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Leading with Money, Leading with Abs

Ep 3: Patti explains that the mistake of leading with wealth or a hot bod is that you'll get what you give.

Read Patti's full transcript after the jump:

This week we have Jimmy G and Jim: Jimmy G has got this amazing, cut body. Face of a grandfather, but the body of a 25 year old—drop-dead gorgeous, lives in Scottsdale, Arizona, very successful. His house is known as “The Museum” because he’s so OCD, and a perfectionist; nothing can be moved, everything’s clean, and that’s the way he likes his women. That’s a really hard thing to do.

And then we’ve got Jim, who is uber-successful, marries his women—there’s just one problem: he never gets a pre-nup. So he’s the mis-leader: he leads with his money, then gets pissed that they only want him for money.

Now my job is to fix them up, and our mixer this week is our traditional, state-of-the-art, Millionaire Matchmaker mixer. I wanted Jimmy G to realize that perfection is what’s blocking him from the right girl, so I brought in one of my best friends, Kara Mooney, who happens to be one of the ultimate Theta Healers in Los Angeles. Now, Theta Healing is supposed to tell you what blocks you’re dealing with on a daily basis. If we know what our blocks are, we can remove them. Kara’s going to heal him of all of his OCD-perfectionism.

Now, Jim AND Jimmy G. love Charlize Theron. Well, who wouldn’t? But I feel like something’s not quite right with Jim. Jim was married to an Asian. Now, I’m sorry, but you don’t go from Asian all the way to Caucasian in one fell swoop, ok? So Selma comes in: she’s Asian, she has a job, she’s smart, she’s intelligent, and he picks Selma at the mixer!

I tried to get Jimmy G. to pick school-teacher Mary but he picked Nasia, who happens to be German. Now that would be great if she were American-German, but she was full-on German and there was an accent problem; he couldn’t understand what she was saying. And this was going to be a disaster. I knew from the get go that he picked the wrong girl.

Jim had a great date because he took her to his comfort zone: they went to his building that he rented out from ICM, about 80,000 square feet. He created this private movie club, where you can create your own movie in his space, and they had a great, great time. Selma was pampered from head to toe. She got make-up, she got a massage, she got a fabulous dinner that Jim had ordered for her. This was a great date—clearly these two were going to fall in love.

Jim decided to do iFLY. Now, personally, iFLY is like a third, fourth date. I wouldn’t personally recommend that on the first date because it’s indoor sky-diving; it’s a little bit risky, and I know that a girl would not like this, especially if she got dressed up for the date and she didn’t know where she was going. That was his biggest mistake. But the language barrier! He took her to dinner and couldn’t even communicate, and there was no romance, and clearly neither one of them liked each other. He didn’t speak German, I don’t know why he went back to his roots; she couldn’t understand him, he couldn’t understand her. It was a disaster.

Jim followed my advice: he relaxed, he knows to sign a pre-nup, and he fell in love. He did everything I told him to do. Jimmy, on the other hand, was not exactly following my rules. He picked the wrong girl, he started to get a little perfectionist-y and OCD at the mixer, however, I do think that Kara has transformed him because he said that there are a lot of things he’s “letting slide.” So it’s going to be a process; this won’t happen in a day.

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Making a Match: Beauty, Bikinis and Breaking The Rules

Patti dishes on helping Julissa Bermudez pick the right guys and why she almost had to throw Adam O'Rourke out!

Season 8 of The Millionaire Matchmaker is one of the most dramatic ever. This time around, Patti Stanger is helping plenty of unlikely clients find love, from Dina Lohan and Bravo's own Sonja Morgan to rap legend Romeo Miller, aka Lil' Romeo!

Each week, we're asking Patti to weigh in on every episode in her exclusive vlog. She'll tackle everything from picking the right guy to calling vs. texting. Hint: real men call. 

This week, she talks about finding Mr. Right for gorgeous TV host Julissa Bermudez, teaching rocker Adam O'Rourke a lesson in starting over and more. Check out the latest episode vlog below and watch past episodes here.

I had really interesting clients this week. First up Julissa Bermudez, she is a TV host and she’s been on tons of networks all over the place she is drop dead gorgeous. I don’t know why she’s coming to me to find a relationship but I figure out right away it’s not about meeting the guy, it’s about meeting the right guy.

She is starting to realize that while the alpha guys are hot, they don’t really want her for her. She’s got to shake the habit of going with these alpha guys so I set her up with Tiffany Haddish who’s a famous comedian. She’s Arsenio’s sidekick, a no nonsense girl. She’s hot, she dates in Hollywood but she is not afraid to tell it how it is. Julissa gets it, Tiffany is smart.

My other client this week is Adam O'Rourke. He’s gotten to the point where he wanted to settle down and he wasn’t meeting any quality women, so he pretends to be a tough guy when he’s actually really nice. And I’m actually happy to set him up.

So we do some recruiting at the Leica Gallery in West Hollywood. A museum or a gallery is a great way to find young, sophisticated singles and we size up a bunch of guys and girls for a classy dinner mixer with Julissa and Adam.

The next day we introduce Julissa to four great guys and Adam to four great girls. They all sit down at the private club and get to know each other.

Julissa ends up picking a great guy named Sam; he’s a successful real estate entrepreneur. He is handsome but laidback and isn’t the guy who needs to be alpha all the time. If Julissa can get to like a guy like that, then she might be on her way to true love.

Meanwhile, Adam chooses a beautiful blonde named Hailey. She and Adam certainly have chemistry so I am happy with this choice.

Sam takes Julissa out to paint some pottery, which is actually a cool move, they get to talk and do something creative together. But then he also brings the romance with drinks and dinner at the Georgian at the beautiful Santa Monica Hotel. Julissa gets to feel cherished; I hope she likes the feeling.

Meanwhile, Adam makes his first mistake of the week; he invites Hailey back to his house. Usually I’d kick him out of the club for things like this, but it turns out he heard her say she’s never had her man cook for her and he wanted to fulfill her wish. Okay, I’ll let him slide on this one. He was a gentleman even when she put on her bikini to sunbathe in the backyard. Good job, Adam.

At the end I think Julissa learned to go for the guy who lets her be the star and Adam got a lesson in starting over. I hope they both take what they learned into the future. We will see.

 

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