Ask the Matchmakers

Our matchmakers advise you how to maintain an ideal give and take relationship.

Jan 4, 2011

On the show it looks like you're repeatedly dealing with women that have control issues, but I'm curious on how you address the opposite problem. I'm a total giver. How do you compromise in a relationship and not always be the one giving up or giving in? - Lizzy Mac

In every relationship there needs to be a balance of give and take. If you are constantly the one giving, then he will have you wrapped around his little finger and can take advantage and take for granted all that you do. There is nothing wrong with doing nice things for a guy, however let him be THE GUY and do things for YOU! I mean who doesn't want someone to bring you flowers or treat you to dinner? Try resisting the urge to do so much, sit back, relax, and enjoy some pampering. - Rachel