I met this guy through a friend that I work with, and he came highly recommended. He looked not like my type at all. He seemed to have the qualities that I am looking for: a job, sense of humor, great personality. We went on the date and we both had a really great time. The only thing is, he is 3 years younger than me. I don't know if I am scared of falling in love after getting hurt in a previous realtionship, or if the age is really bothering me. Does age matter?
First of all, sometimes what you think is your type isn't, as this happened to me when I met Destin. He was the complete opposite of what I normally liked. Second, age really is just a number as what matters most is chemistry and maturity. If everything else lines up then make a bridge and get over it. Don’t be an "ageist." Three years really isn't a big deal in the grand picture. Go out with him and see where it will go with an open mind. -Rachel
I love the show, you guys are so amazingly honest and real! I did have a question for you all, if you have the time to give me some feedback. I'm a 21 year old college student, heading to grad school next year. My friends say I'm pretty out-going, I like to be active, and you'll rarely catch me without a smile. I've had a few relationships... But what seems to be the pattern is that, things will go great with the guy for about a month, then they'll leave me to date a friend of mine. While I want my friends to be happy and find someone too, I'd also like to attract a guy that will stick around to hopefully develop something! I try not to let it get to me too much, and I always pick up my head and try to remain open to new people. I know I'll be meeting a whole new group of men (hopefully) when I head to grad school, but it would be so nice to hear another perspective on why this is happening. I'm not sure if it's something I'm doing, maybe I just don't know how to 'keep my man' as it were; but maybe you've heard of this before and have a tidbit of wisdom to share so it won't happen again! Help Please! Thanks so much, and keep up the amazing work! Can't wait to see the next NYC episode! :)
LOL...I still struggle with the age-card. My boyfriend and I are 15 years a part--I am the oldest. We click so well and have a lot of fun with each other, but I am still insecure with our huge age difference and cannot learn to let it go and just live and love life with him. The funniest thing about our relationship is that I am one of the very few that broke the "Old Sugar-Daddy" facade. It's actually the other way around, he's my "Young Sugar-Daddy", lol.
oh, sweet Elissa. As Patti would say, your picker is off. Not just with guys but with "friends" too. Friends do not steal their friends boyfriends. And real men would never dump their girlfriend to date one of her friends. Anyone who does this is a dog and ripe for karmic restribution.
When are you coming to Atlanta???? Please, say it is soon! Your show is great and you guys crack me up! Tabatha Hopper
Hey, I love the show! I'm a 30-yr-old woman and when I was in my 20s, I loved dating older men but the older I get, the more I think that don't want to be in my 50s with a 70-something husband. While there is no guarantee that I would outlive him, I want us to still be able to enjoy things together and not worry about cataracts and broken hips. It sounds terrible, I know...
I watched BROOKLYN VS. BOTOX AND Patti was not happy with the female turnout. Is a foxy, intelligent, fun loving Nuyorican 39 year old lady to old for your your members or casting for your networking events?
Hi Patti, I don't think you're challenged enough. They say that South Florida is full of old people. Well, my girlfriends and I are in our 60's and we are great-looking, intelligent, healthy, fun ladies who would like a second (or more) chance on love while we are still desirable. How can you help us? We are looking for men who still want to live their lives and share them with wonderful, warm, loving, and sexy companions. Come on down and give us that chance.
Hi Patti, I love your show and I think more people should follow your rules. I am 26 years old, I've graduated from college and just started a good career. I also have a creative side and I am a very right side of the brain kind of girl. I've only had a handful of relationships, which is fine. My problem is in the history of my life I've never had a guy really stick around. I find guys who are still stuck in the teenage mentality and want me to make all the decisions. Or I find guys who are older and I have very little in common with. I don't necessarily want a ring, but an adult committed relationship would be great. Someone to grow and share life with. Why does this seem so hard to find?
Patti, would love the chance to meet David. He is the attitude driven, judgemental gay guy. I'm gay as well and would love to teach him a lesson called life.
Today was yet another great episode, although from the second i saw Miranda I knew I'd seen her on another REALITY SHOW!!!!! haha and it finally came to me she was a finalist on that show My Antonio and she was a finalist!! I'm guessing she's a bit of a creeper as well since she into dating on reality tv. I guess she truly is searching for love er Millionaires.. wot wot
Patti, I love your show. I recently started watching it and all you say is the very very truth. I wish people would follow what you say. When are you coming to Atlanta?
I was wondering if your millionaires would like to meet fabulous, old-fashioned, southern women. My friend and I are in our late 40's. We are attractive, active women. We are looking for our prince charmings.
Thanks for your help.
Problem to solve, please! I am 42 years old and am looking for love. I have an illness and have been public about spreading awareness through sharing my story through television, the news & magzine articles, People, billboards and public speaking. I never considered that I would be searced on the internet and dismissed my what is found about my illness and personal life. No guy is going to admit that I have been "dismissed" as a result. I can't share on my own terms and time. How many of the men are sitting on a health conditon themselves? Patty, I want love and a family, please help! Oh, it is Lupus.
I haven't known how to answer the question of what is my type. I preferred the Artsy type but not the lifestyle, avoided the Preppy 'cause of power-tripping, loved the horse-lover but not the cowboy, liked younger but not the immaturity. However, when 'I see it on paper' I envision a Ralph Lauren Polo commercial! Then I feel quilty. lol
What can I say about me. I'm gay and I started to date my boy when I was 18 now I'm 25 and he is 41. I thought it just was goin to be one night but years past an deside it to stay with him. his a nice guy but I just don't love him anymore an I don't know how tell him that.
The one, Kristin, who went to Purdue, lives in NYC - OMG!! She is such the total package for me - I wish I knew how to get a hold of her - I'd date her (more?) in a second!! Kristin - if you read this, email me at email@example.com especially if you want to move back to the Midwest!
Hey I find this interesting. How old are you guys? I'm 45 and meet guys around 30 and they are so immature and I worry about the age issue, so I can totally relate to your situation. I'm glad it's working for you and good luck!
Hi Patti, I'm already a married lady, Im 21 he is 31. I loved him so much in the beginning like no one could touch us. I waited along time to have sex with him. I dont know if its because we have a 7 month little perfect girl that were more stressed but I fill distant from him, do you think its time to move on or stay in it to win it. i care for him and i know he does too. But also i losing sexual feelings for him, i do not go out party noyhing i work clean house and take care of the both of them. WHAT TO DO? :( KAT
I love Patti! It's funny because I'll watch her show and many of the things she says and issues she talks about are things my mother has instilled in me! (E.g., men are hunters, let them hunt. A woman should be pampered and taken care of) However, I would have to say my "picker" is off... I haven't been dating men, I've been dating boys. :-/ Right now, I feel like my biggest problem is I'm super shy and get really nervous when I meet new people and go on dates. I'm trying to become more comfortable... it's very difficult though!
I'm a 39 year old lady & I totally agree with you! I've seen both my grandmothers outlive their husbands by 10-20 years. My dad is now terminally ill, his wife is 10 years younger than him & wiping spit off his chin and carrying & emptying a jar of his urine. I don't even want to know how many decades ago she had sex, poor woman. I look at that & it makes me want a guy no older than me, I actually prefer younger men because guys do not take care of themselves like ladies do & the older guys all have grown children & that young family part of their life is over.
Kathleen, hi,what you need to do is just relax and give it a little time it will work its self out.What you might want to do is have a family member watch your little girl and a have a date night out like once every week so that this way you both can relax and enjoy each other and then everything else will fall in place. Just take one day at a time. Sylvia M.
Dear Patti, Hello, Im here to see if you can help me find someone that will love me for me and not try to change me to look the way he wants me to look. Im a down to earth person who loves the simple things in life. Im 54 years old and I only seam to find the men who only want the one night stand and nothing else.I dont have alot of money and Im not rich I dont own any companys. So if you can help me I would be so happy.Thank you for all that you will do for me. Sylvia M.