The Millionaires

Matthew explains how things went from bad to worse on his date with Rhett.

Dec 29, 20100

After Patti announced my selection of Rhett, she asked everyone at the mixer to mingle. Rhett then approached and asked why he had been my first choice. I said that I found him to be the most well-rounded person and the one
with the best personality. He informed me that the other candidates and he had wagered that I would choose Jimmy because of his striking good looks. I told him that Jimmy had been my second choice because, while I found him very attractive physically, looks alone are insufficient to sustain a relationship. I said that having someone you can talk to is most important. He seemed happy with my explanation.

Near the end of the mixer, Rhett whispered something to me. I don't remember exactly what he said but it contained a fairly crude sexual reference. Whatever he said struck me as
inappropriate yet I immediately excused it, attributing it to first-date jitters. In retrospect, I realize that the remark foreshadowed the drama that was to come.

Our date began with a private cooking lesson with renowned chef Nils Noren. When Nils held up a bowl containing quail eggs, Rhett blurted out, "They look like testicles!" When Nils held up a bottle containing a thick, white, coconut cream sauce, Rhett squealed, "Oh my, did you make all of that yourself?" I remember rolling my eyes at that point as I realized that I was on a date with an adolescent trapped in a 35 year old man's body who, incidentally, had accessorized for our date with a backward-facing
baseball cap. 

Before the cooking lesson had ended I knew that romance wasn't in the cards yet I felt that all was not lost. I still believed that friendship was a possibility. Rhett seemed (and still seems) like a friendly, goodhearted person, and infantile friends can be amusing.

I still believe that friendship might have been the outcome of our date but for the excellent wine that Rhett and I had been drinking all evening. As everyone knows, there are good drunks and bad drunks. I don't drink often but friends tell me that, when I do, I'm a very good drunk. I never get nasty or morose when I drink; on the contrary, I become quite happy and sociable. Not
so, Rhett.

23 comments
mcrux
mcrux

This is the second show I've seen where "the Millionaire" was an heir.  The first one, and I won't name names was someone I know personally and was not a millionaire.  Matt seemed so insecure, not someone who was raised with money.  He tried so hard to insult and then rise above.  That is a very usual trait in someone with money.  I do believe this man was lacking  financially as well as emotionally/ 

mcrux
mcrux

Loser - My God.  For someone who sells overpriced cookies, how did you get you head so far up there?  Serious issues!  You're right ... Join a book club.  That would be best for all concerned.

NYC Viewer
NYC Viewer

While I do think that you should be allowed to be you & that Patty could try harder to find a medium b/t what she thinks is hot and who the client is... You should know that we saw this episode during hurricane Irene, and everyone in the living room (we had guests who evacuated) CHEERED when Rhett threw the water in your face. Literally.

You were a first class jerk, pompous and gross. Get over yourself. It wasn't editing. It was you.

ms lynch
ms lynch

I actually liked Matt, he is who he is and should be accepted. I wish him the best. I do think you can find a man that is handsome and fits your standards, but at the same time is age appropritate. Best of luck.

Sydbrn
Sydbrn

Matt, As I was reading about your account of the selection process and your date I was having a hard time recalling the episode. However, when I began to read some of the blogs it dawned on me you are not remembering the same date we all saw. You seem to have selective memory and a distorted sense of what actually seemed to occur on your date. I felt sorry for Rhett being subjected to your snobby and rude behavior toward him. I too would have thrown water on you. As for his dark mood I believe he probably became more than disenchanted with haute attitude and snide remarks. Learn to treat others with respect and treat them nicely and then perhaps you will not have dates ending poorly.

kmosley
kmosley

There is nothing wrong with being a confident person, but that is NOT the case of Matt. He is a very arrogant person.

E Vanderbilt
E Vanderbilt

Matt I really feel bad for you. The episode hit a little close to home for me; I sometimes see your patterns in myself. Seeing it from a third person point-of-view, it is truly not attractive. I am 33, I'm not into younger guys, but I can sometimes be an elitist. I'm telling you, honestly, it's not attractive and sadly, perhaps the fact that you're 47, it will be nearly impossible to change that in you. What a lonely life you must have :(

NV
NV

So it seems I'm the only one on Matt's side. Matt, you planned a lovely date, clearly put thought into a special meal with Rhett. And then what does Rhett do? Makes sexual inneundo about the meal preparation, which obviously embarassed you and would have embarassed any classy, decent adult. And he totally disrespects the chef who is a professional who wants to present a lovely meal for you guys and make it a nice experience for you. Maybe Rhett was just nervous and under other circumstances would have been adult and pleasant at least. And maybe all the sexual inuendo was his nerves talking. Who knows. But I do think you did your best. I think you were wronged and you're a cool person.

Martisa
Martisa

I was quite shocked to see you as I was starting to watch Top Chef. Since you have decided to be so public about your private life, what I will say is that I am very gratified to see you successfully working with your father.

MeMyself&I
MeMyself&I

I beg to differ!!!!'My Grandmother had Alzheimers & lived her final couple of years in a nursing home. Her three successful children made sure she was in one of the very best nursing homes in town. Unfortunately, it was still a nursing home. They still line up wheel chairs along a wall and... Suffice it to say even the very best of nursing homes isn't a pleasant place when you're old and sick.

HappilyMarried
HappilyMarried

Patti screwed up royally by "kicking you out of the club"! You were most entertaining and made for great t.v. viewing! Patti let her ego get in the way again. Heaven forbid one doesn't take her advice as gospel--out you go!

min
min

Matt is a total TOOL! I had to Google his Cookie Diet company because he was obviously proud of it (actually smug). Turns out...it's his DAD'S company! Just because a date hadn't heard of the company he was going to end it immediately. I've never heard of it, sheesh! Be proud of it, but don't be obnoxious.

I have yet to finish a complete episode of this show. At least this guy made me keep watching, in hopes that I would see him become human. Nope. Stayed annoying snob.

ViewerfromCalifornia
ViewerfromCalifornia

Matt, if you ever wonder to yourself why you are SO alone at your age, sit down and watch this episode. Repeat if necessary. You generally come off as a creepy, elitist snob with a very poor sense of style. Seriously, it isn't attractive.

If you think your money entitles you to a holier-than-thou attitude, then you've got another thing coming for you. Of course, it's your life--feel free to be as arrogant and as condescending as you please. Just don't expect your dream guy to come knocking at your door.

P.S. Being verbose and making references to classic novels does not make you appear artsy, cool, or intelligent. Your perceived intelligence is about as average as the typical lit major's, so you might wanna get off your pedestal. You are impressing no one. ;)

Barbara in NY
Barbara in NY

Oh Matt, I'm so sorry for the stylist's inappropriate choices of garments he suggested for you to wear. No one needs to wear a safari-style shirt nor leather to be attractive. I new sport shirt would have been just fine. What got this date off to such a horrible start was your arrogance, your insisting that a chef-prepared meal would necessarily appeal to the person you'd asked for the date. Try to think of the other person and what he may want to do, what activities he may find to be of interest on a date, not just what you want to do.

You projected an attitude of "I don't want to be seen with this man, Rhett."

That's a shame, because if you'd given yourself a chance, you may have found some substance in Rhett, someone worthy knowing.

I'm sorry you decided that it was all right to be insulting to him and also to Patti.

I hope you learn from this experience. You won't do that, though, unless or until you try to understand what in your own behavior elicited the responses from Rhett. Maybe you could sit down with him and ask him to speak frankly to you about that evening.

JMAP50
JMAP50

Patti, I agree to disagree with you regarding redheads. As an over 50, green eyed redhead, I have never been at a loss for intimacy and companionship. If anything, too much of both came my way. My coloring was always, always a noted reason for that. Would you have asked Rita Hayworth, Rhonda Fleming, Arlene Dahl, Ann-Margret, Jill St. John and Tina Louise to change their haircolor if you were part of their era? You may have, but how ridiculous would that have made you look? Please watch redheaded Rita Hayworth's legendary performance of the musical number "Put The Blame on Mame" in Columbia Picture's 1946 film "Gilda" and tell me if you think she had problems attracting men.

Also Patti, please stop telling clients they will die alone in Nursing Homes if they don't find a partner. It's disturbing the way you portray Nursing facilities as "the horrible end". My Dad passed on three years ago. At the time he and my Mother's 65 year devoted love story and Marriage came to an end. Soon after his death, my Mother was diagnosed with "Acute Degenerative Dementia". Within a year she had to be removed from her and my Dad's home and placed in Nursing care as she could no longer remember or navigate her surroundings. She lived in Nursing Care for three years and was beautifully, efficiently cared for. She died peacefully there this past August. Patti, my Mom was married to one man for over 6 decades and in no way did her marriage prevent her from seeing a Nursing Home and the very same could happen to you when the time comes. God could bring you to a place one day, where you drop to your knees in humble thanks for a well skilled Nursing facility. Put out some good Karma for yourself and your aging parents and cease from scaring your clients with frightening, projective talk of Nursing Homes. You are smarter than that and kind find other ways to motivate them.

Now the good stuff. I do love you, the staff and the show and wish you all Happy and lucrative New Year. Keep up the good work-God Bless!

DCPlaya10
DCPlaya10

I thought that so many things on this episode were badly executed by several participants. Poor Matt...walks in and says what he wants and likes and everyone tells him he shouldn't want that. Right there it's a prescription for failure because others he "hired" wouldn't listen. So he picks Rhett..that 2 points for Matt, but unfortunately it's the only 2 points he scored. Rhett was very nice but in NO circumstances, including being insulted, should he have thrown water on his date. Apologizing for such boorish behavior does not absolve anything. I would not have accepted his apology. Rhett's best choice would have been to make a polite remark then exit leaving Matt with that familiar feeling of being alone..again. Something he can learn from. But strangely, what really pissed me off was Matt showing up in that Liberace shirt after all the fashion guidance he had been given. The height of arrogance..and herein lies the very core of Matt's problem. He knows it all and no one wants to feel or be with that arrogance. Change that within you Matt and you may not need a matchmaker.

TimMemphis
TimMemphis

Matt, evidently you don't realize the misteps that you took on the date and the selection process. You need to look at yourself and your actions, not the actions of the other party. If you don't make some changes it is very likely you will spend the rest of your life alone and lonely.

Bighulawood
Bighulawood

Oh Matt, honestly... I realize the filming was cut to make you look like a complete boor. But your body language, haughty name dropping, prudish condescension, "I'm too smart for me!" frames, and the constant references to daddy's million dollar cookie recipe...

Well, let's just say you made the editor's job rather easy.

The telling moment (for me) was when you implied that the skinny little arm-candy wanna-be "had BETTER know" about your daddy's famous diet. (Like a 2% body fat gym baby can even spell DIET.) No, you just wanted to make it clear he better know who YOU are and treat YOU "spesssial" because of the fame.

I think the most pathetic part is that you appear to have walked into this project with the pre-conceived notion that you're some kind of prize to be won. And then you top it off letting them know that it's your sullying burdon -- your grand gift -- to save them from their unsophisticated selves. Pompous. Arrogant. A55hole.

Maybe your daddy-boy obsession is your way of addressing some issue you have with your own father? At any rate, you should realize that unless you want to find a "young Matt" (ie, someone as insensitive as yourself), there's gonna be a lot more water glasses in your face's future.

boo7456
boo7456

Go, Matt, go! Oy vey indeed. Two words: backwards hat! You can definitely tell a lot was edited out of that dinner scene. And I'm 23 and don't find you creepy or cradle robbing at all. You should've maybe picked that guy older guy you said was "too similar" to you though. I think even if it wasn't a match you would've had a nicer date than with Blech, I mean, Rhett.

NYCJake
NYCJake

Matt: man that show made you look bad. Rhett did not appear drunk on the show and I thought the water thrown on you was overboard but not surprising. Actually I applauded his action. I do think Patti was too mean to you at the end, we all deserve love. But you did act foolishly. Oh and the next time you get advice from a stylist on what to wear, please heed their advice. That shirt you wore to the mixer was tragic at best, it looked like you were trying way to hard and failed miserably.

mcrux
mcrux

With idiots like Matt, who needs republicans.