Patti Stanger

Patti does her best to match Alpha Angela and Strong Shonda, but both dates manage to go awry.

on Feb 5, 20130

Angela did an ok job. She was alpha on the date and took control, and she learned that she needs an alpha male. Shonda did a pretty good job herself. John was a Donald-Trump-type kind of a guy that had a lot to talk about, but ultimately, they had no chemistry.

I hope these girls learned a lot from their experience.

21 comments
SalaciousGossip26
SalaciousGossip26

Patti,

 

You are pretty straight forward in trying to convince others of what they need even when they don't know it.  I am curious...do most of your clients say they would not prefer black women?  If so, do you still encourage them to be open?  You asked some of the daters whether they would date a black woman.  But, I never really heard you ask that question with any other race?  If you had a red headed millionairess would you ask "would you date a red head?".   If you had a group of black daters would you ask them "would you date a white woman?".  With the hello kitty lady I don't think you were blatantly straight forward about asking daters if they would date an extremely overweight woman.  I know people are attracted to who they are attracted to but a lot of times the black woman thing is not about attraction, its about the stigma.  You are good at getting your clients to be open so why not on this front also? I'm not offended as I LOVE your show....just something to consider and think about.  

Ssunra
Ssunra

Patti, I am so surprised you didn't insist that Shonda have a makeover. That wig/weave (that she kept flipping and fidgeting with) is the wrong color for her complexion and her makeup was washed out. Not a good look for her....yuk!  

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Patti, I am enjoying the show much more this season, in fact it has been my lunchtime viewing choice...dvr is a beautiful thing...a beautiful thing....today I watched the episode with the piano crooner, and your very own dating episode....and i have to ask? What kind of mental regression happens when a man turns 45?? They come to you with a laundry list of requirements....but are lunks themelves....I have renamed this show to " lunks looking for love" ...none want women their age, the guy who wrote his first time date a song had me crying with laughter...while his date cried with warm fuzzy feelings of sentiment....I wanted to wake her up and remind her that this guy did not write this song right then and there....he even had it on cd personalized...so he found out her name and made the label....I wondered who he actually did write the song for....and how long he waited to get a chance to sing it on camera....an american idol....nayyyyy....when he hit that high note, half of his vocal cords went one way, and the others went the other way....it sounde like aaughhhhhh....wasn't this the guy who wanted a much younger woman as well? What??? But he was clearly in the low T zone, and probably sits to P now....how long is a 30 yr old going to wait for the guy to p?? Give a man 2 min. In the bathroom at a time for a quick p...any longer, is a sign of an aging prostate...more than 10 min. And there is no poo smell...run like h@@ from that man...check his DL for his real age, but be careful, it could be a fake...Then your date Patti....again...what was wrong with these men?? The one who seemed almost desperate not to make a mistake, he was babbling....he didn't know what else to do, so he just went right in with the idea to share saliva...let me make this clear, when i first meet someone new, i have no idea whee your mouth has been the day before or the hour before...was that guy throwing up earlier?? Did he belch and throw up a little in his mouth?? Did he see his non committed girl pal the night before, the one who uses flavored lip gloss?? No, not the kind for the face lips....you get it..so leacherous lunk alert.....then...the other guy, the one who craves to know why you picked him...which is really ..Tell me how wonderful you think i am....he is clearly into this date because his friends told him to do it...he wants to point out...it was NOT his idea....and then Patti is climbing a pole in a panic....this? For a guy whose friends talked him into this?? The whole thing hurt my head, lunch was over, i go back to work with a headache...

L.I.oness
L.I.oness

Patti, That bit where you told the guy he wasn't a shark and went on to tell him he was more of a guppy was just mean for the sake of meanness. It was uncalled for to humiliate him like that. Sometimes I think you get carried away with the power of your position. Between you and Angela working women got a bad rap on your show this week.

AnyaMay
AnyaMay

Dear Patti,

 

I love your show, I have learned so much about dating, relationships and compatibility from you and some of the guests that you invite who work as guides to your clients, like Dr. Pat Allen. I can't thank you enough for all the help that I've indirectly received from you through your show. In that sense, you don't just help millionaires, but lots of regular, ordinary people too!

 

Bisous,

 

Hope you get everything you wish for.

 

love,

A

gemini104
gemini104

Patti, I am disappointed in the caliber of men you are finding for your female millionaires.  The other week, you really didn't give that lovely girl Stephanie any good choices.  The guys were all losers!  Is that the best you could find for her?  You used to offer so many attractive professional men for your ladies.  Not one of those guys you chose was nice enough for her.  She deserved some real possiblities and they are certainly out there.  Seemed like slim pickings.

kaybird11111
kaybird11111

Saw you on The Steve Harvey Show......what a great team you guys are!!  Love your show and tape it for my 19 year old daughter!!  She's learned a lot from your show, thanks!!

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

Patty where did you get those FABULOUS sunglasses you wore on the episode?  The cat eye with the clear frames?!!! I am obsessed!

Thalia923
Thalia923

Ok. Have to say John was beyond adorable! Would love to have been in her shoes!

SkinnyItalianFan
SkinnyItalianFan

Shonda definitely needs to rethink her choice of man.  There is absolutely nothing heroic about Kevin Costner.  We're talking about a man who completely ruined his first marriage by philandering and womanizing.  He married his first wife when he had nothing. She supported him through acting school, and stood by him during his years as a struggling actor. Then, when he attained a little success and a little wealth, the straying started.  In fact, he was indiscrete and didn't even try to hide the fact that he was being chronically unfaithful.  he knew that if he didn't stop cheating, his marriage would end in divorce.  He didn't care, and continued to do what he wanted, when he wanted.  he couldn't have cared less about his first wife, her feelings, or their relationship.  He was perfectly willing to mistreat, emotionally abuse, betray, and humiliate a woman who had been willing to sacrifice so much to help him become who he is today.  Knights in shining armor don't dispense of people who have helped them once they become famous.  As someone who has been betrayed in a relationship, Shonda needs to be very careful what she wishes for.  She definitely doesn't want to find herself in a relationship with someone like Kevin Costner.

YourDatingDiva
YourDatingDiva

A lot of my clients here in DC can relate as they are Type A. There seems to be a disconnect between what she thinks she wants, and what she is attracted to. This needs to be explored. Since her Ex helped her choose the date, she may be taking advice from others that is counterproductive.  I understand that she is still friends with her Ex as it is important to keep people in your life, but she needs to keep him out of her love life. Keeping an Ex in your love life is a way to held yourself back from moving on. @Pattistanger, do you believe that she may have chosen the wrong man because on some subconscious level, she can't move on?

zoe.salanda
zoe.salanda

Patti, you need to step up your inter-racial dating instincts.  When a woman like Angela says she wants to be put in line -  SHE WANTS A BLACK MAN - or at least the stereotypical version of a of the strongest man on our planet.  This is demonstrated when she and Jeff were dancing, she mentioned that he danced like a "white boy".   

LisaandtheWord
LisaandtheWord

Dear Patti, Did Angela get to date Bryan? The part in the show w the 3 guys at the table w Angela, I thought Jeff seemed forced (not very confidant either), & he had no finesse on his date w her. The "Ari" guy blocked the gentleman hunk guy w his positioning & constant talking. Byran seemed calm and assured in energy, & would probly surprise her w being a match. !! I thought I'd give my 2 cents, =D 

cavex2
cavex2

 @FlutterBy omg omg omg... I will never drink before I read one of your posts again.  You were so funny.  I think this is the best Bravo post ever.  I wish they would let me post a notice on the RHBH blog to read this post... cause everyone would scream with laughter.  Thank you for posting... I loved it!!!

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@L.I.oness What if he was a pollywog?? Should she have kept that quite too?? She is in the business of putting people together, it don't get any messier than that....i imagine Patty has to put her waders on daily when those lunks come lookin for love...the stories they must tell....i say, "tell them the cold hard truth" , because if she don't, a woman like me would, and honey, that man would be in a fetal position at Patty's door the next day, whimpering, barely able to mutter the words "flutterby" ...nuhhh uhhhh honayyy...Patty is doing her job and i find it refreshing.....put it this way...who would you rather have looking for you a man who was bonafide and not a fido looking to bone....Patty, or that gray head dude that does the Eharmony dating commercials....you know the one, who says, " whose looking for you?" That old dude don't care if he matches you up Hannibel Lechtors second cousin, he just wants a finders fee....think about it, white top had his first date when there were no shoulder seat belts in cars....what does he know about lunks today?? You better stick with Patty, that girl gonna find you a lunk-free man...

sinsin
sinsin

 @AnyaMay

 I totally agree with your statement it would be soo wonderful to find places that could do what she does but for the non millionaires.

sinsin
sinsin

 @gemini104 

I totally agree with you here. I get the feeling Patti does not like female entreprenures / millionaires. She always offers the guys everything they need whether its a makeover or a trip to a therapist.....that shonda needed both.  its such a shame. 

 

L.I.oness
L.I.oness

 @sinsin  @zoe.salanda 

 

I don't know, ladies. I think that's just a cultural joke at this point. Even white guys admit when they dance like white guys.

sinsin
sinsin

 @L.I.oness  @sinsin  @zoe.salanda

 Oh i totally get that ! i am very aware of that statement.

My partner is living proof that some and remember i said some white boys cant dance. But in this instance I still feel patty needs to step up her game where mixed couples are concerned.