Life's a Beach

PJ explains why he did the show and shares the status of his and Amy's relationship.

I've done some crazy things in my life, but this one may take the cake. 

Before I start, there is something I have to admit. I am a fan of the show "The Millionaire Matchmaker." There, I said it. I think it's a good premise for a show, and Patti is "entertaining" (more so when she is ripping into someone else, but whatever). 

I think if you choose to step into the lion's den, you should know what you are potentially in for. And if she rips you for your hair, your clothes, the things you say and do, oh well, that's all fair game. I just don't think it's cool that she attacks people personally for things they cannot change. 

And when she ripped on me for my lifestyle choices, my clothes, my hair, no worries, those are all choices. But when she said "I look old," she attacked me personally and no one deserves that. And guess what, I am old, I'm forty three and have lived five lives! And at the time of the shooting, I was feeling that. I was dealing with some health issues that I have since resolved. 

I haven't been sitting around counting pennies. I have done things even I couldn't have dreamed of (and I do a lot of dreaming). I've water skied, wake boarded, acted and done stunts professionally. I've been surfing all over the world. I'm pretty proficient at skate boarding, wake boarding, wake skating, snow skiing, snow boarding, kite boarding, mountain biking and flying planes, hang gliders, sea planes and sailplanes. I've partied like a rock star (sometimes with rock stars). I've been in a real Hollywood movie, done national TV commercials, I've written for magazines, narrated as well as produced wakeboarding instructional videos, done color on ESPN, tested boats, designed boats, started businesses and sold them. Phew. That was like a resume.

Truth is, I have never had a real job. I have spent the majority of my life doing the things I love, and became so good at some of them that I built a career on it. I took what I learned, doing all these amazing things and figured out how to create value for companies and then of course talked them into paying me for it.

I continue to live my dream, spending six months out of the year on an island, living it up with my island friends, pursuing my interest in music, renovating my surf shack, landscaping my yard, growing my own veggies, and catching my own fish, conch, and lobster. 

So Patti, say what you will, but I think my friends and fans (interesting new concept) will back me on this. I have worked very hard to create a life that is perfect for me. There is nothing anyone can say that will make me feel bad about the choices I've made for myself, because I have always been true to myself, and I sleep well at night knowing this.

For the rest of the blog I will respond to the questions I get asked most.

First one, "Did you find love?" I did not. I did meet a great girl. Amy is wonderful. We had a great time sharing this experience and we remain friends, but she's not "the one" for me. Truth is, I did not expect to meet anyone on the show. Actually, I don't believe that anyone can find love by looking for it. It finds you when you are just being yourself. So that’s what I'm doing.

Next one, "What was it like meeting Patti?" It was just like you would expect, only worse! She is a tough woman. It's a TV show, and it's her TV show, so she has the home court advantage. But thanks to, I'm able to respond.

Next, "Was it real?" Totally. I controlled almost everything. I got myself on the show, I set up and directed the shoot in the Bahamas, I spoke my mind, I picked Amy, and I set up the date. I did not order the rain.

Next, "How did you get on the show?" Easy, I called them. I told them I would be perfect for the show and obviously, they agreed.

Last question, "Why did you do it?" This answer needs to be broken into parts. 

First, if I didn't do it, I would have always wondered "What if?" I can't live like that. Better to try and fail than to never have tried. 

Second, I did it for the laughs. I like to entertain. I have spent a good part of my life doing just that. I try to make people laugh all the time, and I thought that this would be a good opportunity to do that. And was I right, so many of my friends are telling me they still can't stop laughing. Truth is, neither can I.

Third, I saw it as a challenge. A lot of people that go on the show come off looking, well, bad, and I thought, "I'm not going to let them make me look bad, I'm just going to be myself and hope I come off looking good." I feel like I did. 

Fourth, I did it for the opportunities it might create. Who knows where this will lead me. I already have the feeling that good things will come from this. Actually, they already have. All the great comments have made it worth the effort. From here on, everything else is gravy.

And who knows, maybe Odee (my pooch) and I will find true love? I hold onto the thought that maybe someone will see me on the show and say, "That's the guy (and girl) for me!" Sorry, we're a package deal.

I get that my lifestyle is not for everyone. But I do believe that there is someone out there that would love to lead a simple life, filled with love, laughter and adventure, with a guy who says it like he sees it, is true to his word and knows that all the money in the world doesn't mean a thing without the love of friends and family.

Thanks for reading!



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Making a Match: Serving Up Love with Sheree

Patti dishes on working with former Atlanta Housewife Shereé Whitfield and setting up tennis pro Sam Querrey. 

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from Kenya Moore and 'Chili' Thomas to Thicker Than Water's Brooklyn Tankard.

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle everything from picking Mr.Right to psychic readings to one Housewives bossy ways.  

This week, she talks about finding a man for gorgeous former Atlanta Housewife Shereé Whitfield, teaching pro tennis player Sam Querrey a lesson in love. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

The week was great; Shereé Whitfield came to visit, formerly of The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I was really surprised that she wasn’t as bossy as she was on the show.

Shereé seemed closed off to new love and I wasn’t sure why, it’s been awhile since she was in a relationship.

I also introduced her to James Van Praagh one of the most famous psychics and mediums in history and gave her a real clarifying reading.

My other client this week was adorable Sam Querrey. Sam is a tennis pro, he’s like 30th in the world, he’s like the guy next door and he wants true love.    

I start recruiting, when it comes to the women for Sam, I’m looking for a beautiful girl, who’s kind of flexible with her schedule, independent, and can keep herself busy.


And Shereé. . .well, let’s just say Shereé can be bossy.

Patti Stanger

And Shereé. . .well, let’s just say Shereé can be bossy. So I need more of an alpha man for her. And the twist this week is that every person brought in something that represented them. I think that was David’s idea.

I’ve been wanting to do the mixer on a boat for quite some time. I even got to blast an air horn on the boat. So we set up a power dating mixer.

At the end Shereé chose handsome Terry, he’s hot, successful; he even has ties to Atlanta which is really good so he can visit her.

Meanwhile, Sam chose the adorable Kylie she is a ballerina, totally into the home values thing. Sam takes Kylie out for an afternoon of archery and while I was nervous at first, it sounded kind of corny; they actually had a really good time. They went to the Melting Pot, one of my favorite places of dinner and they love each other and are hanging out.

Terry takes Shereé to Paint N’ Sit where you can actually drink wine and paint pictures, it’s kind of a cozy intimate romantic thing. I think what happened with Shereé is that she really didn’t give him a chance and the truth is that Terry is a really good guy and she needed to open up. He dressed great; this is her issue not Terry’s.

All in all, pretty good week. 

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