Patti Stanger

Patti explains why surfing is a bad date and how a redhead was invited to a mixer.

on Sep 23, 20110

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45 comments
KatJN
KatJN

You are SUCH a nutjob! I am a blonde who has been everything from a brunette to a redhead and am a redhead NOW. Reheads have a fiery mystique and men who love them REALLY love them. Sass, uniqueness. Tell that to Julia Roberts, Geena Davis, Susan Sarandon (all who popularized fiery hair IN THE DAY) and now stars like Isla Fisher. I love how you issue groundless blanket statements left and right. It simply shows how one-dimensional you can be and ARE oh so many times.

esther194
esther194

Patti PLEASE clean up your mouth! You and Joe Gorga are bringing BRAVO "down".

Frank
Frank

Hi Patty! I love you!!! I agree with NY, they are horrible. Try coming to Jersey for your next season, I'm sure you'll get a kick! lo. Keep up the great work!

bettina bettina
bettina bettina

hi, im livin in auckland watching millionAIRE matchmaker and i cant belive that shauna , age 41,walked away from handsome mike, age 51. he was smart , great body! cant believe it, he would be perfect for my mother !!!!! she s smart, likes to cook , does yoga and goes to gym, if he s still looking, i got his perfect match :)

esther194
esther194

To the mother of the "red headed son that is very attractive, smart and funny"; ~ post a photo of him. I also would like to know what got you turned off redheads. I agree with the comment ". . . I'm so sick . . . of everyone trying to be so politically correct. If she was turned off by him, saw some red flags, what is wrong with that? There are NO sides when it comes to children (adopted or natural). Children are the biggest commitment you can make and you can't divorce them, SORRY! I really was shocked that you thought she was being harsh or judgemental,"

SandiT23
SandiT23

Sorry Patti, but this is the first time I have to disagree with you. As a mom, I am appalled that this man deserted his child and I would NEVER date anyone who did what he did...EVER. Sally was absolutely right.

Jay Musica
Jay Musica

I am fascinated with Lizelle's comment that she thinks Sally treated her date poorly. I get you are both redheads, but unless I heard this wrong, the girl went to Yale, has 2 master degress, is pretty as a button and is a single mom. WHY on earth would she date a guy who at 42 and is a millionaire hasnt picked up the phone and made every single concerted effort to resolve his past?? Sally (redhead/bald/whatever) is a quality gal that needs a real man who treats women like a queen. She read between the lines and saw potential danger ahead. You're standing on the wrong side! Sally ROCKS!!!!!

WG
WG

Please. This show has been about "dating down" from the start. Does anyone think self-made, educated millionaires with polish are going to be interested in dating a waitress for long?

This show has become way too gimmicky, and these aren't real clients but guinea pigs who are in it for "promotional consideration." You can tell that Patti has little patience for these people and relies on tired stereotypes and downright rudeness to get a reaction.

I don't know where the thing about redheads comes from, but I'm a redhead married to my best friend for nearly 11 years. I hope women don't seriously believe they need to color their hair or straighten it in order to find Mr. Right! It hasn't worked for Ms. Stanger. She might want to forget about hair color and think more about the adage about flies, honey, and vinegar.

citmyway2424
citmyway2424

Great show minus Patti- she is so uncomfortable to watch!!! The idea of the show is great though so please just switch out Patti -she should not be on TV at all.

Matthew_01
Matthew_01

Wow there are some harsh comments on here. I would just love to say that I LOVE your show Patti. You are amazing at match making and I like your forwardness. I think people take you the wrong way and If they dont like what you have to say then who cares. I dont think you necessarily are judging anyone, but you have standards. Its called the millionaires match making people so ya there should be some sort of standards. LOL. I am a gay man and Patti I would come work for you any day. Until then I will keep watching your shows. Thanks for making my day better from your jokes and humor. Some people cant handle it but I find it hilarious.

Chell.Bell.Bailey
Chell.Bell.Bailey

You guys take what she says too damn personally. My advice: Stereotypes are based on Reality. (and I'm a red head - and that girl really should have shut her mouth whether she had red hair or not)

lolita
lolita

You a laughing all the way to the bank ,all by your self . Learn more about human relations , and maybe a your age you will find someone.

lolita
lolita

Poor Unlucky in love Patti ,

You will never find love and don't understand the slightest thing of it , Until you learn about Human relations

CalleyCreed
CalleyCreed

Bravo it is time to drop this show!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alicia Anne
Alicia Anne

One word people...SARCASM! It is Patti's thing. Gay, straight, Bi, Trans-gender who cares not Patti. It is the Millionaires Matchmakers Club, not the gold-diggers, trailer-trash, bigot Club. Patti runs a tight ship and with that comes some strict rules. She doesn't criticize the student, the mom, the dad, sexual preference. She is selling a service to Millionaires who do not want forever lasting baggage. But to apologize for comments made in "The Clubhouse" is ridiculous. It is after prime time. Andy encourages drinking games. But most of all Patti is just keeping it real. Love you Patti keep up the great job. Shame on Bravo and Andy for giving you jackhole of the week. Thanks for some great laughs,Patti. Alicia (a redhead)

Ashley Fan
Ashley Fan

Bravo, PLEASE take her off the air! This show will not get my time or ratings! Her big mouth is beyond over-board! Clean house, please!

VivaLaRedhead
VivaLaRedhead

Patti, I thought Jewish men made the best husbands? Why did you contradict yourself the other night by saying that all Jewish men lie? You are sooo un-self-aware, it's sad. It's blatantly obvious from watching your appearances on WWHL, that you make Andy Cohen uncomfortable. I don't think he cares for you, honey. Don't you see that? You are SO negative. Guess what, for every action, there is a reaction. If you continue to spew all this unwarranted, nonsensical, BS, you are going to get it back, tenfold. Time to get yourself in check, or else, you might not be getting one from Bravo much longer!

Melody
Melody

Wow! I am new to this comment board, but geezz!! She was referring to someone who is a pilot vs. a waitress. Waitress can be smart, but they are not at the educational level as a pilot. And that is where dating down means.

kiu
kiu

All redheads, gays, Jews, smart women, waitresses, short people and bastard children should stop watching this show and maybe this "relationship expert" will re-evaluate what really matters when dealing with human relationships.

Does Bravo post comments that don't endorse their stars?

Stephanie 810
Stephanie 810

who are you to judge a person, just because you fell into your job from family connections? on your recent episode, you talked negatively about a waitress who lives in a trailer park. Guess what, I'm a waitress who lives in a trailer park. Real people have real life situations, that they do the best oto afford. I live in a trailer park because it is cheaper and more space for me and my children than living in an apartment. I waitress, because they work with my hours to raise my children and go to school while making the money to support them. You never know what life is going to throw your way, and doing what is best for the circumstances that are dealt to you is nothing to judge. I agree, I probobaly should not have had children as young as I was, but I am doing what I can for them. What real struggles have you had in your life that you are entitled to look down on people?#

Lizelle
Lizelle

Patti- This was my favorite episode EVER!!! As a natural born red head, I laugh all the time about how much you dislike us. And then somebody like Sally shows up, treats her date so ungraciously, and gives the rest of us a bad name! Maybe Steve made a mistake, but nobody can judge for anyone else what is right for themselves and/or their child(ren) in any given situation. I give him a ton of respect for trying to resolve what was undoubtedly a huge wound for him, and his children; it couldn't have been easy 20 years ago, and can't be easy now. Best of luck to him- and if this educated southern woman ever finds herself in Los Angeles, I'll stop in so you can see there's at least one decent strawberry in the bunch! Thanks for preaching the wonders of romance and monogamy- Lizelle

redlover
redlover

I am a redhead I am married I have a great job and better yet I have a a child. All while being a redhead. You need to look in the mirror and maybe change your attitude towards gays, jews and redheads then maybe you can land yourself a man!

PreviousViewer
PreviousViewer

Congrats for alienating a lot of your viewers, Patti. Your comments on Sunday were offensive to gay men everywhere and further perpetuates the stereotypes that prevent the rest of the world from accepting us as just people.

I used to watch your show. Your comments were always amusing and playful. I stopped watching the moment you started to trashtalk and stereotype everyone.

I thought matchmakers were supposed to help find someone an ideal partner FOR THEM, not try and make them something they are not. It's not matchmaking. It's certainly not love. And you certainly aren't entertaining about it anymore---just juvenile and spoiled.

Rebecca_Anne
Rebecca_Anne

Patti, I have been a fan of the show since the first season. I have heard you talk down about red-heads repeatedly and recently I feel like you have definetely been a little rude. I obviously would not fit into your category of girls (I am a red-head AND a waitress (who is also trying to pay my own way through nursing school)) but I don't understand where your hatred came from! I, myself, am a ginger, proud of it, and NEVER have I heard that I was not attractive or someone was not attracted to me because of my hair color. I just do not understand what the huge deal is?

Glory96
Glory96

Hey Patti Pat, I hope you have time to read your comments I totally understand how the millionaire works!!! they are workaholics at most times and they can't get to everything, but any who I love the show... I love how you don't give a hoot.. you say whats on your mind...maybe the whole thing of what people say might be a little true but your driven by what you want and the impulses you get.. thats why you are where you are and your outspoken which is great... i just maybe have a few suggestion that you can possibly want to take in order to push more satisfied customers out the door...when it comes to millionaire personalities and the right match... there are sometimes people that have personalities that in there world is up to class. For example that one chick millionaire that was like a stripper educator she had a wild personality and maybe the perfect match for her is a man that is in that same category not classy wine typical but a dude that can do both. And sure you wanted to tone her down but maybe you could have embraced her persona and gotten her a fitted dressed that said wild and classy and the right guy would be the same. I guess I am defining more of the term MATCH. let me not insult your expertise but what you want for them or maybe everyone is classy but every persona is not you and full classiness doesn't fit that personality...of course your classy and thats what you cover but hey they are wild millionaires for a reason right? of course take down the egos and the attitudes and the control issues they have but remember make the matches! And as for the people at the bottom example bartenders and service folk or minimum wagers..that stuff again they have personalities and your looking for the right spirits and souls for the million dollar man/woman, they want love not just money right?...look for the diamond in the rough.. the will to move up and of course not the free loader...getting back to bartenders they deal with many people personalities they are social some are definitely not rough and tough and dirty..though so can be assholes, some are bubbly and cool. Remember the key of Matches!!! Again your awesome and your a know-it-all personality don't let it cloud your purpose..making people Happy!!

sleedom
sleedom

An hour ago I was thrilled to see you Days Of Our Lives, hoping maybe E.J had met his match! Then I started watching your show which I have been recording, I was floored at something you said! We all know you speak your mind and that's one of the reason we all love Patti but now it will be "loved" and "use to watch the show" Why, you ask but don't believe you really care. But I am going to tell you anyway. You made the comment and I quote " the bimbo waitress that works in the trailer park". Waitress do not work in trailer parks but rather live there. I lost my husband just about 3 years ago to brain cancer and lost everything!! So I went back to school but had to go to work since I still have a son at home. Working in the restaurant allows me the flexibility for school and home. FYI..I make more than enough to pay my bills!! Thanks to you all waitresses are now" beneath" and not worthy of love. Wow..way you go Patti. I wonder how many women today have lost their high paying careers but will do anything to keep a roof over their heads including working in a restaurant? Are they also "beneath"? I really hope the next time go out to eat whoever has the misfortune of having to serve you, heard your comment and adds a little flavor to your lunch! Thanks for enlightening this lowly waitress. Gotta run, have to un-dvr you!!!

Sarah G
Sarah G

Hello Patti, Three of the comments you have made recently are especially troubling to me. In speaking of long distance, open relationships you said, ""In the gay world, it will always be open... There is no curbing the gay man." You also stated that "Jewish men lie" and that women have "got to dumb it down a little because men are not that bright." I know you're trying to be edgy and that you are well-known for giving harsh, pointed criticism and that's okay. That's why many of us love you. But making sexist and racist remarks is not edgy or harsh: it's just bigoted. Please stop making prejudiced remarks. You're too good for that.

jomama 1970
jomama 1970

Hi Patti, For all the haters out there, Patti is known for saying it like it is! Patti, I love it when you stick it to the stuck-up, self centered, narcicists on your show. Some of these people must be so good at surounding themselves with butt-kissers that they have no concept of what they really look and act like. Thanks for giving a taste of reality! You're are a smart lady so I'm sure you will just let the negative comments rolloff. Mazel!!

BornRed
BornRed

Oh and another thing, My mother was a waitress. My father died when I was a child and my mother worked as a nutritionist at the V.A. during the day and a waitress at night to support my brothers and me. She was not a Bimbo or a tramp or an idiot. She was smart and fun and good and kind.

Smalltowncitygirl
Smalltowncitygirl

Hi Patti, I know you are catching some grief over some comments on Andy's live show . Don't let it bother you. You are refreshingly honest and you can have your opinions!!!! I'm so sick( I don't think I am the only one) of everyone trying to be so politically correct. You can have your opinions and they can have theirs. Love you and don't stop saying what you think...you have that right!!

April S
April S

Hey Patti I wait tables AND have a college degree, Thanks for the dating down comment! I am make great money work about 25 hours a week! Lets be nice to all us girls out here trying to make a living and enjoy a nice life. Just because I wait table does not mean I am not a smart woman.

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

It was so nice watching Chris and Eric fall in love. I hope they have a long happy life together.

mikepitkin
mikepitkin

Patti .."you are just WRONG"!! ("Cann't curb the gay") ! ha! .. (but I love you anyway.. because you are so right)! As a gay man with HIV, I would love your help in finding a partner..( but you would kick me to the curb so fast)! ha! Thanks for being YOU! ~"Refreshing"! :) ~ Michael

Edward A
Edward A

Hi Patti, I was wondering if you have any comment regarding the backlash to your recent appearance on the Andy Cohen show, where you referred to gay people as "you people," and said that gay men in incapable of monogamy? Also, you indicated that you think Jewish men are liars. Why do you think that? Thanks, Ed

KellyDWallace
KellyDWallace

Patti,

I have watched your show since the beginning and typically agree with a lot of what you have to say. But I have a red headed son that is very attractive, smart and funny. You are really being a jerk by saying that redheads should not even speak let alone get a date!!! You are so rude.

Yaneth
Yaneth

Patty, dear, What is your problem with us, the red heads?

crisco
crisco

Patti! Patti! Patti!.....I am ALWAYS on your side, but what happened? You were pretty mean about Sally! Why? If she was turned off by him, saw some red flags, what is wrong with that? Isn't that something you yourself would recommend? She was a beautiful woman, her red hair enhanced that! I have never seen you act like this before. I'm glad Gary found what he wanted, although he started out the date pretty weird. I watched the "Live" Show with you and Andy, and you were adorable! Gotta ask you one question though....you are a smart cookie, and a excellent observer, so I was taken aback when you said you were "team Teresa"! WHAT? REALLY? HUH? HELLO!!! Where's MY PATTI?

fhl678
fhl678

I really want to know what Patti has against red heads? (And yes - I am a red head). It's pretty big of her to rule out an entire group of people . . . yet everyone wants to find love? What a joke. I use to be a Patti fan - no more. And her crap with Andy last night . . . get over yourself. Patti you wonder why no one in the studio was responding? Maybe it's YOU!

Tpoulos
Tpoulos

I am still a little in shock over the "virgin" that showed up to the mixer. Hey...good for her. Anyway...did not love the batchelors this week and not so much the women they chose.

DesignerSteph
DesignerSteph

Patti, I love the show and I think you're hilarious. But when you're letting whatever runs through your head pop out of your mouth you're bound to offend some people right? Well I never found the redhead talk or sexual references offensive but on last nights episode, a comment you made changed the way I view the show. You commented on waitresses being bimbos and beneath one of your clients. Well lovely patti, I am currently working as a bartender to pay for graduate school and half the people I work with are doing the same thing. Because I work at a bar, am I automatically a bimbo and beneath someone else? Had you only made the comment once, it wouldn't have bothered me but you made it one of the primary reasons for why he had not found love. So since my boyfriend is already an architect and I am just a lowly bartender, he should probably just move on to someone else that isn't beneath him. Thanks for the tip. You really know how to make women feel great!

Shelly R
Shelly R

Patti, You always have interesting people on you show.....These guys were no exception. I agreed with the "red-head", Sally, I wanted to know why he gave up his child/children, whatever. Anyone even remotely thinking they might want to get involved with this guy would want answers. I realize there are two sides to everything but there are NO sides when it comes to children(adopted or natural). Children are the biggest commitment you can make and you can't divorce them, SORRY! I really was shocked that you thought she was being harsh or judgemental, that raised a red flag to me and my husband as he was watching.

CR in DC
CR in DC

Patti, I love watching your show because I think you have good insight about courtship, and how to get a meaningful relationship off on the right foot. It's tough dating out there, let alone for a millionaire! Thank goodness you're preaching respect, chivalry and romance. The beginning, and the story, matter entirely. You deal your clients, who at times are a bit eccentric, with much needed honest. However, I think you're a little too tough on redheads. For someone who proposes to see the best in others and that true love may exist, it seems a little disingenuous to then judge and exclude an entire group of people because of their hair color... Isn't that dogmatic? Sally was beautiful, intelligent and successful. Destin clearly didn't have the emotional maturity to match. PS- You're a smart lady, but someone needs to proofread your blog.

Brittney
Brittney

Hi Patti, I love your show, my boyfriend and I watch it religiously.... I have a lot of questions. Do you feel like there is an age where you are too young to think/talk about marriage? I wanted to call into What Happens Live, but I missed the number every time. I would really look forward to hearing from you. Thank You, Brittney

hoppysgirl
hoppysgirl

Just fyi Sally, that “beautiful, intelligent and successful” woman took my husband’s daughter and moved to another state after the court’s order that we were to have visitation every other weekend.  My husband is an amazing father and loves his daughter very much.  Funny how she got on Steve’s case about his situation but then she pretty much does the same thing.  She is a toxic narcissist and rules don’t apply to her.  It is very sad.