Cast Blog: #MATCHMAKER

Finding Ms. Right

Making a Match: Crashing Chilli's Date!

Making a Match: Larry Birkhead & Melyssa Ford

Patti Turns NeNe's Bridesmaids to Brides

A Waste of a Good Mirror

Getting a Nice Guy for Rachel Uchitel

Breaking 'Matchmaker' History

Two Millionaires That Shouldn't Be Single

The Critical Dick Goes Home Alone

A Dorky Doc and a Hopeless Romantic

Carson Kressley, the Millionaire Whisperer

Patti's Vlog: Everyone Gets a Valentine!

Patti's Vlog: Patti's the Love Doctor

Patti's Vlog: Stefan Richter Tried to Date Patti!

A Bashful Beauty and a Not-So-Golden Oldie

A Shallow Old Dog and a Sweet River Rat

What Rosie Wants and a Gay Hugh Hefner

Great Expectations and the Running Man

Courtney Kerr and a Swedish Peacock

Sarcastic Cheban and a 'Man-diego' Bachelor

Sweetheart Swayze and a Virtual Phantom

Patti's Biggest, Most Tempting Mixer Yet

A Red-Hot Night for the Millionaires

Time for Some Spice: The Ginger Mixer!

Gaynor Gets the Girl (So Does Allison!)

Adam Gaynor Wins, Allison Baver Skates By

Patti Says Leave Boss at the Business

Chef K Wins One for the Lesbian Team

Mitch Berger, NFL Peter Pan, Grows Up

Johnny Out Sweets Yigit

Sweet Yigit Gets No Sugar on His Date

Just Robin Being Robin

Bye-Bye Bradley, Hello Kitty

Robin Kassner Gets Serious

The Rules According to Aimee

Matt "The Candy Man" Riviera

Time for Patti to Give Me a Raise

Skeet Shooting is a Bad Date Idea

Let the Man Be the Man on a Date

Irv's Nerve

Patti's Favorite Episode

Finding Ms. Right

Ayinde talks about his 'Matchmaker' experience!

 

I am really grateful that Bravo gave me an opportunity to blog my experience from the show. I had a blast! If you were to tell me a year ago, I would have had the chance to link up with Patti so she could find my dream woman on national television, I wouldn't have believed you! But, that's what happened and I'd like to tell you how it all came about!

I moved to Los Angeles in 2000 to play professional beach volleyball; a childhood dream. After working 9 to 5 in an office as a top sales person for radio advertising, I started to feel a bit like Neo in my desire to want something greater. I was doing well financially and enjoying what I did. I loved selling advertising, helping small businesses get their messages out, reaching millions of people with ads that I created. However, I could feel something inside calling me to stretch outside of my comfort zone.

Unfortunately, walking away from a great job and playing beach volleyball was not anywhere in the, "How to Marry" manual. Neither was it in the manual to start-up a company. Nonetheless, in 2009, I reached a place where I knew my business was on track for success, I had developed more spirituality and began looking around at all my married friends with kids, and sought Patti's expertise. I truly believed she could help me find that special woman who was ready to build a life of intimacy, creativity, health and abundance.

At the very least, I thought the transformative technology I created with Hitch Radio would get the exposure needed to inform an interested audience who might like to use it. A lot of people have asked me about Hitch Radio, and want to know more about my company. Hitch Radio is a search box for live broadcasts and it's the easiest way to hear your favorite music, DJ's and radio talk shows anywhere in the world. Ultimately, it's what you would get if you could combine Google, Sirius XM Radio and Facebook. You can try it by invitation only during the preview period [beta launch] by going to www.hitchradio.com.

 

Meeting Patti was a big surprise. In every episode of the show that I had seen, she was yelling at the bachelors to get their acts together. I guess I didn't want to be yelled at, so I listened closely to her advice. Even to the point of going to her "Spiritual Psychotherapist," Dr. Nicki. And I am glad I did. Because of Dr. Nicki's comforting and grounded vibe, I forgot the cameras where even in the room with us. She let me feel right at home and got to the core of my hesitancy for commitment in lightning fast speed. I felt a little like Robert DeNiro in Analyze That! She was right on and very caring.

Armed with Patti's advice and Dr. Nicki's guidance, I was ready for my date. Walking in the room was pretty overwhelming. In a business setting, I am very comfortable holding court. But, I must admit, during the social I was in favor of the more intimate audiences. I didn't want anyone to feel like they were not important or miss the opportunity to meet Ms. Right in the controlled chaos of the mixer. I didn't want to talk at the ladies. I wanted to find out as much as possible from as many as possible. I was serious about finding someone who was open minded, warm, successful, genuine and intelligent.

The funny thing is that I had a tough time choosing Joslyn. She was the first to catch my eye, but in Hollywood, there are a lot of women who are beautiful. I wanted to see if she was willing to offer more than just her beauty. After all, I come from a family of beautiful, accomplished and intelligent women. The bar is high! After the mini-date, I felt confident that Joslyn was the right match and that she would have the most fun on the date I had planned.

I was right. We had a ball on the helicopter ride! I like to be a kid, too, and Joslyn was cool with that part of my personality (a big plus). Since the show Joslyn and I have kept in touch and seen each other a few times. She is a beautiful, kind-hearted, family-oriented and success-minded young woman. Will we see each other again? I doubt it. However, she was the best helicopter date I could have had, and I am grateful for having had the opportunity to get to know her better.

 

Overall, the show was one of the best experiences of my life; really. The entire production crew is the best in the business from the production assistants to the top brass producers. As for Patti.... Well, I can tell you one thing: she (and her awesome team) was one of my favorite parts of the experience! She was so great to work with! She is straightforward and to the point; fun and funny! She is extremely professional and always working! I wish her all the best with her new marriage. Right now, she is working on a couple other young women that she believes may be even better suited for me. I trust her wisdom, and look forward to see what the future holds.

Ayinde

Patti Turns NeNe's Bridesmaids to Brides

Patti thinks it won’t be long before these two are following their friend Nene Leakes’ lead down the aisle.

Read Patti's full transcript after the jump!

OK, greatest week ever. We have my friend NeNe Leakes out here from Atlanta and she brought me the gift that keeps on giving, great women who are looking to be set up! So I’m doing NeNe a favor this week and we’re throwing her two eligible bridesmaids a mixer to top all mixers. These girls are gonna get hooked up, and if they play their cards right, they might end up with a handsome man on their arm.

So let’s get this started. NeNe introduces me to Dawn Robinson and Diana Gowins. Diana is the mothering type. Not just a little bit, she could out-mother Mother Teresa. I get where she’s coming from, she’s an ex-nurse, she’s got three kids, she’s a nurturer. But she’s got a problem: she over-nurtures and that gives the guys the wrong signal, especially when they start dating. A man doesn’t want his date to be a mother until they have some children together. Until then, she’s his hot wife and Diana’s got to lead with the sexy and bring the mothering to the table later. That one’s easy.

Dawn is a little tougher. She’s tall, gorgeous, but also really intellectually smart, and she knows it. She’s got a high finance job, and she doesn’t need a man telling her anything. Well, there’s the problem because a man needs to at least feel like he’s worth something. So Dawn doesn’t need to play dumb, but she also doesn’t need to intimidate the guy or drive over the guy like a competitive tank commander. Alpha women are tough to change, but I can sometimes get them to put away the alpha from time to time to lure a man in. And if Dawn listens to me and tries not to compete with the guy right out of the gate, she’ll be happy she did because the guys will come to her like bees to honey.

So NeNe and I have our work cut out for us this week and we set up a recruiting so NeNe could help me pick out fine gentlemen for her friends. It was a really good idea. She knows what they like, but she’s also honest and knows what they tend to do, and what men aren’t right for them.

NeNe helped us pick the right men, and I think it was worth it because we had a great mixer. The mixer was a classy affair at The Mark and everybody had a great time. The men were respectful but they also were having fun. NeNe and I kept an eye on things, making sure Diana didn’t try to mother anybody out of the door and that Dawn kept her man eating claws inside.  Both girls did great, and by the end each had chosen a great guy, Dawn had Isaac eating out of the palm of her hand and Diana had Dante right where she wanted him staring right back at her.

And because these two are best friends, we decided to let them have a little back up. They all went out together on a double date. The guys were told to plan the date, and Isaac and Dante did great. They got Louis Van Amstel from Dancing With The Stars to give them salsa dancing lessons and then they also had a romantic rooftop winter wonderland dinner where they actually made it snow. Which in L.A. is kind of amazing.

At the end of the week, I think both girls had a really great time. Time will tell, but I think it won’t be long before these two are following their friend Nene’s lead and dancing down their own aisles. And they’ll just have me and NeNe to thank. Well, you’re welcome girls. 

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