Life's a Beach

PJ explains why he did the show and shares the status of his and Amy's relationship.

I've done some crazy things in my life, but this one may take the cake. 

Before I start, there is something I have to admit. I am a fan of the show "The Millionaire Matchmaker." There, I said it. I think it's a good premise for a show, and Patti is "entertaining" (more so when she is ripping into someone else, but whatever). 

I think if you choose to step into the lion's den, you should know what you are potentially in for. And if she rips you for your hair, your clothes, the things you say and do, oh well, that's all fair game. I just don't think it's cool that she attacks people personally for things they cannot change. 

And when she ripped on me for my lifestyle choices, my clothes, my hair, no worries, those are all choices. But when she said "I look old," she attacked me personally and no one deserves that. And guess what, I am old, I'm forty three and have lived five lives! And at the time of the shooting, I was feeling that. I was dealing with some health issues that I have since resolved. 

I haven't been sitting around counting pennies. I have done things even I couldn't have dreamed of (and I do a lot of dreaming). I've water skied, wake boarded, acted and done stunts professionally. I've been surfing all over the world. I'm pretty proficient at skate boarding, wake boarding, wake skating, snow skiing, snow boarding, kite boarding, mountain biking and flying planes, hang gliders, sea planes and sailplanes. I've partied like a rock star (sometimes with rock stars). I've been in a real Hollywood movie, done national TV commercials, I've written for magazines, narrated as well as produced wakeboarding instructional videos, done color on ESPN, tested boats, designed boats, started businesses and sold them. Phew. That was like a resume.

Truth is, I have never had a real job. I have spent the majority of my life doing the things I love, and became so good at some of them that I built a career on it. I took what I learned, doing all these amazing things and figured out how to create value for companies and then of course talked them into paying me for it.

I continue to live my dream, spending six months out of the year on an island, living it up with my island friends, pursuing my interest in music, renovating my surf shack, landscaping my yard, growing my own veggies, and catching my own fish, conch, and lobster. 

So Patti, say what you will, but I think my friends and fans (interesting new concept) will back me on this. I have worked very hard to create a life that is perfect for me. There is nothing anyone can say that will make me feel bad about the choices I've made for myself, because I have always been true to myself, and I sleep well at night knowing this.

For the rest of the blog I will respond to the questions I get asked most.

First one, "Did you find love?" I did not. I did meet a great girl. Amy is wonderful. We had a great time sharing this experience and we remain friends, but she's not "the one" for me. Truth is, I did not expect to meet anyone on the show. Actually, I don't believe that anyone can find love by looking for it. It finds you when you are just being yourself. So that’s what I'm doing.

Next one, "What was it like meeting Patti?" It was just like you would expect, only worse! She is a tough woman. It's a TV show, and it's her TV show, so she has the home court advantage. But thanks to, I'm able to respond.

Next, "Was it real?" Totally. I controlled almost everything. I got myself on the show, I set up and directed the shoot in the Bahamas, I spoke my mind, I picked Amy, and I set up the date. I did not order the rain.

Next, "How did you get on the show?" Easy, I called them. I told them I would be perfect for the show and obviously, they agreed.

Last question, "Why did you do it?" This answer needs to be broken into parts. 

First, if I didn't do it, I would have always wondered "What if?" I can't live like that. Better to try and fail than to never have tried. 

Second, I did it for the laughs. I like to entertain. I have spent a good part of my life doing just that. I try to make people laugh all the time, and I thought that this would be a good opportunity to do that. And was I right, so many of my friends are telling me they still can't stop laughing. Truth is, neither can I.

Third, I saw it as a challenge. A lot of people that go on the show come off looking, well, bad, and I thought, "I'm not going to let them make me look bad, I'm just going to be myself and hope I come off looking good." I feel like I did. 

Fourth, I did it for the opportunities it might create. Who knows where this will lead me. I already have the feeling that good things will come from this. Actually, they already have. All the great comments have made it worth the effort. From here on, everything else is gravy.

And who knows, maybe Odee (my pooch) and I will find true love? I hold onto the thought that maybe someone will see me on the show and say, "That's the guy (and girl) for me!" Sorry, we're a package deal.

I get that my lifestyle is not for everyone. But I do believe that there is someone out there that would love to lead a simple life, filled with love, laughter and adventure, with a guy who says it like he sees it, is true to his word and knows that all the money in the world doesn't mean a thing without the love of friends and family.

Thanks for reading!



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Patti dishes on what it was like working with Thicker Than Water Brooklyn Tankard and getting a New York player to start take matchmaking seriously.

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from RHOA’s Kenya Moore and Sheree Whitfield to rap royalty Romeo Miller.

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle the good (Brooklyn on French kissing), the bad (Amit’s beard)—and the hilarious (Patti’s New York accent!).

This week, she talks about setting up Thicker Than Water's Brooklyn Tankard and teaching this Long Island divorcee to stop looking for love at the clubs. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

Brooklyn Tankard the star of Thicker Than Water is up this week. Brooklyn is pretty funny and exciting, she’s a little bit off though. She’s basically a single mom with a daughter and you know she doesn’t get to meet quality men, she really hasn’t found her equal.

My other client this week is liquor entrepreneur Amit Ram, he’s from Long Island. He’s got this awful f---ing beard on his face. Girls in the clubs like his beard, yeah, yeah in 1959 they do, not in 2015.

For those two we chose to do a Hot Seat Mixer. That means Brooklyn and Amit interview potential dates and if they don’t like someone they can kick them out of the hot seat, but if they like them, they get to stay. So it’s kind of like musical chairs.

Brooklyn goes through a bunch of guys and some of them are really awesome. I personally love Jason, he’s tall, he’s older, he’s been divorced, he has kids, he’s a very solid guy. But Brooklyn’s got her eye on Michael who's a bit younger, really hot, super sexy, has sort of a football player look -- and she can’t take her eyes off of him. Instead of going for the substance she’s going for the sizzle.

Meanwhile, Amit chose a great little petite girl named Daniella, she’s also a gym rat like him, they have a lot in common. He’s taken her on an interesting date, free-running training, you know when run and when you jump and you climb, it’s kind of extreme dating. They’re both pretty bad at it, but they love working out so they have a really great time. Then he takes her to a nice dinner at a classy place, Miceli’s.

I just hope Brooklyn took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville, because she needs a lot of work.

Patti Stanger

Brooklyn had a really nice date with Michael, they went peddle boating. But Michael didn’t ask much about Brooklyn, and this didn’t really work out for her because she likes to be the center of attention. So I don’t think that she chose well. I think it should’ve been Jason, which is the one I wanted her to go out with all along. I just hope she took some of my lessons with her back to Nashville because she needs a lot of work. I bet she'll be back again next time.      

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