!

Making a Match: A Bachelor's Bachelor

Patti Stanger dishes on getting dog out of of Bachelor star Jesse Kovacs and getting AJ Johnson to let go of control. 

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from Perez Hilton and Bravo's own Sheree Whitfield to musician Adam O'Rourke!

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle the good (ditching the douche), the bad (AJ standing up his second date)—and the hilarious (did Patti just say she loves porn?!). 

This week, she talks about finding the perfect match for The Bachelor's infamous Jesse Kovacs, Candace Smith's pal and perfectionist AJ Johnson and more. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

This was a fun week I had two clients, AJ Johnson from Chicagolicious and Jesse Kovacs -- he’s been on several versions of The Bachelor.

I’ll start with AJ: he wants the perfect partner in business, life and love. Candace tells me he is a control freak and she is not kidding. I call him Mr. Cuffington because he likes putting girls in cuffs and he wants to control their look, what they say, how they act. He is a mess, but he is a nice guy. If he continues to put the cuffs on the girls he’s going to drive down lonely lane. I have an idea of how I’m going to do this mixer, but at first I introduce AJ to a fellow stylist mister blow out himself Jonathan Anton. He is in the same business as AJ and he’s had a lot of success.

On to my other client, when I meet Jesse Kovacs he’s nice and he’s handsome, so why does he have trouble finding love? Because he has a terrible reputation. He just wants to meet a nice girl who likes him for who he is and isn’t pre-judging him, but I need to get deeper. He knows he’s screwed up and he’s willing to change.

Jesse Kovacs is nice and he’s handsome, so why does he have trouble finding love? Because he has a terrible reputation.

For both these guys I want to do a special mixer. In this mixer were going to play a little game and my clients aren’t going to be able to see the girls. This works out great and AJ whittles his choice down to beautiful pageant girl Melissa and Jesse chooses cute little Kate.

AJ takes Melissa on a very romantic day of wine tasting in Malibu, they even get to stomp around in the grapes and they ended up having dinner at Geoffrey’s overlooking the water. I hope they will see each other again and I know

AJ has learned a lot from this.

Jesse also had some success. He and Kate had a playful date go-kart racing and I think they really hit it off, we’ll see. But I think both of my guys have learned a lot about themselves and about love.

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