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I watched tonights show, as far as the large girl if she's willing to oen her purse strings to buy herself a man she'll end up with an empty purse and maybe she'll lose weight as well. But with the other couple John-John and DeDe I was actually touched by their connection and felt it as well. My goodness they make a great couple and for once I'd like to say "hats off to you Patti", I want to believe that they'll end up taking that trip to Tiffany's.
Dear Patti, I just saw the disaster of the BBW with the Golddigger. Being a BBW, it is so sad to see someone who is successful in busines yet unwilling to see more. For her, I hope she is not used up and acutally meets and opens to a good guy with substance. Too bad you have not run across a male millionaire who likes African=American BBW's with substance (I have to smile/laugh at this one). Take care and hope you continue to expand that dating pool here on the East Coast. AliceAnna S.
im sooooooo hooked on your show i thought tonights was the best....i was very sad last week to see the gay cookie man get water in his face that was soooooo wrong
I think you should try to help Robin again. She is a sweet-sweet girl a bit mis-guided and perhaps should not drink on her dates. She definitely living in lala land. Folks like her you can't plant a "tester". I thought you picked up with her issues from the tape and interview. Patti/Team... I think you need to take one for the team and at least try to hook Robin and the retired cop up. If she screws it up... then you can say you really, really tried. I really felt embarrassed for her on the bike ride. She needs to see the tape play backs to see this guy's comments. It's called tough love in the face. I actually thought Luke was going to puke a few times from his disgust with her. I personally think she is a beautiful girl and there are men that are truly interested in BBW. I love your show and like your style, although you're a bit intimidating but I like your brutal honesty.
After listening last night while I was busy doing other things, I was frankly appauled at the lack of compassion you had for that woman. She is definitely lacking in things that are needed to actually have a relationship however, she is not without feelings. I think you are edgy, on target, smart, and usually loving with your anger, so much so they usually listen to you. Everyone knew that boy was not for her but I believe you could have gone about it in a different way, don't invite him to the mixer, you made her look foolish and I don't think she needs any outside assistance with that. Last night made it painfully apparent that you have no use for overweight women regardless of their wealth.
I was so excited when I saw the previews to the show last night! I thought "Woo-hoo!" finally we get to see Patty work her magic with a representation of over 60% of women in America. I was so sad and embarressed while watching the show :-( I still don't know why Robin hired you. She would have been far more successful in her search had she just hired an escort service! I *LOVED* the retired NY PD! I was so happy she did not pick him because he could do a lot better. As a plus size woman who has been married for 13 years and has three beautfiul children I can confidantly say that not all of us are like Robin! There are a few of us who are successful who do not look like the crayon factory blew up all over our faces and value substance over shallowness. My husband also watched the show with me last night and he told me that if anything ever happens to him I am to contact you when I want to find love again because you are right on the money when it comes to love and what men (and women) want.....I just hope that wonderful NY PD finds a great gal! If I were on the market I would be contacting you just to date him! Love your show!
I love your show but have to say I almost had to turn it off during last night's episode. I loved John & Dana, I hope they work out. As far as the other one though... What were you thinking??? It was disturbing, not too mention why didn't you make her get a makover like I have seen on your other shows, her hair and makeup were atrocious!
I wanted to smack Robin upside her head. The ex-cop was a much better match for her, but she's so lacking in self-esteem, that she's willing to buy love. You needed someone like Emme to help Robin tone down the "Mimi" look (think Drew Carey), and dress for her body. When you have curves like that, you want to accentuate the positives. There was just something about Luke that set my teeth on edge, and if I had been her wingman, I would've grabbed her and so, "He's great for the physical exercise, but not for the long term." John and Dina, though, I want to see their wedding. She's absolutely perfect for him.
What a mess Robin is. Its hard to believe someone that successful can be that easily fooled he was not attracted to her at all it was hard to watch, but its like a train wreck you just have to look. Great show
I was very distrubed by last night show. Patti should have helped the heavyset gal out. She should have told her how to dress, make-up, setn her to the love dr like other clients. I think down deep Patti has a hate for the cubbs. She was once over weight herself and just doesn't understand them. She made fun of her and didn't help at all. I was disappointed in her and her team.
Are the screaming and insults really necessary to "get the job done"? I was mortified at her screaming at Robin at the end of last night's show that her date was not attracted to her, etc. Why not use some gentleness to deliver such a difficult message to such an obviously vulnerable woman? And what is this mid-twentieth century thing that the guy has to plan the date? Why can't the couple decide? The point is for couples to recognize who the other person is and get along, not hide it one from the other. Finally, the mixers are confusing and ineffective. Set small tables up around the room and set a date up at each. Then have the millionaire do a 10-minute mini-date with each person at each table.
What I would give to plunk down some money to hire a matchmaker to find me a nice NORMAL 40-something year old guy who values his family and knows what's important in life. This woman HAS that kind of money and she wasted it. If she wanted a hot-looking gold digger, she could have simply gone into any bar in the tri-state area, announced her financial status, and let the gold-digging feeding frenzy begin. Instead she wasted Patti's time (and her own) pretending to look for love. PATTI: I wish you could work your magic on the average "Joe" or "Jane." Dating sites are a joke. We "regular folk" could use your help!
After watching the episode with Robin, I kept thinking about that poor clueless woman. Of course, it could all be staged, but really, could you not have given her some tough love about her makeup and hair, how to dress for her curves sent her to someone to help with her self esteem and obvious lack of self awareness. I think Robin has great potential and could be a great catch for the right man. At first I was angry with Robin for being such a slob, but then I got really angry with Patti and posse for letting her hang. SHAME ON YOU PATTI! Seems you would do anything for ratings, even humiliating that poor girl. I hope you refunded her money. But of couse you did not, making you even worse than the creep Luke. You own Robin an intevention and another chance
I love this show. I'm a regular viewer and I learn a lot from Patti and the team. I was embarrassed for Robin on this episode. I am not technically a BBW. I wear a 10/12, but in L.A., that's considered plus size. Robin seemed to be so infatuated with Luke's body that she didn't hear him admit that he was a jack hole. Luke was so enamored with Robin's money that he didn't use the home training that I'm sure his mama gave him by graciously declining Robin's request for sex. This is a match made in materialistic hell. Unfortunately, this is a reality show and these are real people and that's what we saw. I just hope the producers can find another plus size millionairess that is more interested in substance than sex.
Patti, You were so cruel to Robin last night. She came to you for your expertise and guidance. Why didn't you at least try to help her. You humilated her and made her look like a fool. Shame on you and your staff.Hope your ratings were worth it.
Would it be possible to make contact with Luke the plumber? def interested in talking to him about his ventures, maybe investing Does he have any contact information in the NYC area? THANKS
Def initely interested in meeting up or talking to LUKE from last nite's show/ INTERESTED in possibility of investing in some of the ventures he spoke about Does he have an email/last name or other ocntact information? THANKS
i may really be in the minority with my thought, but i didn't feel sorry for robin at all. she is living in her own delusional world about what she wants and needs and acted like anything but a lady, regardless of her size. i was appalled by her behavior. perhaps the only questionable thing patti allowed was the lack of a makeover and courting tips to maximize the best possible outcome. but, robin is her own woman who set her own self up for failure.
Last night's show embarrassed me, and by the comments, many others as well. Robin's multiple offers to buy mdse for her date and set him up in business were demeaning to herself. Didn't she recognize that? And HIS request, mouth full of food, for a hand-job under the table was disgusting.
I urge you to think about what you want this show to be... TV that is talked about for the outrageous behavior of the participants (a la Jerry Springer) or something slightly more upscale. Perhaps you are running out of "normal" people to showcase at this point -- hard to say.
I thought it was tasteless when the esteemed Judith Reagan was taken to the sex museum on the show, but last night's episode has simply gone too far. Yuck.
I watch your show every week and was really excited that you finally had a plus size woman on. Being a plus girl myself I was stoked. Then you bring on Luke. Seriously Patti do you have a problem with fat women? No tough for the all the BBW's of the world. I guess plus size women aren't worth your time. Not impressed at all.
PLEASE, Please, please DO NOT subject the retired policeman (John) to a date with Robin. She does not deserve him..... and he should not be subjected to her shallowness.
I wish Robin would have picked the retired policeman because they seemed to be compatible. Luke is not the guy for Robin! She obviously leads her love life her insecurities.
After reading some of these comments, I had to comment which I normally never do. The people appauled by the fact that Patti yelled at her makes me laugh. Use a little gentleness I think is what one person said. That statement is ridiculous in of itself. We weren't watching an overwight teenager get put in her place, we were watching a 33 YEAR OLD WOMAN. You would think by now Robin would have figured out how to stop acting and looking like a crazed 13 year old with self esteem issues. If I were Patti, I sure as hell would have went further than that. It wasn't sad what Patti did, it was a reality check. CHECK CHECK CHECK! Hell, somebody needed to let her know and I am more than satisfied that Patti did. And by the way, Pattie's attitude isn't anything new. Robin knew exactly what she was getting herself into by signing onto do the show with Patti. Let's get real here people.
So sad… Like another viewer mentioned, I too was looking forward to this episode when I learned you were finally including a plus-size woman amongst your clients. And that maybe you’d even help her find true love. That’s the key—why so many of us are hooked on your show—even though I am happily married, I still love to see other couples find true love. There’s something so special about finding that “magic” in someone special. Of course, I realize many (**maybe most?**) of the clients on your show don’t find a love match or even someone they want to date again, but still it’s a worthy goal—to help other people find their mate. So back to last night—that was just so sad on so many levels. First off, you picked a woman that is just not a good representation of plus-sized women. You could have picked someone smart, self-assured, fun to be with, and with good communication skills. Instead you chose a woman who goes on and on about the color pink and Hello Kitty. Who does that? Especially to a guy? I think even most women would have found her conversation distasteful. And I am surprised about all the comments about how sweet she is—she may be sweet, but she’s obviously lacking in social and verbal skills. Also, her makeup was not just atrocious it was darn right comical (and not in a funny way, more in a grotesque cartoonish way). Usually, when any woman comes on your show with even the slightest makeup faux pas, you send her off to a stylist or makeup artist. I thought, okay, maybe because she’s in the “beauty business” she told you that would be off limits. So I’m hoping it was the fault of the client that she wouldn’t allow you to direct her in that area, and you perhaps agreed to such a thing. (Although I still find that hard to believe.) Then you find her a highly inappropriate guy as a so-called test. Even before he really met her he made a rude “size-ist” comment about her so-called bone structure. Clearly the guy was not going to take her seriously and did not even like her. Ah yes, but he would take her money if offered. So I don’t know who was worse, him for admitting his disinterest and disgust, or her for making a fool of herself by offering to buy him things and set him up in business. And you, Patti, did not help her self-respect or the portrayal of plus sized women in general by continually referring to her as some nasty name (rhymes with humpty). Being overweight is really not the worst thing in the world. There are worse things. But our society, along with your help as well as countless others, feels the need to constantly shove it down our throats. That being thin is the one and only thing to strive for in life. And how could anyone who’s not a size 2 or smaller possibly ever find love or success. Yet, the fact remains, there are many women and men who are not the ideal size yet somehow manage through life. Happily. In love. Financially secure. But I digress… Last night’s show was just an abomination and offensive on so many levels. I hope you will apologize to your viewers, but I don’t really expect that. After all, you constantly tell others that they are misbehaving and point out their bad manners, and you choose to yell and scream at them instead of explaining it to them in a polite or humane way. Or maybe you could consider doing another show with a plus-sized woman who is intelligent, beautiful, and communicative. Still, will I watch your show again? Probably—it’s entertainment. So who’s really at fault here?
Patti...I can not believe "hello kitty" chick passed up on Anthony! OMG he was AWESOME!!! Oh how I wish I could met a gentleman like him. "Hello Kitty" chick needs a reality check. Her date was painfully truthful with her, and she just kept putting up with his crap. But if Anthony the retired cop ever is in Kansas, well send him my way!!!
Love your show!!!
I love your show, but I was so unnevered by your treatment of Robin. She obviously has issues, so where were the experts to help her? She obviously has confidence in other parts of her life to be successful, but needs help in her personal life. I would have loved to see you use the same tough love on her that you do on some of the guys and follow up with tools to help her be successful. A big miss in my opinion.
Oh Patty, Noooo! Like others here, I wonder why you didn't turn your many talents & connections to help that annoyingly disturbed shallow BBW. Yes, to a fashion makeover (heck you tried with the horrid cookie guy) with a life coach or a psychologist (like so many others) Or...sheesh...ANYthing but exploid & mock her. Don't you remember how hard it is? Or are you in denial & extra bitchy since you've lost some (not all) weight? Or better yet, as suggested, find a NICE, Smart, & NORMAL BBW and give her a shot at happiness. I've always secretly enjoyed some of your snarkyness (not towards us redheads, however) but last night i was APPALLED (yes, that's HOW you spell it - not "appauled"!) at your seeming enjoyment over her crash & burn. And really? A bike ride? Not. Nice. At. All.
The pr lady was so focused on looks and materialism that it was painful to watch. When she said that she would buy Mr. Hotstuff a Maserati, he froze for a second. I cannot believe this woman has the personality to run a business & afford to "buy" a hot guy. Is this matchmaking or pimping?
Patti, Welcome to NYC. I know you're originally from the East Coast but it seems you have been gone for far too long. The men here are nothing like they are in L.A. Sure, there are superficial people everywhere, but you'd be surprised just how many VERY attractive, intelligent and successful men are attracted to women with more than just a little meat on their bones. In fact, tons of men actually PREFER that. I know this from experience. I
I felt really bad for Robin. Patti knew she was shallow and it stemmed from big girl insecurities. Its not Patti's job to get her help. Robin is 33 and jackhole was not the first guy to treat her like poop. Hopefullly, seeing herself on tv willl enable her to look at herself and know that self worth is more than net worth any day.
Your second paragraph is completely ON TARGET. This show has sunk lower with every season ...
It was a fun show to watch--the first season.
Patti, is a matchmaker not a therapist. Robin is clearly in lala land, i'm sure she at some point and time passes a mirror or skims thru a fashion mag. Had she been of this world,she would have taken issue with the date he planned after seeing her before at the mixer. She was not the...Let's go bike riding type!That alone would have been a "You need to lose weight!" not a "I want to get to know you" insult to me. She was not open to Patti's insight and clearly has self esteem issues. I think she feels she doesn't deserve better and thats a whole different Oprah show! Rock on Patti!
Dear Patti I am very interested in Anthony ( NYPD) from last night episode. What a charming MAN please someone let him know. Patti if you would please give me a chance to exchange numbers with him I would really appreciated..
p.s. i really enjoy your show and you have inspired me to be more confident as a woman!!! Anthony if you are out there I would like to meet you!!
With great respect , Lucy (California)
Robyn picked Luke! I do think on occasions Patti may be out of line, however I did not feel she was last night with Robyn. Robyn is afterall a 33 years old woman not a 13 years old hello kitty pink loving girl. She needed tough love in the worst kind of way. She was ridiculously shallow and picked Luke out of all the guys at the mixer. -- Knowing and admitting the ONLY reason she picked him was because of his looks! No sympathy for her here.
Patti, I'm a new viewer. I have only watched your show a few times and really enjoyed it but.... on two of the three episodes I've seen you have made unpleasant comments regarding redheads. I would like to politely give you another perspective. (Yes, the long haired redheaded woman seemed like a nut job and you can't fix crazy with hair dye. Her problem wasn't that she was a redhead). I am a redhead and would never change the gift god gave me to land a millionaire. Only a wimpy gold digger would give in to you on that. It seems that you are suggesting that these people put on a facade to catch someone. How is that helping people find lasting love? I have the greatest husband in the world and the best thing about him is that he loves me, the real me, a redhead. My hair is actually what attracted him to me at first. Within months we were traveling the world with a Tiffany rock on my hand. We just had our first baby. If I colored my hair to land a man I would resent the fact that he didn't love me for who I really am, a proud Scotch-Irish woman. Would you make me bleach my freckles as well? Stereotyping any group of people is uncool. You will stand up for gay marriage/adoption. You will call someone out for age discrimination. Why not take a stand for all the wonderful, beautiful redheads out there? I think you would be pleasantly surprised by how many men go crazy for redheads. Maybe you should stop spreading hate. Karma baby. Telling any redhead that they should dye their hair is going to evoke a negative reaction. You are using their reaction to your rudeness to label them as difficult and a pain in the ass. What do you expect? Duh! To quote you "You will not insult me in my house". I'll just change the channel.
I just wanted to let you know that because of your book, I am now engaged to a wonderful man. I have found a wonderful step dad for my two children because of your terrific advice. By the way it only took me ten months and we were ring shopping within six. I recommend this book for anyone who is single. Because I am a court reporting student, I would practice to this book every day. I recommend reading or listening a few times, there are a lot of useful tips in this book. Thank you, Patty, for changing me and my children's lives forever. Gratefully yours, Candace
I totally agree!! Anyone could tell Patti was making fun of Robin, was appalled at her size and felt she only deserved a "5" at best. Shame on you Patti for being such a Plus Size Snob!!! You wanted her to fail and show the world that over sized people don't deserve love from anyone above a "5". They should just take the scraps and be happy that someone will put up with them. If she had not been over weight, you would have tried to help her like you've helped all the other jerks on the show (with a makeover and counseling). You need to redeem yourself by having a beautiful and respectible plus size woman on the show.
I wholeheartedly agree with "So Sad...Like another viewer" response. Seriously Patti, there are so many exceptional BBW's out there, please bring one on your show!
I agree with you Radar. Everyone who is getting upset by this episode (I found the "sex museum" episode far more disturbing) should remember that this is a grown-ass woman who is superficial beyond belief, childish (that scene before she got on the bike, toying her hair and saying "I haven't done this since I was little" made me sick.) and she gave me the impression she wasn't going to listen to anyone. Dismissing the NYPD guy because he wasn't "hot" enough? She did him a favor. Maybe everyone should remember that Patti doesn't choose the clients who appear on the show, they are cast by Bravo. Between "eye-ball" guy and this "millionairess" (1.7 million? In Manhattan?) it's been an entertaining season. You can't make this stuff up.
I agree! I am glad that retired cop did not get picked, he would have been subjected to Robin passing judgement on him because he did not look like Matthew. I think the real star of that episode is the retired cop. I would like to meet him and show him that plus sized woman can be a catch and not some hello kitty freak. Who knows maybe he will be the next reality star.
I came here to say almost the same thing, but you said it much better than I could have! And possibly more polite. LOL I find it ironic that she is constantly doing makeovers on her millionaires, sending them to stylists, shrinks, etc, giving them dating tips. It was almost as if she only wanted to poke fun at this woman, rather than attempt to help her. If she took money from her - it was robbery.
Patti, I just watched your show for the first time today and I loved it. I am a new millionaire (1+ years now) and would be very interested in getting matched up to a great guy. How do I enroll in your millionaires club?
I am a new millionaire (one year now ;-) and would love to join the club. I would love to meet a great guy and my soul mate. How do I join your millionaires club?
I love that Patti thinks heavy women can only date heavy men. Though she will set up heavy men with thin women. Double standards as usual.
I just finished watching the Hello Kitty episode and I have to say that I am just crazy about Anthony! Intelligent, masculine, polite, adorable. This is a REAL man and I could only hope to meet a man like him one day. He's the kind of guy you keep. Lucky women in NY. Anthony, email me!!
I just watched the Hello Kitty episode and Anthony the cop just blew me away! Handsome, intelligent, polite, INTERESTING. A real man. What's not to love? If this man is still single, I think you should do a non-millionaire episode and I want to be on it! He's a keeper. Sign me up!
Robin's make up was unforgivable. With all that money, I'm surprised she can't pay someone to do it for her!!! I know it's mean, but dang Patti! You should have told her, and not just the cameraman during your personal interview....
Patti, My Boyfriend and I love you. We love the fact that you don't take anyone's crap especially those egotistical millionaires. I stop dating wealthy men because of how they treated me and others around me.
I am 41yrs old and could not meet a decent guy so I took your advice (from your shows) and now I am in a really great 3+ year relationship with a wonderful man who treats me like royalty. He has all of the qualities that you have mentioned in the past that are worth a million - being genuine, respectful, passionate, romantic (but not mushy - so not into that) and a generous nature. Being with him is like hanging out with a great friend that you are attracted to. Neither one of us is really into getting married so that type of pressure doesn't exist in our relationship.
You have such great personal style...keep up the good work - we all love you!!!
Hi Patti! I LOVE your show! My job is similiar to yours in that it is working for clients to find a good match, only I deal with nannies. Your show has encouraged me to be an agent. That sometimes involves telling people things they may not want to hear, but they came to me for help finding an employee that will stay with them long term and not quit a week after being hired. I watch your show for some relief in realizing that I do not talk with the craziest people on earth at times. I have been lucky in love and am married to a wonderful man. I just wanted you to know that you have helped a small business owner manage her own business with a little less nonsense!