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I'm 21 and have never had a boyfriend. Ever. I'm not a social butterfly, and I'm not into the club/bar scene. I'm already seeing characteristics of a work-a-holic in myself, but I don't want to miss the chance at love. I'm extremely tired of guys my age because they tend to be immature. This obviously makes me attracted to older guys, yet the older guys feel I'm too young. What can I do here? -confuzzled
Excuses, excuses, excuses ... Knock it off. I have no sympathy for you at all. Time for tough love. First of all you're 21, you're still a kid, you have your whole life ahead of you. Sure you may have book smarts and feel mature, but you have no wisdom –- wisdom comes with age. So this whole "my life is flashing before eyes" whine that is the undertone of your question, get over it. Secondly, you sound like a homebody. You don't go out, you spend too much time working ... how are you ever going to meet someone? Are you overweight? Too skinny? Bad hair? Bad complexion? Poor self esteem? Something is holding you back. And what about high school or college? Overprotective parents? Bookish? Afraid? Well .. KNOCK IT OFF! You are woman! You are the most powerful creature in the world! Clean yourself up, go shopping, and get an attitude change. Pay for a makeover, pay for a photoshoot, feel sexy, get a matchmaker! Online dating! Something! Just stop whining! Oh, and the whole "men my own age are immature?" Aren't you doing to them what the older guys are doing to you? Judging them based on age? Stop it. Go out, date, have fun, you don't even sound ready for a boyfriend yet anyway. You need practice! Life is too short and you need to have some fun. -Destin
Love your show. Love your honesty. How does a girl get on your show? I live in Texas by the way. Rebecca
Hey! So When are you guys coming to Philly/South Jersey. Think about it Chez Steaks and Soft Pretzels all week. lol And yes im single and looking :)
I need your help! I have a successful career and three great grown children. It is definitely time for me to figure out how to date and I don't have a clue! I have been divorced for a long time - 15 years. Yes, I did date since the divorce but now I am serious about dating and being with a good guy. HELP!!! advice needed. thanks! Julie
First rule: If you are looking for love you are not going to find it. SO STOP! second rule: You can't be a fake woman and then want a Real man. Third rule: There is only one match maker and he's in heaven; form a relationship with him and he will send you what you need. Fourth rule: We ask for a man, any man, and get just that ANYTHING. We ask for a baller and lose our self control to be controlled. We ask for a player, and get a cheater or a VD. We ask for Mr. right and receive Mr. right now. the point is think about what you really want. Fifth rule: We were all unconsciously taught at a young age to measure how much a person loves you by how much they hurt us. So many of us don't know how to love anyone not even ourselves. Learn to love yourself because you can't love or be love without inner love.
and if all this sounds like too much..... Sixth rule: Get a pet, they're less work!!
Just saw the episode with "Charlie - Acquisitions and Mergers". I think I would like to meet that man!! Handsome, down-to-earth, good sense of self and self-worth. He seemed to be just my kind of guy!! How can I get an opportunity to meet him, if he's still single?
How about Patti not be so judgmental about women in New York!! I've actually stopped watching because I'm tired of her negative comments. I'm not sure where or how they are searching for the women that are selected to be interviewed, but i'm turned off by her derogatory and generalization of the "New York woman" Frankly, Patti is nothing to brag about, herself. I'm sooo done with her and the show. I'm an true Bravo fan, but i'll never watch this program again!
Agreed, I am very confused as to where the producers got their "NY women" this season. Go to SoHo, East Village, hell, Brooklyn, Bronx, everywhere you go this city is FULL of gorgeous, intelligent, successful and amazing women who are having a hard time finding good genuine guys. This problem transcends class, race, and background - it has much more to do with the male mentality here in New York. There is such an abundance of quality females that they men are like kids in the candy store. No loyalty. Most of them are money hungry and disingenuous until around 35 at which time they panic and scramble to find a good girl to get married to so they don't seem too pathetic. So please Patti, I love your LA episodes, but honestly you are not doing the NY women any justice, and if it was your producers who did the casting for NY women, they suck at their job.
I agree, it feels like she is not prepared for how different dating and people are here. I am Jersey and NYC born and raised and I watch the LA episodes and am usually disgusted by the women. I mean I want to be sexy for a guy, it feels nice to have eyes on you but... the tits and ass out everywhere just isn't classy. Not to sound like a snob but, that is one thing we definitely have over the West Coast, East Coast girls have more self-respect and class. I was soooo excited for Patty to come to NYC, and now... I am seriously disappointed. She seems to trash all the strong women here instantly. Why would I want a man that can't handle a strong women? I am an intelligent women and what is the point of getting into a relationship if there is no converstation.... Hope Patty will adapt more to the NYC lifestyle, I feel like the show is becoming so cookie-cutter, more old Patty!! PS Good luck Patty finding love again after the break-up with Andy :(
I understand how this girl feels, but I agree with Destin, its all fine and dandy to list your problems, but you should try to fix them. I mean I know I am too masculine sometimes, but I have tried to tone it down and play up the feminine. You just have to make that decision to be more social and outgoing. I was never successful in love, I would always have that spark with someone and then it would fizzle because I would get "friend-zoned" because I was too much of their buddy and not their girl friend. Good luck!!
Actually I have a question for the matchmakers, but I don't know how to send it in? Could someone tell me how?