Cast Blog: #MATCHMAKER

Finding Ms. Right

Ayinde talks about his 'Matchmaker' experience!

 

I am really grateful that Bravo gave me an opportunity to blog my experience from the show. I had a blast! If you were to tell me a year ago, I would have had the chance to link up with Patti so she could find my dream woman on national television, I wouldn't have believed you! But, that's what happened and I'd like to tell you how it all came about!

I moved to Los Angeles in 2000 to play professional beach volleyball; a childhood dream. After working 9 to 5 in an office as a top sales person for radio advertising, I started to feel a bit like Neo in my desire to want something greater. I was doing well financially and enjoying what I did. I loved selling advertising, helping small businesses get their messages out, reaching millions of people with ads that I created. However, I could feel something inside calling me to stretch outside of my comfort zone.

Unfortunately, walking away from a great job and playing beach volleyball was not anywhere in the, "How to Marry" manual. Neither was it in the manual to start-up a company. Nonetheless, in 2009, I reached a place where I knew my business was on track for success, I had developed more spirituality and began looking around at all my married friends with kids, and sought Patti's expertise. I truly believed she could help me find that special woman who was ready to build a life of intimacy, creativity, health and abundance.

At the very least, I thought the transformative technology I created with Hitch Radio would get the exposure needed to inform an interested audience who might like to use it. A lot of people have asked me about Hitch Radio, and want to know more about my company. Hitch Radio is a search box for live broadcasts and it's the easiest way to hear your favorite music, DJ's and radio talk shows anywhere in the world. Ultimately, it's what you would get if you could combine Google, Sirius XM Radio and Facebook. You can try it by invitation only during the preview period [beta launch] by going to www.hitchradio.com.

 

Meeting Patti was a big surprise. In every episode of the show that I had seen, she was yelling at the bachelors to get their acts together. I guess I didn't want to be yelled at, so I listened closely to her advice. Even to the point of going to her "Spiritual Psychotherapist," Dr. Nicki. And I am glad I did. Because of Dr. Nicki's comforting and grounded vibe, I forgot the cameras where even in the room with us. She let me feel right at home and got to the core of my hesitancy for commitment in lightning fast speed. I felt a little like Robert DeNiro in Analyze That! She was right on and very caring.

Armed with Patti's advice and Dr. Nicki's guidance, I was ready for my date. Walking in the room was pretty overwhelming. In a business setting, I am very comfortable holding court. But, I must admit, during the social I was in favor of the more intimate audiences. I didn't want anyone to feel like they were not important or miss the opportunity to meet Ms. Right in the controlled chaos of the mixer. I didn't want to talk at the ladies. I wanted to find out as much as possible from as many as possible. I was serious about finding someone who was open minded, warm, successful, genuine and intelligent.

The funny thing is that I had a tough time choosing Joslyn. She was the first to catch my eye, but in Hollywood, there are a lot of women who are beautiful. I wanted to see if she was willing to offer more than just her beauty. After all, I come from a family of beautiful, accomplished and intelligent women. The bar is high! After the mini-date, I felt confident that Joslyn was the right match and that she would have the most fun on the date I had planned.

I was right. We had a ball on the helicopter ride! I like to be a kid, too, and Joslyn was cool with that part of my personality (a big plus). Since the show Joslyn and I have kept in touch and seen each other a few times. She is a beautiful, kind-hearted, family-oriented and success-minded young woman. Will we see each other again? I doubt it. However, she was the best helicopter date I could have had, and I am grateful for having had the opportunity to get to know her better.

 

Overall, the show was one of the best experiences of my life; really. The entire production crew is the best in the business from the production assistants to the top brass producers. As for Patti.... Well, I can tell you one thing: she (and her awesome team) was one of my favorite parts of the experience! She was so great to work with! She is straightforward and to the point; fun and funny! She is extremely professional and always working! I wish her all the best with her new marriage. Right now, she is working on a couple other young women that she believes may be even better suited for me. I trust her wisdom, and look forward to see what the future holds.

Ayinde

Making a Match: Brooklyn Chooses Sizzle vs. Substance

Patti dishes on what it was like working with Thicker Than Water Brooklyn Tankard and getting a New York player to start take matchmaking seriously.

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from RHOA’s Kenya Moore and Sheree Whitfield to rap royalty Romeo Miller.

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle the good (Brooklyn on French kissing), the bad (Amit’s beard)—and the hilarious (Patti’s New York accent!).

This week, she talks about setting up Thicker Than Water's Brooklyn Tankard and teaching this Long Island divorcee to stop looking for love at the clubs. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

Brooklyn Tankard the star of Thicker Than Water is up this week. Brooklyn is pretty funny and exciting, she’s a little bit off though. She’s basically a single mom with a daughter and you know she doesn’t get to meet quality men, she really hasn’t found her equal.

My other client this week is liquor entrepreneur Amit Ram, he’s from Long Island. He’s got this awful f---ing beard on his face. Girls in the clubs like his beard, yeah, yeah in 1959 they do, not in 2015.

For those two we chose to do a Hot Seat Mixer. That means Brooklyn and Amit interview potential dates and if they don’t like someone they can kick them out of the hot seat, but if they like them, they get to stay. So it’s kind of like musical chairs.

Brooklyn goes through a bunch of guys and some of them are really awesome. I personally love Jason, he’s tall, he’s older, he’s been divorced, he has kids, he’s a very solid guy. But Brooklyn’s got her eye on Michael who's a bit younger, really hot, super sexy, has sort of a football player look -- and she can’t take her eyes off of him. Instead of going for the substance she’s going for the sizzle.

Meanwhile, Amit chose a great little petite girl named Daniella, she’s also a gym rat like him, they have a lot in common. He’s taken her on an interesting date, free-running training, you know when run and when you jump and you climb, it’s kind of extreme dating. They’re both pretty bad at it, but they love working out so they have a really great time. Then he takes her to a nice dinner at a classy place, Miceli’s.

I just hope Brooklyn took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville, because she needs a lot of work.

Patti Stanger

Brooklyn had a really nice date with Michael, they went peddle boating. But Michael didn’t ask much about Brooklyn, and this didn’t really work out for her because she likes to be the center of attention. So I don’t think that she chose well. I think it should’ve been Jason, which is the one I wanted her to go out with all along. I just hope she took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville because she needs a lot of work. I bet she'll be back again next time.      

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